/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover

>It's inescapable

This is true. No matter how many times I’ve tried to cut myself off from this, it always comes back in the end. My advice is to reel it back a bit and find some new hobbies apart from this fetish. Get off social media, destroy the photos of yourself diapered and cut back on porn for a while. I’d also recommend that you keep it a bit more on the down-low if you’ve personally felt stigma and humiliation IRL. There’s nothing wrong with the fetish itself, I think I’ll always have it.

Relatable as fuck, OP.

Abused as a child, and ended up with this fetish. Didn't want it, didn't ask for it, but shit happens. First thing is to learn not to hate yourself. Can't change your brain. There is like a 0% success rate for 'fixing' any kind of sexual attraction/orientation/paraphilia. Also, you're not broken. Some guys like feet. Some girls like 'dad bods'. Some guys like cock. Some girls younger guys. You happen to like nappies/diapers, along with everyone else on this board.

Second, though, you need to get out of your basement. Work out and/or diet (you don't mention gender; focus on whichever is most appropriate); physically speaking get yourself up to 7/10 qt, lean or jacked, whichever suits your physique. You will have infinitely more social and romantic success if you're a hot with a kink than the flabby loser. Sucks, but it's true.

Third, above poster is spot on when they tell you to develop other interests. Be good at something; have something else to occupy your mind and time. Learn an instrument, volunteer somewhere. You'll be a better person and a happier one.

Good luck. It is possible. Been with current partner for ten years, married for six, slowly introduced subby girl to fetish and now tape her into nappies before bed after warming stuffy and cuddle to sleep every night. Don't give up, just be better.

I am sorry OP but you are too far gone, it's best to just accept that now. They really need to teach preventative diaper addiction measures in school to help stop kids from becoming diaper addicts like yourself.

Go 24/7. It'll normalize and get kind of old pretty fast lol. I haven't seen anyone actually quit, and I've been in this community for over 20 years. Though I suppose if they did quit they wouldn't return for fear of relapse.

How old are you? you sound young, you guys are so screwed up with hormones, you'll eventually level out as you get older.

A wise man once said: 'it aint easy being cheesy'.

But to be serious, I feel like most ABDLs feel a bit repressed about our fetish and I really think that's why it can sometimes feel like this inescapable trap. I can definitely relate to you on some level, ABDL has been this secret background radiation of my life in one form or another since my childhood and like you I've also really never engaged with vanilla porn. My long time curiosity about diapers etc. led me to ABDL porn as my first porn and I just never really deviated from that. That tangent aside though, I think the large majority of ABDLs have gone through some feeling of shame, addiction, dread, etc. at one point or another but I don't think it has to be a death sentence. Honestly, when I see posts like this, while I acknowledge that ABDL interests can be a cause of lower confidence, etc. I think porn addiction/incel lifestyle is usually the product of other forces in your life culminating. As the other replies in this thread say, I think its important to find and pursue hobbies that are fulfilling to you, advice I'd like to triple down on and I'd also like to add that in my experience things aren't always as impossible as they can seem from an outsider's perspective. I wasn't exposed to programming until senior year of high school, always thought it looked cool but was for people much smarter than me, but I took one class and it turned out I had an aptitude for it. Now I've graduated uni and have a pretty good job. If there's something that's always fascinated you that you think is beyond you, start looking into it. Finding something fulfilling to do with your time will both keep your mind off of porn while building your self-confidence and maybe even social skills if you get involved in some collaborative hobby. I don't think quitting cold turkey is ever the answer for this sort of thing. It will generally just leave you frustrated. Perhaps a better way to start is to maybe try to make your masturbation sessions shorter? Like, don't edge yourself over and over again for an hour, just kind of get it over with and you can replace any thoughts of post-fap shame with self-congratulations for efficiently clearing your mind so you can better focus on other things. Also, probably try to limit yourself to fapping once a day. Doing all of that should help you build your self-confidence which should better prepare you for dating. If you're searching for the perfect ABDL partner right out of the gate you're setting your expectations way to high. My long time SO knew about my fetish about 6 months into us dating. She's generally not super into it but she can be if the mood hits her right, a lot of that having to do with her knowing how sexy I find it. General rules for relationships for all people: be genuine and seek out genuine people. You don't want to be in a long term relationship with someone who would cancel you wholesale for having an innocuous fetish. I'm tired, so that's all I've got. Depression is a fucking bitch and I hope the best for you anon.

I haven't quite quit the fetish (I don't believe it's actually possible) but I have had some success in controlling the urges by reminding myself that the pleasure from wearing diapers is a poison, and that the suffering from depriving myself of them is a healthy reaction. The truth is that you can never reach your true potential if you are constantly enamored in hedonism - as I have been in the past. Although I have now gone without wearing for nearly half a year (which I know is a short record for some who have attempted going cold turkey) I still periodically visit places like this to get my rocks off in short, manageable intervals.

>>91722

> It's inescapable.

yeah, my personal advice would be not to attempt to get rid of it, but rather to screw it back a little bit. It is easier to keep it down rather than to give up completely.

Maybe give it a boost? If you are part of the "use and purge" cycle, where you want it and afterwards just want to get rid of it, you might need to take it up a notch further than you are used to once, afterwards you should have less desire for it.

Log off. Find other uses of your time. Set limits on yourself.

go to an AA meeting and talk about being addicted to diapers and jacking off about diapers instead of having a drinking problem. it'll go over well i promise

the first step is admitting you have a porlbem.

>>91758

This. Really everything said in this thread is good advice

Also OP you can do what I did and change your perception of the fetish. Used to be more of a little but now I mostly want to be a big (although I did recently binge on a bunch of toys and a playmat LOL)

What's key is to accept yourself for what you are. Trying to get rid of the fetish like a poor bible belt kid being put in a gay re-education camp is just going to make you feel empty and eventually you'll most likely binge and then feel ashamed over "failing". Just cut back on the browsing and social media use, don't make it a big part of your identity

Fwiw, vanilla sex is still a great thing for me even during my more binge-filled periods so they're not mutually exclusive.

As for the >tfw no gf

Don't deny yourself your fetish just because you want a partner, won't go well (see above)

The most attractive thing to anybody in a prospective partner is happiness and confidence. Build your life, find or put more time into your non-abdl hobbies and the rest will come naturally

Regarding the shame you obviously feel, I'm also suggesting therapy. Just hearing from an actual person and not randos on the internet that it's completely OK to have a fetish is very, very validating. You don't even have to specifically mention that it's a diaper fetish, just say you have a fetish and feel bad about it.

Godspeed anon, wishing you all the best.

>>91722

Let me tell you exactly what will happen if you “get rid of it”. You will probably get a boosted confidence that will put you in a position to get laid, and once it happens you will probably try to fuck her since she’s dtf. You will then realize that you can’t even stay hard long enough to stay inside her and may blame this erectile disfunction on health or other factors but eventually you’ll realize that the reason you failed is because you have a diaper fetish and your insanity will only allow you to fuck a woman in a diaper. You can’t finish a labyrinth by going in a straight line and that’s exactly what this is.

Tl;dr: Make it harder to access this fetish, wean yourself off of it by setting weekly limits that get harder each progressing week / month, definitely still indulge, but treat it as a reward when you do.

I was fapping to diaper porn EVERY day and always looking for new videos, photos content for like 30 mins to an hour or so daily, sometimes longer. Checking the usual sites, downloading content and then busting one out to end (or start) the day, sometimes twice in one day. This was fucking me up bad. Neglecting relationships, responsibilities, etc. So just a little over two months ago I starting taking action. Now I don't have nearly as much of an addiction as I used to and it feels pretty great.

First, I took all of my diaper related images / videos and put them on an external harddrive. All of it. Then I unplugged that drive and put it in another room. I then set limits for myself. At first the limit was every other day I would indulge, and I did that for one week. The next week, I reduced it to weekends only (Friday / Saturday). Now I'm currently on 1 day a week. I also set a hard limit on no saving new content. So I can view tumblr, instagram, pornhub, etc, but I can't save anything new. Because of this, I limited myself to only jerking it to stuff that I already had on my external drive. When I was done I put the drive back in the other room.

After going down to 1 day a week, which I'm currently still on now, I actually bought 3 bags of diapers, so that the 1 day I can reach peak pleasure. I'm still making sure that the one day I picked is the only day I do anything diaper related. (except for when I visit / skim this board for discussions)

So the results? I don't care about diapers as much as I did and it's kind of weird. Do I still like diapers? Yes. Do they still turn me on? Oh yeah a lot. But I now I feel like I can go longer without the need to look at diaper porn or get off to it. I don't think I'll ever totally get rid of this fetish and I accepted that long ago, it's just the hand I was dealt so I gotta deal with it. However, It's not a huge deal anymore, it's just "nice every once in a while". I got this fetish into a moderation phase which is what I'm enjoying a whole lot better.

I feel like I can go two weeks or maybe even a whole month without it. Right now I would still want to look at diaper content or wear every once in a while, kind of like "rewarding" myself for good things that happen in life. Still, I feel like I'm a path that could even lead to kicking it altogether except on rare occasions. I would even get rid of the diapers that I just bought and not mind. I've had this fetish my whole life but I've had the addiction problem for damn near 10 years since I was a teenager and to say that this is liberating is an understatement.

Getting a hobby or a fulfilling activity definitely helps.

>>91758

>Maybe give it a boost? If you are part of the "use and purge" cycle, where you want it and afterwards just want to get rid of it, you might need to take it up a notch further than you are used to once, afterwards you should have less desire for it.

Do other anons recommend this? I have never worn, but I am increasingly becoming obsessed with jerking off to diapers, imagining people I find attractive diapered and with the idea of wearing and using them myself. Should I just go and do it once and get it out of my system or will it make it worse? I am very bad with binging and purging

>>91722

You don't. Let yourself be consumed. Let yourself become a diaperbrain. Think of nothing but diapers. The look, the feel, the smell. You want to be so hopelessly addicted to diapers that you sit in piles of balled up dirty diapers, the diaper you're wearing stuffed with old balled up ones, one arm grabbing as many balled up diapers from the pile as possible to hug, the other arm shoving a balled up diaper right in your face, inhaling so deeply, the stench etching itself into your brain folds.

>>91740

Not true, there are plenty of people who "were gay" and then weren't. It's your brain taking whatever sex it can get and making that the defacto mode even if it's not your actual defacto mode.

>>91885

Not bad advice here. Instead of making it a life style make it a kink you have when you watch porn once a week or so. The problem with OP is he's literally living a diaper fetish life style and does nothing but live it. It's his social life, his friends, his entire sex life, it's everything. GTFO and stay away from these things. Porn will consume your life if you let it, being bored leads to you going to view porn so find ways to entertain yourself and get away from the internet.

>>91885

You should delete whatever pic you fap to or finish to, slowly remove all of your options.

>>92197

Unf, tell me more…

>>92197

I want to read a story or a doujin about someone like this now. I'm on the diaperbrain path myself honeslty, I think about diapers constantly. It consumes me, but I never feel bad about it. Hot post tbh

>>92208

I'd love to see more diaper worship writing with no pretense of a plot, just paragraph after paragraph about how irresistible diapers are, how they feel and the experience of using them. Haven't found many stories like that.

>>92210

That would be great, I'm getting a bit excited even thinking about such a story honestly. I envision it growing more and more intense as the story progresses up to complete diaper-ecstacy. Unf now I'm gonna be thinking about this all night. Can you write at all or provide good ideas on how to best set this up? I'm very interested in such as story.

>>92228

Lol I went back in the bathroom again. After finishing i looked like a coke addict with baby powder all over my nose and clothes.

>>91722

theres plenty of examples out there of people not into a fetish at all who play along to keep their partner happy, then after a time, maybe years maybe less, the begin to actually enjoy the fetish, eventually becoming hooked on it, even dependent to get arousal.

its acclimation, the mind can adopt a fetish and become dependent on it, if one is forcing themself to enjoy something eventually they will learn to truly enjoy it. (fake it until you make it is real)

typically the type of people that are trying to change their sex play are doing it to please someone, in other words they have an incentive, when they started doing it they had no interest and would not have done it at all let alone regularly enough to become acclimated to it. it is only with the persist pushing of their partner that they did it enough to get acclimated to it.

yes you can lose a fetish and become normal, but your either gonna need help (someone to push you and give you incentive)…

or your gonna need to want it ALOT. to keep pushing yourself through the process.

an example of what it would be like, when masturbating instead of your usual fantasies start changing your fantasy to factor in more hetero or otherwise whatever it is you want to change your desires around too. factor it in as much as you can without killing arousal, if you dont still achieve orgasm then you factored the change into the fantasy too much. do it in stages, only just so much as you can manage to keep it up through to orgasm. you ought to find yourself able to change that fantasy alittle bit more every once in awhile, the change should seem small and slow.

so that when the day comes you realize you focus more on the new and hardly at all on the old you will be surprised that you got there without seeing it coming due to how long it took.

we are products of our environment, and our minds environment are the thoughts we give energy to its like that quote about which wolf you feed is the one that grows stronger.

>>92255

>>92255

>your gonna need to want it ALOT

so basically no one is gonna loose their fetish..

There isn't any way you will change it unless it's substantially affecting your life, feelings of shame alone aren't enough to override voracious sexual desires. I think that you either continue on trying to integrate it with your 'normal' life (seems as though that's long gone) or you go cold turkey and actually engage psychological help also. People say you can't fix a sexual fetish which isn't strictly true, 'fixing' really means allowing yourself to be interested in other things so that ABDL recedes into the background. You need a sexual output that's a real fucking person to cum in and feel good about yourself as a man

Everyone says it's impossible to get rid of… but if someone did get rid of it - a lot of people could get rid of it, but they wouldn't be in diaper communities to tell you they had success.

>>95615

I don't think so. People love blow them own horn.

Is this thread somewhat anomalous or do a huge amount of people with this fetish wish they could be rid of it?

I'm not sure whether I'd get rid of this fetish if I could because I don't see that my life would be notably improved in any meaningful way by simply not liking diapers.

I just don't see what the difference would be. I think whatever failings I have are character failings, not the fault of a particular fetish.

I don't know.

Do you people find this fetish to be a significant burden on your lives?

>>96123

Many people are unable to reconcile the fetish with their day-to-day lives, either due to a high sex drive, or simply because it can never be fulfilled as you can't find a partner. And it's also stigmatized to an extreme degree; it's not hard to see the reason someone would want to be normal–I mean, someone who wears and lives at home has to be afraid their parents/siblings/whatever could find out. Moreover, it's one of the fetishes that has an emotional component (CG/little) so it can become a sort of unhealthy coping mechanism for those that are depressed and have low self-esteem, a bit of a crux. For people who can't get "normal" sex, ABDL can become all-consuming because it's something that works pretty well when you're alone, as you can put on a diaper and wear it all day and feel a warm glow, even though you're still sitting alone browsing the internet as you always were.

Personally, I think many people redirect blame for other issues in their lives to ABDL, it's a way to distract themselves. But certainly, there is such a thing as ABDL being unhealthy or maladaptive, much like exhibitionism is an extreme form of loving one's body, etc. I think your view is basically fair but needs some caveats.

>Do you people find this fetish to be a significant burden on your lives?

Until I went 24/7, yes, the conflict between my ABDL side (which I hated myself for) and my successful side (working, being a law student) was very depressing. 24/7 lets me integrate both and reconcile the two, because even when I'm not horny I'm still wearing, because it's "where I belong" (I'm not a little, but I feel like diapers are right for me in the same way most people feel would uncomfortable wearing a diaper or pull-up, even if they could take it off and use the toilet the normal way). My therapist helped me accept myself and was surprisingly good, contra to what I've read elsewhere about telling therapists

>>96123

For ABDLs, especially the young ones, there's something called the "binge-purge cycle". Basically, you get a strong urge to wear and use your diapers. "Binge". But eventually you feel ashamed and disgusted with yourself and maybe even dispose of your diapers and baby stuff. "Purge".

It goes in a cycle over and over again.

It seems that a lot of the older ABDLs end up accepting themselves and their fetish and the cycle stops or at least lessens in severity.

I'd say a good 90% of ABDLs end up accepting themselves.

But, if you really want to curb your fetish, there's some steps you can take.

1. Figure out why you're an ABDL.

Understanding why and how fetishes develop is very complicated because it's different for everyone. Personally, I feel like I was kind of neglected as a child. Not necessarily abused, but it felt like I was never really loved like a child should.

2. Find the root of your fetish.

The diapers, to me, represented comfort and care. And in the end, I only ever wanted to feel loved.

3. Make the decision.

You'll probably never truly "get rid" of your fetish. i.e. it's more than likely still going to turn you on, no matter what you do. But the decision in question is whether or not you should partake in the lifestyle/paraphernalia. Whether you accept yourself or reject your fetish is ultimately your choice.

>>96163

So from what I gathered.

From the dawn of adolescence (and I do not care if this makes you cringe) I have autism and adhd and had intense interests in abdl. My world didn't revolve around it. It revolved around me or so I projected.

My dad left me and my family cause he was divorced and I was divorced from reality.

So I got into the diaper fetish more and more.

I became so wildly into diaper fetishism and baby stuff that it became a routine. My world revolved around the artists I spied on.

I didn't want this to become a stigma.

The root of the fetish comes from childhood obsessions.

I spied on ABDLs hoping they would not be into minors like an FBI agent.

I just liked the feeling a diaper has. So comfy.

The only way to get rid of the fetish once and for all is to get rid of all the porn paraphernalia and culture behind it. The diaper friends to.

It all came from a live action TV show I got inspired from.

However, I don't quite have the strength yet to purge such pretty pictures.