/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover

Q Do you have any interest in conventional sex?

A No I don't.

>>89600

I've always been honest that vanilla sex really doesn't do anything for me. Has worked out so far.

Normie sex is best, diapers are icing.

Sure, i can eat an uniced cupcake, still yummy. Eating straight icing? Thats a guilty pleasure for when no one can see me.

Cupcake with icing is the best though. I don't always start sex diapered, but me and the missus have more fun if we do. Itd just feel… Lacking without the sex at the end though.

no not really. i'm a little embarrassed about it

I do only fap to diaper stuff but I'm still interested in regular sex. It's hard enough to find a partner that is accepting of your ABDL side as is. Don't think you could have a normal relationship if you aren't interested in regular sex and your partner isn't a active participant in ABDL. So that really narrows down your partner search, too narrow for myself.

Yes, but I jerk off more to this fetish then thinking about sex.

i've only had sex with two women.

the first one was in high school and i was on anti depressants so it was hard to cum. i figured that was the issue. i think i liked the "idea" of having sex more than actually having sex (not being a virgin, getting to brag about the conquest, knowing that someone liked me enough to let me do that to them, etc.)

in college i had another girlfriend and as i was off the anti depressants and still struggling to cum during PIV, i came (hah) to the realization that i had to be thinking about diapers in order to climax. the positive side of this was that i lasted a really long time, but sex honestly felt like "work" in that i had to physically exert myself to exhaustion. i just couldn't cum even though i was a straight man fucking a hot woman who was in love with me, unless i thought about the girls in diapers i had seen on the internet since puberty.

i did eventually tell this girlfriend about my fetish and we did eventually have diaper sex. it was amazing, but i think tasting that forbidden fruit made it so that i completely lost what little interest i had in vanilla sex. in hindsight it probably contributed to the end of the relationship, though luckily there were a lot of other problems that didn't have to do with this fetish. either way though, i have normie friends tell me i should get on tinder and "put myself out there" and all that stuff and while i definitely get lonely sometimes or desire companionship and intimacy, i just absolutely don't want to jump through all the hoops that leads to the "reward" of vanilla sex. i'd actually rather just jerk myself off.

conventional sex isn't something that is out of reach for me. My gf is rather passive, so she just lays there on her back while I do my thing. We have mutually agreed in not having children, but the only way I can get off is if I envision some scenario where I am trying to get her pregnant. I hate how nature has to bypass reason to bust a nut, that, and I am more of a utilitarian that has sadly crossed over to my sexual nature.

I am unsure of anything /abdl/ related during sex. I think the closest thing I can come up with is when I pull on her pigtails or when we're done and she wants a pull up for practical reasons. I get out of the shower and diaper myself quickly. The padded cuddles are well worth the effort.

>>89668

jesus christ, sounds like an ex of mine, but she did work at a day care center, so it would have been a conflict of interest, yet, a good 18 months later I see her at a local fetlife munch, see her profile which has diapers/ageplay/ and other things she though were "bizarre" when we were together, in her profile. Goddammit. I can't ever win….

In the same boat here but married, me and mine have been married for about 16 years. I've never hidden my little side from her so right from day one she knew what she was getting.

She use to be all into my AB side in till about 7 years ago. A person that was a good friend at the time was living with us. We found out about 2 weeks into him staying with us he was cooking meth out of his car trunk. A car that was parked in MY driveway of MY house, meaning I could get busted BIG time. We both ask him to leave things got heated and long story short he left but (knowing I was a AB) called the cops and told them I had kid porn. Well again long story short cops showed up, PC's where checked and I was totally cleared. Side note the dumb ass told the cops why we tossed him out and is now in jail for the next 15 years.

Anyway after that my wife got all freaked out about the AB life style, afraid of what people will think. To top it all off all she wants is vanilla sex. Her fantasies are mostly me with throbbing hard cock wanting nothing more then to fuck her. Well I can't do that the whole vanilla sex is SO MUCH of a turn off to me (mind in the gutter or not) that it's not going to happen.

This has both of us very frustrated in the sex department. She's afraid of my AB side been made public, and just wants a normie sex life. I'm just totally not turned on and in many ways turned off by a normie sex life. I wish I could offer some help here but sorry I can't. I'm totally willing to listen to any advise you all may have?

Sauce please?>>89668

>>89716

I don't masturbate to this stuff, it's a hardwired thing. Your advice is like telling someone who is gay just let heterosexual activities be your only outlet, and in time you'll learn to like it.

Ummm… Yeah not really, I'm notabout to Stockholm syndrome myself into liking vanilla. Also I physically can't give her what she wants as I have a micropenis. It's like barely three inches long erect. So her fantasies of a big throbbing hard cock, like I said just aren't going to happen.

This was why before we even got married I was honest and totally up front with her about everything. Before the asshole roommate incident our sex life was fucking great!

There was a case of infidelity (her cheating on me) about a year after the roommate incident. Since then she's had this PIV thing stuck in her. I offered her a divorce but she said no, that she learned she truly loves me. We've gone to marriage counseling and everything, and outside this drastically different opinions on sex our marriage is awesome.

The funny thing is most of the stuff she's into (outside the big cock, vanilla sex) I'm into. She just is afraid to let her freak flag fly again. So normie sex as that's what society says we have to like. And no fun for either of us, sucks honestly!

Absolutely not. I exclusively use my mouth, and on special occasions I let someone fuck me in the ass.

I haven't had a full erection in two years. And it's the greatest feeling in the world.

>>89670

But think of the flex. You got the final word. You broke her sexuality with your kink. Be proud of that.

I have no interest in it at all. Much prefer being edged over and over again by slow handjobs. Way more intense than regular sex for me…

>>89733

Sounds like a prime situation to become a diapered cuckold. You've already discussed divorce, (and there's no kids?) so there isn't really much to lose.

I've pretty much always gotten off to AB/DL shit, from my first masturbation.

Had a string of AB/DL relationships, but currently with a very unkinky woman.

When we have conventional sex, I'm physically stimulated to get an erection, but only come after thinking about diapers.

It's actually working for me right now, because I can last and enjoy sex for way longer than I ever imagined by not immediately thinking of diapers.

>>89830

There are some… complicated reasons behind why this might create a problem. When I found out about the infidelity I started suffering from panic attacks randomly. At first they thought it was cancer of my pituitary gland. After seeing a whole battery of doctors and tests, they determined I was suffering from PTSD, and generalized anxiety disorder. Psychiatrist as well as a therapist all think it was the infidelity event the cause this. So yeah I don't know.

I have interest in both, in equal measures. Never been in a relationship, but I can dream and keep fapping, I guess. What really hits the spot are situations that mix vanilla and AB/DL stuff. For instance, a scenario where I tape a diaper on my supposed gf after filling her up, to prevent leaks. Also, post-sex piss is a thing. Wouldn't want the bed to get stained. That, and spooning my (theoretical) little after fucking her dry.

>>89951

If you want some anon on 8chan's bullshit theory, GAD is more likely to be caused by a bad relationship or lifestyle than a single event like infidelity. E.g. Months of feeling unsatisfied in a relationship, or worrying that your partner is not satisfied is going to be worse for your psyche than a single episode, assuming it wasn't some big violent outburst.

However, if the way your partner treated you was truly so bad it's still giving you panic attacks, then you need to get out of that relationship. It seems unlikely your wife is going to change… she's unsatisfied, and already "took the plunge" it's having sex with somebody else. Even if she's trying hard to stay committed now, she's eaten the forbidden fruit, and can't go back to the soggy diaper boy.

>>90368

She's had a real man and micro dick doesn't stack up any more. Frankly letting drug dealers live with you is already says your life is fucked up.

>>89600

If a woman isn't into what you're into there's going to be issues.

>>90368

It wasn't just the infidelity, it was a chain of stuff that ended with the infidelity. Like finding a close friend dead in her house, 2 deaths in the family, a dog and a cat having to be put down, a car wreak, a house fire and a hospital trip for heart problems. The infidelity was just the cherry on a 2 month shit sundae that set off the GAD. (yeah it was a really shitty 2 months) and like I said "outside this drastically different opinions on sex our marriage is awesome."

We BOTH agreed that the Cuckold thing just won't work as she is really bothered by the infidelity. Plus it being the straw the broke the camels back makes both of us a bit….. well nervous to go down that road again. SO it's not just me that is not into the idea of cuckolding it is her too.

>>90373

Ok first off at the time we LET him live with us he wasn't into drugs, he'd just got out of jail and needed a place to live to get his life back on track. As his friend (and trying to see the best in people) we let him live with us and yes he had rules he had to follow, and yes we kicked him to the curb the MINUTE we found out he had broke those rules.

Second we make 300K+ a year, live in a HUGE house on a golf course, have a very nice car and spend a LOT of time doing charity work. Just tonight we had a 50+ people charity event at our home to raise money for special Olympics. I have my own nursery with all the furniture, diapers, clothing, etc. a AB could want. (more then most can dream about) both me and my wife only work about 3 days a week, so if my life sucks I only wish more peoples life sucked as bad as mine.

Don't have any desire for sex at all actually.

Interesting enough I do want a family.

>>90387

why dont you just discuss having a relationship with a professional mommy dom. to get it all out of your system. An outlet. Happy wife, happy life.

Think about it. Wife gets vanilla sex from you again. Disregarding cock size, any woman who loves you won't be loving you only for your dick.

You get mama dom.

>>90387

It's possible to love someone, be best friends with them, want to cuddle with them every night - and just not be sexually compatible. Maybe you're just not meant for a conventional hetero relationship.

Her guilt about cheating on you isn't about herself. She feels bad because she loves you and hates that she hurt you. She would probably still want to cheat if she knew 100% you wouldn't find out about it. But she doesn't - and she hates how it made you feel.

Why not just learn to be okay with her fucking other men for pure carnal pleasure in exchange for, I don't know, fulfilling your own carnal pleasures with a mommy dom or some shit?

Why should two people who love eachother, albeit differently, both deprive themselves of their innate desires because it's taboo to fuck other people?

You don't have to be a cuckold. It can be openly agreed upon and still completely out of sight. Just know most of the nasty feelings we get when people cheat on us (or when we cheat) come from society telling us tha5 it's this huge betrayal that automatically makes the deceived-party weak and pathetic.

You're not weak or pathetic. Your wife still loves you. She just wants to feel another cock. I'm pretty sure you want someone willing to fulfill your diaper fantasies,too.

Lastly: would you love your wife any less after a session with a mommy dom? Probably not.

>>90417

my point exactly (I'm op of ID:1a1427)

i've actually started calling myself "diapersexual" because diapers are the only way i get aroused

like i CAN have sex, it's just that diapers have to be involved somehow

>>93714

i feel similarly about being diapersexual.

I had sex with a girl that I liked, into shotas, I told her I was into being a little/abdl. I was kind of expecting she would be fucking thrilled but she was just kinda accepting of it, stupid I guess since they are not necessarily the same kink. I kinda liked her and I thought she was cool, I'd even dare say I care for her. Still we tried on four different ocassions and I couldn't come, I think she came once or twice but I wouldn't know honestly, I'm a fucking beta. Until she gave me a handjob, not even a blowjob did it for me.

I paid for 6 different prostitutes, affordable but averagely hot. Still couldn't managed to cum by regular fucking. I ended up asking for them to give me a handjob while I sucked her tits and they sang lullabyes to me, only 4 accepted, the other two were two weirded out and just accepted to the handjob while sucking.

I guess my brain is too hardwired with abdl stuff to enjoy vanilla anymore.

Have never been aroused by vanilla. I thought it was just me all this time.

>>89625

this has to be one of the best analogies for any sex fetish

gonna steal it