/girltalk/ - Girl Talk

>>17731

Oh my mistake haha 😜. Nobody around me has children but I like to think about things that I see and how I would protect my kids from it. Or even thinking about how I would've reacted if it happened to me.

>>17732

Awww, so you like playing mom, instead. You're gonna make somebody very happy, with that mindset.

>>17701

wow, you're a total cunt

>>17740

Thanks :). I've always had a nurturer/protective instinct so that's how my thought process typically goes.

>>17744

You're welcome! It's good that you still have your instincts intact. So many have theirs brokn by years of schooling, and hardly any of them try to fix it up. Do you ever plan to become a mother?

>>17754

What's wrong with the idea? I'm getting the feeling you think it's "too late", or something of the sort, but unless you're thirty going on fourty, you've got plenty of time before birth defects are likely to show, so it's definitely not an opportunity to miss, considering it's one of the only ways to really "immortalise" one's self, as of today.

Of course, I would love to shape and love a precious little human being of my own. It's a rather obvious goal of mine to follow.

>>17447

>>17507

This is really self aware high-level communication. I wish there were more people - man and woman - capable of this.

>>17761

>>17765

Awe, thanks guys :) I try to keep my neurons in shape haha

>>17759

It's not that I feel it's too late, I know I have lots of time. I'm not sure how to convey this because I haven't mulled over these thoughts to develop a deeper understanding of them; it's still in a "feelings" stage so this explanation may seem a little clumsy but I'll try.

It feels like I have a cognitive deadlock. On the one side I see a future where I further myself in business and my community but at the cost of creating a family. I think I see it ending that way because I wouldn't expect a man to be a stay at home parent and I would never allow a stranger to raise my kids in my absence. On the opposite side I see myself married with kids but possibly losing an opportunity to make a contribution to the world. I like to think in possibilities and probabilities. I see path one having fewer external variables (success largely depends on my actions) while the second path involves many external factors (finding a good, compatible, suitable husband, protecting children from negative cultural influences, etc) which might not be met. These are relatively new concerns that exist mostly as muddled feelings in my subconscious, and maybe I'll realize I'm being a bit pessimistic about the whole thing. I guess I just want to do what will lead me to conclude at the end of my life that I was of the most value.

Hopefully that makes sense.

>>17767

>I just want to do what will lead me to conclude at the end of my life that I was of the most value

Bad idea. A lot of people believe they have nothing to do but gain, emphasising on an intrinsic lack of self-worth, rather than believing they have everything to lose, which focuses on something we used to call values, with losses of these essential values being referred to as "sinful". It's better to focus on remaining a Saint to the end, rather than focus on becoming a god. Unless you have sinned yourself into hell already, you have nothing to gain, and everything to lose.

Otherwise, it would serve you, and many others better to procreate. Your fifteen minutes of fame will not be worth it in the slightest when you're being mistreated in a retirement home, at the end of your days. It is much more satisfying in the end to have someone you've taught and helped grow thanking you for your sacrifices as they pass you on. That shows your true value. Not to the world, but to your blood. It is not easy to find a mate, these days, but an effort put through now will pay off more than any nobel peace prize could satisfy. Trust me on that.

>>17775

>fifteen minutes of fame

I want to clarify that I have zero interest in becoming famous or being in the limelight. I'm not sure what you envisioned, but I do not view fame as tantamount to value. There are innumerable useless people that amass large followings, and countless people who do great things who are never known and do not seek to be.

> It is much more satisfying in the end to have someone you've taught and helped grow thanking you for your sacrifices as they pass you on. That shows your true value. Not to the world, but to your blood.

Exactly this. I have thought about it enough that I know I would be a good parent. I think part of the reason things are chaotic in the West is because people have children before considering what that decision truly means and requires of them and kids grow up feeling lost because they didn't have proper guidance and attention.

>It is not easy to find a mate, these days

There is this obstacle as well but it's not impossible.

What are your greatest concerns for children growing up now?

>>17778

A lack of parenting, and an abundance of public education is what I concern to be the most damaging to children these days. Please, take homeschool into consideration, if that hasn't already been illegalised where you live.

>>17781

>public education

Public education is a horror show! Do you know what the state of private schools are? I've only heard about the monumental failures of the public system.

>take homeschool into consideration, if that hasn't already been illegalised where you live.

Is that something that's actually taking place?

I live in Canada, so it's hard to keep up with all the hyperliberal moves Justin Trudeau is making. Did you know he has called Canada a "postnational" country? It's so delusional for one thing. Additionally, my income taxes beg to differ and I don't see other nations pouring financial aid to fund Trudeau's hopes and dreams so no, Canada is still very much a nation. Also this rotating door for immigration only works for people of colour. If you're white we're not so "postnational" then.

>>17782

Private schooling is becoming no better, these days. Everyone who's had a run through public in the last few years is running to get their kids enrolled privately, and many of those schoolboards are doing what they can to "accomodate" for that. It's still best to stay safe with homeschooling.

Germany has already had laws against keeping your child's teachings away from the state. I'm not sure how much longer there is, until other countries follow in its wake. Given the recent push for homeschooling, more of these laws will come up, soon enough.

Granted, I'm living in Dixie right now, so I'm not sure how legal issues are looking over in nacuckistan. It's a terrible mess, from what I've read. You're honestly better off hightailing it down here, rather than dealing with his cuban shit.

>>17784

I found this excerpt about homeschooling:

"Homeschooling in Canada is very much accepted in all provinces. The homeschooling community is often a part of homeschoolers' lives. Homeschooling is legal in every province in Canada, but each province has its own Education Act and Regulations."

So far it still has a green light all across the nation. I don't believe they would deny parents the right to homeschool but I'm not sure where the country is headed.

Haha. Believe me if I thought I could get citizenship with the USA I would be living in Arizona already. Unfortunately America and Canada have the same immigration policy which is whites last. Canada isn't so bad yet, there's lots that I like about living here. I just have to hope for a conservative administration to take over after this one.

>>17789

So they regulate it, rather than outright ban it. Interesting. I'd look into what their exact regulations regarding homeschooling are, if I were you.

Conservatives only exist to conserve what is concurrent. They're not regressives. It's right in the name. If anything, a new administration would only hold things back, while accepting what the previous government has accomplished. You should pen your papers right now, if you haven't already. However long it will take, they will eventually come to your file.

>>17796

That would be interesting to investigate. Maybe later I'll check it out for curiosity's sake.

>You should pen your papers right now, if you haven't already

Hmm. I don't know. From what I remember it can take years to even get considered and especially with the influx of immigrants from "in crisis" nations I doubt they're eager to take on Canadians. And in such a length of time I may have too much invested here to leave, or perhaps I'd regret not doing it… It's not an easy decision to make but the future of this country seems kind of murky to me. But America is getting shook up as well, I noticed democrats were getting elected now and the states are stubbornly opposing a lot of Trump's plans which should be treason but apparently it's not.

It seems like all you can do is anchor yourself and prepare for change no matter if you're in Canada or America.

>>17797

If you have anything to contribute go ahead. Or just keep observing haha

>>17803

The idea of how long it will take is definitely what should have you writing it off already. Do it tomorrow, and you'll have to wait another day. If you're worried about home, hold onto your old passport. It's not like you have to worry about having citizenship with any country besides the two. No? The way it stands, things are still fairer in the states than in parliament, which is why there's so much of a showdown against such laws going on here, compared to elsewhere.

>>17805

I understand what you're saying, "never put off until tomorrow what can be done the day after tomorrow".

I'll have to think it over. Yes America is currently better but both our boats are being liberally rocked and before too long America and Canada may look identical with the exception that America has the sunshine paradise that is Arizona. I need to weigh the pros and cons more in-depth because things have changed since I last considered it.

>>17811

They're going to change more, the longer you wait, as they have changed since a year ago. If you don't decide now, you'll be deciding later. No lollygagging. This bridge cannot be held up forever. Keep that in mind.

>>17814

I guess my biggest hesitation is that I'm afraid moving to the US is the wrong choice. It's unknown to me, I don't know the difference between citizenship here vs there. Also I don't know what my life would look like down there. Maybe I'm a little afraid of being denied citizenship too.

I've never had a bad experience in the states. But that was as a visitor. I haven't dealt with your government just the citizens.

I know I know, I hate lollygagging too haha.

>>17828

Dual-citisenship is still a thing here, and there, too. There's nothing wrong with having an option, or a contingency if you will. Not like there's anywhere else you'd have in mind.

>>17759

>"too late"

>thirty going on fourty

That's pretty much where I'm at. I always wanted a full litter, but now I'm 29, and I realize that's no longer a realistic life goal. I could adopt, but I don't really want to do the whole "single mother" thing, because I believe a child needs both a mother and a father. So now I've just kind of resigned myself to cat lady-dom.

Also there's no "u" in forty. Don't ask why, it logically should be there, but it isn't.

>>17781

Home-schooling sounds great in theory, but it denies a child one of the most important parts of their education: social education. There are home-schooling groups, but the interactions are still much more limited than in a school setting. Then you end up with socially inept rejects who spend their lives on 8ch. Home-schooling is a dirty workaround for broken education system, we should instead be trying to fix that broken system.

attention

>>17852

To be honest with you I have slight hopes of moving to Russia one day. I've experienced Russians as very kind people (once you get to know them) and I really enjoy the culture and history there. Russians have something North Americans lack which is a sense of national identity. Canada and America are such melting pots nobody feels rooted here the they way longer standing nations do.

I've considered going over there to teach English. That's in high demand. There's YouTubers I have watched that speak about their experiences travelling and teaching and it seems like something I would enjoy. I absolutely love travelling. There's also lots of opportunities to start businesses in the rural areas especially in Siberia.

>>17852

The US taxes citizens even when their business or livelihood is abroad. You'd have to do taxes with the US for the rest of your life if you became a citizen.

>>17853

What was keeping you from finding anyone to mate with, in your prime years? It may be too late to have a dozen, but you could still cram through one of those depressing single-child baby boomer families, or maybe even twins, if you have them both before hitting your mid-thirties. Nobody deserves to have their corpse eaten by cats. Sod off. I prefer traditional English over simplified.

When your child develops their wanderlust, it is best you satiate it, no matter the consequences. You may have your fears of what waits for them beyond the door, but whatever awaits will find them, in time, so it is best you let them learn before their learning capabilities dry up, and they become the stone-eyed autists you fear being the mother of. Teach them to loathe, but never fear what may harm them.

>>17860

If it is Russia you desire more, then you should get the process over with, anyway. I'm not sure how likely it is to make the move over there, compared to the US, but it is still a process you should get on with. If not today, then tomorrow, and so on.

>>17863

>What was keeping you from finding anyone to mate with, in your prime years?

I don't know, really. My own reasons sound more and more like excuses to me all the time, I guess because I regret my choices. I guess I was too much of an introvert in my teens and early 20s. All work and no play, no real friends. I don't know how I really expected someone to come sweep me off my feet when I made myself so unavailable. When I got into my mid 20s, I got into a long-term relationship that was doomed from the start. He was not at all what I was looking for, and I really wasn't what he was looking for. He didn't want kids, and he was so hopped up on soy, I don't know if he even could have given me any. We grew to resent each other, but I stayed in that relationship a lot longer than I should have, and lost a good chunk of my prime. Now here I am.

>>17864

So, you made the mistake of attempting to be a "career woman", and then when you realised what you were doing wrong there, you decided to pair up with what you were told was "the real man".

Well, I've got to say that is mostly everyone's story, these days. Riding the saddles of life, never paying attention to the finer things until it all starts shutting down. Like a cadillac with 30,000 miles on the odometer. I'm just glad I've found the truth a bit earlier than most, or maybe I just came to the party too late.

Regardless, it's still not too late. You should be concerned with finding a nice homogeneous fella who'll make ya feel red-hot, put his thing down your jams and fertilise the everloving spunk outta ya, at least while that's still not a problem. I don't know what ratopia you're living in, but it's definite that not everyone in the madhouse is a patient. Hold onto that hymen, babe.

>>17861

Don't all countries require this so long as you remain a citizen to their nation?

>>17863

I have looked into it before and a visa is more a matter of do you have the money for it (it's not very expensive) vs America where it's a whole vetting process where rejection is likely.

Last night I started looking into TEFL courses which is the only thing I require to be able to teach English in Russia (other countries require a bachelor's degree). I sent a message to the YouTuber I follow to get some advice. He's been in Russia for about 10 years, originally from America. Hopefully he gets back to me soon because I'd love to actually speak to someone rather than read articles. A bonus to teaching there is that your employer will set you up with accomodations so that's one matter off your mind. That's very nice of them to do.

And I'm sure after settling in I may find a sweet Russian boy to make my муж 😉.

Hm, there is another Russian born YouTuber that makes English and Russian language videos. She might be able to advise me as well… I think I'm going to send her a message.

I really appreciate you talking to me, it's helping me sort out my thoughts. Thanks :).

>>17867

Whatever keeps you going. :)

>>17866

>So, you made the mistake of attempting to be a "career woman"

Not exactly. It was never my intention to be a career woman, I always wanted to find someone and be a stay-at-home mother. But I had to eat in the meantime. I wasn't working constantly and/or going to uni and trying to earn higher positions and not making time for anyone or anything else. I was just working normal jobs, and then not making time for anyone or anything even when I wasn't working. I guess ultimately, it's a distinction without a difference. Either way, I regret my life choices.

>Hold onto that hymen, babe.

Little late for that. I did hold onto it, until I was 27. Just another life choice to regret. I gave it up to the wrong person, for the wrong reason. I was desperate to be loved, and I made a mistake.

>>17870

Where do you live west coast east coast Britain. If you looking for good guys it depends on where you are.

>>17870

Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes it takes awhile to find someone you're compatible with and that you want to get married to. And you still have time to have kids. You're not out of the game yet so if it's what you really want don't give up! Do you have anyone you're interested in?

>>17871

Is that your dog? I love huskies. I'm not a pet person but if I were to get one I would get a husky. If that is you then very cute dog!

>>17870

>it was never my intention to be a career woman

It's hardly ever anyone's intention to. Not all breeding-age white women push such filth. You were, however, raised into such beliefs, and taught by the powers that be to fend for yourself, to never seek companionship with a man. In the end, you were never pushing such degeneracy, but pushed by it, and that has led you to where you lie now.

I'm sorry to hear that, femanon. I can only hope someone who has begotten the loss of their virginity may console you, in the hell you have wrought for each other. It really can't get any better, from there. I can't lie to you about that. You're never getting it back.

>>18237

>begging me to tie my shoes and see my feet

>shoes

>see my feet

Do you wear gladiator shoes, or something? What kind of tied shoe bares your feet?

How the hell do you suspect he's into tickling?

>>18286

>women

>marching to gaul

What are you? A philistine wishing to give our women away to the enemy? Begone.

NAF but:

A went swimming with a girl I know and her friend and they bounced their tits etc at me in order to make me embarassed. And sang some song (juicy, I think?) They cornered me too, so it's not like I could get away from it. What is particularly gross about it is that we're friends and they know how much sexual stuff sets me off (I fluster extremely easily) not to mention they were both dating someone at the time. It's also gross because I know one of them (unsure about the other, I know my friend did) knew for a fact I had been sexually abused in the past before, on top of how much sexual stuff sets me off and how I like to avoid it as much as reasonably possible.