>>97145
So, I am writing this to hopefully let you (and anybody else reading this) know that not getting pleasure from a blowjob is not normal. Not being able to cum inside of a pussy or a mouth is not normal. Sure, we all have our nights when we just aren't in the mood or we are a bit tired, but generally, a healthy male should be able to get hard, fuck a girl, and cum without it feeling like effort. If you can't do that, you need to do something about it, and you should start doing it now, because it takes a long time to get that sensitivity back.
By looking at porn, you've trained your brain to need the hottest girls doing the most extreme stuff in order to get off. You've rubbed your dick so much that the nerve endings of your penis are no longer nearly as sensitive as they should be.
So, how do you reverse these things? You simply do the opposite. Used to looking at extreme porn? Watch normal stuff. Normally look at the hottest girls in the world? Watch normal looking girls. Maybe even some fatter chicks. Perhaps you don't use any visual stimulation at all. That way, when you finally do get a girl in bed, it is the most exciting thing you've seen all month.
You also need to cut back on how often and how hard you rub it. Jerking off once a day? Cut back to 1 or 2 times a week. Using a death grip? Use a looser grip, and add a bunch of lube. This will make the nerves more sensitive over time. No matter what, don't grip it any tighter. Can't cum tonight? Put it away, go take a cold shower, and try again tomorrow.
As I was training myself, I would literally slather my dick in lidocaine cream (which desensitizes the nerve endings), and then use one finger on my dick to softly rub the underside. When that got too sensitive, I added a layer of underwear, and then a sock. I would set a timer, and look at a slideshow of clothed, average looking women.
I went an entire year without seeing a single nude woman. By the end of the year, I got myself to the point where I could cum in under 5 minutes with lidocaine on my penis, rubbing it very softly, at a medium pace, through 3 socks and my underwear.I committed myself to a full year of this desensitization training, and I stuck to it.
Toward the end of that year, one of my friends set me up on a date with a girl from his work, and things ended up going really well. We had sex, and I was hard before she took my pants off, which was a first (despite my previous 2 year relationship). She started to give me a blowjob and it felt AMAZING. After a few minutes, I told her she had to stop because I was about to cum. Instead of just going right into fucking her, I had to give myself a moment to calm down. So, I ate her out for a bit before moving on to fucking her. Once I did, it felt like nothing I've ever felt before. I came pretty quickly, despite using a condom.
It's been a few years since I did all of this, and I have pretty healthy and regular sex now. I've also been able to slowly add in more and more to my own masturbation. At times, I can watch more extreme stuff, and sometimes I can even watch a longer BDSM clip. But that has taken years to get myself back to that point in a healthy manner. I will still keep an eye on things, and cut back when I feel it might be getting out of control, as I know how hard it is to come back from that.
Cut back on things. Start today. You'll reach the promised land. You won't regret it.