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Old thread on autosage: >>24
To get the ball rolling again: would it be a boring confession to state that OP recently turned 30 and is a kissless virgin?
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No.24932
>>24909
> reflexively using emotional manipulation when she's upset
Time for some real talk.
If you don't put your foot down on this behavior, it WILL get worse.
She WILL eventually evolve into crying and lying to make you buy her things, guilt trip you into not having friends, into becoming a shell of your former self.
Just like a dog, you need to establish boundaries or you will be shat upon.
Or just DTB (Dump That Bitch) if you're not yet man enough to make that happen.
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No.24933
>>24932
>reflexively
The fact that she said she wanted a specific reaction from him leads me to believe that there was too much thought put into the action for it to be simply a reflex. I only nitpick because it seems like a way to excuse the manipulation. Because she's just a dumb dog, right?
>She WILL
Assumptions.
>You need to man up
>if you're not yet man enough to make that happen
This is how men manipulate other men, I guess.
Based on what he said, and if he was actually asking for advice, I would have just suggested that he leave the relationship entirely because no one should have to deal with that kind of treatment, 'real man' or not.
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No.24936
>>24933
>The fact that she said she wanted a specific reaction from him leads me to believe that there was too much thought put into the action for it to be simply a reflex.
That'd be true if she were male. But women are far more adept at "thinking without thinking", you could say. The power of emotional intelligence.
By the way, all people are dumb dogs. If you don't believe me, go watch a season of Dog Whisperer, then try some of those exact same techniques on people. You'd be surprised how often it works. It'll also kill your soul a little. Or perhaps a lot.
>Assumptions.
Just like the sun rising next morning is an "assumption". It cannot be logically nor reasonably proven that the sun will rise next morning, therefore we should not rely on it to like it did the last 1.4 trillion times.
>This is how men manipulate other men, I guess.
Of course. The quickest and most effective means to get people to do what you want (aside from threats of violence) is via ridicule. It just works. It's in our genes. Different techniques work on different people. For example, call into question a man's unmanliness like suggesting he is a friendgot or a virgin will trigger a primordial response that goes in the brain in less time than a fingersnap: "if I am acting like this which made the other party question my sexuality, then others might think so too, such as women, those I am hardwired into the life goal of impregnating to pass on my genes. So I better quit it right quick or I have failed at existence!" So by taking advantage of this natural tendency one can often MANipulate with ease, especially with practice.
Women though are far better at it for obvious reasons, as depending on tjat man's self-perceived tribal status you very well may instead trip the following: "You dare step up to me? You dare threaten my status, my hard earned ability to pass on my genes to every worthy female in my line of vision? I should crush you where you stand before you interfere with my nature-given privilege!" Which, as you can understand, could be quite dangerous.
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No.24948
>>24932
>>24933
>>24936
>Time for some real talk
I've heard this from a few other people I told this to. So perhaps I should. I guess I just feel powerless in a way because I don't want to seem abusive or controlling. But I also don't want to be a pussy or a shell of a man.
>the problem with escalate
She's never done anything like before. I met her in January this year and we've been official since June. She's never guilt tripped me before. I don't know why she did now.
I know she is absolutely terrified at the idea of losing me, she tried to force me into promising that I'd never leave her / break up with her I wasn't even going to break up with her, but she thought because I have such a huge sense of honor that I'd leave her over the face grabbing thing by pressing the question over and over until she started trying to have sex with me and I just gave in. We fucked and I promised.
>leave the relationship over that kind of treatment
Do you mean for what I did or for what she did?
I appreciate your advice friends.
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No.25915
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No.25917
>>24929
Maybe you can train the kitty to associate positive things with you. Try giving it a treat whenever you run into it, for example.
>>24909
>I was so broken up about it that I couldn't stop apologizing and crying about it like a little bitch. She ended up saying that it wasn't even that big a deal and that she only pretended to cry and get upset in order to make me feel guilty.
Well, at least she admitted it, I guess? Assuming she wasn't just saying that to make you feel better. Dishonesty is one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship.
I wouldn't be ashamed of crying, friend. You felt like you crossed a terrible line and hurt the person you care about. If she looks down at you when you're at you're most vulnerable, then that's her flaw, not yours.
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No.25944
>>24634
Holy shit! i thought i was the only one who did that. Hell i still kind of do that. I even like to make concept playlists about some of my fantasies.
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No.25945
>>25944
> concept play lists
My curiosity. It is piqued.
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No.25977
>>24240
Confessions ? Alright then.
I'm doing things I wouldn't normally do to get a girl to like me by being especially likeable to her. I have genuinely no idea if that's just standard seductive operation or if it's downright sentimental manipulation.
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No.25983
>>25977
Dont worry about it, they do that sort of crap too so its fair game.
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No.28023
I'm an asshole to everyone I know, especially myself. It's why I'm alone. I do it to drive people away, since the few times I was nice or cared for others, I ended up hurt and borderline suicidal.
And I will never change.
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No.28044
Nothing too big but I was completely destroyed in an argument and laughed at because I let my opponent anger me. I feel really stupid because of that.
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No.28063
About 6 months ago, my dad was killed in a motorbike accident. I feel bad because all I can think about is how sad I am because I'm single. It feels like I didn't care about him enough.
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No.28066
Since 2016 began, I've burned bridges with everyone I live with. When I was suicidal in the past, I emotionally maipulated everyone I got very close with suicide threats. I didn't mean to do it, but I'm over that now.
But here, this is my confession: I regret nothing.
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No.33332
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No.33980
Bumping this out of being 404'd.
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No.33985
>>33980
Board holds up to 25 pages of threads.
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No.33986
>>33985
What? I see only 13 pages on the catalog.
Do we have archives now?
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No.33987
>>33986
The limit used to be 10, but was increased 'recently'. This board just hasn't made enough threads to get passed 13 yet.
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No.34053
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No.34056
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No.34139
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No.34228
12.12.2016
i looked at something i should not had looked at.
the baby book of my brother's and a bit of both of us growing up as toddlers and pictures of my parents and my grandparents in another book.
i just broke down.
all because i saw a bok that said 'kid's storage' in the basement.
i saw everything
well
that was what was in those books
i should never write bad stuff ever about my parents or whoever.
there were a TON more stuff and like 3 more boxes but i just could not handle it
i even saw my bio-dad's face and how young everyone looked. how happy they were.
i was not suppose to look at ANY of that until…they passed away for the feels to REALLY hit but that was only a taste.
when i was looking through my brother's baby book, there was a letter to him that looked like a love letter from my parents telling him how much they loved him but i could not read much of it because i cannot read much cursve. am guessing it is an after-death letter. am sure she wrote one for me in another book somewhere.
>my mom's side of the family died from cancer
>my bio-dad died when i was 6
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No.34230
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No.34242
>>34230
Yes. This is one of the reasons pantsu is superior
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No.34411
I fapped to every kind of fetish porn there is. Interracial, bukkake, bestiality, lolicon, recently traps and even illegal porn. I'm trying to quit porn now.
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No.34412
>>34411
there is literally nothing wrong with watching porn. you haven't sexually sinned until you've put your own dick in something or someone that didn't or can't give consent
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No.34413
>>34412
>nothing wrong with watching child porn
What am I reading?
>you haven't sexually sinned
In the secular world there is no such thing as something being actually or objectively right or wrong. It's all just an opinion like whether you like the color red or not. Consent is an arbitrary opinion based limiter.
In the religious world, with Christianity as an example, yes of course it's a sin.
Also its just unwise to put yourself at legal risk over child porn. Come on lad.
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No.34507
i know the name of this board is /kind/, but i hate women with all my heart
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No.34509
There was a poster on another board who made the nicest threads there. She was always so positive and kind. I loved talking to her as she made me feel someone actually cares about me. I know it's pathetic, but she is the closest I even got to a friend and kind of become emotionally attached to her. Then one day she said, she will stop using the internet and I was at first sad for not being able to talk with her again, but at the same time I was extremely happy to see her move on. The thought of her being happy made me happy. Recently I found out she didn't stop using the internet and is still posting just stopped making those threads because she grew attached to me as well and didn't want to ruin it. And it hurts my heart seeing that she isn't happy and didn't move on as I hoped and imagined she did.
I don't know why I'm even writing this I know how pathetic it sounds and how pathetic am I to even create so strong feelings to a stranger on a imageboard. I even feel kinda bad for talking with her as i feel I ruined her in a way. Can't even put into words how sad it makes me for realising she's not happy.
I'm sorry I really do know how pathetic and lame I am and I hate myself for it, I guess I just had to tell someone and get it off my chest and I don't know who else to tell. Sorry for shiting up the thread with this pathetic post.
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No.34520
>>34509
You're being silly there's nothing pathetic about that. Your needless self flagellation is unpleasant and off-putting though. How exactly is her happiness assured by leaving the internet? The Opposite could be true. If I left it would be much worse as I would have no one to talk to. If she's kind to you be kind to her, that's all we can do as friends.
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No.34524
>>34520
She said she was miserable and the post she made about stop using the internet came out as that she found something outside the internet, but she just moved to the another board. I guess you're right though, but I can't help, but feel like I in a way made her more miserable, even though I don't know how. I want every one to be happy as I not and I don't want anyone to feel this way, but with this particular person it hurts me that's she is not happy.
Thanks for replying.
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No.34530
>>34524
>feel like I made her more miserable even though I don't know how
If we have an irrational hatred for ourselves we will look for any excuse to get down on, and blame ourselves to justify that hatred. All we can do is be as self-aware of this irrational hatred as possible, and combat it with a more realistic view of ourselves. CBT is a great tool for this, I recommend that you look into it, friend. It helped my resolve most of my own self-hatred.
You are limited because the friendship is online. Her real problems are almost certainly offline, in real life. Maybe being online helps her escape them for a time, if so she probably wouldn't have left anyway. Just be good to her, its unfortunate, but that's all we can do.
The fact that you even consider the happiness of others makes you a great person, in my book. Most people don't. I'd be lucky to have one friend like you in my life time. I mean that genuinely. Good luck, I'm rooting for you, friend.
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No.34535
>>34509
this feels obvious to say, but selfhate doesnt help anything. i wish i could tell you how to stop but i havent worked it out for me self and the answer would be different for you anyway.
you gotta remember that everyone is or has been a degenerate, by societies standards, in some way, but most never had it get in the way of their life.
you forming a bond with someone online isnt pathetic, an unwillingness to improve is. and self hate promotes apathy.
also can i get a source on the anime grill plz friendo
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No.34537
>>34530
I will try looking into CBT. Thank you, I really do mean it. And best of luck to you too friend.
>>34535
Thank you for replying as well, as for the source, I'm sorry I don't have it. I tried image search it, but with no luck.
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No.34547
I don't know how to play poker.
I don't even watch anime anymore but keep pretending I do. Not that I don't like it now or anything, just not that much. Same with vidya. I just lurk all day, habits really are hard to break.
I've got a mild case of porn addiction, im on my third 1tb hard drive now, and I don't even know what's in there. It's more of a what if it's not there tomorrow? thing than actually watching it.
I fell for one of the degenerate memes and I keep telling myself it wasn't me, it really wasn't.
I made a "friend" on /r9k/ some months ago after exchanging some heavy feels, got his email and we talked a bit but I didn't put the smallest bit of effort. He hasn't written back and I can't blame him. I regret it firstly because he clearly made the effort and I replied days later, barely putting thought in my words seeming like an obnoxious junky, never told him much about myself. Secondly because he was the closest I got to a friend in years ;_; don't think I can contact him back now though. For a brief moment I felt what having someone show interest in you felt like and I miss him but he was an intelligent, interesting and succesful albeit troubled individual while im just a boring loser with nothing valuable to give back. Hope nigga's doing better now.
Been postponing getting a job for the stupidiest reason you can imagine: a crappy signature.
Being a third worlder Trumps victory was sort of a wake up call for me, almost got my shit together in hopes of getting a bunch of cisco certs to get a job. Then said fuck it, if shit hits the fan the last thing that will matter is IT. If my country is going down the shitter then so be it there's nothing I can do about it, at least im not going down alone :^)
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No.34550
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No.34551
>>34547
>I don't know how to play poker.
Just read an online guide like the other friend said or watch a couple of youtube tutorials. If you're planning to play it for money I would recommend bet365 over Pokerstars, since lower skilled players play there (in my experiences at least).
>I don't even watch anime anymore but keep pretending I do. Not that I don't like it now or anything, just not that much. Same with vidya. I just lurk all day, habits really are hard to break.
I got the same problem, maybe try rewatching or replaying anime/vidya that you really like.
>don't think I can contact him back now though
Don't be silly I think he would be happy if you send him another email.
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