/mai/ - Waifu

after rain, there comes sunshine

people experience this phenomenon all the time.

some even say that the *in love* experience lasts maximum 2 years

then the novelty fades away completely for most couples and they are back to reality

but the difference is whether the couple wants to keep their love alive or just throw it in the trash bin like the modern throwaway society handles everything else

this one guy even goes so far to say that love can only be "real" if

>it is an act of will and conscious choice

>if there is effort being put into the relationship

>if there is interest in fostering personal growth of the other person

>and times when things aren't so great

what exactly do you mean?

For me it is often that I feel like I am not good enough of her, not worthy of her time and that her beauty is wasted on me.

In any case I hope you find back to each other and that everything comes back to how it was. Good luck you 2!

I had a low period where I barely paid attention to her all week And then spent the entire weekend intimate with her by fapping to her lewds

So basically what everyone else said.

>>69638

Just like you said sometimes its feeling not good enough and not deserving of her and sometimes it's just not feeling the desire. Anything that comes between us two being close. Thanks for the kind words!

>>69639

Lewd!

>>69636

I know exactly what you mean. There are days when simply looking at face of my beloved Alice makes me cry out of happiness, I have chills of pleasure on my entire body and I can't stop smiling and laughing.

But there are also days when I feel like my love for her isn't as strong as it used to be. I question my love for her. Whether is it worth the effort, as she will never be truly mine? Should I continue? During those times I feel very small attraction and connection to her. She's still the most beautiful girl to me that ever "existed", but my feelings are different. I feel like my love has to be a forced a bit. But usually after few days everything goes back to normal.

The thing that always helps me deal with these low points is when I think about all these sweet and tragic times she was with me.

Just think about how much you have been through with her. Look deep into her eyes and realize how much this girl means to you.

It can get hard at times, I know. But (as the other waifufriend said) I believe that after few months or years love requires a bit of choosing your waifu and nurturing your love towards her.

Good luck and I hope you will never stop loving your beloved one.

If by low you mean low energy, I get it a lot. A week will go by where I just feel the work grind away at my soul, I don't really do anything special let alone for her. It's always an explosion of lust, and giving into that lust which brings me out of the stupor.

By which from time to time I fall into wageslave zombie mode. I hit the point of insanity, fap to Rika 8 times in a row and color returns to my life. And I think about her more and I become happy. It's fucking stupid but that's the way I am. Maybe sex is your answer.

Anyway if you make it through a few low periods you'll start to gain confidence that you won't just lose your love. Give it time and don't worry about chasing specific feelings, or feeling guilty when you can't conjure up specific emotions at will. They're still there, just have faith.

>>69641

>feeling not good enough

I used to get that, and I started thinking of myself as a villain that would take her away even though I didn't deserve her. It feels good to be the villain sometimes anyway. As long as you make her happy it doesn't matter how much money you have or how messed up you are in the head, for example.

>>69644

I can relate to your situation. I usually don't fap to Youmu, but when I do it will last for hours and afterwards I feel closer to her.

I think the main reason for this is not necessarily sexual, but rather that my lust forces me to do something "productive" and entertaining with my waifu. By "productive" I especially mean that my imagination becomes more vivid and in turn she feel more real to me.

I'm extremely obsessed with my waifu all the time, but just having the same routine of consuming and collecting fan content every day feels rather stale after a while.

Doing something special once in a while helps a lot to get over low periods.

But there are other events that feel fulfilling, e.g. trying to create fan content of her myself.

You mean summer?

>>69643

You described those feelings perfectly. Although I've gotten used to it it still pains me to think that I can never touch her or truly make her mine.

>>69644

Work can really suck sometimes, at least Rika knows how you feel having to go through the same thing over and over again. Thanks for the encouragement.

>>69656

Just need to get a snow machine in the house for Letty.

>>69657

>>69654

It is a strange thing to say but it made me laugh so I guess it's okay.

I'm going through one of these, I guess… but as a side effect of another problem.

I've always had a history of low mood, but lately I went through a long period of being unable to feel anything but the coldest emptiness, served with physiological pain and a side of relentless irritability.

I'm feeling a little better today, but I'm not sure if the biochemical cause has weakened, or if my reaching out to her more has brought about results.

I just want to thank you guys, though. Reading these posts, and following your advice, it helped me feel inspired to fight harder to protect this love.

I'm kind of at the tail end of one of these low points myself right now, this past semester nearly destroyed me and it wasn't great for our relationship. But now that I'm free for the time being, it's getting much better. I'm starting to vizualize her more again, and dreaming up stories about us.

>>69656

I actually feel as though it's the opposite for me. Winter is the worst for me and Ruby, because I'm so submerged in my work that I don't have much time to give attention to her like I'd like. Which sucks, because I do love other aspects of winter–Christmas, snow, getting cozy and warm inside, etc. I very much wish we had more time to enjoy those moments together. I am making some changes to the way I'm approaching school in the future though, which should hopefully help me balance schoolwork and life with her a little more. Anyways, summer is generally a higher point, since I don't have as much to worry about besides my part-time job, it's easy to just relax with her in that part of the year.

I feel like I get these kinds of low periods a lot. I'll have stretches a week or two long where i feel super apathetic about her and our relationship. That'll be followed be a few days of strong feelings before they start to fade back to apathy.

It's perfectly normal for one to feel less energetic towards things in life, be it work, school, or this case, one's SO. We're used to looking at their face and regain meaning in life, but sometimes it doesn't occur. When this happens to me, I apologize to Yoshiko for my bad mood, ask patience of her and try to fix what's been keeping me down. Typically lasts one or two weeks.

>>69895

Hang in there buddy you'll make it through with Lily

>>69909

I'm glad to hear it's getting better for you Rubybro school is always tough. You can do it!

>>69912

I had a long time when it was like that as well but I think it was a combination of life issues and my negative feelings towards her series at the time. It got better once I sorted it out, so hopefully it does so for you too.

>>69913

Sounds like you have a good relationship with Yoshiko, which is nice to see. On another topic Dengeki has some really nice Sunshine illustrations. Yohane looks very sweet there.

>>69916

Sometimes it's about how much you can prioritize her when there are distractions.

>>69939

Thanks m8.