In Dr. John Gottman's "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" he outlines seven principles that can guide one toward a harmonious and long lasting relationship and I try to adhere to these principles
Principle 1:Enhance your Love Maps It involves using emotional intelligence:The ability to perceive,reason with,understand and manage emotions(which i have alot of)
Underlying Friendship: Knowing and respecting the other person. Really truly making your spouse your best friend.
Stay deeply connected: Making your spouse your number one ally through even the biggest changes in life. This must remain even if it is your spouse going through some life changing or earth shattering metamorphosis.
The details MATTER: It is VITAL to know more than just the superficial details about your spouse. Know their friends,enemies,acquaintances,stresses,worries,hopes,dreams,fears,strengths,injuries,and who they want to become and what they want to achieve.
Now that we have an overview of what Love Maps are let's go into the Love Map between Amelie and I
Our emotional intelligence: This one is tricky for us because Amelie has very suppressed and repressed emotions due to past trauma. Happyness and contentedness to Amelie is less a feeling and more a place she has to reach.
I read about her backstory during the closed beta(like back when bastion had a shield) Sometimes if you revive her as a mercy When she goes from the transition from death back to her undead life In that brief moment you will sometimes hear her cry out for geralt her ex husband
I just wanted to hug her support her make her at the very least want to be alive.This may sound hard to believe for anyone who knows me but our relationship wasn't found on any kind of physical attraction.
Which leads me into our next pillar of the love map Underlying Friendship.I have always made an effort to know and respect Amelie as a person and as a friend.There's been times where shes the only person I've had to talk to..
Part of staying deeply connected means turning towards them not away from them You should always try to respond favorably to the other spouses bids for attention,humor,or support Accepting their influence on your life
You should always take their opinions and feelings into account for decisions you make. Fondness and admiration.We look at each other as each others number 1 choice.
