No.26777
>i'm the literal punching bag of the main online group im on, both for being a lardass (which i do try to stop being a lardass, but all attempts have been met with seething hatred from them. E.g. I'm weak, so I lift like 20-25lbs. They say they're not heavy enough but I can't do anything more) and for being an autismo
>no actual irl friends because autistic levels of no filter
>every online group i try to join bans me within a week because of how much of a seething asshole I am, from both lack of filter and me viewing any type of "wholesomeness" as basically being setup so they can do something psychopathic that fucks me over
can corona please wipe society out i just need to chimp
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No.26783
>>26777
Im too autistic to even make friends online
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No.26798
>>26783
good point. i do have it better than some people. hope you can get better anon
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No.26816
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>>26777
Some men want a thicc bear to snuggle up to. My advice is to go with them and distance yourself from the online group you are in.
Self loathing, toxicity and cynicism are emotional parasites that will eat away any kind of happiness that you will otherwise find.
I have an exercise for you. When you think of a negative thought. Consider the following:
>Inversion of that thought and how it makes you feel
>Whether this is something you can act upon and develop an action plan to remedy it
>Consider whether the thoughts upsetting you are your own or whether they are someone else's that have been projected on you
>Take a rest and do something you enjoy
As for the trust thing and your concerns about it, see a councillor or a GP. They may be able to help or at least signpost you to where you can find help.
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No.26872
>>26777
Just chimp away, what they gonna do? put you in a different jail than the one you're already in?
>>26783
Same here, and I been online for 20 years
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No.26875
>>26872
>>26783
The way it works for me is that I get too nervous about the idea of long term relationships, so I always end up deleting my Discord (I've probably made more than 30 accounts at this point), even when it looks like I found like-minded people. I just fear the idea of people eventually getting bored of me, so I avoid it.
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No.26889
>>26777
Why the fuck are you still affilated with this online group? I'd simply tell them to go fuck themselves and leave them forever. Life is shit enough by itself, why would you make it worse by putting up with crap from some gleeful chucklefucks who get their kicks from putting you down?
IRL friends are overrated. Most of them are constantly busy and when they're not, they just yearn to cram their opinions down your throat and use you as their personal mental toilet. Genuine compassionate friends are a rare commodity, but you ought to become one of them first if you want to get together with one.
>every online group i try to join bans me within a week because of how much of a seething asshole I am, from both lack of filter and me viewing any type of "wholesomeness" as basically being setup so they can do something psychopathic that fucks me over
Lack of filter isn't a flaw if your thoughts are nice. So I guess you're just that guy who assumes the worst of everyone by stereotypes and doesn't want to empathize with others and understand why others are the way they are. Don't be that guy.
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No.26890
>>26875
As somebody who's been on the receiving end of this, here's what I think whenever it happens
>Why did this guy ghost me? I didn't mind him, did I say something wrong?
>Oh well, he had his reasons. Guess I'll just move on
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No.26893
>>26890
That's the best thing anyone who gets ghosted by me can do tbh, it's literally me, not them. I'm the autist.
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No.26895
>>26893
I think it's more rude to ghost somebody than to make them bored of you. Most people are very finicky when it comes to chat and they'll ghost you anyway, so why make your odds even worse?
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No.26896
>>26895
Your first problem is assuming I have good decision-making capabilities, I wouldn't stop talking to people I could possibly become great friends with if I wasn't so nervous about it.
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No.26898
>>26896
>Your first problem is assuming I have good decision-making capabilities
At the very least you're conscious of it. So what's stopping you? There generally exists a concrete reason.
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No.26909
>>26898
If you want me to expand on the whole part of not wanting to start a relationship that I fear will eventually end with one of us getting bored of each other, I also just get nervous about having to maintain an online friendship, I never really know how much I should talk to someone, when to stop, I think too much about it. There was this particular person, not related to discord, I actually knew her in real life, and I told her three fucking times that I didn't want to talk anymore, that I wanted to be alone and not have any friends at all (since she was the only person I talked to), and it always ended with me coming back to her, she was really nice and she was always willing to talk again, though each time I could tell she was getting a bit sick of it, each time she showed less surprise at me wanting to cut the lines. But I always end up feeling less anxious when I didn't talk to her, I feel the same way about talking back with me ex, who was also a great friend at some point, but then I remember we would only talk a bit about what we've been doing and then run out of topics, I'm not an interesting person, I'm not passionate about anything. Right now I don't talk to anyone but my family and to people in imageboards.
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No.26914
>>26909
>that I fear will eventually end with one of us getting bored of each other
Why presume this? You don't know me, you're incapable of knowing the limits of what bores me from your current position. What you ARE capable of knowing though, is whether it bores you.
>I also just get nervous about having to maintain an online friendship, I never really know how much I should talk to someone, when to stop
Ideally that should be up for you to decide. If you don't enjoy talking with somebody, don't. If you do, then talk, and perhaps ask that person about his boundaries yourself, it's no shame to do so.
>and it always ended with me coming back to her
Why did you come back though? You said you felt better not talking to her.
>I'm not an interesting person, I'm not passionate about anything
Passion is something worth cultivating. But you need to burden yourself less by anxiety for it to grow. We live in anxious times, so it's not easy, but you do need to let go. Consider a pet maybe.
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No.26915
>>26914
I wasn't talking about you and me becoming friends lol, "one of us getting bored" was supposed to mean people in general.
>Why did you come back though? You said you felt better not talking to her.
Because I wanted to fuck her, almost every time I have the idea to talk to a girl I used to know is always thinking that maybe we can start something back.
>Consider a pet maybe.
I don't like cleaning poop, honestly.
The rest of your advice I can understand and appreciate, I'm a bit too deep into not having friends, 2 years deep I would say. I don't know if it's a comfortable place.
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No.26921
>>26915
>Because I wanted to fuck her, almost every time I have the idea to talk to a girl I used to know is always thinking that maybe we can start something back.
Honestly it's not really worth it to fuck somebody with whom you don't have a mutual understanding and this here is why.
>I don't like cleaning poop, honestly.
If you ever plan on having kids, you'll have to face it eventually. Real chads aren't afraid of poop. You could get an animal that's sanitary by nature and dedicates its own space for excretion, like a cat or rats (don't get a single rat).
>2 years deep I would say. I don't know if it's a comfortable place.
I don't find isolation by itself uncomfortable, but stagnation, and in the absence of people (or general fauna) to reflect upon it's remarkably easy to stagnate.
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No.26922
>>26921
The thing with having pets is that I got a bit spook'd with people telling me that not wanting to have children but wanting pets makes me mentally incompetent or something, which is true but I wouldn't say necessarily because I don't want children. I now see it as a way to fight the absence of interaction with a replacement of a child, or just company in general.
It's completely different with smaller animals, though, I'm not looking for any company in a fish, maybe not even a rat. It's just a hobby.
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No.26923
>>26922
>with people telling me that not wanting to have children but wanting pets makes me mentally incompetent or something
Who told you this, /pol/? Lmao. Company is company, my nigga. If a dog loves me, should I feel bad about it? Should I feel inferior? No, that's a living creature for which I mean something, and it means something to me as well. Don't fault dogs for being so loving, fault humans for not being loving enough. Does it really matter that it's not some high-status "intellectual" being?
Most of those underage chucklefucks denouncing people for having pets aren't capable of raising a pet themselves. And pets and children aren't an either-or thing. You can have both simultaneously. In fact, having both simultaneously might be optimal, as children love animals and they help them grow.
Rats are super social and curious actually, you think it's some meme small animal but they're on the same level as a cat at least.
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No.26938
>>26923
>Most of those underage chucklefucks denouncing people for having pets aren't capable of raising a pet themselves.
You know most of those pol folks are actually adult males 20 - 40.
The entire alt-right is a millennial/late-gen x phenomenon.
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No.26963
>>26938
Nah, there's lots of underageb&s in the "alt-right", perhaps moreso in the incel circles (try saying that five times fast) than among stormfags, but not just. There was that scandi neonazi group leader who was 13, ffs.
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No.26970
>>26963
Well yes, but to say the alt right is just a zoomer phenomenon is dumb. Alot of the protests and marches are
30-somethings. Yes there are those secondary-school boys that go all out, but the main meat are Xennials. The founder of the "alt-right" is in his 40s.
Alot of our alt-right figures were born the 70s and 80s.
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No.26988
I cannot even muster the dedication that is needed to maintain online friendships
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