ef2157 No.10225
Does anyone else get very frustrated by the lack of dominant women?
50% of the world's population is female – three and a half billion women – and yet it's nigh impossible to find a woman who is even remotely interested in being the domme in BDSM play. Out of the 15 women in my state who are "dominant" on collarspace, 9 of them flat out will not chat further unless you "tribute" them (So in other words trying to play the role of pro-dommes without having any of the pros of pro-dommes).
On Fetlife and Collarspace it's always the same thing. It's always some domme trying to get you to tribute them (Half of the time it's probably guys trying to scam you, too.) just to even begin talking, let alone meeting up.
It's so frustrating. The few women who are supposedly "into" this all demand monetary compensation to even consider the possibility of doing S/M play with you, let alone actually doing it. That's how gross being dominant is for women.
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e8236f No.10226
I feel your pain, unfortunately it is what it is. women didn't evolve to be "dominant", they want a taller, stronger, wealthier man, who lead them both in the bedroom and outside. Women expect men to take the initiative from asking out, to taking her on dates,the best you can expect is an equal relationship (in bed and otherwise).
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6fb7c3 No.10227
>implying "dominant" women can only be found in BDSM fetish shit
There's plenty of confident women - just be drunk at a bar one night and if you're somewhat cute then girls will get your attention. Plenty who like to reverse cowgirl or stroke their boy's hair as a sign of affection - not unusual these days.
It's the meme / mommy / BDSM shit that you won't find, because that's just autistic cringe shit that most people outside the internet aren't even aware of.
Shoot for bisexual girls who are a bit older than you and preferably haven't gone to college. The rest will fall into place.
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ef2157 No.10228
>>10227
>if you're somewhat cute
Yeah. If you're cute.
>because that's just autistic cringe shit that most people outside the internet aren't even aware of.
Are you underage or are you actually a retard?
BDSM may not be "mainstream" but most people in a city know what it is. It's existed long before the internet ever blew up.
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df5e5d No.10230
imagine if most women displayed their libido instead of being shrews, world would be a better place.
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df5e5d No.10231
>>10225
funny thing is if you bring this up with most women they'll actually be insulted that you even think they'll do BDSM/femdom play for free, like getting paid for anything they do is their god given right.
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ef2157 No.10233
>>10231
Women really do view BDSM as something to be paid to do before they can even consider tolerating doing it.
Bring this up in "femdom" communities most of the time you'll get people getting butthurt and personally offended that you even dared to bring up how many gold digging whores use BDSM as a vehicle to make money.
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df5e5d No.10234
tried to ask a "domme" for the lols, got the boilerplate response https://curiouscat.me/KallistiScythe/post/942257029
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ef2157 No.10235
>>10234
That's the response you basically expect.
"Nu-uh, women aren't all gold diggers, there exists lifestyle dommes just believe me! I just happen not to be one lol"
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03449c No.10241
>>10225
>Does anyone else get very frustrated by the lack of dominant women?
The only dominant women are in some dimension where there are monstergirls. In this reality they don't exist, or they are into fucked up shit like cuckoldry, which is basically just having a guy be their servant while they act like a slut with other guys.
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03449c No.10242
>>10234
I doubt she's ever turned down money. Findom really is the bottom of the barrel in terms of female behavior.
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80feb9 No.10244
>>10242
It's the logical conclusion of female behavior
, The endgame if you will. I won't be surprised if in a few years they'll charge you just to be around them in public
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12b937 No.10245
taking a look at her twitter https://twitter.com/KallistiScythe shows she isn't your typical Karen,she's actually a findom with half a brain cell but honestly she's still part of the problem she's so blind an apologetic to the findom and fake domme BS.
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12b937 No.10248
if you want your typical findomme fake bitch then there's this hoe https://curiouscat.me/goddessbrix https://twitter.com/goddess_brix
just going through her answers and posts shows how much of a no effort money hungry thot she is.
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ef2157 No.10251
>>10245
>findom with half a brain cell
That's an oxymoron.
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d40198 No.10253
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566682 No.10254
>>10225
Well, this is weird I never thought that the
femdom crowd is having the same problem.
I may be from gfd but we have the same problem except for us it's kind of a lifestyle so we are pretty much forced into an incel life.
Unfortunately the problem is biology itself since women innately hate us for being sub/feminine.
I wish someone or something would make them pay for this but I know it won't happen :(
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ef2157 No.10256
>>10254
Of course we have the same problem.
Women don't want to aggressively dominate men anymore than they want to gently dominate them.
The problem with the femdom community as opposed to the GFD community, is I imagine we have waaaaaaaaaaaaaay more ""dommes"" trying to make cash off of the fetish, to the point where they lead on men trying to look for regular femdom arrangements, and instead try to get money from them.
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12b937 No.10267
>>10254
welcome to our struggle
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d936d4 No.10271
Gentle, rough, mild, playful or mean; it doesn't matter. I just want a woman who has a way of genuinely getting off in a manner that inflicts some kind of pain or humiliation over me, and who visibly enjoys the fact that I must suffer for her to be pleased.
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f76426 No.10272
I would say there are four major problems with femdom, which are all really the same problem.
1) masochists. For the most part their fixation is really on pain and not on women, so any femdom built around this is about abuse which is decidedly unpleasant, where a woman who hates you just slowly tortures you to death.
2) forced bi. A lot of gay men like forced bi fantasies so they can pretend they aren't gay.
3) cuckolds. About as bad as forced bi, this is also mostly gay men.
4) Chastity. A total waste of time. Almost all chastity porn is fucking stupid.
You may say, what is left? Well, femdom. Females controlling men. Dominating them, which just means women being in charge of sex, and wanting to control a man or men. This is so fucking rare they package all these other things to draw your attention away from it, so some slut who spent her career slurping nigger cum can come in, hit a guy's ass with a riding crop, thrust a dildo into him a few times, call him a piece of shit and then fuck another guy in front of him. It's by the numbers and fake, and easier to produce.
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ef2157 No.10273
>>10271
We're never gonna find her, lad.
Our best bets are paying some whore to emulate the experience for us.
>>10272
This is retarded, it's just you slagging off femdom related kinks you don't like.
None of those is the problem. The problem is that you can't get a genuine experience of ANY of those because there is next to no actual dommes.
Even your view of "femdom" isn't possible because the bottom line is there exists next to no women who actually want to dominate. They don't want to engage in your femdom fetishes and they don't want to engage in the femdom kinks that you dislike either.
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d936d4 No.10274
>>10273
>We're never gonna find her, lad.
It's so strange how girls will readily humiliate someone as a social weapon, but the second it's associated with getting you off they won't do it anymore.
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f76426 No.10279
>>10273
>I like cuckoldry and forced bi
You are a gay man and you ruined femdom, fagvot.
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edcb79 No.10280
>>10274
That's why you get into humiliation stuff.
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ef2157 No.10283
>>10279
I like neither of those things, faggot. Nice projection though.
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b40ab3 No.10284
>>10274
>It's so strange how girls will readily humiliate someone as a social weapon, but the second it's associated with getting you off they won't do it anymore.
because they smell the money like sharks smell blood in the water. they all fancy themselves literal queens who deserve nothing but the best and they know no matter what they do there would always be a demand for them so they monetize everything they can.
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f94474 No.10285
>>10283
>I like neither of those things, faggot. Nice projection though
>>10273
>None of those is the problem
Cuckoldry and forced bi aren't the problem?
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ef2157 No.10288
>>10285
No, they aren't the problem. Their existence isn't what makes dommes not exist or unable to dominate without charging money, which is what my thread is about.
You're trying to complain about a completely different thing, which is fetishes you don't like.
The problem i'm talking about is the complete LACK of female dominants.
Cuckoldry and Forced-bi being fetishes that exist have zero impact on whether or not female dominants exist. Even if you had those fetishes you would still be charged money all the same.
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b40ab3 No.10290
>>10288
findommes are the problem, like i said on the other thread, not only did they co opt femdom but they make every normal domme feel like the world's greatest sucker for not charging subs or even potential subs for literally anything. i won't be surprised if in the future women will lobby legislators to tax man for merely being around women.
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5f469b No.10314
It's interesting to me that a lot of the "dominant" women who post looking for "submissive" guys don't want that, actual role reversal. They want Chad:
"Looking for an alpha in the streets, submissive in the sheets"
"Must be ambitious and very financially secure"
"6 foot or taller"
Funny how there's no "findom" scene at all for female subs. It's hopeless for a sub male to find an actual dominant female who's not out to scam/cuck him and respects his submissive nature.
If you dare call attention to this reality, you're quickly shit on and called derogatory names.
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ef2157 No.10318
>>10314
>If you dare call attention to this reality, you're quickly shit on and called derogatory names.
Yup. This is a fact that those in the femdom community are DESPERATE to hide.
I mean, just make a post like "Why do all the ""dommes"" I contact on Fetlife always beg for money!?" anywhere but here and you'll quickly see a mountain of posts going "uhhh what ur saying is offensive and a generalization and incorrect bye bye, i ban u now loser misogeenist"
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2ce398 No.10562
>>10225
Literally the only thing that turns me on is a girl who wants me so bad that she makes the first move. It goes without saying that I have had very few dates and I hate myself.
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b9fbe3 No.10636
>>10272
Only 2) and 3) are actual problems. That and findom, as well as "sissy" fetishes. Masochism is what I would call "Harsh" femdom, because it's on the opposite end of the spectrum to "Gentle" femdom. S/M are literally half of BDSM. Chastity is a pretty tame fetish and I can see why some guys are turned on to it. I'm neither too masochistic, nor too into chastity, but those are real fetishes and they fall under "female domination".
>>10288
They are a symptom of the same cancer. That cancer is findom. It makes otherwise potential dommes turn away because they think this is a misandrist money grab as opposed to a real fetish.
>>10314
>>10318
I don't want complete role reversal either, I want to maintain a generally traditional relationship my absolute submission starting and ending in the bedroom. That being said, indeed, many women see femdom as the "girl's kink" and all they want is *also* the buff six foot chad, with the only difference being moderate sheet-submission, as you stated. This is not unacceptable but is quite contrary to "female domination" as such.
>>10562
Anon, she's out there. There's a grill out there who would like you that much, but she's just as shy as you are. Be the man, anon. God gave you testicles, use them.
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f26cc6 No.10638
There are plenty of dominant women, but they have better options than most of you guys.
The majority of you don't even really want a dominant woman. You just want someone who'll LARP for you and act out your weird little fantasies.
Because of that, you're better off finding someone who'll do it for pay or is just out to please by pretending to be dominant. Otherwise, you'll have to work on yourself to attract a dominant woman.
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681b41 No.10650
>>10638
I just want my gf/wife to have her way in bed, if she wants. I just find the thought of relinquishing control to be hot. That means I'm into some of femdom, which is why I come here.
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9423c8 No.10651
>>10225
This has been a frustrating thing for me. My general experience has been the older they are, the better. Younger dominant woman are either not really that dominant or very subtle about it. Like just dictating what sex positions to perform. Or they just want money and aren't interested in the scene at all. Or they really are naturally dominant, in an unhealthy way that's on another level. This is just my experience.
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75d944 No.10652
>>10638
>You just want someone who'll LARP for you and act out your weird little fantasies.
And that is different from a dominant woman how?
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a6d589 No.10659
>>10638
>but they have better options than most of you guys
I'm sure the very few women who actually crave being dominant do have better options than me, never said anything to the contrary when I made this thread.
Dominant women are unicorns, so it stands to reason they have their pick of the litter at submissive men.
>The majority of you don't even really want a dominant woman
Going from "dominant women are plenty" to "you dont even want dominant women lul".
Pick one argument and roll with it you dumb cunt.
I don't mind a women who would LARP for my fantasies, but that's not what I want.
A woman who is dominant is what I want. Someone who actively enjoys the power exchange. They don't need to be into latex and chains and shit like that, but they do need to enjoy taking control and asserting their dominance, but such women practically do not exist. Plenty of dominant men exist, but women practically never have any such inclinations.
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