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Have you ever done anything erp related that made you feel dirty and ashamed? This is a sanctuary for all to divulge the typefuck sins they have committed in the past
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No.256477
>>256123
I've found this to be true too. I usually use conversation as a litmus test with them. Shitters can't keep a conversation going to discuss the plot of an RP.
I found a guy recently who had no custom kinks and very little character info but his profile had a ton of story prompts on it, so I struck up a conversation with him. He's been great so far despite no avatar and like four years on f-list
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No.256582
Is this still active? Can I still confess myself?
I've committed the sin of getting attached to my partners more than once, but I didn't with everyone. At one point:
>Push away partner who didn't reciprocate because holy shit I was retarded
>Partner still tried to make me respond to room rp; I was too resentful
>Time passes by
>Find new person who hits all my kinks with an alt
>RP with her
>Something is too familiar; suspect she's the previous person
>Weeks later I get confirmation once she logged in with one of the alts I knew was of my previous partner
>None of us said a word about anything
>I don't even know if she figured out that was me
>Enjoy every RP with her just as I did before I made that stupid move
>She's also very clearly enjoying it, and just like before she'd hit me up if I was around
>Be really careful to not make the same mistake again; you don't get these chances too often
>Later I quit for reasons unrelated to her
Mind you I haven't done erp for well over a year, so there's that.
I also committed a few more sins, which include putting up with less than ideal partners and doing things I don't enjoy. And poofing.
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No.256641
I've put up with psychopaths that I should have steered clear of because of pretty art. Just got a reminder of why I should not do that earlier today.
Also generally if people set off your psychopath alarms, obey the alarm and either don't trust them or definitely don't give them a second chance. Shame on you then shame on me is legit.
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No.256673
>>256641
Mind sharing what should be considered as a red flag?
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No.256701
>>256641
I could not agree more. Trust your instincts. If your get those little spine tingle worries about someone, trust your gut. It knows more than you do most of the time.
>>256673
not that anon you're asking but
>asks for personal info (this is often okay IF they have shared their stuff with you first and you have known them for months of chatter. You can test their attitude by politely refusing to share your contact info with them. If you say no and they say "no problem I understand" that is good and you can always volunteer info later)
>wants to monopolize your time or in any way dictate what you do ooc
>wants to fuck you and not your character or makes some indication they want your ooc
>conflates you with your character, conflates themselves with their character
>doesn't like being told no, doesn't understand basic concepts around consent
there are more but I am tired
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No.256704
>>256701
That works, thanks!
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No.256997
I did it, lads.
I wiped my profile clean and can start again, no strings attached and with none of the weight upon my shoulders.
My characters sucked to play and I kept pushing the boundaries of their lists to try and get into more exciting scenes that it just didn't matter. They were worn out shoes I was wearing to ballroom dances and galas.
But no more. I had a self-hosted intervention, and a fresh start begins. I'm more comfortable with scrapping the bad, and I can use my fear of dumb shit to keep me from falling back into the creepy side of F-list.
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No.265066
>>256701
I'm not sure any of those are actual psychopathic signs.
Most of those are just signs of people who want to have a real life relationship.
Ironically, you know what IS a sign of a psychopath?
Having many casual, emotionless sexual encounters.
I'm betting that means most people here.
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No.265318
>>265066
There's not much you can do to ID a competent psychopath over the internet when you don't know what their life is like, so your safety strategy to prevent them from fucking you up will be similar to a strategy of preventing stalkers and other creeps
Psychopaths are good at pretending to be normal, even in person. You usually need to learn about them from many people who know them to get a better picture of who they are. That's just not an option online.
A psychopath can't fuck your shit up if they don't know you. This is why the red flags I listed have a lot to do with protecting your real self from them and avoiding anyone who is interested in your real self. The same strategy works against stalkers.
This one is the big psycho sign though:
>doesn't like being told no, doesn't understand basic concepts around consent
Psychopaths (as well as really any cluster b personality) tend to hate being told no and prioritize themselves over others. Never trust anyone who can't handle not getting things their way.
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No.265319
>>265066
I'm with this anon here. >>256701 >>265318 most of what you described as psychotic traits aren't psychopathic, they're just pretty standard depression/neediness/lack of a real life syndrome. The term psychopath is thrown around too frequently here and honestly a psychopath would probably be out torturing cats instead or working at a pig processing plant instead of trying to talk you into being their 'typefuck slave'.
Now, depressives and lonely weirdos? Way more likely to do that.
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No.265448
I always play binary gender straight profiles, but my friend likes purples so I started looking for purples for us to have a threesome with. Now that my friend is busy with work I'm just fucking purples by myself to "test-drive" them in case we can get a threesome going.
And that's how I ended up fucking purples by myself.
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No.265503
>>265448
>she ended up with the random shemale
Still fucking mad. God that was shit. Why couldn't he have EMERGENCED her? That slut didn't deserve to be happy.
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No.265511
I get the feeling that profiles that prefer IC approaches intimidate me more than they have to.
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No.266099
>>265511
Every single time I've made an IC approach I've gotten back an automessage saying that they're asleep and will reply back when they wake up, or just silence (and a message saying they were asleep seven hours later).
Nowadays I just don't bother, and because people keep sending me IC starters I have a section on my profile where I state I'll explicitly use any IC approaches for my own kinks and pay zero attention to their nos. Despite my overbearing character, I prefer to discuss kinks and setup and scenario beforehand, so if you want to skip all that then I'm just going to do whatever the fuck I want with you.
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No.266481
>>265511
It's the opposite for me, OOC approaches usually just sap energy and enthusiasm and it just feels like I'm walking up to the cashier at McDonald's.
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No.266488
>>265511
IC approaches are so rough. I absolutely prefer them, but that also means I'm opening myself up to poor writers dropping either half-assed starters or copypasted stuff. But on the flip side, too much OOC planning makes me feel like >>266481 here. It's rare to find people who can discuss a scene with the proper energy and enthusiasm where it's enjoyable and not like some sort of business transaction.
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No.266499
>>266481
>>266488
You guys are being *shit* then. You can using OOC planning to make something kinky, flirty and fun as you mix together ideas to make things super specific and tailored to both your tastes. The only people I see complain about OOC planning are just so fucking uncreative that they they unironically thing 'blacked in the ghetto' is an original/neat idea
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No.266512
>>266499
It has nothing to do with how creative your idea is. People who present to me what they want like a business exchange bore the shit out of me.
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No.266618
>>266499
>>266512
How the fuck do you even present yourself OOCly while you avoid being both cringey and boring at the same time? I'm leaning to the latter, but fuck if this shit isn't difficult!
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No.272481
>get aroused at the idea of being abused (both my character and OOC)
>get very horny when someone ghosts me to play with someone else
>intentionally begin making myself less likeable so that they'll ditch me for someone else
It's been kinda bad. One partner in particular:
>make plans a week and a half in advance
>says she's going offline for the night because she needs sleep and we'll continue tomorrow, only 20 minutes into the scene
>several minutes later she must've accidentally sent a message to me that she meant for someone else, was clearly in the middle of an RP with someone
>doesn't say anything else
>cum all over myself
Just put a fucking bullet in my head already.
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No.274036
I'm starting to prefer non-sexual RP so much more now that when I'm engaging in long-term story plays I find myself drawing out the story as much as possible and actively delaying sexual encounters. I feel like I have to be horny beforehand if I want to ERP, and it's too time consuming to write for 2 hours just to nut, but at the same time I like sex and relationships weaved into an ongoing story so don't want to strictly non-sex-RP. Sorry to whoever I'm blueballing.
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No.274063
>>272481
I'm sorry you were emotionally abused, anon
I know your mind fights it, but people care about you more than you think, and you do deserve positive attention.
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No.274369
I want a fucking all-doer, don't-give-a-fuck roleplayer to rp with that knows many anime and doesn't disappear the first time i send him a message
WHY THE FUCK CAN'T I FIND A GOOD ONE
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No.274424
I was a pretty genuinely awful partner to most people I did stuff with- the kind that flaked relentlessly on like 80% of the people I planned stuff with, pushed my kinks really hard, and his behind the cliques I ended up in. I still hang around on another account entirely because of a variety of reasons, but a big one is that going back to those old named is just embarrassing as hell.
To all the lewds I lost and left hanging: I'm sorry.
You guys deserved better.
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No.274425
>>274424
You're entirely able to reapproach on the new account, no one will know.
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No.274435
>>274425
Oh, I have, with several different former partners and prospective partners. Some of them turned out alright, a lot of them never really connected the same way at all and never led to anything. You still feel like garbage for leading people on in the end, you know?
I see my character's name pop up in ignore list and bitching threqds fromt ime to time, and the thought of people remembering me even now is kind of surreal. Like, its been four years or so since I was last seriously on any of my old profiles, and still, I see them pop up.
Its kind of weird, thinking I've made such an impression for being kind of shit, y'know?
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No.280959
>>164370
>>164404
What the actual fuck. I do every bit of that. Did you try to make a post that applies to everyone the most in the most oddly specific way? I feel personally attacked, anon.
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No.280969
>>164370
>All the time I whine about how I can't get the play I want, but I know exactly what to do to get more attention and more partners. I just can't bring myself to be popular, because I hate attention.
I know this feel. I know how (and did) make characters that become super popular but it's such a big trade off for me: do you want to play a character everyone else like or do you want to play a character you like?
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No.281266
I don't rp with many of the people I'm interested in. Instead, I imagine a scenario between their character and one of my characters, and just masturbate to that.
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No.281272
>>281266
anon that's just called masturbating
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No.281285
>>281266
I bet there's lots of people who do this, honestly. Its why if I want to RP I push for the person to RP instead of just tease, and fuck off if they don't actually want to play.
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No.281339
>>281266
Actual RP most of the time would be disappointing anyway.
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No.281402
>>164162
Ya’ll confessing some baby tier’d shit. Step aside.
I ignore people matching all of my exact kink preferences for no reason at all.
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No.281403
>>281402
Oh look it's half the people I try to approach. What are you doing here?
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No.281406
>>281403
What a great question. Here’s the answer-
I don’t even know why I got on today. I totally don’t feel like roleplaying right now.
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No.281468
When looking for new partners, I avoid people that do any of the following:
>They're friends with people I don't like
>Marked as bi/pan but they have more guestbook posts or friends of a certain gender compared to others
>Marked as bi/pan, but their kinks have been laid out to favor a particular gender over others (like breast play and cunnilingus are in fave, but frotting and fellatio are in yes or maybe)
>Expresses disdain or disinterest for a character that I like
>Expresses disdain or disinterest in a gender I like
>Prefers long-term
>They have what I consider to be too many customs
>They don't have what I consider to be enough customs
>They have graphics designer tier inlines
>Their character's genitalia is larger than what I'm willing to deal with and I don't want to ask them if they could make them smaller
>They prefer anal to vaginal and frotting
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No.281514
>Have stupidly high standards for no apparent reason
>Have ignored literally 99% of my 240+ bookmarks
>Probably can't play at such a quality anyway
>Instantly ignore anyone who doesn't read the no section
>Haven't had a good play with any character in a year because of it
I stopped posting ads on here too and I don't think it's a coincidence that all my approaches are shit.
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No.281519
>>281514
Have you sincerely tried to lower your standards, though?
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No.281536
Sometimes I'll say I have to leave a scene just to gauge their reaction to it stopping
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No.281564
>>281536
what are the reactions?
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No.281568
>>281536
>>281564
$5 on anon's partners having completely reasonable responses like "no problem bro stay safe" and it making him assmad every time
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No.281569
>>281564
>>281568
Its not a trolling thing, I just get really fucking horny from their disappointment. Normally yeah it is that completely reasonable but sometimes they seem really disappointed and it makes me rock hard
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No.281573
>>281536
Sounds like Noboruma
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No.281606
Im exclusively a top and I get annoyed seeing other people who are also exclusively tops. Especially straight femboys. Like why cant I just put my dick in everyone
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No.281613
I tried to get in touch with them on notes, tumblr, Discord, Skype, FFXIV, email, Steam, anything we had ever shared. Nothing. Not a word.
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No.281614
Lesbians have put me off from ever wanting to make one of my women bi or gay.
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No.281622
I keep sussing out who's on the other side of everything and get weird about people cross playing since I'm picky about chatfucking cunnilingus when I can just go for their ass or suck a cock that they'd actually understand the feelings of.
So I push them to just play themselves.
And their name goes orange in a month.
Am I doing bad or good?
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No.281627
I had a really traumatic experience a while back and ever since then I've really been really into sadism and have been roleplaying it often. I roleplay grooming, trafficking, snuffing, rape, torture and all this stuff I never used to be into. It's not even the sex part that's important and I can play it without anything specifically sexual, it's the misery I imagine the girl/woman going through. And the more realistic/believable I play it out, the more I enjoy it. I don't want to like it, but I do.
Sometimes I'll feel guilty about it, I'm not sure if the other people that I roleplay it with feel guilty about it or if it's different for them, being on the receiving end and all. Going by the write ups in "No" every third loli profile has about cringe people messaging them with IRL stuff like "haha, I like my neighbor's daughter", I'm guessing a lot of the dominant blues out there into this are bona fide sociopaths blurring OOC and IC. Which thankfully puts me at a level above them in terms of dealing with this drive.
I'm not sure if this sort of thing is going away, but it's been a while and it seems to be an irrevocable part of my sexuality now. I'm just thankful it's something easily controlled IRL and regulated to fantasy. I'm not really looking for advice about it, excuse me if this is the wrong thread for something like this, all the posts I've read here hitherto are lighthearted and fun. I just felt like posting it because it's not something that can be expressed often and I refuse to be one of those cringe fucks that brings it up with my roleplay partner.
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No.281628
>>281627
It's okay anon. Let it all out. Lots of sane people are into crazy stuff, but won't do them in real life.
Can't say I can relate though. Growing up, I was molested, but I have no intention of roleplaying stuff like that..
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No.281637
>>281627
>>281628
A few girls have come to me with confessions that they were molested or ogled when they were young and were now acting on or reliving those experiences in our ERP scenes. Can't say the idea doesn't turn me on, but I've never asked for OOC/IRL information.
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