fba92f No.19982
Alright brothers, I need some advice.
I am 22 years old virgin male and as is the age, I am horny as hell. In the past I use to masturbate, but with the help of Allah, I have been able to overcome my addiction and don't masturbate as crazily as I did in the past and intend to drop the habit completely (I have practically made this intention already and don't have a "next date" for a session but addictions are unpredictable).
As a matter of fact, I HATE masturbating and I HATE porn with a passion. Not only because I know it is detrimental to person's mental and physical health, but the thought of it disgusts me now given how extreme it can get and how unnatural it is.
On the other hand, when I don't masturbate, I become horny as hell! Not only do I become horny as hell, but with the help of semen retention, I become practically an Alpha Male with high levels of confidence and end up eyeing girls left and right, making them smile just by checking them out, and flirting with a few. Alhamdoulillah though, I have not been blessed with game, and that has kept me from committing haram.
But the reason I have not been blessed with game is simply due to fact that I have always been a 'Nice Guy', and not that genuinely nice guy rather a manipulative one, expecting rewards for my good behaviour in return. Thankfully though, I have been killing off the nice guy in me, and being genuinely nice, and that has helped me tremendously in building great relationships, having self-respect and awesome confidence.
But now I am at a cross-roads again. So let's recap, I am 21 year old male that does not release his sexual desires via masturbation/porn because I hate both acts and they destroy who I truly am. Additionally, with the help of quitting porn and reading self-help books, I am building a great personality and starting to live for myself. I am at a all-time high religious these days, but because I want to truly live for myself (and for Allah, what I mean by that is, not being a good kid so I get people's praise as well), I want to get a girl. Either a wife or a girlfriend so I can release my desire in a more natural way.
What do? Any duaas specifically?
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fba92f No.19983
OP here. Just to add more information because I don't like the last paragraph.
Because I have started to live for myself truly, I have become a better person. I love Islam and want to be a good Muslim. But I need a way to get rid of my desires. I would love to marry and even approached the idea to a brother (because I thought his sister liked me) but that did not work out as she liked someone else (I got confirmation of that from herself).
Therefore, marriage does not seem like a viable option currently. It's either I wait now, but then I don't want to fall in the trap of masturbating again because it kills me and stops me from being a good Muslim. I'd rather have a female (halal or haraam) but I don't know what to do.
I mean obviously, a halal wife is better but waiting for her, I don't want to become a loser by jacking off. I want to live for myself and not for others and be true to myself.
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fba92f No.19984
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fba92f No.19985
>>19982
Masturbation is not haram.
However, you've screwed up your blog:
Intro:
>I am 22 years old
Recap:
>I am 21 year old
You might want to get your story straight before posting again.
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fba92f No.20001
>>19985
Do you have any sound advice brother?
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fba92f No.20002
Why not get married?
It worked for me.
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fba92f No.20003
>>20001
Yes. Get married. I can also promise you that you're not going to find a wife wasting time on chans all day.
Go to mosque every day. Every. Day.
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fba92f No.20004
>>20003
He will also need to be active in the community, so that's he's known.
>>20001
Once you've been active for a bit and still don't know anyone that's looking for marriage, ask your imam.
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fba92f No.20006
>>20002
>>20003
As mentioned earlier, I did approach a brother but that did not work out.
Alhamdoulillah I am blessed with the chance to go to the Mosque daily and I am known in the community as well. However, I am not established currently in the sense of education and finances. I am enrolled in school however not anywhere close to finishing right now. If someone would be marrying their daughter to me, it would simply be on the basis of my personality, which is not bad, but that's not the only thing parents look for unfortunately.
And tbh, I am hurt in the sense that I most likely won't be building another relationship with a Muslimah, because of the fact that what happens if it does not go anywhere.
JazakhAllah for the advice given thus far, may Allah grant you guys the best in this world and the Next.
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fba92f No.20008
>>20006
You're young. I wouldn't worry about it too much for now. Finish school and, in the meantime, stick with the community.
Oh, and Muslims don't "marry off their daughters". We're not Medieval Christians. Muslim women choose their husbands and do not require permission to do so.
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fba92f No.20009
>>20008
I understand what you mean in regards to waiting since I am young but the thirst is real. And it's not as though that the thirst is just too hard for me, the Prophet also recognized the issue when he said that we should marry young.
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fba92f No.20010
>>20006
Sorry, I didn't read that post.
The prospect of marriage is out of the question because you were rejected by one woman? Just keep moving on and asking for marriage (first via their wali) after you find one you like at the masjid.
>>20008
>Oh, and Muslims don't "marry off their daughters". We're not Medieval Christians. Muslim women choose their husbands and do not require permission to do so.
In a sense, yes we do marry them off. We do this in order to strengthen ties between families or we find suitors that they like.
Perhaps it's not a thing in the west, but there's tons of child brides in Islamic countries that are developing. Same with arranged marriages.
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fba92f No.20011
>>20010
Aye, well, "child brides" and arranged marriages are a cultural thing, not an Islamic thing.
Qur'an 4:19 O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion …
"When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be repudiated" (Bukhari, 67:43).
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fba92f No.20016
TL;DR OP is a beta male and seeks to use religion as a tool to enslave a submissive woman.
Just like all the losers who ran off to join IS
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fba92f No.20017
>>20016
>Coptic bitchboy talking shit
Wew lad
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fba92f No.20304
>>20016
>being a cucktic
>not knowing cucksaders killed all non-white cucktians as well
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caeebb No.20690
“O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for that will be a shield for him.”
Just fast every Monday and Thursday, it helps me.
Hippocrates said, "Having sexual intercourse excessively depletes
the strength, weakens the body, dries the moistures in the body, adversely relaxes the nerves, causes various clogs and harms the entire body, especially the brain because of the psychological effects it will have on it. Weakness in the brain, which will In addition weaken the soul, is worse than weakness in any other organ."
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d72cdb No.20703
>>19985
>Masturbation is not haram.
Are you ok ?
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f455a6 No.20704
>>20703
It's makruh not haram.
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765eb4 No.20705
MASTURBATION IS HARAM don't be dumb
However, it has been inferred that a very minor sin like this one is acceptable to do if it will avoid a much greater sin like Zina
This is only supposed to apply to a situation where there's a girl in your room due to how convincing she is or something, so you go to washroom and have a wank so you're not horny anymore. Then her convincingness won't matter when you cant even get hard…
Personally birxhes won't leave me alone in school since I'm so awesome and when they offer to drive me to the bar and stuff I think it's okay to fap in general when I, well honestly I just don't want to wake up with jizz in my pantz
I'm probably wrong but that being said it's almost been a week anyways though I haven't been to school all week either since I've been so sick…
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e5895c No.20706
>>20705
>Personally birxhes won't leave me alone in school since I'm so awesome and when they offer to drive me to the bar and stuff I think it's okay to fap in general when I, well honestly I just don't want to wake up with jizz in my pantz
>I'm probably wrong but that being said it's almost been a week anyways though I haven't been to school all week either since I've been so sick…
what the hell?
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f455a6 No.20707
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d72cdb No.20708
>>20704
Forgive me akhi i didn't even know that this was an opinion concerning masturbation, however even after looking (not extensively i admit) at the evidence from Hanafi scholars it is heavily implied, at least from what i can read, that it is only considered makruh for those under excruciating circumstances though that in itself is largely arbitrary i wouldn't say it is makruh in a general case.
Allah knows best.
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ef3b62 No.20722
>>20706
Girls won't leave me alone. It's pretty hard to say no when they have a car and offer to go to bar, especially while horny
I was saying though that it's been a week since I fapped by coincidence making this post, though I was also very sick and haven't been to school so since I haven't interacted with girls IRL I probably didn't feel horny enough to fap . Though desire is increasing past few days sometimes
I was also saying that when I know I'm horny I have a hunch that I will have a wet dream and wake up with jizz in my pants so sometimes I fap just for that reason because morning mess is horrible. This is probably a horrible reason and Haram
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3e561a No.30705
Wow you sound desperate. I will pray for you.
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ff660c No.30726
>>20722
Do you ask them for bobs and vagene?
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2ec8e1 No.30833
Allah made slave girls halal for you
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94de6c No.30857
>>30833
And your filthy mushrik pope and priests made raping boys permissible for you since you can't stand women.
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455c70 No.30893
>>19982
I'll just straight out say I'm not muslim because I don't see the point in trolling this board and hope my honesty helps communicate my sincerity. Ive been watching some muslim channels and found them quite comfy and ended up on here.
I find it hard to believe Allah has an issue with masturbation. Why would Allah want you to be filled with horny thoughts? It just doesn't make sense. People think walking around super horny will turn you into an alpha. It can, to an extent, but it can also just make you a person who gives off a creepy and desperate vibe. It seems illogical to me that a state of constant sexual thirst would in anyway please allah and the idea that you would marry simply to please your dick doesn't seem particularly muslim to me either.
I've been down the whole no fap route and I think spiritually there are major errors there.
Why not try masturbating moderately and not go for super ☻ed up fantasies and porn? Just let it be a physical release. It will take a little bit of work but it is possible. Ive done it.
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af0808 No.30903
>>19985
I don't believe it's haram either but once you've started on porn it's next to impossible to go back to just masturbating without it. It's either all or nothing.
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a78109 No.30917
>>30893
Because you should save it for your wife.
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e9ee4f No.30969
>>30893
If you do NoFap for a couple months those thoughts subside, not completely, but they become much easier to manage than if you'd practice masturbation regularly. It's not like you're going to be walking around drooling all day because you haven't fapped for a while.
>I've been down the whole no fap route and I think spiritually there are major errors there.
If you do it for the wrong reasons it can seem that way. To a hedonist the calculus doesn't make sense. But if you're trying to dominate yourself, master yourself, it's crucial.
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