/christian/ - Christian Discussion and Fellowship

>>631866

First of all, disconnect yourself from the internet. That's step 1 and the most important part of it. Then you start to date. Where do you find women/girls ? Ask them after Mass, go on youth-activities that your parish is doing, get in touch with the elderly women - you can guess that most of the time they are grandmas and if you're lucky they might introduce you to their grand daughter(s). Go out in general, socialize - for example in sports teams. Or go to the gym and meet people (and women) while training. Or join another sports or general club that involves activity of both sexes. Or …. well, you get the idea I hope.

That is part of the process. Then - and I can't stress that enough - the most important part of discernment is to pray - contemplation plays a very big role, if not THE biggest role. Furtermore, meet up with your priest (or deacon, if your parish has one - as deacons are those that have their "main field" in pastoral work) and discuss the matter. He will be able to help you further.

I hope that helps a bit. God bless ! May He grant you the ab

>>631873

Addition now that I re-read your post:

My first post is still the way to go. What I wanted to tell you is - if you have social anxiety for whichever reason, you need to get out there and get in touch with people. The more you recluse, the worse it becomes - it's a downward spiral until it's so bad at some point that you might need medication.

Don't let it go that far, God is with you and he'll gladly will help you through people and through your guardian angel. That's another reason to "learn silence" and contemplation.

And one more thing I'd like to say is that for vocations in general, every (arch)diocese (assuming you're Catholic or orthodox) has some kind of vocation director with which you can get in touch to help in the discernment process. But for the beginning go to priest and deacon - they'll refer you further anyway.

>>631873

And I just noticed that for some reason my first post was omitted.

May He grant you the courage to go out and do His will !

>>631873

Thank you anon for your reply. I'm actually a pretty active member of my Church but most of the youth are actually pretty old, (out of my age range, think 30). I think I do need to socialise more, and meet people. The Church is probably the only place where I wanted that social setting but I dont see it happening any time soon, so I guess I'll have to look at secular places.

I wouldn't say I have social anxiety, I'm just not used to talking to men, even the environment I'm in is just women 24/7. It seems to me I've been set up to be a nun :^)

>>631873

>Or go to the gym and meet people (and women) while training

In terms of scouting for potential (christian) qts at the gym, discounting the fact that assuming you're in a western secular country you'll have to spend a lot of time sifting to find one who's a christian, but also in terms of looking for prospective m8s I'm not sure this is the best place to do it because, having read an article on it, the gym culture of youngish people these days leads to lots of hook ups and casual sex/short term dating because the people connect really well at the gym because they're all high off their endorphins from training. Obviously you wouldn't be going for sex, but it's just something to consider in terms of trying to meet girls there that you may have a higher chance of falling in with someone there that you otherwise wouldn't simply for the fact that you're both on a brain high from exercise, so could lead to a higher chance of dating but by extension a higher chance of meeting girls who you date for a bit but once the gym highs run out you realise that this person isn't for you - in effect a lot of wasted time. Don't know if that made any sense, and don't know if you meant go to the gym to just interact with women or actually meet them for prospective dates. Still, gym/exercise is always good.

>>631953

>meeting qts, girls etc

>>631953

>I'm just not used to talking to men, even the environment I'm in is just women 24/7. It seems to me I've been set up to be a nun :^)

Just seen ur a gril sorry swap the sexes in my post

I can hear the rumbing thunder of lonely /christanons/ approaching this thread even now.

>>631866

First and Foremost , search for god and search for a wife who follows christ with all of her heart. Everything else will fall into place