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>I know you have issues with your mother stemming from your inability earn her acceptance, and that you extend this to all women.
Having to earn acceptance from a parent can be a source of bitterness in it of itself, it instills in the person who had to consciously do it the fear that what they've earned can easily be lost.
There was a book written by a pro-feminist man criticizing feminism on things they'd have to cede as genuine male concerns one of which is football player syndrome. Football player syndrome was his phrase to describe the fact that men come to the realization that their women, their cheerleaders, love them for their success but they're ultimately replaceable with any other player and as soon as they sit on the bench they become invisible.
Someone who's had trouble getting affection from their parent or the opposite sex will be more keenly aware of this dilemma, they want transcendental unconditional love but they're painfully aware that it is only when they proved themselves that they were able to gain any love or affection. Love is thus an unreliable, perishable, a commodity and faith in relationships is weakened and if the person is particularly bitter they shut themselves off from making real connections with people or try to reproduce the mental anguish they feel by toying with the feelings of others.
No particular person has to have wronged them, they're yearning for God, yearning for some source of unconditional, reliable, steadfast love and in their bitter belief that it doesn't exist they get vengeance on those who believe in it (but most likely wouldn't/can't provide it).