You're a woman who saved yourself for marriage, got married at 19 and started having babies. You breastfed all of them and are the primary caretaker and house cleaner. You educate them yourself. Have sex with your husband nightly.
Your husband uses nicotine/alcohol/weed regularly. Overspends. Doesnt keep a stable job, has had no increase in income, you live in poverty with 5 kids, doesn't take care of his health or hygiene. What are you supposed to do but go out and get a job? There is no hope where we live with his dysfunctional family. I have no oven, no washer or dryer, the only hot water comes from our two burner cooktop.
About to give up on a dream I thought we both shared but I guess it was just me. I have always loved history and I thought I could handle how hard things would be with less but it just keeps getting less and more kids are going to keep coming unless I take birth control. Pol, I am hurting he is a good a man and grew up in a broken family, he wanted to be the father he never had. I just don't know what to do. My religious friends say to just pray. Please tell me from a male perspective how to make this work. What am I doing wrong?
