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 No.24240 [Last50 Posts]

Old thread on autosage: >>24

 

 

To get the ball rolling again: would it be a boring confession to state that OP recently turned 30 and is a kissless virgin?

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 No.24259

Lost my virginity in second grade to a girl who my friend also lost his v card too at around the same age/time

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 No.24261

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28 year old virgin here. I kissed two different girls in my life though.

I've looked up prostitutes ads online but never went through with it.

No girl my age would be interested in a guy that is a virgin. I think I'm fucked. I have decent looks too. I don't know what went wrong with my life.

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 No.24267

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I ruined a marriage, caused a divorce, and then proceeded to cut all contact with the divorcee who thought we would spend the rest of our lives together.

I don't regret any of it. The whole experience left me with a big boost of confidence, and still kind of gets me off to this day.

>>24261

>>24240

Virgins that have a problem with their virginity should just organize a big (mostly gay) orgy, and just lose it, so I don't have to cringe at your posts anymore.

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 No.24268

>>24267

Normalfriends should get off imageboards and enjoy their active social/sex/work lives rather than coming here to complain about confessions of adult virginity.

I guess this works as a confession too. I get annoyed when I see people shitting on others for expressing their despair or describing their current situation. I get it, you feel superior because you haven't ended up as a KHV, a NEET, a hikki, or whatever, good for you, but anonymous imageboards attract large numbers of these kinds of people, especially boards like this. You should probably find somewhere else to hang out if this kind of thing bothers you or makes you cringe, otherwise you'll be cringing 24/7 and that can't be good for you.

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 No.24270

>>24267

>>>/unkind/

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 No.24275

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>>24268

>normalfriend

Whoa, whoa, dude. Don't "NORMIES GET OUT REEEEEEEEEE!" at me.

I'll have you know, I'm a virgin, and a neet. I was specifically talking about the bitchy/whiny virgins that wallow in self-pity.

How could I not think I'm superior to a bunch of depressed friendgots who don't respect themselves, and make such obnoxiously disgraceful displays?

Their weak wills, and weak minds allow them to essentially become battered slaves of their own biology. Depression is one way nature separates the wheat from the chaff. If only, suicide rates were higher.

Had too much fun with this post. I knew I would get a response like yours on a board where most take themselves, and their imageboarding way too seriously. Was serious about the (mostly) gay orgy though.

>>24270

It's not like I can control what makes me cringe (I'll spare you the trouble of spouting your memes, and say the fun out weighs the cringe), and a (mostly) gay orgy would be a win-win for all involved. If anything, I'm the /kind/est poster for bringing my brilliant ideas to this dump.

If you're talking about the other thing, I was young, didn't know she was married when I met her, cast the first stone you pure, sinless virgin.

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 No.24276

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>>24275

I was having fun anon. /unkind/is a dead joke board. Don't take imageboarding so seriously gay friend.

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 No.24282

>>24275

I don't think it's very /kind/ to put other people down for their flaws, mistakes, or unfortunate circumstances just to boost your own self-esteem. Why would anyone want to confess anything if they see that they're just going to be shat on by bullyposters like they would if this was any other board?

You can claim it's all a big joke and all in good fun, but I think there's a good chance that anyone in a really bad place looking for some /kind/ness won't see it that way and will take it to heart. I am admittedly projecting my own feelings.

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 No.24284

It's best to report and hide bully posters.

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 No.24315

>>24268

>a KHV

A what?

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 No.24331

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When I was little I once took a little plastic toy from a store that hasn't existed in years. I still have no idea why I did it and feel terrible to this day. I actually applied there and worked for a year until it closed, doing a lot of overtime, often unpaid, and never said a word when I never received the raise I was supposed to like everyone else, nor complained about poor work conditions. My penance for being a wee shitstain.

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 No.24332

>>24315

Kiss-less (Hand-hold-less?) Virgin

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 No.24337

I raped my first and only girlfriend. The worst part is that we developed a toxic co-dependent relationship, and even tho i would like to leave, I'm afraid she's goin to tell what I did.

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 No.24340

>>24315

What >>24332 said, it's to distinguish virgins who have at least had some experience(s) with girls and girlfriends before from those who have not. A virgin even to kissing and holding hands.

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 No.24343

>>24284

I agreee

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 No.24366

I… I have some issues.

So for starters my entire life as long as I remember has been run by depression and some form of social anxiety disorder. Thats almost a prerequisite for even going on an imageboard but I figure I might as well mention it.

I'm suprisingly not a virgin, I've had sex and made out a couple times, theres more to it but that comes later.

So recently some shit happened. Hung out with an old friend who I am somewhat attracted to. I've told myself a million times that I wont try to have sex with her because if I fail stuff will be wierd between us and if I suceed stuff will get wierd.

So we got high, walked around, talked about stuff and me, being retarded asked if she wanted to bang. She says no and we talk about stuff for a while and I ask if I can feel her boobs, she says yes and so I do, we kiss a couple times, hold eachother and we end it, she drops me off at my house. On the ride back I keep asking her if what we did was okay, she keeps telling me i was higher than she was and that its fine. I have doubts the whole time, keep asking her, she keeps telling me its okay.

The next day she says shes fine about it and I apologize and tell her I feel terrible about it.

Fast forward to now and shes not talking to me, I'm very broken up about it because she hasnt really explained whats going on.

I'm pretty sure I fucked up big time and Ill have to deal with losing my closest IRL friend, I dont know, Im a pessimist.

The other thing that came up that I realized is that I have some complex about my sexuality. I hate it, I hate my sexuality a lot. I think about cutting my dick off a lot more than the average person should. Every time I have an encounter I deal with overwhelming guilt for doing anything regardless of how well it went or how close I was. I have trouble enjoying masturbation most of the time.

I feel like a monster, I really don't think I want to continue living like this.

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 No.24367

>>24366

Close as in how close I am emotionally to that person.

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 No.24389

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>>24284

We must treat bullies with ultimate kindness: i.e. we must bully them back.

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 No.24405

>>24259

HOT AS FUCK!!

HOW OLD WAS SHE?

>>24261

Get a hot sexy slutty teen/tween like >>24259 did. Fuck disgusting wymynz over 19.

>>24267

Monster. What are you doing here?

>sees later posts

No Johns!

>>24337

What the fuck? You RAPED HER? And then she BECAME YOUR GIRLFRIEND? What?!

>>24366

Nigga, fucking go see her and ask. Also, if you hate your sexuality so much, fucking bury it and don't jack off if you don't like jacking off.

My Confession

I spent the first quarter of the year after the horrible thing happened to me being completely depressed as fuck.

In April, I started to make repairs to my life, but could never replace the only thing that mattered.

The summer was nice, but the paranoia was so real. I worry what people think of me. I worry if people suspect what's partially true.

Then fall hit, and I started some new pursuits. And by this point, I had a decent stable of new friends. Still have them.

Then suddenly it's December, and I've done nothing to fight back against those whom have wronged me. I can't make time for anything important, and I'm running away from my problems at the worst possible time. I'm on a clock. If I don't act soon and at least try to draw out my accusers to face me, I'm almost as bad as they are for being a coward like they are, albeit to a much smaller degree. If I wait much longer, the year ends, my love grows a year older without me having any chance to see her and without me having even tried adequately. And I soon grow a year older, too, my chances growing smaller at the same time.

I want to puke right now just thinking about it.

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 No.24407

I've been pretending to go to college for 4 months, soon my dad will find out and I dont know what to do, im not even sure if I should be worried because the plan was to go to sleep before january 1st but im feeling better know. All I do is drive around, park in empty lots and watch anime on my phone, sometimes I walk in local parks.

Another one is im starting to truly hate whats left of my family, bunch of useless hypocrites, im just pretending for the day that I need them but the desire to be a self sufficient adult alone might be enough to finally do something with my life.

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 No.24408

>>24407

>go to sleep

Didnt know the filter changed that too but I kind of agree with it, a deep and eternal sleep is all I wanted.

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 No.24413

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>>24282

>Why would anyone want to confess anything if they see that they're just going to be shat on by bullyposters like they would if this was any other board?

We are still on h8chan. Besides, I don't think those posts were totally bullying. Edgy maybe. I understand your point, but criticism is not banned here. I don't like this safe space mentality. /kind/ used to have a lot of diverse discussion. And was not purely /r9k/-lite, though some people really push for that. It's OK to post such things, but it's also OK for others to not like those posts. For example, this anon

>>24337

should definitely be criticized, and deserves to be punished. Am I wrong for saying so? Should I only say nice things?

>I raped my first and only girlfriend.

Pic related.

>I'm afraid she's goin to tell

You are not kind, and you brought this on yourself.

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 No.24415

>>24413

Come on anon, all girls have rape fantasies anyway ;^)

Seriously though, they do and with all the sjwism going around im sure even males definition of rape has changed, he probably just forcefully kissed her or something like that. Id be shitting my pants too, if she can prove it our friend will get his life ruined.

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 No.24417

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>>24415

>he probably just forcefully kissed her or something like that.

An assumption with absolutely no proof to back it up. I have no love for SJWs, but it's not like rape is a completely made up crime. You are defending someone who has admitted, of their own volition, to committing that crime. He gives no hint of confusion to what he did (as you suggest), and seemingly only regrets that he could be found out.

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 No.24424

I tore my foreskin, now I have to be super careful when taking a piss.

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 No.24432

>>24417

Well, this IS a confession thread; confessing implies guilt on some level. So anon hopefully feels bad about dping that.

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 No.24434

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>>24407

Hang in there, friend! That desire to go and do things for yourself is very important.

I'm hoping to be able to recapture that soon myself.

Picture unrelated.

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 No.24466

>>24424

How did you do that? I want to make sure I don't make the same mistake. :^<

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 No.24468

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>>24407

Hang in there. . Please live. My younger bro did something similar. . Twice. And he was also suicidal during those times.

What scares me is that he is off on his own trying school again.

Whatever you choose to do just try your best. At the end of the day your dad wants you to be a self sufficient man. So keep trying. Also talk to him. You could make it anon

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 No.24612

>>24413

>>24415

>>24417

Nah, it was an actual rape. I felt guilty after the action, so I stayed cuddling with her, trying to confort her, lots of tears…

To my surprise, she didnt report, but I visited her every single day of the next 3 weeks, because I felt guilty, but also because I was a shitting my pants…anyhow, we bonded(in these visits I tried to portray myself as a decent person) and became boyfriend and girlfriend.

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 No.24628

>>24466

Just remember to take it easy; life is not a race.

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 No.24633

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[spoiler]>>24612

>Nah, it was an actual rape. I felt guilty after the action, so I stayed cuddling with her, trying to confort her, lots of tears…[/spoiler]

I don't want to sound judgmental but for some reason this sounds a hell of a lot creepier and evil than your standard "rape-n-run". But this is /kind/ so I'll say no more and keep this saged and spoilered to hopefully not ruin the atmosphere here.

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 No.24634

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This is embarrassing but…

 

Most of my life, I've had running fantasies of interacting or watching interactions of shows or games I watched/played/watching/played. Kind of like self-insert fanfics but kept entirely within my head. I've dreamt up entire elaborate plots and character development which has kept me awake late into the night and disrupting my sleep schedule far too often for my own good.

My only claim of shame avoidance is my own "author avatar" is rarely a Gary-Stu; I try to logically figure how everything would make sense, and "my character" is rarely top dog of any situation. Indeed, "I" am often the heel of other characters' jokes and such because I don't take myself too seriously most of the time and love poking fun at myself. Except for the 5% of the time it's purely masturbation material, of the sexual and the "OMG I AM SO FUARKIN' JOOSY BREH" kind. To spare you all I won't describe any of "my" adventures with fictional characters u-unless you want to hear some…

Though at least half the time (especially nowadays) it has nothing to do with "me" and are just general fanfics, original-fics with original characters, and/or intentionally-inane cross-overs (Don't worry I'll again spare you the WTFery.) I'd make as "practice" before my "good" work that I'd love to make comics/manga of if I had any drawfriend skills.

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 No.24637

>>24633

We already knew each other, went to the same uni…I didnt do it in the street anon lol.

>>24634

I do the same thing, and I already discussed this in other chans…I don't think it's that uncommon, anon.

Btw, why so many animufriends in this board? Nothing against it, just wanna know.

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 No.24663

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>>24637

>why so many animufriends in this board?

*chans like 4chan etc. originated from Futaba software which originated from Japanland. 4chan is as far as I know began as the first English-speaking *chan which was full of weeaboos from SomethingAwful. And so now all *chans are all about the animu and mango.

I'm trying to post non-weeb stuff to help balance out but it's diffuclt to out-cute the kings of kawaii.

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 No.24667

>>24634

Hell yeah, I do that too. I don't have the storytelling skills or the desire to really make it very elaborate, but I often fantasize about how I might fit into a story somehow.

Erotic self-insert fantasies are probably the most common.

I'd be okay with hearing some of your adventures, could be fun.

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 No.24684

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>>24667

>I'd be okay with hearing some of your adventures, could be fun.

Aww, but who wants to hear about me teasing Karen and Alice with mock-British speech ("Dohoho! Top of the morn' my good ladies! Care for a spot of tea?!") until Karen's yelling at me about how Brits don't talk like that at all? Then in another interaction Karen mocks this American by pointing and shouting, "Whoa, cool shotgun!" only for me to get excited and look, then when I turn back disappointed she's all smugface.jpg ?

That was embarrassing just to type.

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 No.24697

>>24634

I'm envious of your imagination, keep on dreaming dream bro

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 No.24777

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>>24697

>>24634

All three of us are sharing the same pretty dream right now. There is even a possibility we share the same melody.

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 No.24813

I spent much time during our downtime bullyposting on 420chan…

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 No.24869

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I was fooled into being trolled by a bullyposter on the backup /kind/ last night… so embarrassing.

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 No.24899

>>24366

You hate that you're a guy who likes girls? I really hope you can someday accept who you are and be okay with it, even if it takes a while to get there. Doesn't help that a fuckton of media tries to make men ashamed for simply being men. Sorry shit's rough, anon.

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 No.24909

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I grabbed my girlfriends face during an argument with my brother. She got super upset and said that reminded her of her abusive dad and ex. When I went to talk to her she cried a little and then said it was fine.

I was so broken up about it that I couldn't stop apologizing and crying about it like a little bitch. She ended up saying that it wasn't even that big a deal and that she only pretended to cry and get upset in order to make me feel guilty. She thought I'd give her hugs and kisses not turn into self-flagellating wreck. She only wanted attention she said.

She ended up apologizing for lying but I'm not even sure why she was lying or even if she was lying.

I feel so ashamed on two levels, grabbing her face and crying in front of her.

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 No.24910

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>>24405

>horrible thing happened to me

What horrible thing anon? Was it a breakup or the loss of a loved one?

>nothing to fight back against those whom have wronged me

You need to man up, do whatever you must do to make yourself feel strong. Draw inspiration from famous historical figures, go and confront them.

You know I find helps? Realizing your enemies are the worthless scum of the earth and you are better then them. They are lying whores that don't deserve a modicum of your time but you will not tolerate being lied about. You go to them, put your foot down and demand they confess.

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 No.24929

I kicked my brothers cat when it was only 10 months old, its 7 now. Dont know why I did it, it was hissing at me for no reason so I kind of got mad. Later I punched it really hard because it was walking on my desktop and at that time he liked to pee everywhere, he'd already peed on half my college books and pillows. I feel bad because now its always scared of me and looks stressed. Poor kitty, I fucked him up early in life just like bullies fucked me up.

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 No.24931

>>24929

I did something similar to a couple of my pets when I was younger. I stopped, and mellowed out as I got older. Told a friend of mine this, and they told me I wasn't a fucked up piece of shit because I regretted what I did. Didn't make any sense to me, but maybe it does to you.

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 No.24932

>>24909

> reflexively using emotional manipulation when she's upset

Time for some real talk.

If you don't put your foot down on this behavior, it WILL get worse.

She WILL eventually evolve into crying and lying to make you buy her things, guilt trip you into not having friends, into becoming a shell of your former self.

Just like a dog, you need to establish boundaries or you will be shat upon.

Or just DTB (Dump That Bitch) if you're not yet man enough to make that happen.

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 No.24933

>>24932

>reflexively

The fact that she said she wanted a specific reaction from him leads me to believe that there was too much thought put into the action for it to be simply a reflex. I only nitpick because it seems like a way to excuse the manipulation. Because she's just a dumb dog, right?

>She WILL

Assumptions.

>You need to man up

>if you're not yet man enough to make that happen

This is how men manipulate other men, I guess.

Based on what he said, and if he was actually asking for advice, I would have just suggested that he leave the relationship entirely because no one should have to deal with that kind of treatment, 'real man' or not.

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 No.24936

>>24933

>The fact that she said she wanted a specific reaction from him leads me to believe that there was too much thought put into the action for it to be simply a reflex.

That'd be true if she were male. But women are far more adept at "thinking without thinking", you could say. The power of emotional intelligence.

By the way, all people are dumb dogs. If you don't believe me, go watch a season of Dog Whisperer, then try some of those exact same techniques on people. You'd be surprised how often it works. It'll also kill your soul a little. Or perhaps a lot.

>Assumptions.

Just like the sun rising next morning is an "assumption". It cannot be logically nor reasonably proven that the sun will rise next morning, therefore we should not rely on it to like it did the last 1.4 trillion times.

>This is how men manipulate other men, I guess.

Of course. The quickest and most effective means to get people to do what you want (aside from threats of violence) is via ridicule. It just works. It's in our genes. Different techniques work on different people. For example, call into question a man's unmanliness like suggesting he is a friendgot or a virgin will trigger a primordial response that goes in the brain in less time than a fingersnap: "if I am acting like this which made the other party question my sexuality, then others might think so too, such as women, those I am hardwired into the life goal of impregnating to pass on my genes. So I better quit it right quick or I have failed at existence!" So by taking advantage of this natural tendency one can often MANipulate with ease, especially with practice.

Women though are far better at it for obvious reasons, as depending on tjat man's self-perceived tribal status you very well may instead trip the following: "You dare step up to me? You dare threaten my status, my hard earned ability to pass on my genes to every worthy female in my line of vision? I should crush you where you stand before you interfere with my nature-given privilege!" Which, as you can understand, could be quite dangerous.

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>>24932

>>24933

>>24936

>Time for some real talk

I've heard this from a few other people I told this to. So perhaps I should. I guess I just feel powerless in a way because I don't want to seem abusive or controlling. But I also don't want to be a pussy or a shell of a man.

>the problem with escalate

She's never done anything like before. I met her in January this year and we've been official since June. She's never guilt tripped me before. I don't know why she did now.

I know she is absolutely terrified at the idea of losing me, she tried to force me into promising that I'd never leave her / break up with her I wasn't even going to break up with her, but she thought because I have such a huge sense of honor that I'd leave her over the face grabbing thing by pressing the question over and over until she started trying to have sex with me and I just gave in. We fucked and I promised.

>leave the relationship over that kind of treatment

Do you mean for what I did or for what she did?

I appreciate your advice friends.

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 No.25915

bump

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 No.25917

File: 1452997473609.jpg (156.99 KB,500x612,125:153,n1s2jh88o1_500.jpg)

>>24929

Maybe you can train the kitty to associate positive things with you. Try giving it a treat whenever you run into it, for example.

>>24909

>I was so broken up about it that I couldn't stop apologizing and crying about it like a little bitch. She ended up saying that it wasn't even that big a deal and that she only pretended to cry and get upset in order to make me feel guilty.

Well, at least she admitted it, I guess? Assuming she wasn't just saying that to make you feel better. Dishonesty is one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship.

I wouldn't be ashamed of crying, friend. You felt like you crossed a terrible line and hurt the person you care about. If she looks down at you when you're at you're most vulnerable, then that's her flaw, not yours.

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 No.25944

>>24634

Holy shit! i thought i was the only one who did that. Hell i still kind of do that. I even like to make concept playlists about some of my fantasies.

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 No.25945

>>25944

> concept play lists

My curiosity. It is piqued.

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 No.25977

>>24240

Confessions ? Alright then.

I'm doing things I wouldn't normally do to get a girl to like me by being especially likeable to her. I have genuinely no idea if that's just standard seductive operation or if it's downright sentimental manipulation.

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 No.25983

>>25977

Dont worry about it, they do that sort of crap too so its fair game.

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 No.28023

File: 1457563309699.png (100.36 KB,400x240,5:3,FczG6PA.png)

I'm an asshole to everyone I know, especially myself. It's why I'm alone. I do it to drive people away, since the few times I was nice or cared for others, I ended up hurt and borderline suicidal.

And I will never change.

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 No.28044

Nothing too big but I was completely destroyed in an argument and laughed at because I let my opponent anger me. I feel really stupid because of that.

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 No.28063

About 6 months ago, my dad was killed in a motorbike accident. I feel bad because all I can think about is how sad I am because I'm single. It feels like I didn't care about him enough.

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 No.28066

Since 2016 began, I've burned bridges with everyone I live with. When I was suicidal in the past, I emotionally maipulated everyone I got very close with suicide threats. I didn't mean to do it, but I'm over that now.

But here, this is my confession: I regret nothing.

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 No.33320

test

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 No.33980

File: dcc19c49f9689ae⋯.jpg (108.41 KB,744x744,1:1,1479648319720.jpg)

Bumping this out of being 404'd.

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 No.33985

File: 881a979dc190633⋯.gif (1.35 MB,470x358,235:179,ae26faff4d520268b060d59333….gif)

>>33980

Board holds up to 25 pages of threads.

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 No.33986

File: e279ac79c034457⋯.jpg (38.83 KB,395x381,395:381,1460590820539.jpg)

>>33985

What? I see only 13 pages on the catalog.

Do we have archives now?

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 No.33987

File: 7f9fba2d40403de⋯.gif (268.34 KB,296x384,37:48,7f9fba2d40403de3a28fed9e30….gif)

>>33986

The limit used to be 10, but was increased 'recently'. This board just hasn't made enough threads to get passed 13 yet.

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 No.34053

File: 2f1cb29650ba668⋯.jpg (432.18 KB,1042x736,521:368,2f1cb29650ba66838f5367e3ed….jpg)

>>33987

Pantsu>oppai

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 No.34056

File: 26daf530cc99076⋯.gif (1.61 MB,400x224,25:14,fc11496772c94dcddc670d82cc….gif)

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 No.34139

File: 21a76e86eeb2f9d⋯.gif (Spoiler Image,445.53 KB,500x281,500:281,tumblr_n8gfvdVPmw1rxblazo1….gif)

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 No.34228

12.12.2016

i looked at something i should not had looked at.

the baby book of my brother's and a bit of both of us growing up as toddlers and pictures of my parents and my grandparents in another book.

i just broke down.

all because i saw a bok that said 'kid's storage' in the basement.

i saw everything

well

that was what was in those books

i should never write bad stuff ever about my parents or whoever.

there were a TON more stuff and like 3 more boxes but i just could not handle it

i even saw my bio-dad's face and how young everyone looked. how happy they were.

i was not suppose to look at ANY of that until…they passed away for the feels to REALLY hit but that was only a taste.

when i was looking through my brother's baby book, there was a letter to him that looked like a love letter from my parents telling him how much they loved him but i could not read much of it because i cannot read much cursve. am guessing it is an after-death letter. am sure she wrote one for me in another book somewhere.

>my mom's side of the family died from cancer

>my bio-dad died when i was 6

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 No.34230

File: 08434d0ef7276b7⋯.jpg (38.27 KB,600x510,20:17,120_-_benis.jpg)

>>34139

is that a benis?

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 No.34242

>>34230

Yes. This is one of the reasons pantsu is superior

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 No.34411

I fapped to every kind of fetish porn there is. Interracial, bukkake, bestiality, lolicon, recently traps and even illegal porn. I'm trying to quit porn now.

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 No.34412

>>34411

there is literally nothing wrong with watching porn. you haven't sexually sinned until you've put your own dick in something or someone that didn't or can't give consent

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 No.34413

>>34412

>nothing wrong with watching child porn

What am I reading?

>you haven't sexually sinned

In the secular world there is no such thing as something being actually or objectively right or wrong. It's all just an opinion like whether you like the color red or not. Consent is an arbitrary opinion based limiter.

In the religious world, with Christianity as an example, yes of course it's a sin.

Also its just unwise to put yourself at legal risk over child porn. Come on lad.

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 No.34507

i know the name of this board is /kind/, but i hate women with all my heart

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 No.34509

File: 23075886671b18c⋯.jpg (30.95 KB,500x564,125:141,1481817658038.jpg)

There was a poster on another board who made the nicest threads there. She was always so positive and kind. I loved talking to her as she made me feel someone actually cares about me. I know it's pathetic, but she is the closest I even got to a friend and kind of become emotionally attached to her. Then one day she said, she will stop using the internet and I was at first sad for not being able to talk with her again, but at the same time I was extremely happy to see her move on. The thought of her being happy made me happy. Recently I found out she didn't stop using the internet and is still posting just stopped making those threads because she grew attached to me as well and didn't want to ruin it. And it hurts my heart seeing that she isn't happy and didn't move on as I hoped and imagined she did.

I don't know why I'm even writing this I know how pathetic it sounds and how pathetic am I to even create so strong feelings to a stranger on a imageboard. I even feel kinda bad for talking with her as i feel I ruined her in a way. Can't even put into words how sad it makes me for realising she's not happy.

I'm sorry I really do know how pathetic and lame I am and I hate myself for it, I guess I just had to tell someone and get it off my chest and I don't know who else to tell. Sorry for shiting up the thread with this pathetic post.

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 No.34520

File: f6e2a49437975c5⋯.jpg (2.03 MB,2500x1444,625:361,1440509904658-4.jpg)

>>34509

You're being silly there's nothing pathetic about that. Your needless self flagellation is unpleasant and off-putting though. How exactly is her happiness assured by leaving the internet? The Opposite could be true. If I left it would be much worse as I would have no one to talk to. If she's kind to you be kind to her, that's all we can do as friends.

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 No.34524

>>34520

She said she was miserable and the post she made about stop using the internet came out as that she found something outside the internet, but she just moved to the another board. I guess you're right though, but I can't help, but feel like I in a way made her more miserable, even though I don't know how. I want every one to be happy as I not and I don't want anyone to feel this way, but with this particular person it hurts me that's she is not happy.

Thanks for replying.

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 No.34530

File: da6d561f22c9567⋯.jpg (1.47 MB,1240x1754,620:877,1437245306050-2.jpg)

>>34524

>feel like I made her more miserable even though I don't know how

If we have an irrational hatred for ourselves we will look for any excuse to get down on, and blame ourselves to justify that hatred. All we can do is be as self-aware of this irrational hatred as possible, and combat it with a more realistic view of ourselves. CBT is a great tool for this, I recommend that you look into it, friend. It helped my resolve most of my own self-hatred.

You are limited because the friendship is online. Her real problems are almost certainly offline, in real life. Maybe being online helps her escape them for a time, if so she probably wouldn't have left anyway. Just be good to her, its unfortunate, but that's all we can do.

The fact that you even consider the happiness of others makes you a great person, in my book. Most people don't. I'd be lucky to have one friend like you in my life time. I mean that genuinely. Good luck, I'm rooting for you, friend.

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 No.34535

>>34509

this feels obvious to say, but selfhate doesnt help anything. i wish i could tell you how to stop but i havent worked it out for me self and the answer would be different for you anyway.

you gotta remember that everyone is or has been a degenerate, by societies standards, in some way, but most never had it get in the way of their life.

you forming a bond with someone online isnt pathetic, an unwillingness to improve is. and self hate promotes apathy.

also can i get a source on the anime grill plz friendo

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 No.34537

File: 267179d8c468ef3⋯.jpg (37.22 KB,499x350,499:350,1476985811444.jpg)

>>34530

I will try looking into CBT. Thank you, I really do mean it. And best of luck to you too friend.

>>34535

Thank you for replying as well, as for the source, I'm sorry I don't have it. I tried image search it, but with no luck.

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 No.34547

File: 83c5d9a8f3be485⋯.jpg (68.57 KB,600x600,1:1,1476419457991.jpg)

I don't know how to play poker.

I don't even watch anime anymore but keep pretending I do. Not that I don't like it now or anything, just not that much. Same with vidya. I just lurk all day, habits really are hard to break.

I've got a mild case of porn addiction, im on my third 1tb hard drive now, and I don't even know what's in there. It's more of a what if it's not there tomorrow? thing than actually watching it.

I fell for one of the degenerate memes and I keep telling myself it wasn't me, it really wasn't.

I made a "friend" on /r9k/ some months ago after exchanging some heavy feels, got his email and we talked a bit but I didn't put the smallest bit of effort. He hasn't written back and I can't blame him. I regret it firstly because he clearly made the effort and I replied days later, barely putting thought in my words seeming like an obnoxious junky, never told him much about myself. Secondly because he was the closest I got to a friend in years ;_; don't think I can contact him back now though. For a brief moment I felt what having someone show interest in you felt like and I miss him but he was an intelligent, interesting and succesful albeit troubled individual while im just a boring loser with nothing valuable to give back. Hope nigga's doing better now.

Been postponing getting a job for the stupidiest reason you can imagine: a crappy signature.

Being a third worlder Trumps victory was sort of a wake up call for me, almost got my shit together in hopes of getting a bunch of cisco certs to get a job. Then said fuck it, if shit hits the fan the last thing that will matter is IT. If my country is going down the shitter then so be it there's nothing I can do about it, at least im not going down alone :^)

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 No.34551

File: 0b51ee08b7572a8⋯.png (216.59 KB,671x469,671:469,1429554838944-4.png)

>>34547

>I don't know how to play poker.

Just read an online guide like the other friend said or watch a couple of youtube tutorials. If you're planning to play it for money I would recommend bet365 over Pokerstars, since lower skilled players play there (in my experiences at least).

>I don't even watch anime anymore but keep pretending I do. Not that I don't like it now or anything, just not that much. Same with vidya. I just lurk all day, habits really are hard to break.

I got the same problem, maybe try rewatching or replaying anime/vidya that you really like.

>don't think I can contact him back now though

Don't be silly I think he would be happy if you send him another email.

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