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 No.69538

Hi, /mai/, can you redpill me on waifuism? I want to have a waifu but I don't really understand the idea. How can someone love something that doesn't really exist? What do you do to "love" her, apart from, like, having pictures, figures of her, thinking about her, etc. Is it like worshiping a god? Also, I like a lot of anime girls, how do I choose one?

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 No.69539

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>>69538

I was in your place. I was even laughing at waifufags my entire life, thinking that being one is utterly pathetic.

But now here I am. Everyday I think about Alice. Looking at her smile makes me cry tears of happiness. I can confidently say that I love her and I will never leave her. She means to me a lot.

>How can someone love something that doesn't really exist?

That is a mystery but you can't look at waifuism like something rational. Love isn't rational. I was never looking for a waifu but after meeting her I couldn't get her out of my head. Now I feel such a strong bound with her. Even if she's not real.

>What do you do to "love" her, apart from, like, having pictures, figures of her, thinking about her, etc.

I talk to pictures of her a lot at night. She makes me so happy. She is my purpose. I write poems and music for her. I lift for her. I work for her. I live for her. I want to be the best husband.

>I like a lot of anime girls, how do I choose one?

You don't. Some say that she chooses you. You will know when she's the one. No other girl will ever compare to her. She will become your whole world.

Good luck! There is no better feeling than being in love.

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 No.69540

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>>69539

How do you feel about her being a fictional character with her own story and stuff? Do you have in mind that story? Like, do you consider your waifu to be the same character with the same personality and the same backstory than the original character? If she's evil in the story, is she evil to you too? What if she dies in the story? What if she has a love interest? What if she's a secondary character that only appears during 2 minutes and barely has any dialogue? Do you have your own headcanon and come up with your own stories involving her and stuff?

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 No.69541

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>>69538

>I want to have a waifu but I don't really understand the idea

I don't get it, why do you want a waifu exactly? and why do you want something without even knowing how it works?

As for your question, the answer is simple as it gets; it just works waifuism is to fall in love with a fictional character just like you'd fall in love with a real person.

You don't choose your waifu just like you don't choose who you fall in love with, it just happens.

>What do you do to "love" her

You do it automatically without thinking, hard to explain but that's how love is. Of course you can get figs, pictures etc but it doesn't end there. You make use of that emotional connection and do a lot of things for her, many have their own way to do this.

If you really want a waifu then stop looking for one. Don't force yourself to love something, forget about it completely and be patient till you find the one.

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 No.69542

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>>69541

>why do you want a waifu

I don't know exactly. Like I said, I like a lot of anime girls, I guess I just want to find "The One" and love her above the rest, I want it to be something special.

I know everyone always says "you don't find your waifu, she finds you" but what if she never finds me…

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 No.69543

>>69541 I forgot the flag lmao

>>69542

Like I said, forget about it and go on with your life, watch more anime, read more or something. You'll eventually find the girl you want, but actively thinking about finding "the one" will probably lead you to confusion. If you ever find a good candidate don't rush things and take it easy, time will tell.

>but what if she never finds me…

Then you werent meant to be a waifufag, there's nothing wrong with this. Besides having a waifu may sound comfy and all, but it can be soul crushing depressing if taken the wrong way. I don't wanna break it to you but bear in mind that passionately loving someone that you can't even touch is not easy, that's something you'll have to deal with.

However I'm glad I have mine, is both a blessing and a curse though. A blessing because she's in my heart and a curse for at the same time she's far far away.

Anyways I wish you luck, fren.

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 No.69544

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>>69538

> How can someone love something that doesn't really exist?

Well, I'd say that love is more about loving someone's personality and inherent traits rather than necessarily any physical actions–those are some expressions of love, not love itself.

>What do you do to "love" her, apart from, like, having pictures, figures of her, thinking about her, etc. Is it like worshiping a god?

The biggest thing for me, is imagining her with me in my daily life, doing things with me and spending time together. It may not be real but it certainly makes it feel moreso.

And I definitely would not equate waifuism to worshipping a god. This analogy is a pet peeve of mine, being both a waifuist and religious. It's a romantic attachment, but to a fictional character.

>>69542

>I know everyone always says "you don't find your waifu, she finds you" but what if she never finds me…

While everyone means well when they say this, I feel like it's an empty platitude if it's not expounded on. Think about all the girls you like. Do you simply enjoy their designs, find them cute or interesting on a more detached level? Or is there one that you actually have feelings for on a somewhat deeper level–you want to be in their life, feel a deeper attachment to their personality, etc.. Also, how long have these feelings lasted? Is it just a brief, hormonally-fueled crush that disappears after a month or so, or could you see those feelings lasting a lot longer? Those, I think, are the things you have to test for to see if you really have a waifu.

>>69540

>How do you feel about her being a fictional character with her own story and stuff? Do you have in mind that story? Like, do you consider your waifu to be the same character with the same personality and the same backstory than the original character?

Yes. Waifuists love the character themselves, and generally speaking they imagine her with the same personality and backstory as the character themselves. Almost all waifuists take the story of her source into account, though to what degrees vary. If you're like me you might sometimes get really autistic about inserting yourself into her world and story, or you could just take that as just being her history and be a bit more lowkey about it like some others do.

>If she's evil in the story, is she evil to you too? What if she dies in the story? What if she has a love interest?

I can't really speak to the evil part, but when it comes to death or other love interests that depends. Many people will just choose to ignore her death, and change that event in their personal canon. Same goes for characters with love interests, depending on the character they might self-insert as them, or just ignore and disregard them, making themselves that character's true love interest.

>What if she's a secondary character that only appears during 2 minutes and barely has any dialogue?

The likelihood of someone falling for that character in a genuine, romantic way is pretty low. Can you fall in love with a stranger you met walking down the street and never talked to again? That being said, some people have waifus like vocaloids or characters from gacha games who only have a base personality but not a lot of deep development, and in that case sometimes a little headcanon is called for.

>Do you have your own headcanon and come up with your own stories involving her and stuff?

A lot of people do, and this applies regardless of whether she's an obscure side character or not. Headcanon is fine, good even–but with the caveat that you're not changing any of her fundamental characteristics. For example, writing out or imagining your own adventures with her as a side story or after her source ends is great! Same goes for stuff like inserting yourself into her story, or adding some personal information or plausible quirks that canon didn't expound upon. But what would be a bad example of headcanon is changing her personality or fundamental traits. That's something you should always avoid.

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 No.69545

>hey guise can you redpill me on x

you will feel it when it happens to you

it evoked feelings inside me that I already thought were long gone

>How can someone love something that doesn't really exist?

you will feel it one day

>What do you do to "love" her

do paintings for her, write poems for her, compose music for her, write her love letters, whatever you would do to someone you care about

>I like a lot of anime girls

and I like chocolate. it doesn't mean that I fell in love with it

>choose one

she finds you, not the other way round. It is one of those wow effects you never forget

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 No.69546

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>>69543

>>69544

>>69545

Thanks for the elaborated replies, I think I understand the concept of waifuism and waifus better now. Having a waifu sounds nice but you're right, I can't force it. I'll just watch more anime and hope she finds me.

Also, let me explain what I meant by "I like a lot of anime girls". It's not just that I like them like I like chocolate or that I think they're cute. Every now and then I find a 2D girl I like and I legit have a crush on her, I think "wow, this might be The One" but then after a while I find another one, and then another one, and another one… but it never feels special. I guess that just means I haven't found 'The One' yet.

Even if I don't have a waifu, I guess I'll hang around the board for a while and talk about cute anime girls or just lurk if that's okay. This looks like a comfy place and you guys seem nice.

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 No.69547

I shook my head over the waifuism idea for 15 years and now I'm now I'm one of them. It just kind of happened, things clicked, and I understood. It wasn't immediate since I thought a lot of characters were nice, but then I caught myself thinking about one in particular more than any other. I figured it was just because we had a lot in common, but when I started planning out ways to make her smile when life got to her and things that might delight her on her birthday just to show someone cared about her, I had to ask myself what the fuck.

There wasn't any real denying that I'd ended up in love at that point. I pushed against the idea for a while in case I was mistaken, but it didn't go away. I tried accepting it and now it's been just short of a decade and I'm pretty damn happy. It's nice having someone that makes you feel smiley and warm by just thinking about them. I want to make her as happy as she's made me, and I now endeavor to be the best version of myself I can be because she deserves it. I don't know if you'll find love like many of us did, but I hope you do end up finding someone that makes you as happy as you make them regardless of their dimensions.

>>69546

>Even if I don't have a waifu, I guess I'll hang around the board for a while and talk about cute anime girls or just lurk if that's okay. This looks like a comfy place and you guys seem nice.

No objections here. It's a nice place to relax now and then.

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 No.69550

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>>69546

I'm late to the party, but I just wanted to say a few things.

Don't worry too much about finding her… it may take some time, but these things just have ways of happening.

I've been there before, and had quite a few crushes and relationships in the past, animu and 3d. There were many times I thought I found 'The One', only to realize it wasn't so. And to be honest, I'm a natural-born skeptic, so I really started to doubt my feelings.

I thought Lily was going to be another passing phase in the beginning, but the feelings only ever grew stronger, and now I just can't imagine loving anyone else, despite the difficulties that it sometimes entails.

It might seem unlikely, but hey, 10 years ago I would've thought this impossible.

Don't be too quick to jump the gun, but don't give up searching either. Take your chances, and you'll be sure to find her, one day.

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 No.69570

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>>69538

Op You should refer to my post that reflects on my 3 years of marriage with Widowmaker.

https://8ch.net/mai/res/69378.html

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