No.20593
My boyfriend has made it clear to me he wants to have sex. I'm 18 and a virgin, and I've thought about it the past few years and decided I want to wait until marriage. My family is fairly liberal so I've been made fun of by one of my older sisters for it (despite never discussing it with her).
My boyfriend has thought about going to an overpriced pay-by-the-hour Hotel in a few months and doing it there. I really love him and normally he's very conservative, but with this he doesn't seem to care. He says we can wait, but I feel as though he doesn't value the same things I do. As well as that, I feel bad knowing I'm not giving him what he wants. What should I do? :(
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No.20596
To wait until marriage is a big commitment, far bigger than some can handle.
However, I think if you don't feel ready for sex you shouldn't do it.
We mature at different rates, and you'll know when you want it.
If by then you'll wish to marry as well, by all means.
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No.20619
>boyfriend
Lol fucking lol
Pick and choosing your values like a kike. No wonder. You don’t deserve that virginity. If you’re dating a fuckhead without being engaged and on track to marry like a proper arranged marriage should be, then you should be fucking him like a dirty whore. Either break up with him or get fucking engaged with a set date for marriage. The only reason no-sex before marriage exists is because men and women were not allowed to be alone in the same room together till recently. Unless they were married. The rule for your value is out dated. Live originally or stop being a hypocrite. Choose 😂 no shit you have a moral dilemma, you’re subconsciously a hypocrite and torturing yourself holding a moral value you don’t even fully understand brainless parrot.
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No.20630
Hello.. To be a virgin at 18 nowadays is rare.. I applaud you for sticking to your guns.. It isnt easy.. As an older woman, I would tell you that your first time isnt something to be taken lightly.. There is truth when they say you will never forget your first.. Your first time is sacred and I use that word because it absolutely is.. This is a part of your soul that you are giving away to someone.. So please think about it in that way.. So many girls are mislead by magazines, television, social media.. This nation is controled by sex crazed men.. Always remember this.. And I tell my daughter's this as well, what's between your legs is powerful.. Men have spent trillions just for a moment with it.. Men have given up their lively hood, their souls, their religion for whats between your legs.. Men have waged wars for it..remember who is really in control.. It's up to you.. Its always up to you..
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No.20652
>>20630
Soo true. Men are weak against it that is for sure. Probably one of the strongest test of will for a man is to be indifferent to it and understand its true purpose. Then women wouldn't have any control over men and they would be able to focus on things that really matter.>>20630
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No.20661
>>20596
>>20593
1 corinthians 7:8-9
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am(celibacy); but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
6:18
Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
>>20619
aspergers detected
>>20652
men are quite prone to emotional sexual relations rather than women, so psychologically speaking it would be easier to abstain or you.
back to op tho
If he seriously refuses to abstain, these are issues that do break off relationships. Do not be afraid to do so to maintain chastity because the devil will always try to tempt, but he gets bored and loses interest. Therefore if this current bf is the one you're meant for; The Lord will make it so. I would recommend talking to a Priest almost in a marriage counseling way. There is absolutely no shame in it but if you do not have a spiritual father i'd suggest Orthodox Priest and or a Catholic at the least. This is a highly moral dilemma which would require high moral authority.
All in all, stay in pray and fasting while you make you decision. God bless you both and your bf
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No.20662
>>20661
*prone to emotionless
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No.20734
Hate to break this to you… but as he ages if he doesn't fuck he WILL start going crazy, he will either cheat, pornhub (if not already) or dump you. That cunt is not waiting for marriage, he may say he would but as soon as somebody else offers him that sweet sweet biscuit, that hands going into that cookie jar.
I recommend getting over ya whole saving yaself shit and asking for some $$$. I'm assuming you are a millennial, finically we are already fucked and the going rate (at least here in australia) is $140 half a hour with an asian sex worker and $200+ if you white.
Sorry to put a downer on it, just want to give you a heads up now. The illusion of prince charming quickly fades.
I really wish it could be different and I'm wrong but I'm not… Blue balls is a real thing and it can bring out the very worst in us. By the time us guys mature, they in their fucking 30s and couldn't give a shit about dating anymore when our choices move from crazy ex into baggage filled single mom. Oh and if you looking for a rich man, forget it, he is fucking Thailand sex workers and snorting blow off tits.
Enjoy your youth while you can, don't take shit too serious, strap yaself in and try to survive, goodluck.
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No.20738
Here's a solution, if you love each other, and you both have the same values, both religious and conservative then why wait, get married. The whole waiting until marriage thing used to work back in the day because people would get married young. Waiting wasn't hard or problematic because you'd already be married by now.
A wedding doesn't doesn't have to be a massive expensive thing, it can just be a small modest inexpensive ceremony at a local chapel.
>>20619 this guy has a point even if he's being rude while saying it. Its hard to reconcile modern dating and bf-gf culture with traditional values of chastity, problems like this are bound to occur.
You're based as heck for wanting to wait til marriage so congrats on that. Don't ruin it with adulterous premarital sex. If this guy is the right man to marry then get married. If he's not then why are you dating him in the first place.
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No.20747
>>20593
So how'd it go femanon? did all the advice given by these sad half wit retards from teh interwebs improve you situation or did it all go to shit? Hope you haven't become demoralised because of these responses (they're pretty bad).
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No.20759
>>20593
I'm also a virgin who wishes to remain this way until marriage, regardless of the pressure exerted by immature man-children who have no standards or self-control.
So many people of our generation have given in to hedonism, and the separation of sex and reproduction is to blame. Sex is for making children And starting a loving family!
Dont be afraid to stand against the depraved mores of our times. I think it's really noble of you to stand for what you believe in, even in the face of disapproving family members.
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No.20763
>>20630
> There is truth when they say you will never forget your first.. Your first time is sacred and I use that word because it absolutely is.. This is a part of your soul that you are giving away to someone…
I apologize if this is a vulgar question, but does this include oral like licking your citrous until you orgasm? Because I've never had anything in my vagina, but I don't know if real sexual intercourse would be any different from oral because of the orgasms, and if the purity and uniqueness of it is already gone.
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No.20793
>>20763
From what I understand through conversation with females with sexual experience is that getting oral stimulation from a guy is pretty much the top tier.
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No.20843
>>20734
blue balls is a myth, you are a man
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No.20844
>>20593
you DON'T want to do it, stop asking our permission, you know your body and conscience and he is NOT a christian but a CHINO - in name only.
do you know how many women regret losing it? are you ready for a baby? that's what consent is, it's medical
ask him what he'd do if you fell pregnant - he'd probably not marry and expect you to kill it
read the gift of fear
trust your intuition
you're trying to talk yourself into it
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No.20850
>>20734
This is why having a low sex drive is awesome. Most days sex isn't even on my mind. People treat low sex drive like it's a condition, it's not, it's a gift.
I'd like to clarify that I am not asexual, I just care about more things then sex. I would like to marry a women who is a close friend first, and person I have sex with second.
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No.20852
>>20843
no man would write that inane bullshit
>>20593
well, it seems you didn't select him for his willingness to marry. so either have sex with him or find someone you like who has his mind set on marriage
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