No.212917 [Last50 Posts]
Am I retarded? I fell in love with an RP partner a while back and they ended up removing me because I wasn't who I played irl. I'm still very torn up about it and find it very hard to move on. Is there a way to completely divorce yourself from RPing emotionally or do I just have advance level Asperger's?
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No.212919
>>212917
Don't get wrapped up in the character so much you conflate the person on the other end with them. What you love is who they are pretending to be, not who they really are. You're basically in a holodeck of your own making.
As someone who has had to tell someone that I didn't return their love, it really fucking sucks too.
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No.212922
>>212919
I find that liking someone OOC is suicide tier.
Especially if you're a weirdo who obsesses over fidelity
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No.212954
>>212917
yeah don't fall in love with RP partners. They're not real. This is 'tism tier advice, but treat internet people like they're all just AI. Don't treat F-list/whatever like it's where people go to chat with each other, it's a catalog of different AI personalities that you can browse through.
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No.213004
>>212917
if you're straight, play the opposite gender
if you're a faggot, i got no clue
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No.213006
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No.213008
>>212917
It's okay anon, you'll be okay.
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No.213014
>>213004
this is pretty much where the problem arose ooc
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No.213042
>>212917
I think this becomes more of a problem the more you self-insert. I create and play characters as if they were pieces on a board and then empathize with them, that way there's always a safe distance. Becoming too invested is just too risky in a place like the internet.
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No.213062
>>212917
You can be emotional as long as it extends to friendship but the moment you start feeling more, you have to cut it out, fucking immediately. Srsly bruh, do not let yourself start thinking how well you connect with someone or w/e, just focus on the facts that you're typefucking and you get on well OOC.
These things never work out anyway because long distance is cancer, it almost always collapses the moment they meet anyway.
>>213042
This really helps. I've a hub so it's easier for me but the more distinct you make a character from yourself and the harder you make that IC/OOC distinction, the happier you will be.
>>213006
It's funny that you use this image considering iaF has a habit of falling in love with basically anything he even vaguely RPs with.
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No.213087
>>213014
were you inserting yourself that hard? you might be a faggot i'm afraid
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No.213136
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No.213164
I feel in love, or at least developed a serous crush on a partner of mine. IC stuff had nothing to do with it, she was just charming ooc. She said she was only bi-curious but she didn't seem to mind that I was really a girl. Over time she grew distant and said depression was creeping in. I did everything I could and I held on to her with a desperate strength, telling her to get help or talk to me about what was bothering her. One day she just vanished for about a month. Then she logged in one evening and spoke in a tone that was just empty and devoid of the personality I got to know. She mentioned offhand that she had tried to kill herself. I tried to help but she just wouldn't talk about it. I haven't seem her since then.
Never fall in love with someone on f-list, no matter how good it looks at first.
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No.213170
Considering anyone you meet on flist anything more than a typefucking buddy is a recipe for disaster. No one can help you when they're all just as fucked in the head. But this won't stop any of you, nothing anyone says in this thread will stop any of you. You'll fall in love with someone or consider them a dear, dear friend only for them to hurt you and for you to realize all it is an unhealthy reliance upon someone who doesn't even do anything for you, and realize it's all just a desperate cling to someone in the hopes that they're some superhero who will make you happy. Who knows how many times you'll do this again and again and again, until you realize that no one is a superhero and no one will ever help you, no one can ever help you, only you can help you. If you ever realize it at all that is.
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No.213204
Have you guys ever gotten an F-List friend to roleplay being your girlfriend? And I don't mean like haha "roleplay", I mean it'd be cool to have them approach me on a new profile and get super flirty and horny even though we both know it's them OOC
Could be hot
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No.213209
>>213204
could be gay
I just look for the idealized romance that I'll never experience again, since dating as an adult lacks that charm.
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No.213401
>>212917
Judging by the image and outline of the situation, I'm pretty sure I know who you are, and if I'm right, lying to yourself and about your situation to others is going to sabotage any reflection or hindsight you might have. That isn't exactly what happened, and what little you changed about the circumstances you've described is pretty critical, central stuff.
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No.213465
>>213401
I'm thinking you probably don't.. know this situation?
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No.213476
>>213465
I hope I'm wrong, yeah. I really, really do.
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No.213477
>>213476
H..have a nice day anonymous!!!
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No.213478
>>213477
>>213476
>>213465
>>213401
niggers, stop pussyfooting your shit and give details or gtfo
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No.213481
>>213478
i could turn this into a weird hugbox thread for myself or just leave it as "i liked someone from erp and it sucks" which i think i prefer for now
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No.213482
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No.213483
>>213478
Goku fell in love with Vegeta after ERPing with him for so long and forgetting that Vegeta was a planet destroying asshole and not, in fact, a burly bald sayian love machine.
What Vegeta doesn't know, is that he was playing with Nappa the whole time.
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No.213484
>>213478
This isn't the drama/shitposting thread, faggot. Fuck off.
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No.213486
>>212917
Ah, so this is what caused the Marceline meltdown.
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No.214033
>>212954
yea but you can fall in love in AI. you don't have to take it into real life, you can just enjoy the fantasy until you drift away from each other. I don't get why people freak out about it so much, unless they literally ask for real life info/pics/meeting.
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No.214411
>>213042
Yeah, but how is that supposed to get me off?
>>213164
>she didn't seem to mind that I was really a girl.
So… how long have you been trans?
>>213204
Care to explain a bit more?
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No.214416
>>214411
I'm not trans. Also
>not being able to get if you don't self-insert
ERP isn't for you then.
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No.214419
>>214417
I'm gay, so even if I were in London we wouldn't hit it off, friend.
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No.214421
>>214420
refer to this post >>214416
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No.214423
>>214422
Are you trying to set up an infinite loop or something?
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No.214565
>ITT: self-inserting fags fall in love because they're unable to separate reality from fiction
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No.214802
>>214565
I don't know about the rest of these guys but mine had nothing to do with IC interactions because it was some ryona shit.
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No.224082
>>212917
You're either underage b& or you're fucking retarded, yes. Kill yourself, it's not too late.
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No.227416
>>212917
>>213014
You're a tranny and your RP partner is a het guy who dumped you for not being an irl girl. How close am I OP?
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No.227742
>Have chronic commitment/intimacy issues
>No chance of getting erroneous affections for players because of their characters because I'd get scared and run away if they developed feelings for me.
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No.260178
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No.260219
I commonly play a kind kinky domineering older lady with a bit of a sadistic streak. I find that attracts a lot of sissy cuckold losers that I can bully, and I'm great at it because I was bullied in public school.
Problem is that a lot of them start craving the syrupy sweet abuse on the daily, and things progress into real life stuff, like them sending me pictures of their cocks in panties and stuff. I told one of them to shave all their bodyhair off and he obediently complied. Now you might be thinking there's no problem with this, but I want to take it further too, with cam and voice chat. Hearing them worship me verbally would be divine. But I can't. Since I'm a 30 year old man.
Why'd this have to be one of the few things I'm actually better at than most "professionals"?
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No.260223
>>260219
You have to remember that you're dealing with a younger generation filled with gullible and sometimes horribly depressed idiots that will latch on to anyone that will take them because it makes their dick hard and expect that it will be worth anything past that.
You are their crutch when you allow them to cling to you, and that makes it worse for both people involved - them due to their dependency on someone they don't know and you for being guilty.
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No.260271
>>260223
I'm not feeling so much guilty as I am disappointed. I really could care less about their emotional state, I just want to keep having fun, but I suck at domming people with a male persona. I really want to get in on the voice chat, but I just don't know what angle or persona to play that will interest sissies and maybe even real girls into submitting and clinging to me in the same way.
People are easier to manipulate when they think you have tits.
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No.260280
>>260271
Please don't predate on vulnerable people. Kinky play is all good and fun - but you need to have breaks inbetween in which you treat them like a regular person or you're going to madly, madly fuck with their already dark and confused minds.
This is a responsibility you have, both as a dominant and as a fellow human being capable of empathy.
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No.260288
>>260280
>Please don't predate on vulnerable people.
But they love it when I do that.
Also, I didn't mean to sound super edgy. I just don't let up with the illusion of who I am and what I think. Most of these guys crave feeling like crap.
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No.260299
>>260288
Yeah, because they're fucked in the head.
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No.260351
>>260299
>>260288
Seriously, that. Don't further fuck already fucked people. I get that they're attracted to the kink and that's fine, even though their motivations are probably mostly unhealthy. It can still be positive - but you need to give those people some aftercare that makes them not feel like total fucking shit.
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No.260877
why it hurt so bad holy shit
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No.261999
>be yourself both IC and OOC
>look for a smidgen of affection
>n o t h i n g
I just gave up. I can't even pretend anyone loves me.
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No.262006
>>261999
Real talk anon, if you've done this for any long period of time, you should have some regulars. Either ones you play with or chat on the regular. Just talk with them and be open that you're a bit down in the dumps and want to spend time with them if you trust them. People are naturally helpful of their friends, you just gotta let 'em in.
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No.262011
>>262006
There's a handful of people I've met over the years that I do love a lot, you're right.
I've gotten everything I can out of F-list however, nuked everything and I'm not looking back. It's a miracle I met anyone worthwhile in that shithole.
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No.262015
>>262011
Aye, just talk with them some more and try to rely on them a bit for emotional support until you're back on your feet. If they're friends, they'll gladly help you out.
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No.262469
>>261999
Depending on what you're doing, "being yourself" might be the problem. There's a few people I know on F-List that I intentionally avoid because it's clear they're projecting themselves way too hard and it's sad af.
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No.262717
>>261999
people can often tell when your character is channeling too much of yourself IRL and they will avoid you.
try playing a character instead.
alternatively, you might just be an unpleasant person to be around. maybe take a deep look at yourself and why people might not want to hang out with you.
and no matter what, if you are ooc looking for affection, roleplay is a terrible way to go about it.
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No.263037
>>212917
Most RPers are on the autism spectrum but that isn't an explanation for what happened
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No.263041
>>260877
Because life is suffering
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No.263769
Are you retarded? No, not really. And… also yes, cripplingly, horribly. Don't feel too bad about it cause a lot of the autists in this thread probably went through it once too, especially if you get into the roleplaying hobby young and dumb.
You feel what you feel for someone because of chemicals in your head but you gotta figure out love – ESPECIALLY on ERP sites – is all marketing. What you're actually feeling is friendship that's been misinterpreted, and friendships are incredibly valuable and can lead to a lot of great things, or cocaine.
You're not retarded because what you're feeling is normal and you are retarded for falling for the love meme. Just take time off and reevaluate. This shit always sorts itself out and if you're even a modicum of normal you're gonna let go what isn't yours real fast in this game.
Just remember that for some reason it wouldn't work out.
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No.263775
>>263769
Wow. I have never seen anyone talk so heatedly and defensively about absolutely nothing before.
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No.263784
>>263769
I could have sworn I saw this same post earlier without the tripcode but it said !!specialed at the end as the code
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No.263796
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No.263797
>>263784
kek I was right. That was him fucking up his tripcode. He used !! instead of ## like a newfag. See >>263796
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No.263850
>>263784
>>263797
Yeah, it's basically the best lesson on not phoneposting in public I've ever recieved. I'm not too worked up about it though,
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No.263855
>>263850
No point in using a trip, so you might as well drop it.
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