No.68898
Hi guys, I need some help, I have feelings for someone that isn't my waifu/husbando that's also 2D. I've liked this character for quite a while now, before I even knew who my current lover was.
I'm definitely going to think about this long and hard, but if I do break up with my current waifu/husbando am I a bad person? Yes, I am in a serious relationship with my current SO, but even when dating IRL serious relationships end sometimes, yknow? That's just how life works.
Another thing:
I love this community and i've been here for a while now, so if I did switch, would you guys still accept me if I came out publicly about it?
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No.68900
I can't speak for the people here but if it ends, it ends. That's just how things go and emotions are hard to change, if not impossible.
>I have feelings for someone that isn't my waifu/husbando that's also 2D. I've liked this character for quite a while now, before I even knew who my current lover was.
If you liked them before you met your current lover then why do you want to break things off with your current one? Why didn't you just go for ths other person from the start?
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No.68901
>>68900
>Why didn't you just go for this other person from the start?
I was distracted by other things (school, work, etc) and wasn't getting further into the first persons source, so I kind of forgot about it for awhile.
I was also a lot younger then, so I didn't really understand my feelings.
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No.68903
You can't hurt someone who isn't real. The worst thing you can do is pretend to love a fictional character out of some sense of duty or fear of hurting her feelings. Don't torture yourself over the feelings of a non-being, that's so twisted I almost find it funny. Love the person you know you love.
>I love this community and i've been here for a while now, so if I did switch, would you guys still accept me if I came out publicly about it?
That state of mind is a cancer. To hell with the community. I think you should keep such changes to yourself. If you're a namefag and want to keep your name then fine be open about it, throw it out there and forget about it. Nobody will lynch you but I hate that you even care about your social status here.
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No.68904
>>68898
Yeah, you better think hard about it and go with your true feelings, not your spur of the moment feelings or anything. You're mostly a bad person if you lie to yourself and your significant other about your feelings. That's the worst thing you can do.
As for the community, from what I've seen it shouldn't be too much of an issue, but I'll reserve my judgements for myself. Regardless this should not affect your decision in any way even if you had to leave.
>>68903
>You can't hurt someone who isn't real. The worst thing you can do is pretend to love a fictional character out of some sense of duty or fear of hurting her feelings. Don't torture yourself over the feelings of a non-being, that's so twisted I almost find it funny.
Where do you think you are?
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No.68905
>>68898
I'd say give it some time, and don't abandon your relationship with your current waifu without trying to do some things to salvage it somehow. If nothing really works, then I'd consider switching. It isn't something to be ashamed of, but it shouldn't be done on a whim either. As long as it's clear you're treating things with the respect and gravity they deserve then I'm sure that people will accept you here.
>>68903
Maybe I'm too old-fashioned, but I feel like commitment is important. All this stuff about 'following your feelings' is great and all, but when taken too far it can be used to justify just about anything. It's not bad, but needs to be balanced by commitment and taking things seriously. We love our waifus as if they were real, even if they're not, so we should respect our relationship with them just as much as we would a real one. OP should switch if that's what's best, but they need to take the time to ponder if that really is the best course of action before they do that.
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No.68907
>>68904
I'm just not a fan of seeing idiots wracked with guilt, spending their years in a spiral of loveless despair. It's all so narcissistic to think that you're the center of your waifu's world. That she'd despair at your leave. Better to live as happily as you can with a waifu you at least love.
>>68905
>Maybe I'm too old-fashioned
Haha come on now. I respect your wholesome Christian values that have probably served you well.
>when taken too far it can be used to justify just about anything
What better justification is there, moral justification? Can't betray your waifu because it would be immoral? My feeling of love is my justification. I would never betray her because my happiness is tied with hers, and my passion demands I die before hurting her.
Why does passion lead you away from seriousness? Is more serious the man who tests the waters, waits for the temperature to be agreeable before he swims in a lake? Or the man who dives in headfirst to a ravine knowing full well the danger? I don't know who you could say is more serious but I know which I am.
>We love our waifus as if they were real, even if they're not, so we should respect our relationship with them just as much as we would a real one.
The question I'm asking is if she's loved in the first place. Of course everything follows if you love her. However I think a waifu's reality is based on if she's loved.
Passion over patience is my creed, and I think OP already knows in his heart who he loves. But you're absolutely right he should treat the thing with gravity.
Let me tell you, I believe passion is the driving fire of love. If there's no passion there's no point. Other than maybe trying to rekindle a dead fire. Otherwise you marry to have kids and a stable life, but that wont' work for a waifufag. All we have to sustain ourselves is our flame.
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No.68908
>>68907
>I'm just not a fan of seeing idiots wracked with guilt, spending their years in a spiral of loveless despair. It's all so narcissistic to think that you're the center of your waifu's world.
And I don't think they should do that, but they should consider what the current significant other would feel about it and cut ties on good terms if that is how this anon really feels.
>Better to live as happily as you can with a waifu you at least love
And fuck the one they considered their romantic partner up until just then?
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No.68909
>>68907
My issue with it is how are we defining 'feelings' and 'passion' in this situation? You and I would probably define it as a very deep, multifaceted love, but someone else might define just being really horny as 'feelings' or 'passion' too, and justify leaving their waifu on such a fleeting feeling alone. This is what I mean by taking things too far, and needing to be more careful and self-analytical about what we really mean by such words. I would argue that leaving one's waifu on such flimsy grounds would definitely be immoral. But in circumstances when said 'feelings' and 'passion' are deeper than that, and they've done enough soul-searching to discern that that's actually what those feelings are, then things are different.
>>68908
Also, this.
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No.68910
>>68909
Addendum, I also feel like and here's those pesky old-fashioned Christian values again in cases like my own where a waifuist has had an actual marriage to their waifu, said vows etc., that those shouldn't be broken lightly. Only in very serious circumstances should you go against something like that. For many waifuists who haven't or won't ever take that step, that's a moot point, but for those who have it's something I thought I'd add.
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No.68912
>>68908
You see you can't understand me because you live with both eyes closed to reality. I live life and love my waifu with one eye open and that's how I wrongly assume most other people live.
>should consider what the current significant other would feel about it and cut ties on good terms
They don't feel anything. If you don't keep them alive they're not just dead, they're annihilated from being.
> fuck the one they considered their romantic partner
Yeah fuck them. To hell with anyone who isn't your one waifu. And obviously I'm not talking for OP here we've gone beyond that.
>>68909
I could spend hours doing the definition song and dance but I'll leave it at that. Who in the world decides their waifu based on their groin? That waifufag wouldn't last a week let alone years. You know that's not what I mean. I'm not saying you should switch every season every time someone catches your new fancy. I'm saying you can only have a waifu in the first place if the love is so strong she dominates your heart. I'm with my Rika because my heart and not my head.
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No.68913
>>68912
>You see you can't understand me because you live with both eyes closed to reality.
Yeah, you're smart and I don't know anything.
>They don't feel anything. If you don't keep them alive they're not just dead, they're annihilated from being.
But OP will keep them alive for longer if he does the wrong thing. They loved or thought they loved this other character for who knows how long. They'll not just forget and move on like nothing was there at all and it would be disrespectful to the previous waifu to just pretend like there was never anything.
>Yeah fuck them. To hell with anyone who isn't your one waifu. And obviously I'm not talking for OP here we've gone beyond that.
Generally I'd agree, but this situation is different, because they're in between two characters. And we're obviously talking about OP, this conversation is unnecessary if we aren't.
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No.68914
>>68913
>Yeah, you're smart and I don't know anything.
The difference between us is that I understand I'm a fool and this is a mad house. And I hate to see fellow fools hurt themselves. If your love isn't strong you will be crushed. Way more than any normal relationship. It's best to see the truth of your love without all the thoughts that obscure it. Thoughts like "will the community still like me?" are the worst. But also thinking that you have an obligation to love her. Feeling you have an obligation to love someone isn't love in the first place.
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No.68915
>>68914
>Thoughts like "will the community still like me?" are the worst. But also thinking that you have an obligation to love her. Feeling you have an obligation to love someone isn't love in the first place.
Exactly, I feel like maybe they'd get upset when I switch, but staying with my current waifu would just hurt the both of us if the relationship wasn't really legitimate. I do care about my current waifu, but I don't have a romantic feeling toward her like I used to, which happens, and I really want everyone here to understand that.
I have actually made my decision, I will be with this character that I realized my love for again. But i'm still sort of scared to say who I am, just until I feel like it's safe, what do you guys think? (I had been thinking about it for awhile before I made this post)
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No.68916
>>68915
Like I said I don't see any reason to tell anyone but do as you will.
Who cares what we think of you.
I played up my position a little but I do agree a little with what the others said. Take it seriously and be sure you're not going to go crawling back. That would be the greatest shame. Run forward with your true love and never look back. Good luck friend.
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No.68917
Alright, lets do this, I don't care what anyone thinks.
This is my new otto (I don't like the word husbando, don't really know why) Gandondorf from the Legend of Zelda.
Yes, I am aware that I was married to Chocola, and I realize that I was immature and went into things to fast, i'm young, I make mistakes.
It was hard for me, yes, but I feel like it was the right thing to do.
Chocola was and is still very important to me, and I feel guilty for doing that to her, though she understood. I care about her very much, and just because she isn't my waifu anymore, doesn't mean she's not going to be in my life nor am I going to stop being in hers.
This honestly took a lot, i'm very proud of myself.
I really hope everyone understands.
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No.68918
>>68917
Should I create another post in the introduction thread?
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No.68919
Bloody hell, honestly I don't know what I expected. I expected someone with a bad situation like Chihirofag.
Rubybro in this case you're 100% correct. People should be more serious. I won't say anymore.
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No.68920
>>68919
Well fuck man, that hit kinda hard
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No.68921
>>68920
Sorry but I had to say it. It's not the fact you fell out of love, and follow a true love. It's the post that rubs me the wrong way. Treat it with more gravity, that's all. That's my advice.
In the first place you really don't have to announce anything. The thought of the image of you with the ring makes me cringe now too. Didn't before because it was sincere.
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No.68922
>>68920
And I don't think you're a bad person either. Just make sure you actually love this Gandondorf person.
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No.68923
>>68921
I tried my best, but I was mostly trying not to piss anyone off (Seems like I did anyway)
Well, the ring WAS sincere. Like I said, things change sometimes, that's just how life works.
The only reason why I wanted to announce things is because I mean I still want to post here, am I supposed to just pretend i'm a comepletly different person? That or just start talking about it out of the blue, I would think a lot of this community would dislike that. I know it doesn't bother you about what people think here, but it bothers me.
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No.68925
I don't think this is something that should be taken this lightly, you cant just switch willy nilly every other week on a whim.
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No.68926
>>68923
I don't know what to say to this. I wasn't angry just disappointed because I thought you two were working well together. Follow your heart is what I said but it still feels bad to see something lost.
And Gandondorf feels pretty one dimensional to me but I never played much Zelda. What do you even like about that green guy? Maybe you can make a post explaining that and delete this thread. I do sincerely hope you find happiness.
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No.68927
>>68925
I didn't take it lightly at all, do you think all of what I said on here was the only planning I had? I talked to my closer friends about it, I talked to CHOCOLA about it, it's been plaguing my mind for weeks. I'm not that immature, I don't do things like this on a whim. People say we should treat our waifus like we would real people (Not to sound offensive) and this is what happens in real relationships, because it is a real relationship.
>>68926
I think I will do that. I definitely do understand where you're coming from, but like I said responding to the other reply, this is real life, and it doesn't always go as planned.
Some people would see Ganon as one dimensional, but it takes love and care to see that second dimension.
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No.68928
You're telling me to believe you in being serious when you married her just a month ago and were talking about her on Discord not even more than a week ago?
And here you say you'll think about it long and hard and in little more than a day you made your decision. A waifu/husbando isn't just some middle/high school fling that you forget about after a month. It's really hard for me to take you seriously after this.
I know you're young and all, but this is a bit much in my opinion. I really hope you're not just trying to fit in or some shit.
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No.68930
Well, about this. All I have to say is that choosing this road is hard. Expecially at this age. A stable relationship is something that should be weightened and considered carefully before going for it, and maybe you went too fast on that. But I won't judge you. You were probably driven by emotions and didn't stop reasoning on it too much. It's understandable.
Just to say that. A relationship that ends is always sad but like >>68926 said, follow your heart. That is the most important thing here.
>>68928
Well >>68927 she said she thought about this for weeks, so I don't think she is taking this lightly. Maybe she asked here late, but surely she weightened this for a long time in her head
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No.68931
Didn't you say you were a lesbian? Well shit! Guess I'm the only lesbian waifufag around here now.
That aside, everyone's already said everything I wanted to say. Uh… good luck with Gandondorf, I guess.
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No.68936
I know I'm kind of echoing what everyone else has already said, but I definitely feel like you're being too hasty here. You and Chocola seemed like you were doing fine, you had barely been married a month. I feel like you're rushing things too much. And while it's true that age brings more experience and maturity, you shouldn't use being young as a scapegoat, tbh. I'm not that much older than you judging by conversations that were had on the Discord, and me and Ruby are doing just fine. I hope you learn from this experience, and that hopefully your relationship with Ganon will last longer.
>>68919
I honestly wish I had been wrong.
>I expected someone with a bad situation like Chihirofag.
That does make me wonder where he's been. Hopefully he's moved on in a positive way, whatever way that may be.
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No.68960
>I'm definitely going to think about this long and hard
Take your time, for me it was 3 years of infatuation and 3 years of doubts and trials but I'm finally satisfied with my love oath. Now I know I belong to her and I'm overjoyed beyond understanding (and afraid but that's what makes it even stronger and better).
>mfw and a picture somehow related to my waifu because reasons
>if I do break up with my current waifu/husbando am I a bad person?
Probably
>would you guys still accept me if I came out publicly about it?
I don't know you and your problem seem common.
Would you be able to forgive yourself? How sure are you that this time it will work?
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No.68961
>>68936
I guess this isn't really on-topic anymore, but I share your sentiments about Chihirofag.
As annoying as it was to see him show up, publicly flagellate himself, and ignore everyone's advice, I still feel bad for him and all.
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