/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover★

>op here pic is unrelated random image search

maybe your parents weren't around and you missed that connection and subconsciously want to feel that connection of feeling protected. I think that's my story dunno if it fits your possible reason.

>>103603 (OP)

I've had my own theories. I've asked many diaperfags most of them successful individuals with well paying jobs and they all lack any history of abuse. I don't think abuse is a key element in developing this fetish I think it is just based on faulty erotic targeting.

Lets say you were born and given all the love and attention in the world, your infant/toddler years were for lack of a better word perfect. Then as you entered adolescence life was probably still good but for some reason or another maybe your adolescence was comparatively not as prefect resulting in romanticization by the adolescent you of your infant/toddler years.

Then as you enter puberty sexual preference and idealization become forefront with the addition of hormones resulting in your sexual desires being cemented permanently. Due to heavy romanticization of infant/toddler years they become ingrained into you, both sexual and emotionally.

Now the key here is the idea that it isn't romanticization based on abuse, but one that can stem from just mundane preference, just because yesterday was better than today, doesnt mean you suffered, just that you preferred yesterday. Thanks to the addition of hormones that preference becomes ingrained into your very being.

>>103607

(Fairly) Successful individual with a well paying job and lacking any history of abuse here. Just as OP I am not a tranny, trained fast, great childhood, and unlike >>103606 mentioned also a great relationship with parents. In general my life is pretty great, yet I've been into (AB)DL almost my whole life. Unlike others and OP though it's not my "lifestyle" by any means and I just wear occasionally. I also mostly think about it when I am not in a relationship nor seeing someone on the side. Sexuality is weird.

>>103606

> Op here

That makes sense like a lot

Yeah, similar story here. No history of abuse, raised by loving parents, stable household. I just always had an innate interest in diapers, even starting as early as when I was 5/6. Over time, the interest naturally evolved into a fetish. It was really gradual and never felt like there were any major paradigm shifts.

I am the youngest child in my family and I'm several years younger than my siblings. Maybe, because being the youngest by a large margin was integral to the early formation of my identity, infantile behaviors got incorrectly sorted into the "things that make you who you are" category. Idk, maybe everyone becomes a degenerate in their own uniquely sad way.

>>103607

I've always just thought of it as many roads lead to Rome.

Diapers, regression, and all of the different kinds of kinks ABDL can bump into results in many kinds of people just enjoying it.

I'm fairly convinced at this point it's different for everyone, I'd have to agree with >>103686 on this

When diagnosing certain personality disorders, psychologists and psychiatrists tend to apply what's called a "biopsychosocial" model, which looks at the psychology, biology, and social environment of the patient -- of course, some disorders are more bio than soc due to inheritability%, or vice versa, but the point is that nothing occurs in a vacuum

Likewise, I think we could look at paraphilias, this one included, through that filter. Might be innate for some people, for others it may be due to trauma, but the end result is the same due to the social or personal circumstances in place at the right time. The one factor that seems to be pretty across-the-board is puberty - the hormonal tempest that occurs during that time period appears to hardwire the association into people

I have always been into this. When I was around 7 or 8 I would ask to go get items at the grocery store just so i could get away from my parents and go down the baby isle and look at diapers and powders. It's been a part of me since forever.

Same here. Stable, caring, household, not a tranny, 2 brothers and a dog, parents that are still married and been for +30 years, really close with all of my family. No abuse, no trauma. Stable job as a welder. Been somewhat interested for… as long as I can remember.

Then again I'm more of a DL, the whole AB bit isn't my cup of tea. I'm not in to regression or being babied, or any of that sissy humiliation.

I sometimes have wondered it and analyzed it myself, and honestly I don't really have any idea. Only result I can come up with is that using diapers is something different than what we are normally used to, as in needing to wear them in school or as a adult.

And I know people like that. I had a mate in school who wore a diaper, he was probably the most normal and average kid in the school. And as an adult I know one other, but they wear because they were in a motorcycle crash in their late teens and got some kind of injury. He takes it with a jest that of the things he could have lost in the crash, it was a minor loss. And nowadays he uses some sort of implant that controls the bladder, basically a valve. I have absolutely 0 fetish/sexual interested towards these two.

But occasionally, I have had other interests fetish wise also. It isn't like DL is the one and exclusive fetish I have, and even then it is kind of… masturbatory fetish? If I'm with someone in a relationship or sexually I'm not interested at all.

From my own self analysis I suspect my interest came about due to my younger sister being born and stealing the spotlight off of myself as the youngest child. Lil sis was born april, and I remember once I wore a diaper to my kindergarten class which must have been between September and November, so I would have been about 5.5 years old. I continued to knick diapers until she potty trained, but by then the habit and inexplicable desire had set in firmly. I've never had literal AB-style regression desires but maybe it's a subliminal regression back to a point where our mother cared for me the most instead of my little sister. I'm otherwise perfectly healthy, married, earning good salary, parents still together. No trauma here. That's my best guess anyways.

>>103607

this honestly sounds really solid. although i was abused, but i was abused right after i left being a young child, i ended up developing an interest in incontinence in middle school that later turned into a full on diaper fetish although i only get off to online stuff abt it as im not daring enough to bring it into my real life

Tranny here to ruin thread streak. I would suspect in my case it’s due to my younger brother (-13 months) potty training earlier than me. I remember feeling completely fine with using diapers/pull ups just shy of 4 yrs old, but while being changed my mom would be grilling me. “Why can’t you be like your brother! You’re too old for this, you have to go to pre school!”. Next day, I knew I didn’t want to let my little brother 1-up me, or I didn’t want my mom yelling at me. I potty trained overnight after that. I had a thing stealing another sibling’s pacifier at age 5, was caught immediately using it though while hiding somewhere. I wore/used diapers discreetly all through my tweens and teens, without getting caught I think. It wasn’t sexual for me and I only started masturbating at 16 to non-abdl stuff.

>accountant for a financial firm, mid size company

>everyone else saying the same shit

You shouldn’t have to justify it guys. Most adults are employed too. Also I cannot wait to sell our house and build a secret room 8)

>>103813

>Tranny here to ruin thread streak.

Well obviously. I am sure we can all assume you were abused as a child, being a tranny and all.

>You shouldn’t have to justify it guys.

The fuck are you on about?

>Most adults are employed too.

True, but when the median income is $31k I wouldn't call the bottom 50% successful.

>>103815

No child abuse, just a good old, white nuclear family with plenty of pressure to succeed. BPD moms is the connection you’re looking for btw. Also hit enter less often, you look retarded.

>yakyak I think u make less money than me

Lmfao

Same here.

Good childhood, no issues whatsoever.

The only thing i can imagine is me being jelly of my little brother when he was born (i was used to be the "little brother") but that seems natural all in all.

Potty trained as average (2-3) can't fuckin remember.

Never any weird/bad experiences that i can remember.

Today im 23, have my own house, great job, cat and no GF

Massive sperg (ASD) here. I can't tell too much without doxing myself especially on a site like this, but I can tell that autism has played a part in me having this fetish. Diapers are instrically a tactile fetish for me as I really like the feel of wet/messy diapers somehow.

>>103827

I am pretty sure unabused children don't want to cut their dicks off.

>yakyak I think u make less money than me

Well I never said anything about you personally making less money, but nice to see you like most trannies are at the poverty line

>>103603 (OP)

From my brief research in addition to my own story, the genesis of an individual's ABDL fetish is inconclusive. Most researchers site that due to the fetish being clandestine in nature, it's difficult for them to capture enough data to derive a conclusive answer. Although the ones that did survey smaller sample sizes had admittedly speculative answers.

I recently found that my ABDL fetish came to fruition due to my childhood. More specifically, a lack of childhood - I had well-meaning parents that eventually divorced but one was an over-bearing, passive aggressive, overly sensitive helicopter parent while the other was distant, verbally abusive, arrogant, impulsive, financially irresponsible and a raging drunk.

Thus, most of my childhood was spent existing in the valley of dichotomy between my two very different parents, i.e. trying to escape the passive aggressive, highly sensitive, over-the-shoulder shadow cast by one parent by spending more time with the detached, irresponsible, arrogant drunken parent only to endure the fallout from the former later on which was then followed by drunken irresponsible episodes from the latter, leaving me sandwiched in-between with no side being favorable for me to join.

All that to say, in summary my fetish is the result of what I consider to be premature stress (or experiencing consistent levels of stress at an immature age to properly manage it) in addition to a reaction to the power dynamic my parents relationship consistently forced on me.

I, like many others here, became interested in ABDL at a really young age. Although the research has yet to conclude anything empirically, some theorize that the fetish forms at a young age during which sexual imprinting is taking place, but an absence of female/male genitals is replaced with an association to whatever is proximally closest visually or by olfactory. This also applies to other fetishes as well.

I think many of us like to think there should be a prevailing causation for the ABDL fetish among the community, but I tend to think that due to most fetishes having multiple dynamics (ABDL can be AB or DL, or both while also being more preferential towards role play, BDSM, etc) that there's likely a multitude of causations that are all correct answers.

For myself, I enjoy the roleplay dynamic with my wife playing either role. When I'm the one being diapered, it fulfills my desire for stress reduction while also stimulating sexual arousal from the sensual experience of the diaper and the power dynamic she leverages as the dominant. In contrast, when she's the sub, it stimulates my sexual arousal from the same sensual experience but from the opposite perspective while also being in a position to be domineering to her.

All of that, in my opinion, speaks back to one of the three variables of my upbringing; premature stress, parental power-dynamic, or misappropriated sexual imprinting.

Below are links to information I've read previously in my own search for my own fetish genesis.

https://www.routledge.com/Variant-Sexuality-Routledge-Revivals-Research-and-Theory/Wilson/p/book/9780415729895

https://medcraveonline.com/MOJAMT/the-use-of-cognitive-behavioural-therapy-on-two-case-reports-of-paraphilic-infantilism-substance-misuse-and-childhood-abuse.html

https://books.google.com/books?id=5bAPxqDyFxUC&pg=PA530#v=onepage&q&f=false

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29525580/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7068517/

And, of course, can't forget about Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilic_infantilism#cite_note-Cantor-16

>>103835

>have my own house, great job, cat and no GF

Sounds good.