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INTEL

https://www.christianmingle.com/

>Does it cost money?

free to join, only communicating via the site/app costs money. This can be circumvented somewhat by leaving your full name on your profile and the smart ones will make their cm handle the same as their fb/ig handle.

>Which tier should I get?

3 months tops. You will either find enough suitors to keep you busy, find the one, or you will completely burn out due to lack of success.

https://www.match.com (SECULAR, free to join, claims to have the largest Christian dating pool on the net, proceed with caution and don't answer any of those stupid questions as they will be stalked)

https://www.christiandatingforfree.com (free join/message, qt vault but possible bots)

https://www.catholicmatch.com/ (Mostly for Roman Catholics, maybe you can get away with identifying as "little c"atholic if you aren't a dirty papist.)

FAQ

>What can I expect?

This varies on population density, as larger towns will have more but sometimes "low quality" suitors and rural areas will have fewer, higher quality yet distant ones. Your distance tolerance is to taste, but be prepared to find the perfect person outside of your comfort/taste zone.

>What about pictures

Post pics from your social media to make you easy to identify if you're gonna be a cheap skate. Make sure the pictures show you at your best. No property showcasing or trashy club/party pics as good Christians don't do those things anyways.

>What if no social media/pictures?

Get your family/friends to take or scan in pictures of you in your sunday best and business casual. Nerd.

>What will people think?

Don't worry about it. Care about your goal of embarking on a proper Christian journey of marriage with a mate you will see as your peer.

>What do I write?

Start with full name (for social media stalking purposes), self description (age, weight, height, gym/church frequency, hobbies, faults/body mods). State that you like to dress well for church and in general for God's glory, have pics that back that up. List and label yourself as "ultra-traditional", your denomination, date of salvation, and state that you don't want a physical relationship before marriage. This shows you are serious about it which repels the lukewarm and desperate. As such, state desired demographic ranges, hobbies, denoms (if any), focus on opposite sex roles listed in general expectations. List compromises based on your own shortcomings and affirm that if a potential suitor doesn't meet your expectations, wish them blessings but ask to not message.

>I can't find my denom, what do?

As long as you both believe the Nicene creed and the Chalcedonian Definition, personal, doctrinal, and familial tastes and compromises apply.

>First date?

Coffee shop. Low investment opportunity to see if the truth lives up to the small talk.

>Fission Mailed, what do?

If you don't make a lasting connection in 3 months of honest effort, take a break, continue to improve yourself in Christ, then try again when you're further along.

>What's your personal experience?

There are tons of lovely christian girls 18-25 on these sites. I was starting to burn out because I was in my late 20's and all the christmas cake on the site were either divorced, had kids out of wedlock, hit the wall, desperate, etc. If you are younger should have much more success than I did if you're just as devout. I got the six month plan, got burned out 2 months in, met a nice girl who was 3 hours away, then managed to find my waifu right before the 3 month mark, and wasted the other 3 months I paid for. I am certain that my personal adherance to all of the above mentioned was essential to my success but your mileage may vary.

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MAY THE PEACE OF THE LORD BE WITH YOU

It's only tangentially related, but does anyone have any good resources on how to prepare for a family? It seems like a lot of us are in college or otherwise not living on our own yet, or at least not having real expenses yet, but most people here are also pretty pronatalist, so we'll go from not having much expenses to having a ton over time. I am a little worried about this and would especially appreciate advice from people who have actually got through this that is married people with kids, not people who have had their first Christian gf for a month or two

>>638812

>Image: how to deal with a double parachute failure

>Expect someone falling to the earth to pull up the article

Don't take radio silence personally. What really happened is that she lied to you about seeing you again and you lied to yourself about thinking that the date went as well as it did. Just move on and improve yourself my friend.

>>638818

Yeah read and understand your bible, then drop out of college and go learn a trade, work at the trade a couple of years to build a nest egg, all the while improving yourself as a Christian and accruing as little debt as possible, then date Christian girls using the guidelines of these threads.

>>638820

I went to a City College, so while I didn't quite drop out, I specifically didn't continue my education after getting my AA. I'm something like eight months into my plan to work retail for a year, after which I will have to decide how much longer to stay and whether to try to begin a trade where I live or move first. I'm thinking electrician, but I don't know if I should just trust my hunch on this one. I'm saving as I go and if I get a job in the trades I'll be able to save even more heavily, but I don't believe in dating for all that long, so either I need to not date at all for however long to build my career where have I heard that before or I need to prepare to potentially have a family not all that long from when I begin dating not like three years or some nonsense that is

>>638826

It doesn't matter what the trade is, what's important is that its something you can bear and will put food on the table. For example, if you don't like being outside in extreme temps, maybe a electrical lineman isn't for you. If I could do it all over again, I would have been an auto mechanic, HVAC tech or plumber. Do you know that plumbers make 50k a year? Sure, sometimes you gotta clear poop from drains but most of the work is just replacing piping and whatnot.

>>638822

Instead of focusing on the woman, focus on making yourself the kind of man that your ideal woman wants. One can find a deer in the woods easily, but only the right bait draws them to you.

At the beginning of the semester, I asked out this young lady I know from a large Christian group on my campus. I got turned down, but she didn't push me out of her life, and we're still good friends. I just today checked my Christian dating profile, and now she's on there too. Apparebtlu were a 96% match. Gonna talk with a friend of hers who I trust, and try and sort things out. I'm very much afraid of our friendship ending somehow. Even of she meets all my standards, but still doesn't want a romantic relationship, it would kill me if our freindship ended. She's just a great person and a good Christian.

>>638834

I think you should move on after trying to turn the friendship into a relationship. You're essential in the "ex" territory, and good luck trying to preserve your friendship with her when she tells her lover about your previous advances, most guys will want her to cut you out of her life, as you are a threat and have shown yourself the willingness to be a threat. My advice if you want Christian friends, female ones, you have to make sure that it's platonic from the get-go. You're also going to have to deal with feelings of intense jealousy once she finds someone, so it's not good to keep her your life – move on.

Also, you looking for her on dating websites is stalking behavior and shows that you're still romantically interested, don't do that. Ask 5 more girls out, and keep your head forward, keep going forward, do not linger in useless places. This is especially true if you want a family.

>>638840

Shes the one that suggested we remain friends, and I firmly believe that asking her out to begin with was simply a mistake. We've stayed good friends since then, and thats how im hopoing things stay.

> Also, you looking for her on dating websites is stalking behavior and shows that you're still romantically interested

I had no idea she even used the same website, and seeing her profile was very muvh unexpected. I wasnt looking for her at all.

>>638843

They all say that when they turn someone down, I don't think it's healthy for you to remain around her, as things will inevitably come to an end, she is going to get into a relationship eventually and you will have to be driven out – cut your losses right now before it REALLY hurts later on.

I mean it's your decision but I personally would not feel comfortable with a woman I'm in a relationship with remaining friends with a guy that tried to get with her, such a male in my opinion will be waiting for her to have a moment of weakness to take advantage of, I would not tolerate him being around her.

I feel for you if you regret trying to have something more with her but sometimes it's worth the gamble especially if you want a family. I also don't think you are going to be able to contain intense feelings of jealousy when she finds someone later on. I just don't consider it a healthy place to be mentally.

Keep your vision ahead – there will be better chances for you with better-suited people and you will build resilience and become a desireable person, but you have to keep on moving. It's your decision if you want to try to sustain a friendship with her – hope it works out for you but I don't think they typically do, but maybe you can be the exception.

>>638822

>How do I find a virgin christian woman?

Asia.

>>638895

How does one go about going to Asia to find a wife

>>638895

That's how to get used for your greencard. You mistook it.

>>638946

How do you propose you get a Virgin wife in sodom then?

>>638956

There are plenty of white virgins. My own sister stayed a virgin for her husband, a close bro of mine, until marriage, as did he.

>>638962

Where do I find them and how do I find them

>>638967

Just be yourself.

>>638965

That’s all well and good but that isn’t working for shit and I doubt it will. I’m 20 and I feel no hope

>>638967

We were raised Christian, I guess find a church with lots of people who were raised Christian, as long as it's sound doctrine.

>>638976

24 here, been looking for the past 6. Haven't lost hope.

>>638977

I dont want to wait forever man :’/ why does it have to be this way.

>tfw hate women

How do I stop this? Seriously I can't bear to speak or deal with women for any amount of time, they're all just so terrible.

>>638803

OP I got a bone to pick with you. In the last thread, you said privately, SECOND base is okay? Which means feeling her up in and out the shirt? And touching those (((milk jugs)))? I thought we should treat them similarly to how we'd treat a female family member…Obviously not quite, because you'll mack, but I thought first base was the limit.

>>638818

Having a firm marriage is (obviously) tantamount, so read Vr. Fulton Sheen's "Three to Get Married" and Dietrich von Hildebrand's "The Mystery of Faithful Love" for starters

>>638848

From last thread, about asking if your date is a virgin outright: even if she is, she think that is the only thing you care about, and not about her as a person. You may very well care about her as a person but it will most likely not come off that way if you ask, even if she is who you hope her to be. Up to you, really. Women who aren't as religious but who are (somehow) still virgins will CERTAINLY get offended. You might have a great opportunity in them to show them the light of Christ. Men lead, women follow.

>>638925

>>638895

This but West and Central Asia.

>>638956

East and South Asians have higher body fat index because of their lower muscle mass. They're smaller but more prone to skinny fatness fam

>>638976

Sorry to quadruple post, OP (it'd be a big wall of text anyway) but I need to respond to this. You have no room to complain. Like the other guy, I am 24 and have not lost hope at all. In fact, this has paid off immensely. Mutual friends have got me in contact with a Catholic 20 year old Asian woman, AND there is a 18/19 year old (college freshman so there's still hope) Polish-American lass on my radar. This was after defeat, after defeat, after defeat, after defeat, after defeat, after defeat, after defeat, after defeat, and so on but it has never been this promising and seems like it will finally pay off. I have even found virgins before, but they weren't into me. Been on MANY dates, have exchanged MANY failed CatholicMatch messages (which I'm not going to renew when the sub runs out). Rather than whine and piss and moan after each failure, I decided to learn from my mistakes like a man. Yes, it hurt pretty bad from time to time and I lingered on sad emotions a bit too long, but it's hard. That has all only served to make me stronger and closer to who God wants, and now I'm attracting high quality women I actually want anything to do with left and right. The Asian certainly seems to be interested and I meet her soon, and the white girl seems to be as well (though that has to wait for a certain reason). I know you feel hopeless, it certainly is a tall order for what we are after. But me and that other guy are living proof you actually CAN do it, and it WILL get better. Have faith in God, my good man.

>>639015

My dream is converting and marrying a Turkmen woman…

t. Southern European guy

>>638956

I see, going for the low hanging fruits…

Had an interesting chat with a friend from Church earlier and we came to the conclusion that servant heartedness doesn't get you a partner. not that we ever expected it to

We've both noticed over the years that it always seems to be the guys who are the last ones to volunteer to help / spend all their time standing aside trying to talk to girls that end up getting them in the end. It's strange because I grew up being taught that a Godly women will always choose Godly men, and what better way to live out my faith than by helping out around the church as much as possible. In reality the Godly women are falling for the men who visibly lazy men who refuse to help out with the handiwork and heavy lifting.

Perhaps I'm just becoming cynical because this kind of thing happens all too often.

no I'm not a bitter incel who doesn't even talk to the girls at church, I do talk them whenever there's a chance, it's just that opportunities are slim when I'm busy helping out with things

>>639008

I had this same question but forgot to ask, I also didn't remember if that was second or not. Seems weird to not kiss your girlfriends ear but to fondel her milker

>>639020

Marrying a Turkish woman is life greatest pleasure, maybe don't aim so high

>>639024

I kinda feel this. The old women at my church are much bigger fans than the young ones because of my help

>>639030

As long as you keep in good condition and not for pure vanity, there should be no prohibition in our faith against long hair.

>try and change my intentions about this one girl at my church

>finally talk to her

>good conversation, get her number

>message her

>no reply

>still dream about her sometimes

Am I lying to myself about liking her or something? I don't know anymore, but at least I don't feel bad. Anyway I feel it's better to just focus on making lots of money because clearly nothing is going to happen anytime soon.

>>638987

From someone who has been down this road: first of all, you're wise for saying "I feel like it's better if you only go for women who are interested in you and/or approach you". It's the easiest and most enjoyable path to take- doesn't put pressure on you.

But this "It's very safe to be in a relationship with someone who you don't care about at all" is NOT a good idea. If you date someone you don't actually like, you will start feeling pressure and discomfort being around them, you will want to end the relationship and you'll do serious damage to the girl. You go in thinking it'll be chill and then come out realizing it's actually a serious matter to the girl. No good.

>>639033

> there should be no prohibition in our faith against long hair

1 Corinthians 11:14-15

Does not nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair it is a disgrace for him, but if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering.

>>639048

I don't think that refers to shoulder length, masculine hair, but rather to feminine, long hair. Buzz cuts and other really short haircuts weren't really a thing back then, but men kept their hair shorter than women. I could be wrong obviously.

>>638951

By asking them if they are.

Not autistically looking at their race.

Virginity isn't a trait you can see on their face.

>>638978

Maybe because you give up.

>>639025

>The old women at my church are much bigger fans than the young ones because of my help

Suppose the main problem is that, unfortunately, masculinity in (((the current year))) is defined by being a useless whore monger. Women have somewhat the same problem that they think their feminity is defined by being a ruthless golden retriever or whore. What is even more unfortunate is that more women bought and buy into the brainwashing than men since they are the weaker vessel. Honestly, if you guys aren't as autistic as me aim for a gal who is between 15-17 and form her to a virtious wife, because if you guys are, as me, in your early 20s you will greatly suffer with searching for a proper woman since they start to whore around in the recommend age range. Once they are no virgins (due to fornication) they are not only physically but also psychologically damaged goods, and your primitive impulses will make it impossible to you to see a non-virgin not as a second-class woman.

>>639127

>Why is it so hard to find a nice Christian girl that wants to settle down?

(((Cultural Marxism))) is not a meme. The Soviets sunk their teeth into Western academia in the 60's, and from there, the cancer has spread. We now have several generations that are mostly composed of self-hating, America-hating, white skin-hating, atheistic degenerates who care for nothing but themselves and their pleasure. And, of course, women are more vulnerable to this than men, so they've been hit the hardest. The rough truth is that it's a pretty hopeless endeavor to try to find a good young, white Christian wife nowadays.

>>639136

I'm going to Asia, dude. There are lots of devout, sweet, chaste Christian girls over there. They also really like tall white guys, so that's a plus. Not sure about the city or country, though. Japan and China both seem like decent options.

>>639137

>>639136

Have you thought about Poland? It's very religious (Catholic) country, and cultural marxism hasn't really set it's foot there. It's very poor country, though.

>>639127

>Ive been day dreaming about escaping to some perceived majority Christian country and finding a woman

Russia

>It seems like mission impossible in the current state of the west.

Isn't it kind of sad that society is so degenerate that us Christians are seen as some boogeyman to be feared?

>>638984

You don't, stop pretending that women are men with breasts. Even the Christian, virgin girls play games as I mentioned last thread. Your job is to be enough of a man to be the master of the household. Stop hiding your cowardice as inability.

>>639008

Reread my post, digest it.

>>639024

>>639127

>>639136

Stop hiding your cowardice as inability on your part or impossibility on women's part. Its unbecoming for someone who claims to be a Christian. Those lazy soyboys at least have the gall to chat them up, not hide behind business like you and your friend.

I hate that I'm going to have to add this to the next thread. No one else is to blame for your inability other than yourself. If you're throwing in the towel without honest effort, keep it to yourself.

>>639149

The old ladies are dating bad boys?

>>639149

Where are you from if I may ask?

>>639149

Focus on younger girls, get them while they still haven't gone into the degeneracy too much and work with what you have. In this day and age, it's just impossible to meet a 20 year old that hasn't had at least a couple of boyfriends.

>>639041

>It's the easiest and most enjoyable path to take- doesn't put pressure on you.

I feel like it's a lot better when the women is more into the man, than the reverse. As long as shes not too bad it's a pretty good move.

>and you'll do serious damage to the girl.

i don't want to do that. However once a relationship starts it will always go bad.

>>639127

Work with what you have, find a woman that isn't too, and covert her women will jump into another belief system if they like the guy enough, if she won't it than move on the next. Video related.

>>639135

It works both ways, most men are not masculine anymore.

>>639218

>It works both ways, most men are not masculine anymore.

This is true

Our society deserve the women they have

Weak men = Whorish women

>>639139

>Isn't it kind of sad that society is so degenerate that us Christians are seen as some boogeyman to be feared?

I wouldn't say Christians are seen as boogeymen, they're more some parental figure to rebel against.

>>639225

i posted that to show you that because men are not as masculine as before that it helps 'your' sexual market value. Women want to date men who stand their ground.

>>639238

I'm not the guy complaining about how hard it is to find a nice Christian girl but yeah I agree 100%

I meant that a society of weak men makes women more whorish

>>639137

>China seems like a good option

>literally an atheist commie state

How delusional. Come to your senses, man.

>>639218

Cycling flings is not the solution, man and woman were meant to stay together.

>However once a relationship starts it will always go bad.

There were always going to be obstacles.

>>639249

Condemning all white women has consequences both for impressionable young lurkers and white women that don't deserve it.

>>639178

Not that guy, but I'm from Sweden, and there's nothing you can do to save them in this culture. Women in this country bathe in degeneracy 24/7, and you just can't compete with that: it's going to get to them, even if you're find them young.

>>639242

There are tens of millions of Chinese Christians, lad. The religion has exploded there over the last decade or so. I'm not saying that all cities over there are great to move to, but if you plan ahead and find a good spot, I think you can find a much more devout and God-fearing community than anywhere in the West, and there'd be lots of qt maidens to marry.

>>639280

Come to your winnie the pooh senses.

The laws there are horrible. Bible downloads are forbidden.

You don't speak the very difficult lamguage and have never been there.

I've already posted here that virginity can't be seen in the face. I know you're trying to make it so by projecting it into asian women, but that's a delusion.

Come to your senses for your own good.

>>639282

>The laws there are horrible. Bible downloads are forbidden.

I'm not going to deny that I hold some great reservations about moving to the commie country, but the anti-Christian repression is not going to last at the current level. Bibles will be available online again.

>You don't speak the very difficult lamguage and have never been there.

It's just an option at this stage. Don't get your panties in a twist. Of course, you need to master the language of whatever country you wish to move to.

>I've already posted here that virginity can't be seen in the face. I know you're trying to make it so by projecting it into asian women, but that's a delusion.

The average 20 year old girl in my country has a tally of about a dozen previous partners. On the other hand, girls of the same age in many Asian countries are likely to be virgins, or close to it. The difference in culture is staggering.

>marrying abroad

i dont have the cash or means to do this. And I've seen it go wrong for alot of people.

The woke pill is missionary dating

>>639296

You cant tell another man what he can and can't like.

>>639291

>missionary dating

This just might be the ticket. In US and there is a lass I met recently who is amazing. Shes a volunteer on this service trip to a different state that I'm co-leading. She is 18/19. I am 24. Based on how she acted I think she may be interested, in which I would obviously wait until after the trip to bust a move because of my authoritative position over her. Obviously there will be plenty of chances to get to know her better over the trip too before that, which is the idea. I also saw her at campus Mass which means she has some kind of faith. I got a good feeling about it, lads. She is playful and still has those girlish qualities. Absolutely stoked at the possibility. Don't give up, it can still happen.

>>639287

Don't be desperate, friend. It will be what it shall be.

>On the other hand, girls of the same age in many Asian countries are likely to be virgins, or close to it.

What statistic do you have to back this up? None. Do you know if rates of western virgin marriage vs asian are actually as different as you claim to be?

It hurts me when you say this, I don't want you to be deluded by some earthly gold digger. I think your facts pulled out of your ass come from desperation.

We all wish women had some indicator on their forehead that vanished when they first had sex. But that's not the case, you can't know that someone is a virgin without ever talking to them. It'd be actually amazing.

It would be much easier for awkward and fringe guys like us but you shouldn't mathematically sub that fantasy for chink eyes.

We're stuck at talking to non-virgins until we know better about them.

>>639314

>there is no such thing as objective beauty

Hey! Who left the brainlet pit open?

>>639332

Nice way to completely misrepresent what I said, chucklewinnie the pooh. The brainlet pit must be open…All men have their tastes, and when it comes to women it's pretty subjective. Art is objective, but with women there's way more open subjectivity like there is in food. I tend to prefer white women anyway, Asians are right along up there, though.

>>639330

>you can't know that someone is a virgin without ever talking to them

There is no bullet-proof method, but her physiognomy and whole body-language can tell you infinitely more than talking to a woman. You can usually tell if a woman has experience with such indicators. Lads, always remember that the body of a woman never lies when her mouth does. There is also this inherent impulse we men have in which we can tell for sure that a woman is not trustworthy, this is why you need to listen more to your gut-feeling than to your pozz-indoctrinated rationalizations.

>>639381

wrong conclusion, women are attracted to status, white men have the higher status by default for their current cultural and civilizational hegemony in the world. Money is another separate status giver.

Following that:

-an asian woman is willing to be with a poorer white man due to white status overpowering the money status.

-a white woman needs a much richer asian man to compensate his lower racial status. ( them needing less money from a black than from an asian is pretty surprising though, but understandable due to 'black is cool' propaganda by american media)

-the black women part of the table is ludicrous though, it makes no sense through a status logic. maybe they are more tribal.

>>639280

I'm from Finland which is almost equally messed up (not quite there yet), but there still are quite many innocent 18-21 year old cuties in Church, Youth/Young adult groups and activities etc.. Secular women are definitely beyond any hope though. Maybe I'm just REALLY lucky, or is there really such a big difference between our countries?

I can't go out with this girl I intend to date for a month and it's been really hard. I don't want to message her too much because I don't want to appear clingy. But I can't let all contact dry up. We already agreed to meet and that's all well and good but I'm constantly afraid something will go wrong. And I find myself looking at other girls in the meantime. I'm just totally broken, I can't wait for another 25 days, I'll go crazy.

>>638803

This is like a primer on how to be a cultural Christian. I think the intent is good but, dang, there's some stuff:

>Dress and act respectfully in regards to biological sex.

>-Men should have a sunday best for church (blazer, shirt, tie, slacks, and dress shoes), business and/or casual in general, and be assertive in regards to considering themselves, their woman, and the people important to each other.

>-Women should enjoy wearing dresses and skirts in church and in public, use modest amounts of makeup and jewelry (if any), delight in submission, and earn respect of themselves from others.

Shit, man's gotta have a suit to go to church now? You think spending all of a man's money on clothes is Godly? I know this is standard but this is a cultural mistake- Christ doesn't care what you wear. You should wear something clean, and be clean, so as not to be offensive to those around you. If the girls doesn't want you because you can't afford more than a t-shirt and jeans, she's going to destroy your finances in marriage anyway.

Wear to church what you normally wear out in public. Personally, I think there should be church uniforms just to keep wealth divisions from being apparent among the brethren but at least don't hold prejudices about it.

>Family Mindset

>You both must want children and either desire or already have healthy relationships with family.

Children, yeah, totally. That is correct.

Relationship with family… well, if by healthy you mean hoping they will convert, then maybe. Just remember:

Luke 14:26

Matthew 10:35

Mark 3:35

Also, your desire for family should always be subject to your desire to be closer to God. If God is just a step in the path to get you your wife/kids, you will fail and all your efforts will be for naught.

>>639314

>You cant tell another man what he can and can't like

I'm not, but yellow fever faggots are cringy, and that girl looks like she's trying to emulate white women anyway

>>639402

>Art is objective, but with women there's way more open subjectivity

Why? What arbitrary bullshit is this.

Either all beauty is objective or none is.

Unless you meant eroticism and not beauty of God, then you'd be right.

>>639442

I am aware of physiognomy. Don't put words in my mouth.

I meant talking as in interacting. Which is something asian fetishists can't do to the women they defend, since their interactions are mainly through the internet.

I still hold true that they are trying to project a false reality that there is some place where female nature is different.

>>639534

>I can't wait for another 25 days, I'll go crazy.

You'll go crazy over what? Calm down and pray that God gives you patience.

>>639547

I want to see her. And I'm afraid she'll meet someone else in the meantime.

>>639539

>accusing of cultural Christianity

>proceeds to spout the same osteen/bethel/hillsong nu-church bs which is causing declines in Protestantism

>Wonders why every other thread on this board is "I'm thinking of becoming cathodox/IFB"

Pastor Anderson/Any e-celeb ortho priest is poorer than most and still manage to represent both themselves and Christ in church and public. It doesn't take money to dress well now, only self respect in choosing to represent your faith properly. Vade retro satanas.

>>639554

Fear is not of the Lord. God's love is more than enough, if she is as fickle you think she is then she isn't worth your time and the Lord will free you to pursue someone worthy of both Him and yourself. I'll be praying for you brother.

>>639593

>Fear is not of the Lord

Proverbs 1:7

>The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

proverbs 10:27

>The fear of the LORD prolongeth days: but the years of the

wicked shall be shortened.

I can keep going if you would like.

>>639592

>proceeds to spout the same osteen/bethel/hillsong nu-church bs which is causing declines in Protestantism

lol, Protestants have been on a constant decline since Luther. They went from being a similitude of the true Church, to Puritan spergs, to…larpers and Pastor (robes are dresses, Jesus didn't have shoulder length hair!!!!!!) Anderson

>>639451

>women attracted to status

This. Theyre actually attracted to competence but status is a huge indicator of this. Theyre attracted to perceived competence.

>>639595

>conflating fear of the Lord with fear of this world

2 Timothy 1:7, charlatan. Either discuss the topic at hand or stay your hand from further retardation.

Every Sunday after I don't end up asking this girl out I feel entirely confident I will the next week and then throughout the week that confidence goes away. I've been praying a lot about it this week and I'm more confident I will if she's there, but I don't know what will happen. Anyone have any advice on geting over those nerves

>>639146

Also OP when can I grab her milkers

>>639146

I reread it, what the hell still? I know you said if 2nd leads to 3rd too easily to not do it but you shouldn't go to 2nd either!!!! Her breasts are for her husband and you are not that yet.

>>639667

>and you are not that yet

You might not think that from these threads

>>639708

kek

>>639669

He implied he is not married because she would try to make him kiss her ear, which is erogenous for women, and he would deny her. So I don't get how he won't do that but touching them jugs is fine. Unless he was just allowing other people license to. I am not trying to tell him what to do, that 2nd base bit was just puzzling.

In my opinion light kissing (if you are both comfortable with it), hugging and handholding is as far as you should go before marriage… Foreplay is definitely off limits.

>>639847

>Foreplay is definitely off limits

You think? We've had this established firmly way before, I don't know how that guy could think 2nd base is anywhere in the stratosphere of what's acceptable.

>>639847

>handholding

Very underrated. Can be very lewd.

>>639440

Most Asian women are housewives and don't work, lad.

>>640062

usually they marry other Asians, tho…(and homogeneity is good for every Nation)

>>640065

Not sinning from fornication > homogeneity.

I think I might actually ask her out this week. I've been praying a lot and would appreciate others prayers. I will probably see her at Church tomorrow. Unless anyone has suggestions in wording I'll probably say, "Hey __ are you free for coffee this week? I'm off Tuesday and Wednesday and free every morning."

>>640122

>"Hey, let's get coffee on Wednesday."

>>640103

Homogeneity tends to build trust within a society though, a person would feel 'less dirty' defiling someone from another tribe than if they were their own. Plus it isn't like it's one or the other, one can have homogeneity whilst not committing fornication.

>>640137

This is much better.

>>640122

>>640137

Just make sure it's a definitive statement and not a question. If she's interested she'll adjust her schedule.

"I can't make wednesday I have to go weave underwater baskets-"

"Then let's do Tuesday"

If she can't do Tuesday either then she's either a serious busybody and will provide you a different day or she's rejecting you.

>>640137

>>640358

>"Hey, let's go soul winning on Wednesday"

>>640464

Stop thinking in terms of chances. If you know she's gonna be somewhere, go there and talk to her, be funny, what happens, happens.

>>640523

>I am not man enough to get a white wife thus I go for the easy way out

No thanks…

>>640530

It's rather poetic when their own dysfunctions and insecurities manifests in their halfling children. They never avoided confronting their own insecurities, they merely passed it on for another generation to deal with.

Anons, stick to your own if you want mentally healthy children. But if you don't want kids then do whatever you want.

>>640535

>>640530

Lol it isnt about being """man enough""" nice strawman. Its about people. And to the second guy, without fail, you have to screech about this race shit every time an anon mentions how they make worthy wives (because they do). What is your problem? Im detecting some serious racialism, friend. You can find a white wife, fine. But let men who have been given golden opportunities seize them. Not like theyre going to listen to you anyway. At least post the Muhammad Ali video, might get a couple that way.

>>640464

if you’re not gonna make a move lad I will

>>640523

She's pretty for an Asian too, but racemixing is idiotic, your descendants will forever be excluded from both your and your wife's national body.

>>638851

Update: everything's normal, still fellow Christians. Crisis averted.

>>640558

>posts cartoon

What a man.

Fellas, what are some good resources for how to dress fashionably? I realized I wear a few too many t-shirts and would like to dress more appropriately, perhaps in a way that my great-great grandfather could respect while still remaining 'modern'. Suggestions on were to find such info?

>>640719

just go on uniqlo, gap or jcp men's websites and look at how the models are dressed

>>640103

Not killing your family > not stealing

I guess we can steal all we want now.

>>638826

Keep working as a tradesman apprentice while you take the basic business management classes. Get the license then get relatively high paying job. Then open your own business. Any good Christian woman, While not greedy, will want the stable income for the family.

>>640719

>>640725

Literally just lift and get a nice haircut.

There is a reason they use models (very pretty people) to sell clothes. There nothing more pathetic than a fat neckbeard in "stylish" clothes. Like fedora atheists, only an atheist would be so far removed from reality.

If clothes made the man and not the other way around, that profession would not exist.

Anything away from clean or formal clothing is female neuroticism and consumerism.

why on earth has this whole thread just become /christian/ yellowfever fest?

>>640786

(((Someone))) doesn't want white Christian children.

>>640627

>forever

If you go back far you're a mutt too.

>>640789

I guess devolution is something to strive for :^)

>>640786

The chans have a disproportionate number of weebs.

>>640827

Asian women are just as materialistic as Western women if not more

And Asian manchildren fantasizes about women from other countries as well

t. Korean

>>640833

이길수 없다. 북은 공산무신자, 남은 신"자"유주의 남색범이고.

>>640827

Except I'm NOT a beta manchild and I can get white women too. I'm charismatic and decent-looking. I just like both. Checkmate, retard.

>>640790

American here. I have my fingers in almost every part of Europe. Might as well add Asia too :^)

>>640853

Speak English

>>640863

Pretty sure that "Yellow Fever" means being only attracted to Asian women while having anime fantasies about them. Of course you can be attracted to both.

>>640791

The girl I'm about to start dating has 500, and even more on Facebook, so? And the thing is, she hit on me, for months, until she totally destroyed my defenses. The most important thing is to try, you don't want any regrets believe me.

>>640877

Maybe Im underestimating how entrenched some of these lads are. I forget where Im at. Sorry for calling a brother the r word to that guy, on Sunday of all days :_:

>>640890

How old are you? What is this instagram follower mini wanna-be celebrity bs? Im 24 but I feel like I just missed this train by a literal year. Be careful with women like that, lads. Reeks of narcissism. Perhaps you can lead her away from that.

>>641010

…and I’d like to apologise for calling you weak. I’m just a bit concerned about Wuropean people and their future…we shouldn’t worship blood, but homogeneous Nations work better, and it’s easier for the faith to stand as an unifying and founding pillar of it.

quick red pill, yellow fever is just masked pedophilia, trust me I know, they go after asians cause they look younger and act like children submissive and easier to manipulate the preference of the truly weak and helpless needing something even more weak and helpless to get off.

>>641022

That is something which I always suspected…even if I do not believe all of them do that for the precise reasons you pointed, for sure there’s too often a weird vibe.

I dated only one Asian chick who was 7 years older than me and she still looked like she was at best 20…kinda weird.

Why do these threads always devolve into

>MUH PURE ARYAN SHIELDMAIDEN

<MUH ORIENTAL PRINCESS

>REEEEE

<REEEEE

This faggotry should be confined to the/pol/ general, and I mean both sides. Some of us want to actually discuss Christian relationships without having to hear all the *autistic screeching*.

>>641041

Can I be honest? It’s not out of “muh purity!”, but rather because of how far removed from one another such cultures are; I was born and I grew up in Italy, even if my family has also German and Slavic roots…but someone from Asia has a completely different mindset.

>>641013

I'm 26 and the girl in question is almost 19.

Every young woman today that's at least averagely attractive has a shitload of followers. She's a good girl, I know what I'm doing.

>>641048

‘It’s an easily derailed thread, indeed…

>>640791

>Read thread

>See this qt

>Guy gets called yellowfever fagget because he wants to date a qt

What if the girls is just cute and he wants to date her?

>>641058

You're only a yellowfever faggot if you obsess and have unhealthy fantasies over Asian girls

>>641058

because he called himself a yellowfever bundle of sticks: he pretty much said to ditch Caucasian women in the pursue of a fetishistic search for an exotic partner.

>>641065

She looks nice, nice smile, completely innocent. If you can talk to her in person, try to do it, don't do it over facebook. Do not idealize women, they're human just like we are. Try to be funny and playful when you talk to her. Like, say something stupid but funny and you're in.

>>640827

Asian women do have a disproportionately high amount of nerdy and very uncharismatic men pursuing them. The opposite is true of Latinas and Black women. White women seem to get just about everyone. I don't know about Arab women.

>>641065

>>641068

She looks like a major thot

>>641096

She doesn't have that thot look in her eyes, I think she's very self conscious. But of course, the anon who knows her in person and knows how she acts knows best.

>>641043

>italian

you wouldn't understand. southern europeans rarely get yellowfever compared to their anglo counterparts.

>>641022

asian women are often times good looking but they attract very damaged goods of different races who perceive them as easier and project all issues to them. i rarely see Chad or Chad-like types exclusively pursue asian women. If i do they're the serious looking tanner looking types not the cutesy k pop ones.

>>641100

you're right. i was just being a shit head. she seems like a nice woman

i feel bad now. i knew a christian vietnamese girl too who was cute but she had an asian bf

>>641101

I have dated (not with any sexual desires) a Japanese woman (I was 25, she was 34 or 35?). Mostly because she wanted to know about Italy and I was curious about Japan.

I’m not fool enough to fall for a meme pill, but in the time I got to know her, I understood why many would: she was always soft spoken, well mannered and with a very simple yet joyful behaviour; in another word, she seemed very feminine.

One of my relatives married an Asian lady: ended up in a divorce; I would rather see our Western culture go back to Christ, and men and women take more of a traditional role in it.

>>641101

>If i do they're the serious looking tanner looking types

Gyaru girls?

>>641180

This. If you behave like a homo, they'll treat you like a homo.

>>641173

>doing favours for her

Never do this. She'll lose all respect for you.

>>641173

>>641180 is right. Don't blame her for desiring someone with enough self respect to stay in shape. Its not a coincidence I have it in the OP, don't pretend you didn't have a physical connection to her either. Take that anger you feel and channel it into building yourself up to be the best version of yourself possible and deepening your relationship with God.

>>641063

>because he called himself a yellowfever bundle of sticks: he pretty much said to ditch Caucasian women in the pursue of a fetishistic search for an exotic partner.

In all seriousness though it's more cuckasian than Caucasian women these days.

Every time I hear about a guy dating a women from where I live they're instacucked in my head knowing how CURRENT YEAR Western women are.

I don't care how or where or what, but Western women apart from some South-European ones are all utter shite at this point.

>>641065

You tigga better take that chance or I'll find you.

>>641173

Aaaand that's why you don't for girls that go for Chads. Find one that likes your intelligence and sense of humor. Also, be direct, after talking for a bit, ask a girl out, there's no use in beating around the bush.

>>640530

>>640535

>you can't handle muh stronk whyte

This pasta is quite old, and quite feminist. Feminism is anti-Christian.

>>641166

>>641200

sauce?

>>641061

Attraction is attraction. Your dad most likely married your mom because he was sexually attracted to her, not merely for her character.

If you're going to say being sexually attracted to an Asian woman is some kind of sick fetish, then so is attraction to blondes, redheads, girls with freckles, any physical trait attraction. We all know this is bullshit, so drop the whole "it's degenerate to be attracted to what God made you attracted to," and also don't play the "but muh homosexuals" card. Faggotry and other perversions are not given from God. It's explicit in the Bible that they will not inherit the kingdom.

>>641173

He is better looking and more charismatic than you. What did you expect?

It has nothing to do with Christianity, it's just common sense.

>>641166

Wait, some schools don't allow cross necklaces?

>>641303

I was talking about unhealthy obsession not just attraction

>>641047

>she's almost 19

He(aven)ll yeah dude, join the club! I'm 24 and I can't work out if this huwite grill on my radar is 18 or 19. Anyway best of luck to you, and God's blessings.

>>641020

It's all good man, I understand your concerns and it's a fair point.

Hey brothers. I mentioned this earlier in the thread in a fat wall of text, but basically

>met the group I'm going on a service trip with (I'm co-leading it)

>qt of qts huwite girl

>goof around with her, kind of semi-discreetly hit it off

>she's fun and charming as all get out

>saw her after Mass last night, she went right for a hug and complimented me on my shirt

I am also deeply, immensely attracted to her in a way that has not happened (IRL) in years. It is that very mysterious "love at first sight" kind of attraction, where she aligns with exactly your type. "The one" that gets your noggin' truly joggin'. Anyway, because I have an authoritative kind of position over her (leader) I was going to let us naturally bond over the trip and then ask her out when it was over. It would feel inappropriate to make a move before the trip. Besides, we're busy with finals/papers anyhow. I think this is a sound decision but would like to hear if anyone has better insight into this. Perhaps I can discuss it with the trip orchestrator as well (who won't physically be on the trip with us).

>>641511

You should ask her out before she starts seeing you as a friend. Just ask her out for a drink, spend an hour with her, see how it goes. There's really no point in overthinking it, tell her you like her face and ask her out. In my experience, that's the best way to approach things.

>>641713

You don't know much of her but you obsess over her and spam her private pictures on the internet ?

Awesome. Get off the internet and think about your priorities and how you treat people.

>>641713

Do you have a chance to meet her and talk to her? I thought you already did. Idealizing girls you don't even know is just a cruel way to torture yourself.

>>641713

>Honestly speaking I don't really know much about her

What are you doing with your life?

>>641712

Uh oh youre right. So I was worried about that but the fact Im a "leader" really doesnt matter?

>>642237

u dont

>>642237

Dont listen to this anon >>642320 he wants you to be unhappy for the rest of your life.

Join your churches bible study, do it for a couple of weeks to get to know everyone there. Than one Sunday, during coffee hour, introduce yourself to her. Make some small talk than invite her to the bible study. That way you can get to know her better without it seeming like a date. hopefully you both hit it off and well so it can become a date on the future

You just have to be confident

>>642125

>but the fact Im a "leader" really doesnt matter?

Why would it matter? You're overthinking it.

>>642237

Just be yourself. Well, if you aren't confident and charming, you need to work on that to charm the ladies. Work on your humor. Try to make your guy-friends laugh.

>>642429

>Try to make your guy-friends laugh

Good advice. Just remember that sporting and charming a woman is generallly done delicately, on contrary to the bluntness it requires for your male friends.

>>642387

Im not though, it can absolutely cause problems of favoritism etc. I discussed it with a couple people and they agree with my initial plan, to do it after the trip. Its coming up within a couple weeks anyway so it isnt like its super far away

My body is becoming obsessed with sex. When I abstain from masturbation I have nothing but images of having sex in my head. I know both of those things are sinful. Does this mean I'll be trapped in a state of sin until I find a girl and get married?

>>642512

No. As you masturbate less and less, your imagination will calm down too. Naturally as long as you are diligent with abstaining, it's a positive feedback loop. Speaking from experience here. Although I'm still on a weekly cycle of that awful act, I rarely think of sex anymore. My advice to never let yourself be idle, such that you can distract yourself from such thoughts.

>>642529

>positive feedback loop

Exactly this. Been going over a month strong (since a week or so before Easter) after several "week cycles" which slowly increased to 2, then 3, now Im here. I alsi have been given immense helps, as when I am thinking of a woman in my proximity and there is something possibly on the horizin, I am given a ton of "free" spiritual armor. So theres that. Ive had minor temptations that, with God's help as always, I easily conquered. Ive been through those tough stretches and those big temptations. Hang in there. Note: Ive also had a wet dream every week or 2, so that helps but those seem to be chilling out too. Hard to say. I read somewhere that those will subside after a while too. I have also lived it and they do, its just been a while (longest I went was ironically when I was 16-17, I didnt jerggit for like a year…haven't hit that high again yet but prayers goin up)

bumping for interest

>>642512

Don't worry. You'll cool down once you get your sex drive normalized.

However until then wild thoughts, random boners and perverse dreams may occur.

All you gotta do is to not let them persuade you to quit. Once you make it you're free from them. Well….as long as you abstain from masturbating obviously

>>644287

Right on man, amen! God speed!

>>640827

Right now I'm leaning asian because they have better fashion sense/dress more feminine on average. A white woman with fashion sense will beat out an asian one usually but they are significantly less common.

>>644287

How/Where did you meet?

>>644315

Thanks lad, appreciate it

>>644348

Halfchan funnily enough, I was pretty skeptical about finding girls there but I've got a good one here I'm pretty sure

So I've been talking to this girl and we set up a date and during one of our conversations, a dude sends me a message to leave her alone or I'll have big problems. Just when I thought I finally got lucky, this shit happens. I feel disgusted and I decided to break all contact with her. Please pray for me that God may give me peace.

>>644349

How do you meet people on an Anonymous image that don't just want to do drugs, screw or do other shady things and where do I find this thread?

>>644350

Dude is she's okay with meeting up with you just go out with her. Tell the guy to winnie the pooh off, women don't like men who are pussys

>>644365

I don't care. I don't want anything to do with women who have anything to do with such lowlifes. How the hell does he even know I'm taIking to her? And he messages me during the freaking conversation with her.

I live in a pretty small town full of crazy people and I'm in a line of work where I can't afford to have a public altercation with someone. I also don't want to be walking around the street looking behind my back all the time. I truly do not care who that guy is, I don't care about her either anymore.

>>644368

How do you even know the two are involved in any way? Have you even tried talking to her and seeing what she knows about the douche?

>>644369

He was obviously with her during the conversation and she was sending me messages from her computer. He's either involved with her or he is some overprotective relative. It was Sunday 2pm when I was talking to her, which means he was probably with her at her home. He had no business knowing about us talking in any case. I don't need this drama in my life, I don't need the stress, I'm moving on and I have no intentions to ever speak with her.

>>644353

>Halfchan

Speaking from experience here, girls from halfchan are terrible if you're aiming to date. They're really shallow and have extremely inflated standards (when it comes to dating). They're open to friends and talking and actually do reply. But if you're trying to start something it's going to be a battle because you're dealing with someone who clearly has 10-15+ other guys messaging her and will want the absolute best with no real effort involved. You have a better chance with girls on reddit.

>>644349

Good stuff. I pray it works out for the both of you.

>>644353

To be honest I have no idea, she made one post on /soc/ and I think I was the only one to contact her from there, I just got incredibly lucky and blessed. It's a real struggle finding Christian girls there but I've met male Christian friends there, and there's been some specifically Christian threads on there if you can scroll past all the pornography

>>644372

Thanks anon, best of luck and prayers to you in the future too

>>644372

>girls on reddit

Don't do this. You'd get cucked by some feminist thot who has taken 10-15 dicks at a young age and thinks about joining Antifa.

>>644370

Not the guy you were talking with, but I'd ask her about him. If you give her a chance to tell you what's going on, you may find out that she isn't at fault. You're probably right in cutting her off, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

>>644478

This, anon - because this way, at least you have closure on the matter. Bummer tho, dude.

>>644475

You sound like a parrot- expand your view. I've met a few really nice girls from there that weren't slutty in nature or behavior. A lot of them are just looking for a fairytale ending and don't give a hoot about politics- they just use the site for hobbies.

>>644485

>A lot of them are just looking for a fairytale ending

I think you're the type of guy that women take advantage off. You sound very gullible.

>>642343

>Join your churches bible study

>be the youngest person there by 40 years

t-thanks

>>644485

I hate idiots such as you who simply can't understand statistics.

>men are taller than women

<hurrr I know a 7ft woman your wronga

>>644368

Lol you retard, don't let that little bitch step to you. Come on dude are you serious? What kind of man backs off when some two-bit punk tells him "p-please stop talking to my special waifu". You don't deserve her if you listen to him.

>”e-dating” /soc/ thots

the absolute state of this thread

>>644501

>being afraid of wise old people

Why though?

>>644501

>Using bible study as a pretext to meet people

Bible study is for studying the Bible, social events are for meeting peers. Seems as though you're overdue for a bit of reflection, don't project your inability to understand that on others.

>>644493

>projecting this hard

Nah, I'm self-aware and willing to try different things to meet my ideal type.

>>644503

>no actual stats provided, clearly no experience with the subject at hand and zero comprehension of demographic differences over different subreddits

>"i know more den u xDDDDDD"

Learn to think for yourselves and come to your own conclusions *yourselves*. You either benefit from looking around/trying (i.e. you come closer to meeting/actually meeting your ideal type in whatever shape that takes), or things stay the same and you come out no different (i.e. you don't meet someone you want). Chirping about your poorly-sourced and untested view just puts more obstacles in your way.

>>644478

>>644479

I don't care about closure and asking her would just create further drama because she might give him shit, then he might give more shit to me, bla bla. I don't need that in my life, she's not some Juliet of mine anyway.

>>644504

I have been around girls for more than 10 years and no one has ever threatened me. The very fact she is around peope who are dumb enough to threaten other people makes her undesirable in my eyes. I'm not into some macho bullshit, I'm an educated man with a responsible job who isn't into trading jabs with some moron on the internet and walking around town thinking if somoene might attack me. It's just stupid.

>>644542

e-dating was the wrong term to use really, we've been making serious plans for marriage but we're in separate countries currently so I'm not sure what else I'd call it. e-courting?

>>644709

Fair enough then, I didn't know enough about the situation and thus filled in the blanks (by making vast assumptions). Carry on and God speed.

>>644643

>untested view

This. You meet so much more surprisingly viable women and theres tons of hidden gems out there you never would have found if you didnt go in every nook and cranny. And then men whine on here…Plus theres the seriously underrated missionary dating if theyre young enough and if you still are. A woman doesnt have to be as autistic as you about theology or doctrine, church history, etc. She can in fact be a total noob to the faith, but still feminine and innocent, and only needs your guiding hand to show her the faith. I have seriously opened my options this way, by giving more women a chance. Plus Im powerfully attracted to this one any way. And again shes pretty young so that vastly increases your chances of her not having been (((defiled)))

>>644969

>noob to the faith

i mean baseline Catholics or cultural Catholics specifically, who could go either way, but what if you stepped in instead of degenerate false masculine man #859275?

>>644964

It was not an easy decision, I still have feelings for her and like her very much. But the price is just too high. I can't afford to fight anyone or go in a slog with the police if I report a threat. The nature of my job is that in order to be able to do it, I always need to have proof that I have no problems with the police. It's just too much. As I said, I live in a small town and word gets around quickly, any wacko can easily find me too.

I say to myself that maybe this is God's way of warning me against starting anything with her. I truly believe in God's plan for me, but after 10 years of no success in this regard, I am getting tired and frustrated. I get really into a girl, and it just falls apart. It hurts, it's tough.

Is it even possible to have a stay at home wife and multiple kids and support her and kids solely on me? This seems almost impossible in California.

>>647287

>be in California

>not want your wife to be an independent woman that dont need no man

>want traditional family values

What a bothersome bigot! :^)

>>647290

Verity Baptist Church is in California, as is FWBC LA

>>647297

Shoot. I'm in Orange County.

>>647287

It's almost impossible wherever you are if you're middle class. I'm a school teacher, I couldn't do it, the wife would at least have to have a part time job, which isn't exactly bad but oh well.

>>647306

>the wife would at least have to have a part time job

I would take on a second job before I would ask my wife to.

>>647307

Nope, I wouldn't. Working 4 hours a day for 5 days a week while the kids socialize in the kindergarden is not a bad deal. And the kids would actually have the father in their lives.

>>647309

>while the kids socialize in the kindergarten

Only do that if you don't mind your children being molested.

>>647311

Molested by whom? When they turn 2, kids need to start socializing, it's really something they have to do in order to become healthy individuals.

>>647315

>Molested by whom?

Pedophile daycare workers. Other children. Some reprobate parent who comes in.

I never suggested that you kids should not play with others, but dropping your kids off with strangers is irresponsible.

>>647317

I've never heard of anyone being molested in day care.

If you only drop off kids to one on one play dates, they'll never learn to socialize properly, they need to learn how to deal with strangers.

>>647321

I honestly hope that you're just misguided on the issue, and not actually a reprobate trying to influence people to hand their children over to strangers.

>>647324

Is that what happened to you, anon..?

>>647287

If you move to the Central Valley you can make it work. Housing is much more affordable there, in the low $200ks for somewhere you actually want to live. It would be very wise to save up a 20% down payment if you're not making at least $70k so the mortgage doesn't eat all of your finances if you don't want your wife to work.

>>647843

>yellow fever commentary

>visits 8ch

>unaware of jews

Please take this crap elsewhere.

If I myself am not a virgin do I deserve a virgin wife? I feel like I don't.

>>648313

Nah you cant expect that. Might be able to snag one tho

>>647843

Well, it's happening for a reason. White women are largely not trustworthy nor faithful nor nice to be around and they severely overprice their value. An Asian woman is warmer and nicer to be around, that's really it. If only moving to Asia was easy, I'd go in no time. I'm almost 27, if I don't have at least a potential wife by the time I'm 30, I'm doing something drastic.

And for everyone telling me 'lol 27 you've got plenty of time', I don't want to be 50 and kick the ball around with my kids.

>>647843

if you're doing it for the fetish, then yeah, that's in excusable. but if that is the woman God has given to you then what can you do

>>648313

As Christians, we don't deserve anything. Its why you should expect, at best, to find someone just like yourself in the form of the opposite gender. Having found myself a virgin makes me thank God for His mercy.

>>648537

>but if that is the woman God has given to you

How is it possible that God "gave" these men Asian women when these men actively sought out such women by travelling to Asia in search of one?

>>647324

Anon, you've got me a bit spooked so I'm going to request, with spoilered text, that you talk a bit further on this.

How normal is it for children to be molested at daycare? From my understanding, the classic signs of molestation in children is sexual activity. They'll start touching themselves or, even worse, they'll start touching the other children (and through this, it can even spread). Now, while I have heard of sexual molestation amongst disabled kids in care homes (kids that are truly defenseless, cannot report anything and their odd behaviour would be obscured by the smokescreen of their generally-already odd behaviour), I've never heard of it being normal in daycare centers.

I think there was one case where a group of five women (all were daycare workers) were talked into giving pictures of themselves performing illicit sexual acts upon other people's children by a single guy that had successfully seduced all of them and I think I've heard of a case where some University lecturer was caught blackmailing teenage babysitters into taking illicit pictures of the babies they were babysitting. I think he pulled it off by initially posing as a doctor or concerned relative or something and using that position to request pictures that were risque but in the right context, could still be medical and then, threatening to have them taken to court for creating CP, demanded more.

But nonetheless, do you have any evidence to suggest that molestation is a norm in daycare centers?

>>641336

Where do we draw the line between a preference and an "unhealthy obsession"? When does it become an "obsession"?

>>648313

There's literally no reason you shouldn't deserve a virgin wife.

To me it very much depends on when she has had sex. If it was before she found Christ, I would accept it.

If it was while she was a Christian though, I would probably drop her.

>>649069

>>649069

Tell her that she is doing the same thing Babylonians did, looking unto patterns for guidence instead of God. God punished them for a reason.

She needs to consult God for guidence, not some person gazing at starcharts

>>648594

Interesting graph to be honest, but now I'm curious about similar statistics from European regions (South-Europe, North-Europe, British Isles, etc.).

>>649069

>2018

>Not ironically reading horoscopes from newspapers

>Reading anything else from newspapers besides horoscopes

>>649069

Is it harmless musing over her "sign" and "attributes" or does she actually believe horoscope predictions?

>>649006

>How is it possible that God "gave" these men Asian women when these men actively sought out such women by travelling to Asia in search of one?

Guy goes into an empty church, and he's desperate. He throws himself down on the ground and he cries out, "Oh, God! My business is in trouble, my kid's sick, my wife's upset! Help me out! Let me win the Lotto!" Week goes by, and the guy's back. Throws himself down, yells, "Oh, God! I'm a good man. I begged you! Now my kid's worse, my business is broke, and my wife's threatening to leave me! Please! Let me win the Lotto!" Another week. Guy shows up in torn clothes, throws himself down, cries out, "Oh, God! My kid's dying, my creditors are suing me, and my wife's left. Why have you forsaken me? Why won't you let me win the Lotto!?" Suddenly the heavens open up, there's a blinding flash of light and the smell of incense, and he hears God's voice. And God says, "Maury! Meet me halfway. Buy a ticket!"

>>649091

Oh, that makes sense. I remember seeing one guy say that he was ready to fight and die for God but then God "plopped" a wife in front of him so he became a married man. I thought courtship wasn't really a thing for Christians after reading that. You just live your life in humble servitude and God does the rest.

I guess this makes sense. There's also that story of the guy in the flood, praying for a miracle to save him.

>>649072

I'm not so worried about the specific Scriptural evidence to use (since there are so many warnings against sorcery in the Bible) as much as I am with how to present it charitably without scaring her off. I would ideally just refer her to her priest, but I don't really know how to do that without essentially saying "get ye to a confessional."

>>649090

No. She seems to believe they're true.

>>649035

This is how: your fascination with Asians is no more than "wouldnt that be nice," and letting it happen. As opposed to always thinking about it to where its your sole relationship goal, or a fantasy. For instance: a friend's friend introduced me to a Philipino Catholic. I do like Asians but this literally fell in my lap and there are still white women I'm considering. She is just another option. This is why I said I'm over yellow fever in a previous thread. Its an interesting little extra tidbit, not the sole reason for my attraction to her, which is a mysterious thing any way.

>>639128

>primitive impulses will make it impossible to you to see a non-virgin not as a second-class woman.

You make it sound bad for men who don't want sexual relationships with adulterous women.

>>639136

> just give up on the idea completely and devote your life to God?

Give up on the idea as long as the opportunity doesn't come to you. Devote your life to God always.

>>638956

you will go to hell when you die you winnie the pooh loser

>>649399

>you will go to hell when you die you winnie the pooh loser

◄ Matthew 5:22 ►

But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever says to his brother, 'You good-for-nothing,' shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever says, 'You fool,' shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.

>>649069

Stop being a faggot.

Just act as though she is a child and you'll do fine. That's what the Bible and every man up to the 19th century calls us to do.

>>649447

Of what use is a couple of spergs who justify their miscegenation in a thread dedicated to people who are trying to look locally? No one is begrudging their choice or preference, we are all begrudging these losers pushing their nigh-fetishism onto people who aren't interested. You don't see me pushing brunettes onto everyone. You aren't discussing Christian relationships, so anything you have to say about it is useless to us. Leave.

Dating a non-Christian: can it work?

It'll take some time to breadpill

>>649798

By realizing you're exactly right and treating them accordingly. Women aren't men, that jewish media lie is the basis for all misunderstanding in regards to women in the modern day.

Ecc 7:26-28

And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her. Behold, this have I found, saith the preacher, counting one by one, to find out the account: Which yet my soul seeketh, but I find not: one man among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not found.

This is not to say that women are beyond appreciation, but to attempt to judge a women to the standard of a man ends up damning both yourself and her. Judge a woman to the standard of a woman (Pro 31), and yourself to the standard of a man (Pro 1-30, pretty much the rest of the bible). Consider that even the Theotokos herself doubted and sought to use Jesus' divinity for parlor tricks, yet its her faith and duty to God's will that grants her acclaim. Such women still walk this earth, don't let the lies of satan attempt to convince you otherwise.

>>649797

It may have worked better in Paul's time, but such a pairing is impossible in the modern day. You can't make a whore(monger) into a spouse. Think about it, how much do you think you could stand someone who makes mockeries, in one form or another, of your faith, especially when egged on by the jewish media's lies? To do so out of desperation is more shameful than marrying yourself to your faith could ever be. See above.

>>649798

The only reason to ever get married is to have children.

Romantic love is literally a jewish lie.

Be aware that women are perpetual 14 year olds and treat them accordingly. The real black pill is that the government doesn't treat them as they are anymore.

>>649937

She's not a whore though. She's just a liberal who said she's simply never known much about Christianity. Wouldn't it be wrong not to try and let her see the light?

>>650007

>She's not a whore though. She's just a liberal

>not a whore

>just a liberal

Come on, dude. And there aren't any liberals. They're leftists.

>>650007

>not a whore

>liberal = communist = solipcist = lover of satan

choose one

You come here for wisdom, then reject it over a case of oneitis? Give yourself a little bit more credit, do you really think she's the only one you can ever attract? Build yourself up in Christ, and He will show you the woman you've always desired. You won't listen, but don't expect sympathy when it goes wrong, doofus.

>>650206

anyone can learn the error of their ways. I can't believe I have to bring this up on /christian/

>girls hits on me for a while

>goes to church, goes to confession regularly, smart, soft spoken, funny

>agree to go out with her

>turns out she's been in cahoots with another guy

I just feel like giving up, how can a man even find the strength to hope anymore?

>>650237

By realizing our God is almighty and outside of time? If Christ had willed it; it would have been done. Trust in God.

>>650238

I trust God, but I'm getting tired of the whole get disappointed-start hoping again cycle. It's been going on for 10 years now, I'm just drained, now will and strength to go on.

>>649477

>treat them like a child

There's actually something to this, lol. My friend's younger sister has dug me since she was like 13 (she's 18 now, I'm 24) and I used to basically call her our like a father would when she would act like a brat (which was often) and she loves me lol. Not sure I want her though because of reasons.

>>649945

>Romantic love

Nah, it isn't a lie, it just ends. That type of passionate, intense love which produces love songs is for young people so they get married. It goes on, I am told, into a quieter love, surely not without it's little bursts of passion, but you're only young once.

>>651593

How can you be so sure of that?

>>651788

Seriously this, lol. Not to mention that the greatest romantic poetry is from Christians.

>>652229

Always good to see the mods take out the Cathar trash

>>649945

>Romantic love is literally a jewish lie.

i would argue that 'Romantic love must last the whole marriage otherwise it is not love' Romantic love is important.' is a jewish lie

Romantic love does not last the whole life. There must be something else to move on. Raising kids, loving the other person, having common interests…and so on.

I think the issue is not that romantic love does not exist. Just that the media and movies reduce love to 'muh romantic love' then encourage you to divorce once romantic love wears off.

Also 'I'm waiting for the perfect knight worthy of me' is another lie.

>>653291

* i would argue that 'Romantic love must last the whole marriage otherwise it is not love'.' is a jewish lie

>>638895

>hating your own race

Lol just go to eastern europe you autist or rather spend actual time searching for quality women out there. but i guess you can't find if you don't search

>>653360

Because its easier to blame others than it is to becoming someone worthy of dating.