If you get married, you, as a man, are head of the household, but your wife is not your equal nor "the neck" (do you not know that it's the brain that moves the body?), like we find in genesis about Eve, she a rib.
Yes, she supports you, and it would be painful if she was removed; but it's you with the Holy Spirit who moves body, it's you who leads the family, and it's you who demonstrates righteousness for the children to be aspired by.
Christ, the role model for every husband, may want His bride-the congregation even at death, but you do dare blasphemously refer to them as equal or only slightly different? Does God needs permission from us for sustaining creation and call angels to their duty? Complete absurdity.
Marriage was never to be egalitarian, to say otherwise is to fight against God's decree and this time the end result would devastating than a dislocated hip.
If you have an infected rib, you report it so to get it replaced (Do not reattach it to yourself or anybody. Jesus's orders-Matthew 5,19)because as long as you're the head, you have to continue to live and move forward to your goal & in commends God expects of us, if our side refuses to join along (especially if it's the best course), it's just a rib. Values are subjective-they're only as powerful as you make them to be.