Buy boxes and label them.
Dirty clothes, put them in these boxes, dirty kitchenware, place it in this box/dishrack, clean socks and underwear, place them in those boxes, videogame cardridges, dvds, or w/e place those in those boxes.
How many clothes do either of you wear?
I change my underwear and t-shirts daily, however sweaters and jeans, definitely not so much, you can both work on folding up used however still clean clothes and putting them in their respective places.
Turn dishwashing into a family event, one washes, the other dries.
Wipe down the shower/bath after you finished, leave some toilet paper on the bottom of your toilet before you do nr. 2, dust the shelves every other week instead of every day, turn other house chores into moment of meditation on God's word, or, again, whilst listening to something that is good for your spiritual health.
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This is not fair to him and yourself, you don't have to "ask him", however you can tell him how you really feel without getting angry if possible, which i don't assume you will, however because you kept this in for so long, the moment you do open up, he could be confused and even hate himself for not noticing, communication is key, please do not let emotions rule these moments.
This is not about money, this is about perception, expectations and capabilities. Maybe write down some pointers before you begin so you can hold on to this as a net.
If you want to bring order in the home, you have to work together to do these things together, a lot of things can be solved before they become a problem.
Again, boxes and labels will probably help you, don't go overboard on these though.
Also, positive reinforcement, if you talked about something and your boyfriend forgets, ask him nicely and when he does it, give him a quick kiss or w/e for it.
If he does something on his own, let him know without being corny, that you appreciate it, i.e. a quick peck on the cheek or a cuddle.
You both need to grow to a more stable household, getting angry after you both have spoken about it Post too long. Click here to view the full text.