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How to "reclaim" this girl Femanon 08/12/21 (Thu) 04:47:38 No.20917

I am a landscaper in the Portlandistan metro area whom is 21 years of age and is aspiring to be a plumber. I really want to reimpress this girl that I had a platonic relationship (but not sexual) with for a year when she and I were 15.

Unfortunately I destroyed this relationship, and even though I apologized to her and her family multiple times and have been forgiven these past two years, it doesn't seem likely that I can restart a relationship with her, at least almost certainly not right now, although I really strive for it.

Here's the thing, though. At the time, I was living with an abusive adoptive black family (I was adopted by them when I was three) that I escaped four years ago. She's very traditional, we're both White, and I am afraid she is losing her traditions at her university.

What should I do? I am really sick and tired of the advice to "move-on" and other garbage, which I have been told by feminists, drug-users, and betas.

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Femanon 08/12/21 (Thu) 12:18:47 No.20918

What the fuck did you do anon?

That aside, by the way you speak it seems to me as if some toxicity from your family has stuck to you still. "Reclaiming" a girl that has never belonged to you, and the fact you think she is "losing" her traditions are two big red flags, at least to my eyes that don't know the bigger picture.

Are you sure she's just not trying to move on herself from her past?

Are you sure you're not part of the past she's trying to leave behind?

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Femanon 08/12/21 (Thu) 22:56:02 No.20919

Anon, I threatened to hurt myself and my older adopted brother (who was also abusive to me just like my adopted family) three times in 2015 over the course of three weeks, after I was abused (included sexually) by my adoptive father.

Unfortunately, after I destroyed my relationship with her, I didn't leave her alone, and in the span of several months, her family put a one-year restraining order on me.

Yes, I have apologized and have been forgiven by them, but I wish to restart a relationship with her.

That's true, and I look to God every now and then to help me cope with the tribulations. It's totally up to God to see what his plans are for me.

The traditions she is losing is that she abstains from alcohol and other drugs, sex outside of marriage, and avoiding consumerism. She's still a virgin, just like me, but unfortunately she seems to be drinking alcohol and getting sucked into consumerism.

I am sure, but she is busy going to university down in Tucson, Arizona (she is a junior). She might eventually have some free time to hang out with me, especially once she graduates.

Yes, and even though we don't maintain contact except by snail mail, she is fine with me contacting her.

I really would love to come closer to God, and if God permits, marry her, move to the Midwest or Florida, and start a family with her.

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Femanon 08/12/21 (Thu) 23:01:08 No.20920

I also intend to meet my biological parents soon, but they live in New Hampshire (although my parents and I are originally from Alberta), and I was taken from them by the government when I was a 3 year old due to them being addicted to alcohol and heroin.

They're both very nice people, and have changed a lot, and of course regret their past behavior. I've wanted to get them to come to Christ and become traditional, but it's quite an uphill battle.

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