That sounds severe, but I don't have such a video or book for you I'm sorry to say.
Have you tried changing your routine around a bit to get more of a grip on things? Do you have any family members you could talk to for advice or your feelings? Do you have any social settings that you enjoy were you can meet new people? Have you tried reformating your time to make room for training by sacrificing another leisure activity? Have you tried looking for another job? Have you taken a long and thorough look at your mindset and still come to the conclusion you have achieved nothing or are working towards nothing?
At the end of the day, I think it does come down to willpower and motivation though. Other people can help you, and certain situations make it easier, but you yourself have to turn that switch in your head on when and how much effort you're going to put into anything.
I know it most likely feels useless after failing for a long time, but giving up is plainly not an option. As long as you control the nerves going through your muscles telling them to move, you can stop fapping and make things happen.
You can do it anon \ツ/
