Let us indeed ignore the outsiders for a moment, and indulge upon the issues that matter.
Suppose there is a Person A and a Person B. Both happen to be otaku who don't know each other, but they have access to VR. In the VR world, Person A's character is a sexy female, and Person B's is a sexy male. One day, A and B meet by happenstance in one those VR lobby rooms. They are attracted to each others virtual characters, and proceed to initiate in VR engaged sexual intercourse. There, that's our situation. Get it? Ok. Let me tell you this just in case you are too slow to notice it: there's a number of existential issues arising from this hypothetical event that the two otaku must now face.
1) if A sucks B's cock, but is a male in real world, does that make him gay, even though sucking B's virtual cock is straight from his character's point of view?
2) if B lets A suck his cock, does that make him gay?
3) if B was also a sexy female, thus making this lesbian sex, would it be gay?
4) would it be gay if either (or both) were futa?
Indeed, I believe I am correct in saying there are plentiful of moral problems that will arise from our adventures in Virtual Reality. And these are the fundamental philosophical questions that must be answered before any further steps can be taken in the direction of the future.
/jp/, don't be shy now. If you were playing with VR and saw the sexiest girl in your life, just begging for some fuck, but you also knew behind that lovely face hides the stereotypical fat neckbeard, would you still do her?