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Some people don't want to talk about interesting topics. They want to talk about stuff that's only important to them. I think they want to vent

I have a friend. My friend often complains. I find her problems a bit silly. I think that something is wrong with her. My friend is way too dramatic about these small things. I try to find solutions. But it seems like she often does not want solutions. I told her that I need her to tell me beforehand if she needs a solution or not. I think that sometimes people just like to complain. She did it for a few times but she stopped

I think that people find it awkward when there is silence in a conversation. I'm not really an expert. Sometimes we have some minutes of silence in a conversation. It happens a lot. I don't think people like it. When it happens in two or three different conversations they usually stop talking to me altogether

People don't like when you don't laugh at their jokes. If a joke is not funny, I won't really laugh. I think that if I don't laugh people will understand that it's not that funny. And so we cannot really bond over this joke. So it gives them information about me. And we get to know each other better

I don't know why people don't seem to appreciate this. It's not that offensive, is it? I do not like social hypocrisy. It goes against my values. And it isn't really that good, I believe. Wouldn't you want your acquaintances to be honest with you?

They say there are three types of friendships. Aristotle. I don't strictly categorise friendships. At least not into 3 types. Maybe a bit but not that much. But if I am friends with someone because it is a friendship of utility, I don't really understand why I will act as if it is something different. If I am with a coworker who is not my friend, why would I be overly friendly? It would be suspicious. It's fake. Why do people do that if they know it feels this way?

I don't really understand this. I feel like I am being shunned because of this. And because I am a bit weird. I don't really know if it will impact my entire life. I don't really plan on living that long either way. But I would like to get a girlfriend at least. I wonder if being like this will make it impossible

>>163731

All friendships are utility based. Friends are picked based on immediate needs, if you want a friend at that moment. That's a need. You want someone to talk about anime with, you talk to them because you like their opinions about anime. There is no inherent part of a person where you can be friends with them because of "what they are." That's impossible to define.

>>163736

I don't mean utility in this sense. I meant the 3 types of friendships. The ones that Aristotle said. If it's about anime he calls it friendship of pleasure

I know what you mean. I agree. Friendships are contracts. So there is always underlying benefit. I said utility as the name

It's a bit weird. It's a distinction. It's like friendships that give you a more or less material benefit. I don't really know how to explain it right now. I will explain it when my head feels a bit less foggy

>>163740

Friendships and relationships are too fragile. They are held by only consent. Marriage is the best tether. By less material, do you mean a psychological benefit?

>>163742

I don't know. People can divorce? It's legal now

People say they can't divorce because of children.

I'm not sure if it's right. Sometimes it's worse for the children. I think my parents should have divorced. They argued every single day. At least twice. Once in the morning, once in the evening and sometimes at other times. I hated it. When they got angry they would take it out on the children. It's not really fair, is it? I don't think so. The last time my parents beat me I was 17 or 18. How is that reasonable? I don't think that physical punishment is fit for an adult. Or even a 17 year old kid. My parents say they stay together because of the children

I know my parents are lying. They probably know it too. They stay together because they don't want to be alone. And because it has consequences. My father is a bit of a loner. If he divorces he will stay alone. He has been alone for quite some time throughout his life. I don't think he will be able to endure going back to that state after having a family

My mother cares about appearances. She will undoubtedly be embarrassed by a divorce. After all, it is perceived badly. My mother doesn't want people to think that she failed

I don't know why people think divorce is bad. I would have liked it if my parents divorced before. At least I would have avoided some beatings. And the fights and nagging. It was probably the most annoying part. I'm fine with the beatings. But I cannot stand the noise they make when they fight or nag. It's incredibly infuriating. I cannot stand anyone nagging

Maybe people stay in bad marriages because they have other benefits. Like tax benefits. I don't really know about marriage. But do those benefits outweigh the hardships? I wonder. If it's not the case, then how is marriage better than a relationship in this case?

I don't really care about marriage. I would like a girlfriend. I would be honored if she wants to be my wife. If it's going to make her happy, the I gladly would ask her to marry me. But I don't think it's a necessity. Maybe heterosexual couples need to get married to avoid pressure. Sometimes people pester guys about not asking their long time girlfriend to get married. I don't think it can be the case for me. I think that quite a portion of those who get married because of pressure don't end up having a fulfilling marriage

>psychological benefit

More or less. It's something that the other person wouldn't usually mention if you were fighting except in few cases. If you are friends with someone in order to climb up social ranks, they would mention it. It is a friendship of utility. If you are friends because you both have common interests that you discuss, they wouldn't normally mention it. It is a friendship of pleasure. The friendship of pleasure provides pleasure for both parties

why do people hate Hitler? What did he do wrong?

>>163782

Divorce is expensive. You're right, the tax argument is pretty common. The problem is that teenagers and young adults are treated as chattel of their parents. A dog can't leave its owners home whenever it wants to, it will be conditioned by the owner to not. There are no child kidnappers who didn't do it out of defiance of a judge's orders. There are no traffickers they will come across. There is no excuse. The human brain is meant to prioritize survival. They will be fine. Young adults are no different from teenagers and children are no different from teenagers. They only think short term because they are controlled. There is nothing long term for them to think about. The worst part is that mainstream views don't want to make the legal adult age younger, and subsidize rent for young people, they want to make it older because of flawed biological arguments. The problem with loud noises is that you can't shut your ears like you can shut your eyes. ANC headphones can't get rid of human voices. White noise only masks it. If a child doesn't feel safe in their home, there is no way out that doesn't end up harming the child psychologically. I don't think there is a need for family since everyone is capable of serving without family reliance in 2026. Thick skin needs to be built so they can be permanently cut off. Do you think the govenrment should raise children while parents breed them and get paid for it? This will be good for a work force.

>>163793

He turned the world more progressive. Isreal is the only country with replacement birth rate levels. He didn't do anything that benefited anyone. All of his plans failed. I'm sure Progressivsim ends in such perfection. That perfection can't be questioned. Why would you question something that is objectively correct? If the government raises children perfectly, there is no need to oppose it.

>>163797

I'm not sure if the government should raise children. Children need affection. More than that, they need something like targeted affection. They need someone to love them in particular, and for no reason. If it's someone who loves everyone equally it doesn't do the trick

At least that's what I was told. By a psychiatrist. I don't really trust psychiatrists. But I checked on the Internet. It's apparently true according to researchers. There are experiments. But the experiments are very old, they can't recreate them because it's unethical

I think that the claim is sound, though. But I might be wrong, I'm no expert

i don't know about other countries, but downloading real cp is a very serious crime in Canada......

>>163918

It's a serious crime in pretty much any country

Cp is not the topic now. We are having an important discussion. I do not wish to discuss cp right now

>>163918

what does this pointless comment of yours have to do with the subject.

nobody cares, shut the fuck up