How do I get that 'spark' back? Been married for 10+ years, haven't let myself go, have a few young kids, but it seems there's no excitement in the bedroom anymore. I think very highly of him. He's extremely successful, and we have a secure marriage. Neither of us would ever cheat on each other. But we're just not that active in the bedroom anymore.
He says:
>You don't dress sexy anymore
>I can't think of any clothes you've bought that are attractive, you don't have the man's sex radar for clothes
wants me to be modest, but then buys me clothes I can't wear unless the kids are in bed, and doesn't like when sex is 'pre-planned'
>here she comes with the clohtes I bought her, sex just isn't spontaneous anymore.
>we don't have enough sex
>sex is always the same boring position
I'm always the one initiating it. I have to mentally get myself in the mood instead of his sex drive turning me on.
>we are on our devices too much, we need to spend more time together
me: okay.jpg
have sex once
him: proceeds to start a new vidja game.
>you're not feminine enough
I wear dresses and skirts all the time, do my hair nice 2-3 times a week, but he can't define femininity other than 'go watch the women in action movies'
I know he finds me atrractive, but I only get compliments about my appearnce from him when we're having sex. I'd love if he'd just kissed my neck, grabbed my butt, or whispered something risque in my ear when we're not being intimate, so I FEEL deesired without the obligation of sex.
I don't know how to pease him. I've tried telling him that I need more direction. I'd love if he took charge and told me what to do, heck I'd be thrilled if he picked out every outfit I wear fr the rest of my life, if it made him happy. I crave his attention and leadership. Told him this many times, but it doesn't seem to get through, and I don't want Post too long. Click here to view the full text.