/kind/ - Random Acts of Kindness★

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Ye

>Have you ever been in love?

Ye

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Ye

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I would like to date someone who is kind and funny and passionate

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Don't be strategic. Make your life simpler, always take the high road and treat others with respect and dignity and the healthy relationship will follow naturally. Have good intentions and try new things!

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No not a proper one anyway

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes but always unrequitted love

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Not that I can think of

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

Currently none. Any person who's female and nice and likes me too.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

I think it's a waste of time. Make it your priority to get a good job and make money instead.

I miss him so much it's killing me, and its totally unjustified. Why the hell can't I get over him? Why do I admire someone who I don't have many great memories with in the first place? Why do I still want someone that long ago I accepted as romantic impossibility? Is it normal to be desperate to resuscitate your dead friendship when it burned you in critical moments? Is it normal to want friendship with someone who treated you like a cheap skank, or to make matters worse crush on such a person?

I just wish I could let go but I truly love him and that part reminds me all day long that he was important and special and even if he didn't know it he still turned my life around. It stops me dead in my tracks when I think of how I can't see him for the rest of my fucking life, that all the time I imagined what fun we'd have next is complete fantasy.

/kind/ I'm driving myself insane trying to move on.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

N-no

>Have you ever been in love?

Depends on how you define that. I have no metric to accurately say if I was in Love.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No

>What kind of person do you want to date?

I don't even know

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

>implying

>>16044

>non-ironically suggesting people to lift

>>16044

>non-ironically suggesting people to lift

>>16054

Who gives le shit my friendo

It's not even a skill to lift heavy things.

>>16059

>le

>implying heavy lifting has to be a skill

>implying above average physical ability isn't even if its not a skill

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes, for about 7 months back when I was 17. Before that I had a bunch of internet-only 'relationships'.

>Have you ever been in love?

Not really I guess.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yep.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

A cute sadistic loli (obviously won't happen ;_;) / Not dating anyone right now and very likely never will again, but I'm fine with that.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Enjoy being single too, it's awesome. Relationships are overrated so don't force yourself into one just because it's what society tells you to do. Either go for your dream girl/guy or stay single. Anything inbetween sucks.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yep, twice. Currently in a long distance one.

>Have you ever been in love?

I'm not really sure. And judging by that answer, probably not.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yep. As well as some girl who wasn't my gf. Probably should've acted on that, but… eh.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

Shy/cute girl I met on exchange in Japan. I'm ok for lots of different kinds of people though.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Not really, sorry.

>>15965 (OP)

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes right now

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I have imagined a dream girl and I met one such girl but it's hard to get her to love me back

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Don't give up I guess?

So how do I make this qt my gf?

Weve been talking a Lot and I think it might be time for the next step. Problem is she's a really busy girl and I dont know how to find time to ask her to do shit together. I dont even want to ask her anymore because she Simply never has time and it might be annoying when I always push the topic.

Note that I dont even ask like for a date just to hang out and do shit together. To be honest I dont think id even be ckmfortable with a real date, you know ging to Dinger at some semi fancy place. It's too official to be ckmfortable for me.

I just want to keep it cool and see where we could go from there.

Right now the only Chance I have to get to see her is this Festival next week we both Plan to attend with our separate friend Groups

>>16240

Chances are that if you're here, you've already failed.

Check out >>>/girltalk/

Ask them for advice too.

b:>>16241

Thanks for the encouragement.

My first relationship lasted less than a month and i'm confused as fuck.

Can i write a wall of text here?

I need to vent, because frankly i'm feeling like shit.

>>16251

Yes do write it down maybe we can learn something from your experience

>>16252

I'll try to write it down as best as i can. English is not my first language.

I met her at my classes in college. Actually i knew her since at least two years ago, but only in the last semester we started to get close, in a very organic way (with this i mean that it "just happened", i didn't use any PUA tricks or anything like that.) She is maybe a 7/10, although she has only had one boyfriend who left her because she didn't want to have sex. So she was as inexperienced as i was.

We started to get closer and closer, and she started to ask to get together to study and so. We had fun together, she laughed at every single moronic thing i said, and by the way she looked at me i thought she was interested. I was falling in love quite quickly, and i was sure she was too, but i was too much of a pussy to act on it. That, and the fact that because i know mostly everyone in the courses, i didn't want to create an uncorfortable situation between us, because there was the chance that i might be wrong about her liking me.

>>16254

>contd

So the end of the semester arrived, we had our last midterm tests. We both belong to a relatively big group of friends and we arranged to go the cinema after these tests. While we were somewhere around 15 people to go watch a movie, we ended up being 5. The thing is, she really wanted to go, she even spammed people in our group to please go so she had an excuse to see me. In any case i already have told her that i would have gone one on one with her, and she seemed quite happy with that.

Well, the five of us (this girl included, let's call her M to make this abortion of a story a little less confusing) went to the cinema and then to have some drinks at a pub. After that, we decided to go to a club. I didn't want to go, but M insisted to go to the club, and i ended up accepting. After a while of me failing horribly at dancing, and some half-assed flirting,she said that she wanted to go outside a bit with me to catch some fresh air.

We made out like for two hours, she was really into me . For 2 hours i felt fucking great, the happiest i have been in a long time. I just couldn't believe a girl that i was getting in love with liked me back. It was surreal.

I forgot to tell you, back at the pub, the girls in the group (M and two other girls) went to the restroom, and i asked the remainging guy (who is a friend of her, and is gay) if she liked me. He told me that she had told him that she was extremely happy because i was into him. Going to the club was just an excuse she wanted to have to make out with me.

>>16255

>contd

At the end of the night, we agreed to see each other again. However, M lives outside the city, and she went to her hometown for two weeks.

She came back because she had to give an exam, only one, but of course i told her to go out Saturday night on the weekend she was here. She agreed, and we went to a little Irish pub that she later told me she loved it.

We had fun, we talked a lot between us, we enjoyed each other company, and again we made out like horny fifteen years old. I left her at ther home, and unfortunately two of the other four girls she lives with found us making out at the door and that kind of killed the mood. But that's ok, sex could wait, after all i had a wonderful night with her, i really had fun with her. I was a happy man.

After this she went out to her hometown again, but just for a week this time. When she came back, she had a birthday party on the saturday of the next weekend, and we had a meet up with our mutual friends on friday.

>>16257

>contd

So we went to this meet up. She had already told me that she wanted to keep our relationship a secret for the time being, so we acted as if nothing happened between us on that friday. We still had fun, and she told me to see each other again this Sunday.

She had to go and have dinner with his brother who is also studying in the capital city at night, so we agreed to meet at more or less 5 PM. We went and had some coffee, however i noticed she was a little bit colder than usual. On the way back, i tried to kiss her, but then she pushed me away and threw the bomb. I just want to be friends, we are going to be seeing each other too much at college, but i still had a lot of fun with you. No more explanations, i said to still try, that i thought that this was worth the effort, and finally we ended up kissing. I said to try it, and before closing the door on me she said maybe.

I was confused as fuck, didn't know what the fuck to do.

>>16258

>contd

I was extremely confused. I didn't know what to do.

Her male friend (the one who was at the pub with us) spoke to me, he told me it was kind of fucked up, and told me that basically she wasn't that much into me, like that when we talked i didn't care about what she said and vice-versa (lol wut). Not only that, but she told him this all the while crying that she will end up all alone and shit like that. He told me that he didn't know in all honesty if i had chances with her or not. Another friend of mine is helping me with my morale, which frankly isn't the best it can be (although i make it look like i'm OK when i'm with people).

I found out she likes going to museums and stuff like that, so i'm planning to ask her next friday to meet to talk about what's going between us next saturday, i just hope she wants to talk about it and try it out. Or maybe she asks me to talk about it in the spot. Or maybe she tells me to go and fuck myself.

I don't know, i thought we had something nice going on, but i guess good times never last.

Ask me whatever you want, because frankly i don't know what to teach you with this experience.

And sorry if this is a grammatical horror, i'm not used to writing such long posts, and it's even harder to be as cold as possible about something that hits me so hard.

Thank you for your time anons.

>>16259

Women how do they work

>>16260

Now that I am at my pc I can give a more thought out reply.

Women don't always make sense to normal people.

Maybe she was just afraid of your relationship getting too serious too quickly or something like that. Maybe she's anxious about it and is just trying to run away so she doesn't have to deal with her feelings.

>>16263

I'm the anon of the story. I'm not the one you replied to, but you might be right.

Still, it saddens me. I thought i had something nice going on for me, but now i have nothing.

>>16264

Oh fuck, i thought you were different people. My bad.

>>16264

Yeah but think of it this way, you got to experience something beautiful a lot of people me will likely not experience within the next 15 years

>>16266

But i don't think this even qualifies for a relationship. It was less than a month, and i didn't even have sex. Ask any random people on the street and i doubt that too many would tell you that such a short thing can be qualified as a relationship.

It's like i had a delicious cake, and all i could do was taste the frosting.

>>16267

At least you got to taste the frosting, son.

All I know is looking at the delicious cake and seeing other people eat it while I sit here eating my own shit.

>>15965 (OP)

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Several of them, although none of them were really very good and most of them were with people who turned out to be crazy, abusive, or at best merely exhausting and incompatible.

>Have you ever been in love?

I don't honestly know anymore. I think I thought so on a few occasions, but now I'm not sure whether I really was or whether I was just lonely.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes. It is absolutely the most awesome thing in the world if it's with someone you're at least comfortable with. It's excrutiatingly unpleasant with someone you're not comfortable with.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I guess I could rattle off a list of characteristics (at least as thin as I am, self-sufficient, intelligent, calm, twisted and irreverent sense of humour, nonreligious, shared political views, small and non-saggy boobs because for some reason any other kind are a turn-off). But I think what I really need is someone who is more complimentary than similar, in a way -- someone who is actually good with emotions and willing to deal with the fact that I'm not; someone who is actually cheerful and energetic and outgoing without being obnoxious about it; someone who actually has some semblance of self-esteem and isn't obnoxious about that either. But I'm speculating, and increasingly, despite the loneliness, I'm not sure I really want another relationship anymore.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Loneliness is not the worst thing that can happen to you, it only feels that way until you learn otherwise the hard way.

>>16260

Yeah when you figure that out please notify me immediately

>>16259

I don't know if it helps, well it probably doesn't, but I'm with you in spirit friend. Kind of the same thing happened to me, I think our girls got anxious about us "rushing" (lol I know, I know, we weren't fucking rushing, but they're women so their logic is all fucked up) into a relationship. But I'll pray we both get one more roll of the dice with our respective girls. Stay strong friend.

>>16332

Thank you anon. I even tried to show a bit of disinterest and do shit like not texting her 24/7 to seem like i was taking it slow… and yet i got fucked over.

I hope you get lucky too. I will wait until next weekend to see what happens. I hope she asks to get back with me. I hope the same happpens to you.

>>16268

I feel like an asshole by rubbing this in your face anon, sorry.

>>16350

Don't forget that whatever happens, /kind/ will listen if you want to talk about it.

>24 years old

>never had sex

>never had a relationship

>never even been on a date

I feel it's to late to do all these things for the first time at my age.

And what woman would even be patient enough to teach this shit to me.

>>16394

First time I had sex was at 25.

However, it's unfair to expect a relationship partner to do all the work. I don't know you, so I don't know WHY you haven't been on a date, etc. There is really no dishonor in seeing a therapist to help work on whatever issues are challenging you, though.

>>16396

No girl ever asked me out a d i never asked a girl out. So maybe that's the reason.

>>15965 (OP)

im literally in love with a 2D anime girl who is not real

lmaooo

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

I'm in one currently.

>Have you ever been in love?

Incredibly in love right now.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Frequently.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

He's quiet but the smartest person I know as well as have ever met. He's incredibly good to me. He has a brilliant smile. We care about the same things and don't care at all about the same things.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Be yourself. It's lame, I know, but it's honest. If you aren't yourself, you end up with some one who likes this fabrication of you, not actually you, and you won't be satisfied or it won't last.

>>16350

So dude, what happened? Did you talk with her?

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Nope, cant say i have.

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes but it always ended badly, i try my hardest to never think romantically of any girl so that I dont get used and abused emotionally.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I dont ask for much, just a girl that loves me or at the very least that cares about me.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

You shouldnt ask me, all my "relationships" ended badly orndidnt last for more than 2 weeks.

Avoid sentimentalism unless you know the girl actually likes you, people in love are easily manipulated.

>>16909

Yes, i did.

She basically told me that it's over.

She said that i:

-Went a little too fast

-That we are too different

-That i don't listen to her

-That she was just trying things with me, nevermind she was the one who started pursuing me in the first place

And the best part is that at the end of our talk she lectured me about how these things happen a lot and that i should basically just suck it up.

I told her there was a physical spark between us, that i wanted this to go on, but to no avail.

I feel like shit.

In the bible i wrote before, i forgot to tell you about or date on our own. We went out to an irish pub, and damn, was she physical with me. The only reason i didn't have sex is because when we went back to her house the girls she lives with discovered us before doing the thing, and after that she didn't want to do anything else.

I'm confused, a bit angry with myself, but above all sad. I really thought we were compatible, that i found someone who i could just meet to do some simple things together.

Guess it's fapping for now on.

By the way, sorry about taking so long for writing. Yesterday we talked about our relationship, and i was feeling too shitty to come here and write. Thank you for taking your time to read all that i wrote.

I am a 20 year old virgin and never been on a date

>>16961

You still have plenty of time.

>>16965

I don't even know if i'm nice, that's not for me to say. We usually make horrible judges about our own being.

And i can't even be mad at her. I don't see what she did wrong to me, i mean, she didn't insult me or anything like that.

It's my fault for getting my hopes up, it's just that i thought because this girls has little to no experience in these things, and doesn't want casual flings, i thought maybe she was gf material. And i was happy when i knew she was into me.

But i don't know now.

>>16967

I'm just mad, anon. My girl was the same. Didn't want no casual fling, and I told her that great, because neither do I. That we should take it slow, even though we've been on friendly terms, in the same group of friends etc., for like two years. Then she does everything to "sabotage" the relationship so that it is literally impossible that it could ever become serious. Makes me mad, you know? She says one thing and then acts totally opposite. Sigh I need to fap. I'm wrecked emotionally.

>>16970

You actually did a fairly good summary of what went on with me and this girl.

Holy shit, it's almost the same fucking thing.

>>16971

It just saddens me. I was actually happy during the time this worked. Not euphoric, but a calm, happy peace of mid, hard to describe, it isn't my natural state.

And then she goes and shits over everything because who knows why. The only thing this could be worse is if she now realises she wants to slut it up.

>>16973

You aren't.

Hell, i wouldn't be surprised if more anons come out of the woods and say they had some kind of crazy experience like this. It seems that nowadays being a man who wants to have just one woman to share some time with and yes, have sex with, it's an abomination or something like that that deserves nothing good.

>>16974

It's even stranger in my case, because both me and the girl are religious. This should be our future. Instead I'm fapping to Okita Anri on the verge of crying.

>>16972

Well at least my crush won't slut it up, reasons mentioned above. Worst thing that could happen is that she marries some tool and I'll get to look at pictures of them and their tool children on social media. Wait this sounds worse than the slut thing…

>>16975

I don't really see my crush becoming a slut.

The fun part is that she is worried that no one likes her or that she doesn't like anyone, kek. Maybe she wants a fucking blue prince, i don't know.

I have come to the conclusion that religion means shit to women, unless it's firmly established in the culture they live in. Otherwise it's just like some kind of fashion statement to them.

>>16975

Woah, the image of her marrying someone and having children it's extremely painful, for us.

I hope it doesn't happen…

Who am i kidding, it is what is going to happen.

>>16977

We can always just pull out of social media and never look up our respective crushes every again. Which is probably what I'm gonna do after finishing University next year. Gonna be a funky year, having to go to the same classes as her. I do wonder what's going to happen. I don't know if this is punishment for crimes I never did or me getting another chance at this.

Hey guys. Whatever happens, tell me and each other in this thread. It's what we're here for.

>>16978

I too have to take the same classes as her.

Worst part is that i'm friend of all her friends, they even wanted us to be together.

And now she complains that things will be akward in class. I just can't understand this shit, differential equations are way simpler than this.

>>16978

At least we aren't alone in such a shitty situation.

It's no consolation, but it is what we have.

I also can't stop hoping she will turn 180 degrees again and come back… This is what hurts the most.

>>16975

> both me and the girl are religious.

Found your problem, friend.

>>16979

Hah yeah, the friends thing. Same here, everyone was rooting for us. Even the token "I have four boyfriends" slut, the token "I only care about my career" guy, everyone in our course. Hurts like fuck. I can't go back there smiling. I'll break down mentally… and I only have two weeks to figure this out.

>>16980

Reminds me of my brother-in-law once jokingly telling me he actually envies gay people because they probably don't have to put up with all this craziness and illogical bullshit. Just go home, grab a beer, watch the game, talk about cars, fuck, done.

>>16983

It's really not like we were the biggest saints, we just had a strong moral background and were raised in a loving environment. So it was hardly a problem. Exactly the kind of environment I'd want for my only-imaginary-for-now kids.

>>16984

Most people nowadays get triggered when you have strong values about something.

Sad but true.

>>16984

I never thought i would met someone with almost exactly my situation on a chan.

Guess life is full of surprises.

Thank you for listening anon.

>>17020

It's a small world, friend.

>>17074

Have you played videogames with this steam friend before? What were the circumstances that led to this new friend? While I can understand not wanting to play videogames right now, conversation does tend to flow easily once you both start playing together.

Sorry for resurrecting the thread, /kind/, i'm the anon from the story started at

>>16254

I just can't get over this shit. I feel down all the time, it is fucking with my sleep schedule, and it makes focusing on things very hard.

What the fuck can i do? I'm feeling horrible, i don't know what to do.

>>17223

Mention the topic you want to talk about and see if they go along with it.

>>17205

Hi. It's >>16970 and >>16332 here (and many other replies are mine)

You shouldn't feel sorry for ressurrecting the thread. It was alive anyway. I'm checking it daily for replies I can sympathise with, and I'll shamelessly "necro" it if anything happens to me in the near future. Which is very likely…

I personally dealt with the crushing gravity of the dark void inside by applying for a summer internship. I've been working this month and will work til the Fall semester starts (and that's when shit gets serious). I can kind of manage not to think about the girl a 100% of the time this way. Of course this gets harder and ahrder as the semester approaches. Outside of work, I think about her a lot, but I try to concentrate on happy things. or things about her that make me happy. I still pray to God every night to keep her safe, for what it's worth.

So try doing something friend. Maybe start jogging, or origami, dunno. Something that helps you tune out of your personal woes for a while.

Hopefully this helps. I'll be back when something noteworthy happens.

>>17293

Thank you for your kindness, i already try to keep myself occupied.

I still can't believe she left, i still hope she will turn around. It's this hope that hurts. But it's weird because i realized i actually don't want to lose hope, so in a way i'm being a masochist.

And this 23th it's her birthday, it buggers me that we can't share a nice time. I just wanted to make her happy that day.

So, only time will help me in this case? I hate not being able to do things to fix stuff.

>>17294

On the topic of birthdays..hers is literally on an Imagine Dragon concert date in January… and they're her favourite band.You know when I think about the potential relationhip that didn't happen it feels like there aren't any fucking coincidences…I mean come on. Her favourite band announces a concert 40 miles away from us on her birthday. It feels like the devil trying to fuck with me through hope. Hoping sucks, man.

>>17294

>>17301

I forgot to add that I'm not telling you to stop hoping, just because it fucking sucks right now. I'd say never give up hope until your heart's still beating.

>>17301

Damn, that sucks man. You can't be any more unlucky. Do you like that band too?

>>17302

I just want another chance.

I feel so retarded writing this, but it's the truth.

>ask girl to do shit

>she never has time

>ask her wtf is up with that

>she says she's actually busy AND doesn't want me to think it's a date

Bitches and whores amiright?

Seriously though, I don't even care at this point in my life anymore if it's going to be a date or not. I just need to spend time with a pretty girl

>>17364

>>17365

This is not really helping.

>>17312

Yeah I like some of their songs, others are really not my style though.

I feel retarded every time I dream that we are married or something like that. Well, whatever.

Feels good to know you're not the only "retarded" one out there, right?

>>17367

I used to be retarded like that.

Glad I am not anymore. Nothing worse than loving somebody.

>>17365

They really gave Yamasaki a shitty voice actor in the dub.

>>17372

I dunno.. I thought overall the dub was pretty decent.

>>17367

Same here.

I just came back from class, it's fucking killing me sharing the same place as her and not being able to do anything with her. I get along with literally everyone else on my courses, but the only one i really care about now doesn't want to be with me. I still am waiting for her to come back.

But she won't, and this saddens me a lot.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2722779/Japans-sex-doll-industry-reaches-level-creation-perfect-artificial-1-000-Dutch-Wife-comes-realistic-feeling-skin.html

Tangentially related thingy

>>17397

What a time to be alive.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No, and I hope I won't be at my current age. S-sorry /kind/, am I too young to p-post here?

>Have you ever been in love?

Many times, and not just in the "puppy love" sense. Every girl I loved, I loved with a burning passion. I felt like I actually loved her and wanted to be with her, not just screw her and move on after a month.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

D-does spooning two of my best male friends as a joke count…?

>What kind of person do you want to date?

Well, my current crush is a person who pretty much fills all my standards: confident, kind, funny, intelligent, artistic, stylish, and somewhat orderly. My only problem with her is that her political orientations don't match up with mine, although that's something I never discussed with her for the sake of retaining our friendship. She also has a Tumblr, but she only uses it to like and reblog "artsy" stuff (she is a self-proclaimed "art hoe", after all)

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

If you feel like you are confident enough to take on such a difficult task, I would seriously advise you to check out NoFap and try it out for about a week or two, maybe even a month. I'm two weeks in, and I have never felt more self-confident and prepared in my entire life. However, you must understand that NoFap is no magic bullet, and you must also work to improve yourself as a person as well. For that I highly recommend >>>/improve/ and >>>/fit/, /r/KaizenBrotherhood, and a website called The Art of Manliness.

I used to be a guy who would come home from school and IMMEDIATELY stay on 8chan from 5 PM to 2 AM. Now I do some morning exercises, take a cold shower, and ride my bike about 20 miles every day. In fact, I made burgers for the first time in my life with no supervision and almost no reference, and they turned out pretty amazing.

To get the girls to pay attention to you, you must first become the person who you would pay attention to. Every day, work on making yourself better than you were yesterday.

You are awesome, anon. You just need to suck all that energy out and replace it with something the whole world would consider beautiful.

>>17399

My bad, I meant to write that I made burgers YESTERDAY. Damn the 3 AM lethargy.

yes

only with tomoko

no

tomoko

avoid virtual relationships

>>16054

AWAKEN MY MASTERS!

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes a pretty serious one

>Have you ever been in love?

Yeb

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yea

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

Well she is very funny, is very passionate about things and will argue with me on them loves anime an games very kind and loyal

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Just try to be yourself really I got a girl that was way outta my league by just being myself.

>>17441

>Just try to be yourself

le ebin normie advice xDDD totally helpful thanks it turned my life around hahaha such meme

>>17498

Even though his advice was useless generic garbage that never works, you don't need to be so mean, friend.

>>17498

>being yourself

There is more to this which is over looked or misunderstood. It implies having faith and confidence in oneself to the extent that you believe that being yourself to be sufficient. Its a state of knowing oneself whilst exuding confidence in yourself and your abilities.

>>17501

It still won't work if the girl doesn't like you. It's that simple. You have to make the girl like you.

>>17503

Confidence is not garbage, of course not. But telling people to be themselves and the girls will come is pretty generic and doesn't help.

But to be honest, the whole question

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

is garbage. What worked for you will probably won't work for others. That question is actually so shit, OP should remove it.

>>17498

I'm sorry friend for giving a generic answer

I'm in a relationship now but I have a few personal issues. I have a hard time not being apathetic about putting forth more effort to ask about their interests and share my own and I know they're pulling a lot of legwork by suggesting things to do and talking about themself, starting conversation and initiating sexual contact.

We're still early on into it but I don't want this to be a one-sided thing where they get tired of me, but I also don't want to not be myself. I have no idea how to approach this and fix it because I've never done it before or heard anyone talk about improving themself in that way before.

The second issue is that I'm afraid of getting burned out due to all the attention they're giving me lately. I love it so much, the attention and being desired, but it's so constant. I'm unused to it and starting to get a little stressed out. How can I get more space without upsetting or offending them? I love them a lot, but I don't feel like I have the mental capacity for this much attention daily and constantly. I know as things go on, we'll drift apart a little naturally and I'll get more space but right now, it feels like my throat is always tight just talking.

>>17534

>I have no idea how to approach this and fix it because I've never done it before or heard anyone talk about improving themself in that way before.

>I love it so much, the attention and being desired, but it's so constant. I'm unused to it and starting to get a little stressed out.

Have you tried telling them this? It's OK to be new, scared, and to want things a little slower. Just be honest with them.

>>17532

Good webm.

>>17534

I think we're all very similar on this board and that's why we found ourselves here somehow.

You wouldn't want to cool down this passion they have for you. Maybe it's exhausting but it's what young people experience early in relationships, before they get bored with each other. So genuine passion like this is something very valuable and something to be cherished while you still can. On the other hand, pretending that you enjoy something when you're not is just as bad. You should probably find some middle ground.

I experienced something similar to you because before my relationship I'd spend a lot of time alone taking it easy and when it comes to getting intimate, I'd only rarely fantasize about it and only when I was in the mood. So relationship was really exhausting, also because my girlfriend would drag me out of my comfort zone so often

If I remember correctly, we solved this problem when one day we accidentally made this one personality test that gives 4 big letters and we read about synergy between our types and it provoked a conversation during which we explained ourselves all this.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes, several.

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes, twice.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I'm currently single, and I want to date a white girl who's shorter than me, intelligent, incredibly submissive and into the kinks I like.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Read Game shit, but be careful. Game works, but if you pay money for it at all you're doing it wrong. Read Heartiste, pirate the books he mentions and work on it. The entire field is really split into two parts - having the social aptitudes and behaviors that make women want to fuck you, and improving yourself so that your presentation is congruent. Sort out your self esteem issues, think highly of yourself, get into decent shape and pursue your own passions.

>>17561

Pursue other girls. I am confident that you will be able to find another girl that you like, and every time you do those feelings for your ex will wear away.

>>17382

Hey man, hope you're still doing okay. I'm the anon who went through almost exactly what you did. Just wanted to tell you that it's been 10 weeks ago for me and I'm getting better, so don't give up hope.

>>17588

Also talk to the strippers. Use them as practice conversation. They will obviously want to convince you to buy a dance or whatever. But you don't have to. Just talk to them.

>>15966

Were you the guy that wanted you waifu in heaven on /r9k/?

>iktf

I am worrying about my mental state.

The last few days I've been dreaming about this girl I used to be in love unrequited of course with years ago.

Haven't talked to her since 2011 which makes it even weirder.

I honestly can say I don't love her anymore but when I spend time with her in my dreams I feel so incredibly good. I don't know what the fuck that is. But I don't want it to stop because at least in those dreams I don't feel lonely and unloved. It's surreal, mane.

>>17585

I'm surviving.

It's fucking retarded, i even end up dreaming with her every night, i can't keep my head out of this.

>>17672

What worked for me was constantly reminding myself every night that I did everything right (her words, actually) and it's not my fault we're not together now. It's her fault for never believing that it would be a beautiful thing and that disbelief was so corrosive that it poisoned every attempt and every effort I made.

Doesn't mean I let her go completely, because I probably never will, but I stopped blaming myself and feeling like shit.

>>17673

It's not that i blame her or me.

It was something beautiful that had just begun between us, and now i have nothing.

For the first time in years i felt happy, and now that is gone too.

Im looking for advice.

I know this girl from college, we're friends who talk daily, share all classes, sit next to each other, have fun during class, chat some more after college, talk on whatsapp after school and all in all have a laugh together.

Thing is I dont know if I like her or not, I like spending time with her and talking to her but I dont know if I want an actual relationship with her. I havent had a relationship ib ages so maybe Im desperate to find someone that likes me.

>>17741

I think you already like her anon, you spend too much time with her, you have a good time with her and what you are doing now is making this confusing.

It is up to you to act on these feelings or not.

Considering she is in your classes and all that stuff, you must be prepared in case things go wrong, because then you will feel very akward in those classes.

On the other hand, if it works, you might be in for something great.

Also, do you know if she likes you for something more than friendship?

>>17741

Well if you read through the thread you'll find that me and a couple of other anons were in your situation, decided to 'fess up and now everything's fucking awkward, because the girls rejected us on obviously bullshit grounds.

>>17741

If you're not sure you have feelings for her don't ask her out, especially if you actually like her as a person. One you ask someone out there's generally no going back to a platonic relationship.

>>17808

that video made me realise I was always a lone wolf and never fell in love for validation

also made me realise that only men are capable of becoming lone wolves as girls must be genetically hard-coded to seek validation everywhere all the time, it's as if their lives was a constant peer validation circlejerk

>>17815

100 agree with you. Girls always seek validation, let their friends determine who they go out with and always share things with friends. aka Screenshotting. Maybe not all but almost all do.

Becoming a real human bean and forming a meaningful relationship is really, really, really fucking hard. Just choose the internet life guys, it's chill and comfy

>>17803

>>17805

>>17806

Problem solved and thanks for your answers.

>>17820

I think it's partly facebook and instagram that totally invaded the female mind and is now an inoperable tumorous part of girls forever, making these validation issues way worse

>>17824

Hey friend. Glad to hear it. Could you share anything we all could learn from? Or would you rather keep it private..

>>17827

Add twitter to that and the trio is complete. It sucks that people seek validation instead of being true to themselves.

>>17830

Fair enough, I completely forgot twatter, it's not so big here in pleb central, Hungary. The other two though… you get on the tram and literally every other second you hear that fucking -ding- sound messenger makes, and every single girl starts scrambling for their smartphones to check if it was theirs (kind of hilarious to watch). You could also take a shit in the middle of the tram and they'd ignore you while making instagram photos of your #shitonthetram #crazyguy #heskindacute

>>17808

that video made me realise I was always a lone wolf and never fell in love for validation

also made me realise that only men are capable of becoming lone wolves as girls must be genetically hard-coded to seek validation everywhere all the time, it's as if their lives was a constant peer validation circlejerk

>>17842

>men who programmed women to be concerned with looks and social status after all

that's biological

>>17886

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

>Uh no, I'll just say Good luck to anybody

And tbh this is the only acceptable answer to that question, well done Friend

>>17851

The reason why its so is the result of sexual dimorphism and the desire for an individual to pass on their genes.

For women , appearance and where one stood in the social pecking order were important indicators of good genes , and thus a good mate.

>>17931

You should change the environment you're in. Enroll to university on course that is occupied by female students. Girls there are smart and nice and you don't have to learn much if you're used to dealing with STEM

Your problem is something I had when I lived with working class family in UK and girls there were loud and boring

>>17940

>smart and nice

Nice ? maybe.

Its gonna be hit and miss in many cases.

Smart? Depends on what they've chosen as their major.

>>17963

If uni isn't your thing , because you can't into STEM , its a good idea to get into a trade school.

Spending two years learning howto weld with little debt , and having a starting salary near the median is better than sinking 50k into a liberal arts degree and still lacking valuable skills.

>>17963

If uni isn't your thing , because you can't into STEM , its a good idea to get into a trade school.

Spending two years learning howto weld with little debt , and having a starting salary near the median is better than sinking 50k into a liberal arts degree and still lacking valuable skills.

>>17966

fuck meant for >>17965

>>17966

fuck meant for >>17965

Oh boy, here we go

>No

>Yes

>No

>Pretty much anyone

>If i had any experience

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

yes, including a failed marriage.

>Have you ever been in love?

yes

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

yes

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

clever, quick-witted, high sex drive, physically attractive to me

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

constantly seek to improve yourself and meet like-minded people. don't buy into the idea that physical attraction isn't important for long-term happiness. it is.

>>17998

>including a failed marriage.

Damn. What happened?

Why are relationships so fucking complicated?

>>18008

In the grand scheme of things , different strategies that men and women have evolved to ensure the propagation of their genes.

This isn't even factoring in how fucked up social dynamics have been since the boomers.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I'm kind of a shallow asshole, so I would like to date a hot/intelligent girl.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Yes.

I'm kidding, guys, if you want to have a relationship you have to meet people and go out with people. Join as many groups as you can, and meet as many people as you can. Try to go out with them, get emails, phones, fb, etc… find one that you feel is special and ask her/him out.

It's kind of ridiculous but I'm a super shy nerd and the only way I ended up asking out my current gf was telling to myself that it doesn't mattered if I screw things up with her, she was just part of a social group that I could avoid and that's it. No awkwardness.

>>18005

Lots of things. We met when we were 23, got married at 25. In retrospect, we were maybe a bit young, didn't know each other long enough. Mismatched in some important ways.

I'm very driven in my career. Him, not so much. I made all the money, which didn't bother me too much in theory. Except that I didn't have much say in how it was spent. We were always in debt, never had enough despite my decent salary. In the beginning I tried to be involved in our finances, but he would get angry and yell if I budgeted or asked questions. If I put milk and eggs on my debit card, he'd ask for a receipt. To be completely honest though, I could have lived with this.

When I met him, I would have described him as a moderate social drinker. That increased heavily. By the end, it was hard to be around him, he was always angry and sometimes incoherent. I t didn't matter too much though because he was never home.

The worst was that even before the marriage, he had stopped being physically intimate with me. If I begged and cried, he said I was being pushy. He would explode if I pushed it further.

This paints an ugly picture, but it wasn't all bad. He was in general, kind. We had similar interests and many adventures and good times. My family liked him. We loved our pet cats. But the missing parts hurt more and more as time went on. I had no one to talk to, no friend, no lover. I felt trapped. I came home from work, ate dinner by myself, went to the gym, internet-ed and went to sleep almost everyday. He was there, floating around the edges of my life, but I was alone. By the end, I was daydreaming that the house we lived in would just burn down and all my problems with it. I was 28 then.

In the end, I'm sad to say, I cheated on him. And he found out and it blew up. And then I left. It was really shitty and cowardly of me. I could have left any time without the whole fucking around thing. I was so surprised that he even cared, since he flat-out refused to touch me at all.

Time goes by though. We're officially divorced now. Still text from time to time to check in. I'll always care about him. He's not doing so well. His drinking problem is really screwing up his health and he's put on a lot of weight.

After a year of hating myself for what I did to him, I'm starting to feel better, that I can be a better person and learn from my mistake. In a much happier relationship now, and always working towards being a better partner and a better person.

>>18034

I'm sorry this happened to you. You sound like a bona fide nice person. It actually made me a little scared, because I'm 27 and the girl I'd like to marry someday is only 23. I don't know if we'd be too young to do it, on the 1% chance it happens, as we're kind of taking a break.

On that note, University starts in 3 days I'm really unprepared emotionally. I feel like I'm about to get on Mr. Bones' Wild Ride.

>>18034

That sounds awful, that kind of thing is always hard to predict, even after 2 years of knowing each other.

I hope it works out with your current lover.

I think I finally found peace with living my life alone without a gf.

Sure, I could never get one if I wanted one but now that I accepted never getting one I let go of wanting one.

It feels so damn great. Besides, there's nothing a woman could ever do to make my life better so there's no reason to have one.

Although I am aware of the fact that there might be harder times where I might feel lonely but those will be temporary.

I will now spend my energy on defining my skills so I can get a good job and then I will live out the rest of my life being good at what I do with no woman dragging me down.

In short "get money, fuck bitches".

Love isn't a real thing anyway, just chemicals so it's not a big deal that I'll never experience it. If I want some feel good chemicals floating through my system I can always turn to drugs.

There's literally no reason to get into a relationship.

And sex? Fuck that shit too. Normalfriends make it out as something ooohh sooo important but they're stupid as fuck. It's just some evolutionary drive embedded into us. Nothing more. We are evolved enough as a species that we could simply let go of it and start having kids the new, improved way by breeding them in laboratories.

More importantly though is the fact that you can't miss what you don't know. And I don't even know what I am missing out of so it's of no importance to me.

I hope you friends will see the truth as clearly as I do right now.

Love, Anon

>>17998

> high sex drive

Disgusting

>>18108

Plus Japan will sooner or later invent robotic girlfriends, so..

>>18115

>>18115

Japan is a very advanced country. People aren't fucking anymore and doing friend shit like that. Feels good man

>>15965 (OP)

No

Depends on the definition, but I'd say crushes and waifus don't count

Yes, but only in a platonic way

I don't know, honestly. I know I'm aiming too high for physical aesthetics in girls, but I don't know what personality types would get along with a (hypothetically) reformed basement dweller.

Nope.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Not a real one…

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes…

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No….

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I would like to date a kind person… Yet, someone who shares the same world view as me, and is looking for the same kind of things that I am… It would have to be a platonic relationship though, because as soon as I start looking at someone lewdly, I stop seeing them as a person, and instead as something to derive pleasure from.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Just be nice and try your best to understand the other person.

>>17725

Hey man. Hope you're not feeling extremely shitty.

I gotta go back to University on Monday, where I'll probably see my crush and my "friends" (who gave 0 shits about me all summer) so it's gonna be awkward central for me. I don't know if it's good or bad but she leaves in a week to study one semester abroad. But that's still one week where she'll most likely ignore the shit out of me.

>>18169

>not loving him dispite his cold exterior

>>18168

I'm a bit better, thank you for asking.

I don't know if she is ok though, she gets extremely nervous around me. She starts spilling industrial amounts of spaghetti when she sees me.

Yeah, i won't lie to you, shit will be akward. At least you will have to endure only a week of this.

Now that you talk about friends, maybe you should try and get some genuine ones now that she will be gone and won't be around to bother you. I can help you with that, i'm not as retarded with friendships as i am with relationships.

>>18184

con't

-the chick who is very chill, a bit of a pothead though. Cons: always smells of either tobacco or mary.

-the nihilistic chick, who pretends she doesn't give a fuck about anything. Yet we prefer the same kind of humour. Cons: extremely hard to crack.

-the easygoing chick who I've been friends with forever, but she is the best friend of my crush and now things will probably get really awkward with her, which is a shame. Cons: Everything I guess.

>>18187

I vote for nihilistic, she might like a friend.

>>18184

>>18187

I really don't think you should be thinking in terms of who you should or must befriend. Try talking to people (i know it can be hard as fuck, but in a college setting you will end up talking to people, wheter be the people you sit next to in classes or whatever), and try to not be an asshole. If this sounds too shallow, i can write more in depth about this, just tell me to do so.

This doesn't mean you can't try to befriend people because, for example, someone is very good at what you are studying and by being a friend of him or her you might get tips as to what to study and the like. I did befriend people because of these things, and they ended up being cool people, so i kept on being friends.

Prioritize getting some good, reliable male friends. They tend to be more trustworthy than woman, and in generally you will be able to rely on them when you need shit done or whatever.

Personally i never had female friends, i end up liking them or they do end up liking me to be something more than friends. If you really, really can keep things platonic, then try, but she might not be able to keep things platonic.

Sorry if this is a little bit disorganized, i have been studying all day and i'm feeling retarded right now, but i really want to help you. So reply to this if you want to talk more.

Also, what do you think her (my senpai) nervousness might be about?

>>18184

>>18187

I took some time to read about those people you mentioned, and i will give you my opinion (i'm >>18189).

Being friends with those who are very good friend with your crush might be akward, on the other hand it COULD, only could, help you with your crush because they might speak good of you to her. However, this won't help if the girl already decided she doesn't like you.

I don't trust too much those free spirit women, but if she is as nice as you say, then maybe it might be worth a shot.

The career focused guy seems like a good choice, if you both are doing very well in your courses, and you both share the same interest, you might have a good recipe not only for a good friendship, but also someone who could get you a better job or even someone to start something with.

The baptist sounds like a good person. I have a friend who is a practicant Catholic, and he is an extremely nice person. If he really follows the christian doctrine of love the other and all of that, he might be a good friend. On the other hand, maybe if you have too many differences about how you both view life and so forth you might find it harder to find common ground for a friendship to grow.

The pothead girl… i don't know, these kind of people can be good to be around, but sometimes can be a bit boring, even more if their idea of fun is gathering with friends just to smoke pot. I had friends that started doing pot frequently and that was all they did, for two or three whole years. They stopped, but damn, was that boring.

The nihilist chick seems like a good choice, and sharing the same humour it's always a good thing to have in a friendship. Seriously, it will make your relationship much better.

As you might see, i'm not strongly against any of them. Thing is, friendships aren't that complicated as relationships with women and all that shit, so the people you should avoid are those who are shitty people, or something like that.

>>18144

Then go get a job and focus on being good at it. You don't need a bitch that only takes up space in your bed and steals the blanket.

Just get female friends. It's basically the same thing without the downsides of having to fuck them and listen to their stupid emotional problems.

Long time I haven't been in /kind/, and since I think it's better than /adv/ and relatively faster, I want your advice and some empathy.

See, I have a sister, and we kind of have a incestuous relationship that started exactly the last year. Now I don't see her often since she lives far away, and we haven't even had sex, but we fool around a lot, but 2 problems came out of this, surprisingly any of them is a moral problem.

1) I didn't have a lot of confidence in myself before, but now I even have less. My sister think is funny to make fun of me and compare me with other guys. That just hurt me a lot, and I have confidence issues among other things. Also, to contribute, the reason I haven't been able to have sex with her is because I just can't find a way to penetrate her. I've tried since the first time, but without success. That just make me feel like a failure of a man, considering that I'm still virgin.

2) She's, apparently, a whore. Not entirely sure if she had sex with other persons, which wouldn't surprise me at this point, but a "friend" of her sent nudes of her to a lot of people, including me. That just sank me in more depression at the point that I cannot stand the sight of my sister anymore. We shared room, so I just moved to a room really really far from her until she have to go again. This also make me feel kind of guilty, what if this is my fault? So I have not only failed as man, but as brother.

Now, I don't even know what I want. I guess I just want some advice in what should I do now. I guess I just hate my sister by now, like I hate one of my previous "girlfriends", and I know that, by now, our relationship can't be the same as it was before all of this happened.

tl;dr: My sister is an unkind person and it really hurts.

>>18244

Post pics

>>18244

Wait, i don't understand, how is it that you can't penetrate her?

>>18434

it's a boy

To be honest, I am very curious about this too.

I had a dream where I visited the house of an old girlfriend (my only one). When I went inside, I came across her mother, who handed me a newspaper clipping saying that she had committed suicide. After I read it, we both cried together. It was quite a shock, because within the dream I experienced the weird feeling of someone just "not being there" anymore. The horrid juxtaposition of a vivid memory of someone and the reality of their non-existence. They are there in your head, but they are not.

It was all just a dream, but I felt that I should text her and ask to see her again. But then I remembered that we left on not-so-good terms. So should I? After all, it's just a stupid dream that doesn't mean anything…but I still have hesitations.

>>18494

ask her mother how she is, if the mother asks about your inquiry, just tell her about the dream and how uneasy it makes you feel.

>>18541

This is bad advice. Leave it well alone. Her death might mean that she is truly gone from your life now and you two are on divergent paths.

If you do want to see how she is going, just contact her directly. Do not do it through someone else. Why the mother of all people? That is dumb. Find out from a mutual acquaintance or something.

>>18562

Not really, normalfriends are really boring. My family spent the whole day yesterday showing each other pictures they found on facebook saying, "This is you".

>>18570

Why do you ask?

>>18571

1. To ascertain my understanding of what constitutes a normie and non-normie. Maybe my understanding is false.

2. To point out that saying all normies are boring based on the normies around you is a cherry picking fallacy. I'm sure that there are interesting and boring normies, non-normies, failed normies and wizards.

I'm a failed normie approaching wizardhood and I personally think I'd be happier as a normie.

>>18572

Then I should rephrase myself and say that normalfriends can be boring, but I suppose that's because I find most of the things normalfriends find interesting boring. They usually don't have hobbies or anything to be passionate/obsessive about and tend to follow trends because other people do. I'm not saying they're horrible people or anything like that, indeed they can be quite nice, it's just they mostly can only enjoy things on the surface level and never really delve deeper into things.

Maybe they do have it good as they seem to be content with what they have, but personally I like having little things to be passionate about and I don't really care what other people think about what I do. I just like having my individual freedom.

>>18191

Hey man, I'm checking in again. It feels good to share what's going on here with you. First week is over, "our" friends behaved like they're still my friends, although I'm pretty sure some of them will be relaying what I tell them to my girl crush in France. The nihilistic chick surprised me, because she was the friendliest of them all, even went to have lunch together (I reckon she feels sorry for me, she was one of those who were rooting for me+girl to happen).

I joined an amateur theatre play on the Gospel of Mark, as the Baptists welcomed me back as well. I really should go on social media soon because of this, but I get a little sick every time I think about going there. I think I'm subconsiously afraid she unfriended me since I last logged in, or wrote some even bigger bullshit than the last time we "spoke".

In the meantime, I guess I'll be the same friendly nice guy I was when she was around. Man, being in love is the worst and best thing isn't it. The career focused guy is still friendly, but right now he's got his hands full with his own gf problems.

Anything happening over there? I'm always here to listen.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes. I've been in and out of relationships since I was 14.

>Have you ever been in love?

I'm in love right now.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

I've cuddled with more people than I should admit (of both genders). I don't like to sleep alone.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I like girls who are too smart for their own good and cute artsy boys. Regardless of gender I'm attracted to people who are impulsive, reckless, and unfortunately I seem to like people who hurt me.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Go out into the world. Make a connection with someone. Let go of your expectations and preconceptions of what love should be. Don't pressure people. Don't try to guilt anyone into anything.

>>18578

I'm happy that this makes you feel better anon. It seems you are meeting new people and doing things that you like.

To know i somehow can help people feel better it's something good.

I don't know. She is now extremely nervous around me, to the point that we would say that she is spillin /r9k/ tier spaghetti.

However, yesterday and today she even avoided greeting me when we met, it's like if i did something bad to her or something, and in turn it makes me feel like shit. She did this when in public, but if we meet alone on college she comes over and greets me, so i don't know what is going on with her.

**Why do i have to pick complicated people?

Why can't i just be a manwhore?I thought this girl was simple, and she was really into me. It seems i'm a retard for this things. I fucking hate myself.**

>>18612

Don't be a manwhore if it's not who you are. Strangely if you stick to your convictions in trying times like we're both facing right now, you can feel a little bit better about yourself. Doing this won't solve our problems just like that, but think that you're not giving evil the satisfaction of an easy win. Keeps me going.

Look I'm really shit at giving relationship advice as I'm sure you know by now, but in your place I might go a little bit retard (not full) and confront her when we are alone. Not super aggressively, just act determined.

>>18663

I know, it's just that i have friends who are and don't have all these problems.

I thought about confronting her, but i don't think that it will help with anything. It will only make things even more akward. I just don't understand why she feels so shit around me, i'm pretty sure i didn't do anything bad to her.

Yesterday i had to present an exercise to the class (it's some weird teaching method in which we are divided in groups and made to solve an exercise in front of the class) and she avoided looking me in the eye all the time. The few times she did she looked startled and inmediately looked down. It's almost as if she were afraid of me.

Although knowing how much of a moron i am, i will end up confronting her, if i find a chance to be one on one with her.

>>Have you ever been in a relationship?

I have been in three long term(ish) relationships.

>>Have you ever been in love?

Yeah, I am, now.

>>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes.

>>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I'm getting married in January to a lady I enjoy being around. She's fun and sweet and a realist who is OK with my foibles, but makes me want to improve myself.

>>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Most basic relationship advice sounds really trite, but it's mostly true. Be yourself (If you don't like who you are, >>>/improve/ ) is the best advice I could give. You don't want to get into a relationship with someone who isn't being real, so you shouldn't either. If you find someone who likes you as you, that's what you want.

Also, meet people in general. Relationships shouldn't be the end goal, but an aside to living life. Meet lots of people, make real friends if you don't have any, make more if you do. You might hate people, but lots of people hate people, so you can all get together and hate people as a group.

There's so much "Advice" but it won't always work, because relationships are two people that are different from every other person. Try to have fun in life, someone will see you having fun, and want to join in. Fuck, I didn't even remember my girlfriends name the first and second time we met, and if you'd have told her she'd be marrying me, she'd call you crazy.

Lastly, don't settle. Don't end up with someone you can't stand being around, which so many people do. It's not worth it, and you're better than that.

>>18668

>I know, it's just that i have friends who are and don't have all these problems.

We all have those friends, but trust me they're just as dead inside as we are right now. Except they'll more than likely never find true love and they'll stay that way, unlike us.

>>18696

Why would they be? I don't follow your train of thought.

And why won't they find "true" love? They have more chances, after all the more they try the more likely they are to find that one girl.

Oh, and i came back from class, the girl is getting more and more nervous. Can't say why still.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Not really. I mean, yeah, but it didn't amount to much…

>Have you ever been in love?

I've had crushes but I'm not sure I've ever loved.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

All the time. I love cuddling.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I don't want to date right now, I have to work on myself. I like tall guys though.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

It's only as complicated as you make it.

>>18702

I know a manwhore, and trust me he doesn't attract the kind of girls you'd want to settle down with. Then again, he doesn't want to settle down, so it works out for him.

>>18752

>It's only as complicated as you make it.

That's a very good observation, friend. Any idea why girls have to overcomplicate things? It's almost as if most girls couldn't co-exist with simplicity.

I've had a relationship which lasted a year, and now it's over because I'm retarded. I love her so much. It hurts so much.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes, one. I only met him twice though, I'm not sure that's even a real relationship

>Have you ever been in love?

I thought so at the time, but in retrospect I don't think I was in love

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

I wish

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I'm not dating anyone right now. Someone cute who loves me and likes hugging and isn't a hundred miles away.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

I'm the worst person ever to ask for advice, so no

>>18849

Your dice roll told you to fight for her right? Assuming you were the same anon

Just do as much as you can right now to get her back. That way, even if you all don't get back together, you will have the peace of mind knowing that you tried.

>>18836

But as you said, he is happy with that.

Meanwhile i haven't got shit.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Twice, both serious. One ended because she wanted the "college experience" (being a slut) and an open relationship and I refused, and the other was actually pretty organic. We just began to feel more and more apart and eventually mutually decided that this was enough.

>Have you ever been in love?

Twice. Once it was transformed into burning, all-encompassing hate. I think it was actually stronger than the love I felt for her. My first ex told me all about how she loved me, but wanted to try sleeping with other guys, and would I wait for her to be done experimenting, etc. That's when I exploded with rage. I had never been so furious. I kicked her out immediately lest I do something worse. I'm not a violent person, it was just that bad, it was that deep a betrayal to me. With time it mellowed out but suffice to say we are not in contact anymore.

Second time was much more amiable and reasonable (just like the girl herself was much more amiable and reasonable than the first one, truth be told) and we're still on friendly terms.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Well, yeah.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I gave up, actually. Women aren't worth the trouble.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Yes, don't.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No. Level 25 KV.

>Have you ever been in love?

No.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Does my tulpa count?

>What kind of person do you want to date?

No idea. I'm highly asocial, and while there are plenty of people I like, I don't know anyone whose company I actually enjoy.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

:3

>If you can't have fun in life and respect yourself while you're single, you won't when you're in a relationship. And what's worse, you'll end up hurting your partner and yourself, too.

That settles it. I may as well sod off and die now then.

>This many anons hurt by relationships

I just wanted to say, i'm with you. Things will get better

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

I have! To this day, I've been in a total of 5 romantic relationships! I am 21, so I think it is pretty good. The one that lasted the least lasted 2 months, I am a chronic boyfriend, I don't sleep around.

>Have you ever been in love?

I believe I've been, yes. Being in love is basing your life off a stupid little bet you've taken with another person, that you will share your life with them if they do the same, for as long as both of you feel you can do it. If you believe it very hard, you are in love. And I have made that bet at least 3 times in the past. It is always a pleasant experience, it does bring out the best in you.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes! I have the odd habit of coupling up with women who are shorter and also more muscular *and* chubbier than me, a six foot tall skeleton. Cuddling after lewdtimes is the best sort of couple's therapy, I've worked out serious issues with girls in the afterglow because people's psyche is always a lot more malleable when exposed to a great heat. Not unlike metal, you see!

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

Mmm… I wanna date someone that can look at me, the whole of me, and still say "there is something worth fighting for in that mess". Seriously, just that. If that hope is kept alive, I'll be in love forever, and so will she.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

You don't need to be perfect to be in a relationship. You merely have to be what you are, believe that you can give something to the other person, and hope that they earnestly do the same. Don't be afraid to bare your heart to others, after all, the worst case scenario would be the two of you feeling the same and never acting on it.

Humans are meant to be born out of love, and make love in their own life to continue the cycle. Don't fight your fate. Dare to love.

>>15965 (OP)

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No.

>Have you ever been in love?

No.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No.

>What kind of person do you want to date?

As long as they are loyal I think I would be fine with that.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

N/A

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

>Does my tulpa count?

I can't imagine cuddling a tulpa from what I read and my own experiences with a tulpa. For me, tulpa is an entity that I can only feel presence of and I can sometimes see her in the corner of my eye. Physical contact would never be possible, unless I were level 80000 monk in a temple who mastered the art of summoning tulpas.

I could imagine and fantasize of holding or cuddling a tulpa, but it's something entirely different from the ambiguous awareness that a person is sitting on my bed behind me

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No

>Have you ever been in love?

I had a few crushes but nothing ever came of them.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No one that wasn't a family member when I was kid.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

A 2D girl or cute boy.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Obviously not.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

5. First one wouldn't kiss me because of religious reasons (didn't find this out until after we broke up and a mutual friend explained it to me). Second one left me because she wanted to deal with the death of her dog and grandma (within one week) by herself. Third left me because I wasn't outgoing enough (and she was a jehovah's witness). Fourth because she didn't feel like she could give me the attention I deserved because of all the extracurricular shit she did. She's a stripper married to one of her clients with a kid now. 5th just left me two weeks ago. She "(wasn't) happy with this relationship any more". I just found out tonight that she cheated on me days prior to actually breaking up with me.

>Have you ever been in love?

This last relationship lasted 4 years. I was definitely in love, but obviously she wasn't.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I don't really know at this point. I'm pretty much just doing this to vent as I attempt to sleep.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

You're not as ugly as you think you are. Nor as awkward, or whatever negative shit you feel about yourself. Treat yourself how you want to be treated and have fun. Someone will notice all the fun you're having and will want to come along for the ride.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yeah quite a few through my teens, none of them lasted longer than 6 weeks though, and never got to bang any of them either, more alpha was always required

>Have you ever been in love?

Not sure, I dont think anyone can really say they have until it is returned back to them, Maybe, but its unlikely

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

yeah, best friends girlfriend, he wasnt happy, my last girlfriend, some other guys girlfriend, he also wasnt happy,

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

A decent looking girl who is willing to put up with my constant antics, currently single

> Continued

>>19517

Continued

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Never tell them you like them in any way other than in person, socialize, if your invited somewhere, fight the anxiety that nobody is interested in you, you have to create that, but dont force it, say things, but dont be weird, and NEVER let anyone take you down a peg, have witty comments, it is always much safer to talk to guys than it is girls, start a conversation with the dudes, and when they accept you, you have passed the first stage of female acceptance,

after this you cant bullshit at all, or have to be very good to pass it off, be arrogant, if the girls are tryna make you look bad in any way, respond with either relaxed dismissal of their comments, or equal dissaproval of their actions

never raise the stakes and be an outright dick to them. always play it cool, and if you even think theyre into you, go in for kiss, and if doesnt work, say you were just really drink

drink

take care of your appearance, this means be clean, wear clean clothes, smell nice, have nice teeth, get haircuts every 3 or 4 weeks to keep up appearances

cut nails, not bitten, acne is not as big a deal as you think it is, but clean your face often and invest in a stockpile of canned fish like sardines and salmon and eat it regularly, this will help

make eye contact,

never let on to anyone you feel unconfortable in social situations

never reveal any of your weaknesses

deal with your problems, and dont stick your head in the sand

dont message girls, it is a waste of time unless they start the conversation

dont read their messages until hours later, and only ever reply with about as much writing as they did or less,

generally put equal or less effort they have into the relationship, and concentrate on work / studying / sports / whatever mainly

never let them distract you from that stuff unless your 99% certain you will get some

this is a lot of stuff for someone who hasnt had that much luck, but believe me, on my course at university i could have any of the 10/10's anytime i wanted, i choose not because we have tight group of friends, and the other guys who went there got rekt by it, they WILL always gang up on you if you bed any of them

>make friends with them and go for their friends you dont interact with or see that much

this is what i do, with semi success

>>15965 (OP)

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

A few actually, yeah. I tend to prefer just being friends with benefits, however.

>Have you ever been in love?

No. I love my family and such, but I've been in love in love. And honestly, the thought of being in love kind of scares me.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Multiple people, yeah. It is the best thing

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I'm not really looking for a partner at the moment because I desperately want to improve how I look first, but if I was I'd probably want a more down-to-earth kind of girl.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Couple of tips:

>Know at least someone they know.

>Listen to them.

>Ask casually, but not jokingly - the more casual the question, the easier it is to move on if they say no.

>>19519

How does the thought of being in love scare you? Not trying to pry or anything, just curious as to why/how.

>>19576

>I knew ever since I was 3-ish years

Sadly, if she already doesn't consider you dating material already, then you are probably fucked. Probably the best thing you could do is hang out with her more outside of school and try dating one of her friends that hasn't met you before.

If you are still in school then you probably shouldn't worry about never having a relationship. There is still plenty of time for you; try out a hobby that forces you to meet new people.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Twice, by my count. (The second one was brief, and she probably wouldn't have called it a relationship.)

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes. I don't think I'd ever allow that to happen again.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I'm pretty done with dating for the time being. So no kind.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

I don't think I would be the person to ask, but in my case I think I became a whole lot happier when I stopped looking. If something happens, it happens, if it doesn't, don't let it hang over you.

>>19576

Just ask her out. Don't over think it.

"Hey, do you want to go get some ice cream/ go see that __ movie/ grab a coffee/ go roller blading/ bowling/ etc. "

Worse case scenario, nothing changes, but you gain exp points and at least you can move on now and stop idolizing that girl.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes.

>Have you ever been in love?

Maybe? It was probably infatuation in the end.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes. I miss it tremendously.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

Someone genuine and enthusiastic. Fun to be around and respects my interests. Super cute and loves physical affection.

It would be nice to meet someone kinky but at the very least I'd want to meet someone with a healthy libido. Someone who enjoys sex.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

#1 thing I tell people, for any relationship, is to be as genuine as possible. Even if you have nerdy interests, people respect passion.

yes

no

once with my sister at midnight (it was an awkward phase)

anyone cute, preferably with some similarities in musical taste and/or world view

it'll eat you until there's nothing left and even then it'll just continue eating you, stick with your anime

>>22337

Did you feel bad about the prostitute or was it ok? I once went for a massage. It was good but i felt guilty after; like maybe i did something i shouldn't have

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Only shitty LDRs and even then I couldn't call a girl my "girlfriend" even if she did like me.

>Have you ever been in love?

More times than I should have.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

We kind of touched each other, but I was too beta back then to take it to full on cuddling when we werepractically in bed together.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

I could write a huge list but that would all be nonsense because most importantly I want a girl who is at least a bit cute if not totally beautiful, who genuinely loves me and would stay loyal to me as well as respect me out of love, everything else is extra.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Do everything you can to improve yourself and achieve what you want, don't be a lazy fool who whines about not having a qtpi gf because you don't have good looks or whatever when you are actually doing nothing to try and obtain one. Improve your personality, your conversation skills and your confidence and try your best, you will fail many times before you win but you will succeed.

>>22385

>feel bad

If you're implying something like losing the sense of "purity" if your a guy then no, but thats probably due to me going to a massage a few years prior and that was by persuasion of my uncle so i didn't really feel bad or that it was my "fault".

I'm just… going to take the fact with me to the grave to anyone that actually knows me though.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes, many moons ago in the mythic age. I was young and cute, girls actually liked me. I dated a cute chubby Filipino girl I met on AOL.

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes, see above. Sadly she turned out crazy and left me for a brit. At least she's happy now, I guess.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes, a few times. It feels pretty good.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

A female who is not utterly revolting.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Not really; be young and cute I guess.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Two over the internet.

>Have you ever been in love?

Arguably. I believe in lust at first sight.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes but it was platonic.

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

O-oh damn. I'm not really sure. I like to be prioritized and would prefer someone that wouldn't ignore or write off whatever I'm feeling because it's irrational or illogical, even if it is that way.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

I mean this in the /kind/est possible way to provide a harsh criticism, get off your high horse, and don't think of yourself as above or better than anyone if you're in a position to reject. Just say you're not into them and move on.

Don't ask someone out for the sole purpose of having a relationship to show off. Being single doesn't make you a loser, and if you are having a bf or gf does not make you less of one. And it's mean ask someone out just to use them as a placeholder.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes, it lasted for a year and seven months before I finally broke up with her

I ended up getting back together with her last week and I really regret it but I cant get out of it right now as it would absolutely crush her

>Have you ever been in love

Yes, but not with the girl I was with

>Have you ever cuddled someone

Yes I have, it gets annoying after awhile

especially if its with someone youre not in love with

>What kind of person do you want to date/what kind of person are you dating currently

I want to be with someone that shares the same love of nature and love for ones ancestors that I do. The girl I'm with right now is currently none of that and I feel bad for even leading her on to think we could even work it out.

>Do you have any advice for anons looking to get into a relationship?

You have to be the strong one in the relationship, do not feel afraid to put your foot down when she does something wrong, if she's hypocritical about something then call her out on it. Always try to understand their point of view but if they cross a line then let them know they fucked up. If they ever cheat on you then dump them on the spot. They are not worth your time if they think they can throw away everything just for a night of dickings.

>>24561

Yes it's possible, I've seen online relationships work. Both of you have to be in the relationship for more than sex, otherwise it will fall apart.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes, a couple short term relationships

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes, never dated her

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

Whoever will take the pain away

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

No, sorry

So i have been thinking about losing my virginity with an escort because i'm a failure at relationships.

Is this a good idea?

I dont' know in what other thread to ask, and i don't think this question deserves a thread of it's own.

>>25096

Your personality dictates, anon.

I lost my virginity to a whore when I was 16. At the time, I was a more romantic type of guy and was expecting something with more emotional envolvement, so just the sex, without kissing, was 'weird'(but I did enjoy it).

If you're a guy that's looking just for the sweet feeling of the vagina and the fucking, might be a great experience, if you're more romantic, might not like it that much.

I'm older now, and I don't really have the same romantic fantasies, so I love having sex with escorts when I'm not dating anyone. Prostitution it's not against the law where I live, so it makes things easier.

>>25099

I'm not sure what i want.

I want a caring relationship with someone that i really like, but maybe that is just an overcomplication of things. Maybe deep down i just want to fuck, which would seem more normal.

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes

>Have you ever been in love?

Yes

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

Yes - I miss it too

>What kind of person do you want to date/What kind of person are you dating currently?

What I would love to find some day is somebody who is low maintenance, doesn't go out to drink, enjoys a date of pizza and video games. Wants to give their heart and love with everything they have.

I would also like to find them cute, which is fairly easy I can do that with most people. Good personality who I can enjoy being with. If long distance, somebody who would relocate. I'm fine with daring transgirls as well as traps who are heavily feminine as long as there personality is alright, in my past they were more accepting of me so I do like dating them.

>Do you have any advice for Anons looking to get into a relationship?

Know what you want. Don't take them for granted. Do your best to not hurt them.

> tfw can't participate in conversation because KV

>Have you ever been in a relationship?

No.

>Have you ever been in love?

No; one-sided obsession is not love.

>Have you ever cuddled someone?

No.