/femdom/ - Femdom

INTP.

INTJ

ENTP - (A).

I'm aware that my external personality contrasts with my sexual preferences. Like i don't hide it if asked and i'm completely comfortable in turning a girl down unless their a dom.

>>8093

I've met quite a few people of both strains. However only a couple like myself that have been comfortable admitting their submissive preferences.

I think it's interesting and a submissive personality would generally suggest a submissive sexual preference. But there is definitely a few submissive guys that try to compensate because they are submissive.

>>8086

I always get INFP

>>8094

>But there is definitely a few submissive guys that try to compensate because they are submissive.

I´m kinda guilty of that. I always try to act tough and alpha around girls which obviously fails though because i tend to think that letting out my submissive side will make me look creepy or unattractive.

>>8095

I aways gets INFP as well.

>>8086

One thing to keep in mind is that internet based communities are mostly filled with introverts, since extroverts are more likely to be out doing things. This is probably why you're more likely to see "sub pov" porn on the internet than "dom pov".

https://www.keirsey.com/4temps/healer.asp

>>8092

I'm ENTP - A as well. I'm also aware of the contradiction, but I don't really care. sex is just fun for me. I don't make an effort to hide it either. how interesting

>>8097

Don't act 'tough' and 'alpha.' Act engaged but dominant. Seem genuinely interested in her for her own sake, but take control of the conversation.

INTP types are supposed to have something of a fixation on suicide. Talking about it, arguing about its ethics, drawing up plans that will never be followed through on, mentally preparing suicide notes and just generally fantasizing about it, in the same way we fantasize about most of our interests. This is one of those traits that aren't listed on the majority of MBTI internet profiles, but which can sometimes be discussed in the forums, communities, or in the literature of personality typology. We're also supposed to be dismissive towards those fantasies, and generally delude ourselves about our motives for having those thoughts. "I don't want to actually kill myself, I was just arguing about ethics in the abstract and using that as an anchor to attach the discussion to reality." "I'm just exploring possibilities and steeling myself philosophically like the Stoics and the Buddhists. Mentally writing up suicide note isn't any different from a zombie plan." Types with firmer resolve and stronger emotional connections such as INFJs, INTJs and INFPs are supposedly more likely to actually commit it.

I think my fantasies sexualize it. And that sexualizing it maintains the disconnecting distance from our own emotions that gets people typed as INTP. Many internet INTPs are probably just schizoids, schizotypals, and other disordered personalities and not "healthy" INTPs. I've been interested in femdom for as long as I've been sexually responsive, to be honest there's been a fascination that preceded puberty. But I've had intrusive thoughts of suicide for at least as long.

The sexual fantasies I share most frequently are on the softer side, and they are the ones I entertain the most willingly, with the highest frequency. But the ones that feel like touching a live wire of erotic power are not soft. I have had three wet dreams in my entire life and the only one I can remember involved a beautiful silent woman bloodily disassembling my body into functional parts, my heart pumping blood through pipes made of veins to form a shower for her; as I recall it, I saw her from two vantage points at once because my eyes had been placed in different parts of the room after they were removed from my head. There are some less grotesque fantasies that come into my head when I masturbate, some are fairly reasonable things like an attractive nurse giving me a lethal injection, it's not always messy. The porn I use is more conventional and romantic, I don't read guro or seek out material to feed the fantasies. But they come unbidden if I do something foolish like going nofap (you know how they are, "you can undo porn programming bro" as if there couldn't be any substance or deep structure to sexual morbidity below porn addiction). And I've got to admit I got a couple of fantasy scenarios out of that news story about that escort who shot one of her clients through the head and told police it was because his attempts at cunnilingus did not satisfy her.

There was a domme blogger once whose blog I can no longer find–I think she might have been doxxed by a "fan" or some similar drama–who wrote "Submissive women are in love with life. Submissive men are not." She wasn't directly addressing this, from what little I recall she was probably just blowing off some steam about male subs pestering her or filling her blog with babble about sexual double standards and/or the negative value assigned to male submission. I think it's probably common for men to submerge non-sexual urges into sexuality, and the submissive and masochistic end of things lends itself to certain tendencies.

then again, fully indulging into your fetish, ignoring the needs of society or others, is selfish. so it might not be "natural" to be infp in here, to place the needs of _others_ above yours.. just that 1 special woman.

>>8110

the last thing dom females need is yet another fetish fuckboy who cant listen and appear be -empathethicc, genuinely interested- of her, and just be "me me me do _my_ fetish, you automatic fetish doer robot. " instant fucking turnoff in a conversation to them.

your role is to be chameleont to her specific needs, every dom girl really is different.

hey, if she likes to talk about herself, well, all the better and easier for you, when she makes bulk of "the work", right?

"domme blogger .. –who wrote

"Submissive women are in love with life. Submissive men are not."" >>8111

i think that's just objective fact from her, meaning, that in patriarchal societies, which we are all in, you get less respect & less romantic opportunities in being submissive male, hence more generally melancholic atmosphere among them, sure.

nothing controversial about that in my mind, fully logical observation of her.

>>8130 here again

>>8110

you cant really be a _dominant_ listener, can you?

the word you were looking for is assertive, not dominant. surely no dom likes passive, manual, bothering or needy submissives,

but

assertive, automatic, maintenance-free that keeps independently his body and economy in fix, makes her life as easy and enjoyable as possible, that hassles & bothers - hence stress - her the least, but most importantly concentrates on her specific pleasure, is surely the optimal; your kink being her enjoyment, whatever it would be, that every fem dom looks for.

her enjoyment should be your goal after all.. and you cannot know what makes her tick, knowing her intimately, unless you really listen.

atleast in here nordic scene, in my experience, the culture is not being coy or misleading around telling what they want.. or what they specifically are, how they came to be the unique awesome people that fem doms are, when you approach and appear genuinely interested on her, so they do actually tell you.

it probably helps dismantle their defenses that i can still appear shiny eyed star struck of them rather than cynical fetish time-is-money demander.

you know, when feminists mentioned emotional labour few years ago; what they really meant was they wanted assertive automatic submissive behaviour to enhance their lives, not manual passive stressful submissiveness, from their partners.

Another INTJ here

>>8111

I kinda get what you're saying. I really dig anything that "breaks from reality" I like to disconnect from the norm and really experience things up close and at the edge… if that makes sense…

tfw no intj bitch to take over n sexually bully but learn from when he doesn't have cum brain