>>836307
You need to hold on to what you have OP. Don’t get too caught up in the emotional spiral that is loneliness, your probably not going to be able to completely rid yourself of that emotion, but if you create your own relationship with God through the Holy Spirit, a ridiculously large chunk of that loneliness goes away.
Try not to focus on the people around you, they all have to sacrifice their standards in order to get married. There is no marriage today without sacrificing standards your better off keeping. Keep your virginity, don’t waste it on some used up “Christian”. It’s better to be alone then be a virgin married to a non virgin. As much as people say, “the past is in the past,” it’s still a lie. Everything we do molds our personality, the past never stays in the past. So if you can’t find a Christian virgin don’t lower your standards. You have one shot to get a marriage right. How do you know if you found a virgin? You don’t. Since there are forms of sex that leave no physical marks you will never know, it comes down to wether you trust her or not.
Considering the condition of the body of Christ, you can’t trust anybody.
Overall (98% of parents) hold truth from the potential mate. The father of the girl lies about her Chastity, he keeps secrets from the young man dating her daughter. Then, there’s the mother who doesn’t tell the father everything her daughter has told her. Then, there’s the daughter who doesn’t tell the mother everything she’s done, in school, with young men in church, etc. Then, there’s the lies she tells herself about herself so she can avoid the crushing guilt of her own actions. You will never be able to uncover all her lies. Christianity is a club today, not a connection with our Creator. there’s the main biblical event that is coming mentioned in revelation. Try to hold on until then, if you have no other choice. I’m not saying be a monk, but if you end up one naturally, just accept it and know it’s not permanent. God allowed things to get this bad because there’s something big coming, and it’s going to come upon the whole earth. Your probably better off not married for now. Even if it takes 10 years, that’s nothing to think twice about sacrificing. After this big event no ones going to treat time the same, it’ll be unlimited. Also, the choices in front of a chaste man when it comes to picking a wife will be much better. “Christian” parents today are trash and they raise their sons and daughters to be trash. (Yeah I said it, and?). Don’t be a trash collector.
Everyone blames a virgin who doesn’t want to lower their standards of judging and not being forgiving. This Is a pagan mentality, don’t accept it. If your loneliness is crushing you then your biggest need right now is to bond with God. Iv’e also seen my friends get married one by one and it’s not over yet. I’m at peace with that because people have different standards and they want to live their life how they can. Not one of those marriages ended up happy, from what I’ve seen so far. They all struggle with each other’s sins from the past. Even if they were happy marriages it wouldn’t bother me, because God put me in my predicament and even I admired Him for doing so. In the end it was the best thing for me.
Build a stronger, more personal relationship with God. in my case, it completely destroyed my loneliness. It took some time, but for many it’s quicker because they weren’t as spiritually poisoned as I was. If you are a virgin you deserve a virgin. Wait for Jesus’ second coming if you can. Third world countries don’t have it better. Most every Christian from one end of the earth to another is a lying piece of trash nowadays. You can’t let your guard down just for the 3 percent that aren’t. Also, any parent who actually knows they have virgins to marry off don’t tend to let them marry someone who they haven’t known since their childhood. I can’t say I blame good parents for being that cautious. But the success rate of finding a virgin and actually having the blessing of their family is less than 1% in my opinion.
All this I’ve said might depress you more, I’m sorry but it’s the truth. The Christian dating climate is that bad nowadays.
God doesn’t like it when Gold merges with clay. He keeps both gold and clay vessels in his house, but he doesn’t like to mix them together, they just exist in the same house. They have different uses. No good jeweler puts a diamond on a brass ring. No experienced watchmaker would put a cheap engine in a solid gold watch. Those that do are considered thieves.