> I remember him saying that if he was fetishised then he probably wouldn't have created /r/hapas.
He doesn't look Asian enough to be fetishized. He would have to do the work just like everybody else, especially if he is aiming to attract Chads.
>If he wasn't a monster I'd feel sorry for Tenda if he's gay/bi and missed out on that.
Every day he wakes up and chooses the closet and the missing out, no one is forcing him. He was in a diverce accepting place like NY and he went to live in homophobic China in some dirty attic.
I am sure that if he wanted to seriously find a way to be out of the closet, there would be one. I cannot feel sorry for someone choosing "muh stability and security".
Interestingly, the rants about "closeted homosexual sexpats with an asexual nagging asian wife" on his blog and reddit have multiplied, which means he is becoming increasingly frustrated with his stagnant pointless life.
You can't help anyone who isn't willing to even try to help themselves, I can't even pretend to be sorry at this point.