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> more like "i should maybe change this aspect about me or try this activity and see how it goes", right?
Yeah, that's a good way to put it.
>I don't know where you get this willpower from.
I don't always know either. Sometimes I draw it from looking to the future, sometimes it's from looking at the past. I used to have a bit of a masturbation addiction and what helped me overcome that was asking myself if that's what I wanted to do when I was younger. For some reason that clicked in my head and made me force myself to limit my masturbation.
>you have to find some certain things you want to change first and that's the biggest issue.
That's a good point. It's part of the struggle of finding yourself. I can't really help you, but I think part of what helped me was getting back into reading. Reading promotes introspection.
>Ok I stopped smoking, so what? While you would feel pretty damn good about it, like you achieved something, right?
Eh, not really. I dip tobacco and I've thought about quitting that but I choose not to. I enjoy it more than the dangers bother me. Perhaps you're the same way with smoking. Part of being a better person is realizing when you should do what you want to even if other people don't agree with it.
Course, if you're worried about being addicted, you could try quitting for a month and seeing how you hold up.
I think if you found a few things to do for yourself you might start to appreciate them, even if they don't give you immediate gratification. Even if they're not major, it could be as low-effort as going through a backlog of movies you wanted to see. I remember one thing I kept pushing off was playing a couple old text-adventure games. I always had a soft spot for them but no-one else seems to care about them. At first it was hard to play a game knowing I'd never have anyone to discuss it with, but they've become fond mePost too long. Click here to view the full text.