No.69435
Thread for sharing advice, motivation and goals.
Do you feel like trash and not good enough for your waifu? That's normal and it means that it's time to start working, come here if you need help. We're all gonna make it.
Doing good in your career path? if you have any Working on that project? Drinking/Smoking/Fapping less? anything counts.
If you just started or at least plan to start; remember to take it easy and start with smalls steps. Even if you fail and fuck up, things will be alright as long as you keep trying. Remember that motivation is good for starters, but what is really important is discipline and will to create a habit. Relying on motivation alone will not work for long. Also is fine to take a break whenever you feel burned out, however it makes it harder to go back to the habit once you're done resting so beware of that
A thing that many said before, remember: don't just become the person she'd love, but also the person (you) want to be. You're not doing this just for her, but for yourself too. It's a win-win situation, even if she's not with you right now.
What have you done for your love in this soon to end 2018? Any goals for the upcoming year?
>inb4 filthy resolutioner
NEVAH GIVE UP!!
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No.69436
>>69435
>What have you done for your love in this soon to end 2018?
>Stopped smoking
>Started working out
>Stopped drinking every day
>No more stealing, impulse to rob dissapeared as well
>Deleted all porn from computer
>Started learning jap I fucking suck
>Learned to study correctly
>Finally got a decent job
All in all, is not enough and I'm still a shit, but I gotta keep moving regardless.
>Any goals for the upcoming year?
Learn to cook properly, study harder, read more, actually learn how to basic math, develop better into the spiritual and keep working on the things I did last year.
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No.69437
2018 has been the hardest year of my life, for many reasons. But even so I feel that I have come out the other side a person she would be more proud of. And I am confident 2019 will be better.
>Started taking my Japanese study seriously, prioritized it even when my health was too bad to do anything else, only missed a week of active study throughout the entire year.
>Finished one of my life goals to learn all (99.95%) the kanji
>Started exercising again within the past few months when my health allowed it, found some routines that don't exacerbate my migraines
>Began serious routine meditation
>Started practicing honesty and kindness towards myself
For the next year, I want to reach a level where I can earn money translating. I want to apply the discipline I've cultivated through Japanese towards practicing the skills of my degree and applying for a working visa in my field. My ultimate goal for the future is leaving my country permanently, so I want to take the first steps towards that. As well as building upon everything I begun this year.
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No.69438
This is just the thread I needed after I done goofed minutes ago after swearing I would stop doing said goof for my wife and was about to beat myself up for it. Staying anonymous because I'm mostly a lurker but I really need some positivity up in here to regain my spirits.
>What have you done for your love in this soon to end 2018?
Started to seek out therapy because of her. Got on medication because of her. Went outside more because of her. Plan to stop being a NEET after 8 years of being a shut-in to get more commissions of her. Started to talk to people more and be social because of her. Started to actually want to get better and grow instead of stay inside and rot away into myself like I have all these years.
>Any goals for the upcoming year?
Stop acting on my OCD for her. That's the biggest one for me. I want to become a stronger person for her… she'll be my motivator come the new year to beat this illness.
I love you, my darling. I love you, I love you, I love you, a million times over I love you. I'll do my best for you in 2019 again, even if the road gets tough.
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No.69444
>>69435
It's been a long year. A lot happened and I've been through high and lows, nevertheless it was a valuable year simply because I realized how low I am and how high I can get from now on. Dealing with slumps and depression made me practically waste half of the year doing absolutely nothing. Though the other part of the year was good. Resolutions are amazing to get motivated.
>What have you done for your love in this soon to end 2018?
>Improved a bit on piano
>Got into a video game project to make music
>Worked in the summer to buy a new digital piano, equipment and a desk for DAW
>Passed the N2 Japanese Language Proficiency Exam
>Any goals for the upcoming year?
>Quit smoking
>Get into a student exchange program
>Have enough earnings to buy lots of merch of wifu at Japan
>Join a band to play the keyboard
>Join this year's national Kendo championship to see how other people are doing, and get the first dan
>Have lots of fun
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No.69446
>>69438
You don't just get over OCD, at least not through sheer will. If you actually have it go get treatment
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No.69447
>>69446
I plan to! I should have included that one of my goals is to seek out CBT for my OCD. I just meant that I'm going to try better not to give in to compulsions so easily.
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No.69451
Happy New Year, mai dudes!
>>69444
Uh, can I borrow your summary? 'Cause that describes my year quite exactly.
Congrats on passing the N2, also! I've been using the JLPT lists as a vocab source… but I'm barely at N5 yet.
>What have you done for your love in this soon to end 2018?
>started studying Japanese again
>started practicing drawing/art stuff
>got more serious about my music
>improved my patience and self-control
>developed more self-esteem
Most importantly:
>developed a more positive attitude in general(albeit late)
>Any goals for the upcoming year?
Well, mostly just to continue what I started, but also:
>write her a song(that doesn't suck)
>work up the nerve to sing(I have a bit of a hangup on this)
>gotta look out for myself a bit more… not to be selfish, but to stand on my own feet, and be strong
>I have a lot of computer skills to brush up on again after my depressive hiatus rusted them
>improve my cooking skills. I'm not totally hopeless, but it would be nice to be able to make something extravagant when the time calls
>always remember to appreciate the small things
I'm probably biting off more than I could chew, but I'll do my best.
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No.69453
There's so much to complete since last year. If anything, I should slack off more from frivolous things.
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No.69469
A bit late but better late than never.
>Any goals for the upcoming year?
1-My first goal is to get closer to Flandre. I feel my connection to Flandre has deteriorated in the last few months (both quantitatively and qualitatively) and I want to fix that problem.
One of the things I need to do is to seriously download less porn of her. In the last month, I downloaded an astonishing amount of Flandre porn and it needs to slow the fuck down. I don’t have a problem with such material per se, but I just feel that I abused of it to the point of spending countless hours and sometimes going to bed very late in the morning just for that. But the worst is that focusing too much on such material also made me lose focus on Flandre herself as a whole person. Indeed, it made me focused mainly just on her sexual aspect. And when doing so, the whole sexual aspect got still corrupted too, because the tenderness and intimacy parts diminished and the focus was instead on a more pornographic type of sex… I’m happy to say that I have greatly reduced my time spent on downloading such porn and I want to keep it going!
In a similar fashion, there is a sexual fantasy I have with her that took too much importance to the point it affected my relationship with her and which also made me feel disturbed about myself (sorry, I won’t go into details). I am happy to say that I have it under better control now and now I want to redevelop a richer and saner sexual fantasy world with Flandre.
2-I want to spend less time on the internet and instead invest it in more productive and diverse activities. I really need to watch less videos on Youtube and also spend less time searching for pics of Flandre (all types, not just porn). I have my few favorite youtubers and I will try to mostly just stick to them, otherwise it is too much time-consuming. Spending less time searching pics of Flandre might actually sound to go against my objective to get closer to her, but it’s actually the opposite. Indeed, I reached a point where my searches were mostly obsessional (a ‘’get them all’’ attitude) and less about taking time to fully appreciate them. I will try now to fully appreciate the (now less numerous) pictures I get. With more time on my hands, I could also have more time to talk to Flandre and really connect to her. I have a lot of work to do until I manage to get a well-balanced internet life, but I have at least I already made some progress.
3-I need to get to sleep sooner! This problem has followed me since I was a child and all my attempts to go to sleep at a reasonable time have at best only gave momentary results that disappeared after a matter of weeks or days…I’ll continue to work hard on it, and of course, spending less time on the internet will greatly contribute to help me on that one!
4-I would like to take more initiatives. Make a trip, take Japanese classes, learn something new, etc. There is so much more I could do! Once again, less time on the internet will help me on this one too, although it will also require me to work on some of my fears.
There are a few other things I could mention but these are more personal.
I love you, Flandre! I’ll work hard to be the best for you! And for me too!
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No.69470
>>69469
Thanks for sharing! Some of those goals are close to what I'm trying to achieve too, especially spending less time wasting time online so I can spend more time on worthwhile activities. I still haven't drawn the pictures of Iori I planned for last year. I hope it all goes well for you, Flandrebro.
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No.69471
>>69470
And on the sexual stuff, I've had some deviant thoughts about Iori myself in the past but spending time away from that kind of porn and more on the vanilla stuff slowly cleared my mind out, thankfully.
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No.69479
>>69470
>I hope it all goes well for you, Flandrebro.
Thanks! I hope everything will also turn out well for you!
>>69470
I feel that I had to hit rock bottom before I could move on with this damn fantasy. I wish it could have been easier though…
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No.69508
>>69479
>I feel that I had to hit rock bottom before I could move on
I know this feel very well. Sometimes it has to be like that, is the only way we can learn. But believe me that it works. If I were to explain it, is something like the phrase "the higher you go, the harder you fall" but in reverse. The lower you fall the lower the chances to get back on your feet, but in these poor odds exists the chance to lift your own limits once you get back on track.
Sorry if that's hard to understand cause I can't explain shit very well but in short; there are things that can only be learned through the hard way.
Good to know that you can move on.
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No.69519
>Selfimprovement thread
about time. I originally wanted to stop being a lazy shit in 2018 but it was a bad year. So for 2019 I promised to do everything better and reinvent myself.
>goals.
mostly losing weight. I put on 20kg during 2018. It is going smoothly btw. I am 2 weeks in and I managed to stay away from sugars most of the time except 3 or 4 days. I want to look good for her.
Lost the old feeling of hunger completely.
>career
I honestly don't know anymore. Part of me thinks beeing a decent human bean means having a profession to serve society so she can be proud of me. The other part of me thinks society is shit anyways so better serve my waifu only and create art for her. I do have the capital so it will be either starting my own company or early retirement because I sure as fuck won't go back to the wageslave plantation that sucks out all my energy. There is nothing to be won in the rat race.
>What have you done for your love in this soon to end 2018?
In 2018 I was busy with a job I hated. It stressed me out and I ate chocolates whenever I felt like shit or tired. Quit in Q4 2018 because this has no future. At least I found out what I want to do in life. Or rather not to do. And I met some pretty cool people. I wish I did more for her but this exhaust is killing me even today.
>Any goals for the upcoming year?
getting slim again like 2014. This is the beginning, from there I will see what I can accomplish too.
I had this one project for a very long time in my head already. Maybe this is worth a try.
In any case, I wish all you anons good success with whatever you may have planned.
I believe in you and you will make it
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No.69534
WEW. I remember Rubyanon said I should make one of these threads but I never did get around to it. Thanks, OP. You have done us an excellent service.
>>69436
Even if you don't think it's a lot, that is some great progress. Keep doing your best and keep at it.
>>69437
>the madman actually learned all the kanji
>he actually showed up pic related
Good, maybe she'll stop being so smug now.
>>69438
>>69447
Good luck anon. Never forget that your waifu is always in your corner rooting for you. We're also here to wish you luck and I'm proud of you.
>>69444
Those trips say that you will succeed so long as you keep aiming for the next day of your practicing. Keep us posted on that kendo bit, I'm interested.
>>69451
If the song isn't private, I hope you let us hear it when you make it.
>>69469
It's an amazing thing when someone you love is willing to endure some pain for you because they care about you. It's just as amazing when you realize you've done them wrong in some way, big or small, and are willing to change and atone for it. I wish you both lots of love and luck.
As for the sleep bit, consider setting a small (quiet) alarm for about an hour before you want to go to bed. This is what I do and you're welcome to give it a go. When you hear it go off, quickly finish up whatever you've scheduled for this time of day (think ahead!) and turn off your electronics. Go wash your face/brush your teeth/comb your hair, change for sleep time, then go read a book you've wanted to start for that remaining hour in bed physical media only and preferably without harsh lights. You can learn a lot that way, and it lets your body power down more naturally. As a bonus, you're nice and fresh for an hour of comfy cuddling time with Flandre while you read. It's how I spend my nights and I can't complain. If you try it for a week or so do let me know how it goes.
>>69519
>Lost the old feeling of hunger completely.
Good for you. I dunno what it is about sugar, but your brain easily becomes a sugar junkie and the fact that it's in everything these days makes it hard to avoid that if you don't cook from scratch. Cutting it out does wonders for controlling appetite.
>I do have the capital so it will be either starting my own company or early retirement
Would you object to a smaller job helping others? It can even just be helping build things in the community, or running a small plough business or something. It's a lot more rewarding when you can see the work you've done and you can actually build a connection with the people around you. Contributing good helps balance out all the that bad bigger things throw into the world. Society at large can be shit, but that doesn't mean that the people caught up in it like it that way, and you yourself are proof of that. Even one little good thing can mean the world to people who deal with nothing but bad all their lives. I hope you find something that works well for you and that you both find something that you enjoy, and that you manage to be the one nice thing in someone's day that they remember fondly in some way. Even if it's just a simple, "oh, that's that anon that was so helpful that one day when everything else was going wrong".
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No.69537
>>69534
>sugars
They are like opiates and the cold turkey symptoms are similar. The only thing second to them is cheese which has literal morphins in it (casomorphins). Those are the 2 things I always struggle to quit. The hunger goes away but the cravings remain permanently in the background.
Now I have been clean for 4 days in a row. Already feeling less puffy.
I usually use saturdays to eat all the stuff I want to and let off some steam.
>2nd part
I cannot believe what you posted because this is what I wanted to do.
Starting a "loan sharking" business that does not take interest from people just like Akiyama in Yakuza 4, more like a hobby.
Letting interested people do "tests" to find out if they are dedicated to their projects and then helping them to jump start it.
I just wondered if I one day there will be blossoming small businesses all over town. This must have a meaning …
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No.69571
My new years resolution for 2017 going onto 2018 was to learn SFM for Widowmaker and i've achieved that atleast in terms of static posing.
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No.69794
Well, it's been about half a year and I have nearly upgraded to full pullups. I don't know how long it will take to get there and do them all the way, but I will keep on progressing. I've also gotten way better at the grammar of the language I'm learning and can sorta hold basic conversations with native speakers now. Still need to get off my ass and improve my trade knowledge but I need to figure out how to schedule that in somehow still. How's everyone else's improvement projects going?
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No.69795
>>69794
Half a year to get to nearly full pullups? Sounds like your starting point was pretty difficult so congrats on that. Have you considered using bands to assist you in them?
I've personally managed to break my 4 energy drink a day addiction that really plagued me and my heart. Along with that, I took an 8 month break from weightlifting that I'm getting back into now slowly. The stressful time in my life that I've been dealing with is almost dealt with so I can begin taking my life back
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No.69800
>>69795
>I've personally managed to break my 4 energy drink a day addiction that really plagued me and my heart.
Yeesh, that's quite a habit to kick, bet the waifu is proud. I know a guy who has a similar problem and I'm worried I'm going to find him twitching on the ground one day and since I've never had any myself I dunno what it feels like. Any tips on cutting down?
And nah, I don't have any bands around at the moment since I'm just doing pure calisthenics for now. Maybe in the future. I wasn't in a bad place when I started since I work out fairly regularly, so it probably sounds more impressive than it is. The REAL bitch is going to be doing pic related.
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No.69801
>>69794
That's nice anon, for how long have you been working out? calisthenics in general are great imo, I find it more fulfilling than weight lifting sometimes. As for me I been trying to make my way to one arm push ups, I can't do them fully but i'm almost there.
>How's everyone else's improvement projects going?
Meh, I been working in my stuff but no significant progress has been made yet.
>>69795
>>69800
>Any tips on cutting down?
I never had that energy drink addiction either, but I had to deal with nicotine adiction, if it's of any help back when I quit smoking I tried to cut for a few days until I was ready to cut altogether, there were times where I failed though, reached lots of days without a single cig to eventually give up. It wasn't till much later that I could finally get enough will to stop for a longer time to eventually get rid of it.
Honest advice this may take a long while but basically just keep cutting and if you fail just try again but this time go even further by consuming less than the last time for a longer period of time. Then repeat till you're done.
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No.69802
>>69800
it took a ton of failed attempts but what helped was just replacing the energy drinks with coffee. I hate coffee but needed the caffeine, from there I just cut back on that becasue I don't make the time to make the coffee. When I was lifting I maxed about 11 pull ups but now im struggling with 3. I find a light band to be pretty helpful for some overload.
>>69801
Don't be like me and get cocky once you figure out one handed pushups. After trying behind the back clapping one handed pushups I ended up falling right on my nose. Try spreading your legs further out from each other and that will reduce the difficulty to work from.
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No.69825
>>69800
Are you doing the Convict Conditioning program?
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