/femdom/ - Femdom

>>2970

right!? I love male orgasm control and female sexual dominance. Never letting a guy orgasm ever seems like a waste of that control and sexual dominance without having sex with me completely misses the point. Fuck cuckolding. I wish that fetish would fuck off forever and leave my femdom alone.

here's a great post from fetlife on the subject actually:

https://fetlife.com/users/854200/posts/2874047

>>2973

Can someone put up a summary here for those who don't have a fetlife account?

>>2979

"Chastity is one of my greatest fetishes, and like most things Femdom, I've never seen it depicted in a way that resonated with me—so I decided to write a post about what chastity means to me, and how it plays out in my relationships. ymmv.

Misconception #1: Chastity is about denial

Nope. I let my subs come plenty—when I want, how I want, and where I want. For me, chastity is about control. Owning my boyfriend's orgasms is symbolic of my ownership of him, so we have rules in place that dictate the nature of his (my) orgasms. Here are some examples:

salemswitchtrial is only allowed to masturbate to completion while kneeling on the floor. I let him come in other positions when we're together, but he's usually only allowed to finish on his back if I'm fucking him in the ass. Regardless of whether or not we're together, he can only come with my permission, which he must ask for in the following manner: "may I please come, Miss?" I can grant him permission, deny him outright, force him to edge for different lengths of time, give him challenges to earn an orgasm (e.g. come in 5 minutes or wait 5 days before asking again, fill up a spoon with precum and eat it, or endure various forms of torture and humiliation).

Misconception #2: Dommes aren't sexually interested in their subs

The myth of chastity being about denial fuels the misconception that Dommes only want to torture and cuckold their subs, and don't want any overt sexual contact with them. This could not be further from the truth. Although I'm a sadist and consensual violence/humiliation/etc. turns me on, it does not make me want to go fuck some "alpha" domly douchebag like you see in so many Femdom pornos. Torturing my sub until he's a bloody crying mess makes me want to climb onto his face and grind against his tongue. It makes me want to hold him down and fuck him in the ass. It makes me want to suck his dick. It makes me want him in all ways. Knowing that I own him so completely that he can't even complete a basic human function without my permission only heightens my desire for him. So, while savoring every orgasm he gives me while he's in chastity makes them that much sweeter, finally granting him permission to come and watching him writhe in ecstasy is possibly more satisfying.

Misconception #3: Chastity can be casual

Chastity is deeply sexy to me, but more than that, it is an expression of love. It is a tangible way to manifest my ownership of my sub and his surrendering of control and devotion to me. This is why I feel so repulsed and confused when strangers on here ask me to be their keyholder. I have to want your orgasms in the first place in order to want to control them, and how can you pledge your commitment to me in this way when you don't even know me? I even have a hard time with people I'm dating bringing up chastity before I feel like our relationship is at that point yet.

Chastity not only heightens the intensity of every orgasm, but it imbues each orgasm with meaning. Controlling and restricting something brings that thing into focus. Every orgasm granted becomes beautiful because it is a gift—not just a gift from the Domme to her sub, but from the sub to his Domme. Chastity turns what is usually a self-indulgent act into an offering, not just of the body, but of the soul.

It requires a great deal of trust. Trust that the sub won't cheat (no device is 100% secure) and trust that the Domme won't abuse her power and push the sub past his limits. If my sub is ever not ok with the restrictions we have in place, I need him to be able to tell me, and for us to have an open communication about it. If someone isn't capable of communicating with me, and instead goes behind my back and breaks their chastity, we're done.

So, to wrap things up, these are some of my thoughts on chastity and how it fits into my life and informs my relationships—I'm not trying to dictate how others should practice their kink."

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My god, you two don't know how horny you've made me.

I haven't cum for a week, my Domme has forbidden me from even touching myself for another two weeks and I'm currently rock hard and leaking precum.

I don't even know if she'll let me cum when I see her next. The last time I saw her she teased me for two hours then iced down my balls.

This is torture. I don't even know if I can hold out for another two weeks. The only thing keeping me from touching myself is the fear of what she'll do if she finds out I disobeyed her.

So I decided to lock myself up until the weekend, any suggestions on what I should do while locked up?

>>3693

Why don't you sort your porn collection?

>>3696

That might take a while, I download things in batches to a folder.

Anything more?

>>3697

Try your hand at writing fapfiction?

I made it to the weekend but I'll let /femdom/ decide if I get out of chastity or keep it on through the weekend.

>>3704

Why stop here? Keep going for another week.

>>3704

Here

Back in chastity again for a week probably starting yesterday.

We got a good community going around here good guys, now i'm new to all this i'm male wanna be a sub where can I go online to do all these and meet a dom female. no money please. Please is there any place like that I wanna try it.

>>5088

god I need source for first

>>5578

Does he keep that style outside the bedroom as well or just in the bedroom?

If he act submissive outside I would consider that a problem and that's probably a cuck guy. Fetishes and those like this sub should really remain in the bedroom.

>>5584

Do you even know what the word "cuck" means? Because it looks like you´re throwing it around just to fit in the chan community.

>>5578

If you´re a loving dominant you can kinda humiliate him in a loving way i guess. And i imagine if you tease his cock and don´t let him cum for a while, and really enjoy his desperation, it will feel pretty dominating for him.

>>514

Where in England??

>>5602

Not him, but are you in the north east?

>>5602

Not him, but are you in the north east?

http://www.dreamloverlabs.com/desexualization.php

>>5986

What the fuck.

>>6638

the mental stuff sounds wtf-ish

but fucking a girl with a strapon sounds hot as fuck

Men always want what they can't have, so it makes them more devoted to his Mistress if she denies him.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a beginner's cage?

Okthankyou

>>7849

Get a knockoff Holy Trainer version 2. Version 3 is already out, but I am not aware of any knockoffs yet. It's a closed cage, so hygiene is going to be problematic if you want to do more than just wear it for play. I also wouldn't trust the cheap China plastic for long-term wear. But since you are looking for a beginner's cage that's a good way to get started for cheap.

The CB3000 is another common cage that's getting knockoffs, but I cannot recommend it. Maybe the original fits better, but the one I had was very uncomfortable and much more complicated to put on. It also has a circular ring, while the HTv3 has an oval ring that fits the body contour better. The CB3000 is locked with a standard padlock which will rattle unless held in place somehow. The HTv2 and v3 (but not v1) have an internal lock, so there are no moving parts.

>>7861

Aaand there are HTv3 knockoffs out now! Look for them in Amazon and Aliexpress

does the Cage actually give you a smaller penis?

>>9107

According to what I read on the internet your penis does indeed shrink if you cannot get hard over a long period, but supposedly it's only temporary, you get your original size back after a period out.

There are no studies on the effects of long-term chastity cage wearing, so take everything on the internet with a grain of salt. My bigger concern would be impotence, it can't be healthy to suppress erections for too long. Even if you don't get hard during the day, you still get hard during your sleep.

>>9105

I know exactly what you mean. So much BDSM porn is just the dom being absuive and the sub just lies there and takes it like a dead fish. But this is a problem with porn in general, it's just two people smashing their genitalia for 15 minutes emotionlessly.

>>9126

For me the main thing I get off to is the pleasure of the dom, so the hostile tone doesn't really do anything for me as it's impossible to seem like you're enjoying something when you're angry.

why would you ever need to cum,?

you only need to take big dicks

>>9157

No, orgasm is the women's privilege.