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A WARNING TO ALL NEW USERS IF YOU ARE NOT A HIKIKOMORI I WILL BAN YOU!! People who are going to work or school are not Hikikomori There are many people on here who can not leave their home Please choose your topic with consideration IF YOU HAVEN'T BEEN AT HOME INSIDE YOUR ROOM FOR AT LEAST 6 MONTHS OR MORE THEN DON'T POST HERE!

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58fdb8 No.2350

Have you ever verbalized it at all?

I had an insurance mandated medical examination yesterday. The second question was about my professional history, and since it's unusual and the thought of having to explain, once more, made me agitated I just said it: "I have not really left my home in 15 years! And I am socially isolated. … I buy groceries, I see a doctor four times a year, I am friendly and helpful towards my neighbors if they need something, but that's it. That's why we are here today."

That hit me hard. I never said anything like it before. I never even thought about it this way. Sure, I've said "I don't get out much." or "I am homebound, anyway." But I never verbalized that I have been isolated in my home for many, many years.

There is nothing else here. I just wanted to share the story, and am curious how other people think and talk, or don't, about their situation.

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3a95cf No.2351

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>>2350

>Have you ever told anybody that you are a hikki?

Recently i have tried to explain to my parents what a hikikomori is and of course they were clueless and didn't care to even learn about it hell i see a therapist sometimes and he doesn't even understand social withdrawal in general.

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6b90c3 No.2352

No, basically there's as less people as you can imagine who's aware of that diseases either in the West and the East so as a result there's barely anyone who's aple to understand us quiet enough so that he can start take us seriously instead of saying some dump sentences such as ( oh buddy you gotta leave your room, oh don't be a faggot you do browse gay born on pornhup don't you, oh hope our mom is realizing what she had raised an actual freak lol XD) if we were understandable enough then we will find people to help us GlOBALly not only based on some countries where they're suffering from this issue, if there were enough doctors, places to help us then most likely this place will not come into existence in the first place we are here because of the lack of people who understand us and don't call us names, we here due to the lack of medical information about us, we ourselves lackness the awareness of our situation then that's the responsibility of the medicine care system all around the world that's if they even want to help us in the first place in spite of being the individuals we are hiding from and avoiding their way of life

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3a95cf No.2353

>>2352

>diseases

I wouldn't consider being a hikikomori a disease it's more so an extreme reaction to society's stress Japan and Italy only see it as some kind of disease.

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58fdb8 No.2354

>>2351

>>2352

Other peoples inability and unwillingness to understand social isolation is probably one of the reasons I never talked about it before.

But I have the feeling it is getting more and more common. The examiners next question was if I at least watch TV or read the papers, because he had met people who refuse to to even that.

>>2353

Might be language confusion. I'd call it an illness. It's an unfortunate and unpleasant condition caused by the world acting on the sufferer without an apparent cause. A disease (as I understand it) is an illness that can be spread from person to person.

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3a95cf No.2355

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>>2354

> I'd call it an illness. It's an unfortunate and unpleasant condition caused by the world acting on the sufferer without an apparent cause. A disease (as I understand it) is an illness that can be spread from person to person.

So then would you say that you have a illness or a unpleasant condition then?? i know that hikikomoriism isn't understood very well in the west but if you want to understand it better i suggest reading Tamaki Saitōs book it is a very interesting read.

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6b90c3 No.2356

>>2353

>>2354

Yeah indeed I didn't mean to call it a disease within the meaning you've realized of it, I sometimes even wonder if this hikkimori thing is a higher rate of consciousness we had get from the consequences of not living in the actual world for more than years so thus, we cannot find nomeaning in this world anymore nor there's anything seems interesting we likely want more knowledge seeking to enter another level of consciousness where we will be able to discover a new world from the vary beginning of it

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58fdb8 No.2357

>>2355

I consider my unpleasant condition to be an illness. Albeit one of the soul, rather than the body. My situation fells like something that happened to me, about as much as it is the result of things I do.

Isolation is not a natural or advantageous state of being for a human. I'd probably live happier, healthier, and longer if I could leave my home and form stable relationships with the people around me. I also did not chose to isolate myself, nor did anybody force me, nor do I believe that it is an inevitable result of my personality (the way I am). Yet, here I sit. Unable to change because any attempt to change the situation causes me more mental and physical pain than I am able to bare.

Thank you for the book. It looks interesting. I might send a copy to my doctor after I read it.

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3a95cf No.2358

>>2357

> I'd probably live happier, healthier, and longer if I could leave my home and form stable relationships with the people around me. I also did not chose to isolate myself, nor did anybody force me, nor do I believe that it is an inevitable result of my personality (the way I am). Yet, here I sit. Unable to change because any attempt to change the situation causes me more mental and physical pain than I am able to bare

This is a common thing among hikkis as we most of the time do not choose to isolate ourselves we are simply victims of circumstance.

>Thank you for the book. It looks interesting. I might send a copy to my doctor after I read it.

Your welcome.

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caf687 No.2361

I told my therapist. She gave me a look of thinly veiled contempt.

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7d23c7 No.2362

Nope, its pointless as the average person simply doesn't understand. Average normalfag thinks recluses are lazy manchildren at best and while not too far off the mark; they can't nor will not understand WHY people withdraw and become like that.

They simply brush off anything they don't understand with useless "advice" and when it comes to hikkis its no different.

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58fdb8 No.2363

>>2362

I think it goes father than a simple lack of understanding. (Just look at >>2361 for an example.) Most people seem to outright reject the reality of mental illness. Probably because the are afraid of it.

Everybody has had at least some experience being depressed or manic or unreasonable afraid of something or of otherwise not being in full control of their actions. The thought that something like it could happen again and never end, that they could lose the illusion of control, must be pretty scary to someone who bases their self worth and identity around their actions and decisions.

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3a95cf No.2365

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>>2362

>>2363

This is so true normalfags just don't understand social withdrawal at all hell my parents think being reclusive is a choice and it can be but if were talking hikikomori here were more victims of circumstance and did not choose to live like this just look at 4/r9k/ with all the normalfags telling all the Wizards NEETs and hikkis who browse that board to just lift bruh LOLOL or be yourself it's sickening really to be honest.

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5c516e No.2392

>>2350

If I were to get a job in the near future, the thing that would scare me most is having to explain the large gap in my job history. The employer would inevitably ask why I haven't had a job in years, and I would have no idea what to say. One thing I have realized about most companies, is that they want normalfag employees. They want nearly brainless automatons who do nothing but work in the day, and use social media in the evening, that way they are constantly predictable and easy to survey. I want to find a way to support myself financially, but getting a normal job seems more and more difficult as time passes.

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3a95cf No.2396

>>2392

>If I were to get a job in the near future, the thing that would scare me most is having to explain the large gap in my job history. The employer would inevitably ask why I haven't had a job in years, and I would have no idea what to say.

I know that feel anon i would feel the same way.

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3e3df3 No.5879

>>2392

Are you me, anon? Because I think this every fucking day and night.

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2e1b04 No.5894

>>2350

A similar moment I had is when years ago I told my mother I was depressed and she should stop pushing me to get a job because what I needed was mental health help.

It's one of those pretty strong emotional moments, when you have to say things as they are.

Anyway, my therapist knows about hikikomori, he's well-informed, I didn't have to explain anything.

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8774a6 No.5897

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>>5894

>my therapist knows about hikikomori, he's well-informed, I didn't have to explain anything.

Is he/she a good therapist considering the fact that they know about what you're going through? i stopped seeing my therapist back in March because i couldn't take it anymore. The guy was 72 years old and didn't even use a computer and most of the time he didn't even bother to help me he had the typical oh just get over it normalfag type of attitude but anyway i'm glad i stopped going.

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610e71 No.5899

>>5894

Are you in Japan? How's therapy going?

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610e71 No.5901

>>5897

> he had the typical oh just get over it normalfag type of attitude but anyway i'm glad i stopped going.

It's sad how many therapists treat their job like its a pasttime they indulge in whenever they feel like it, and for everyone else they're just stalling for time until the end of the session so they can charge you that sweet $$$$$

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c5955b No.5903

>>2350

I talked to a therapist, but I didn't use the word hikikomori. Just listed all the symptoms of autism that I have, and by that I mean that I listed almost every imaginable symptom.

>>5901

They are about as incompetent as the average human tends to be. And that means completely incompetent. In order to feel better, people like to assume that most professionals and authority figures know what they're doing, and that keeps them from losing faith in society, and therefore keeps society from collapsing. In reality, this isn't the truth at all. No matter what they do, no matter how important it is, people tend to be more incompetent than you want to imagine. Finding a good therapist (or just one that does whatever happens to be necessary) can take a few tries.

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2e1b04 No.5913

>>5897

>Is he/she a good therapist

Yes. Still not helpful though because I'm a lost cause.

Yes, I've read in another thread about your 70 years old therapist. It amuses me that you went there more than one time. An old dude who doesn't use a computer can't know a thing about modern world problems. If you ever consider going to therapy again, try to find at least a young one. i tried other three therapists before finding this one, it's not that easy.

>>5899

I'm in Europe. I've abandoned therapy because I'm a lost cause, I feel like an alien amongst others and I have no purpose in life and this will never change, I can only distract myself.

I went outside and met people though, but it's useless, so I'm back into my nest. My problem is not much anxiety, it's more about a neverending existential crisis.

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8774a6 No.6188

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>>5913

> Still not helpful though because I'm a lost cause.

I understand that pretty much at this point that's how i feel about myself as well.

>I've read in another thread about your 70 years old therapist. It amuses me that you went there more than one time.

He was a bad therapist but going did give me at least something to do so i wasn't sitting in my room 24/7 and sleeping in bed for 14 hours a day.

>An old dude who doesn't use a computer can't know a thing about modern world problems

Oh i completely agree with you and that's why i stopped going altogether because i just got so fed up with him.

>If you ever consider going to therapy again, try to find at least a young one

I don't think i will be going back anytime soon but if i ever do i will keep this in mind thanks anon.

>I tried other three therapists before finding this one, it's not that easy

Damn anon it's hard for me to trust other people i don't know if i could do that.

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