/girltalk/ - Girl Talk

>>19436

Not sure you can totally prevent it but you can ensure she has good strong role models in you and her father which will instill in her self confidence and self respect. Bullies tend to to target much weaker willed individuals when they know they can get away with it. The least you can do is be someone she can talk to about it if it ever happens. Many kids I witnessed being bullied either never told anyone because they were ashamed or they had apathetic parents.

Girls bully out of jealousy as well tho. A childhood friend of mine was so jealous of this tall pretty girl and her nice clothes from expensive catalogs that she legit broke the girl's face. I was there and had to pull her off. It was a blind rage. Of course the old adage that bullies tend to have fucked up home lives and project self-hatred onto people who seemingly have what they want was true in this situation. Her dad was a drunk and her mom was batshit nuts.

So yeah. Don't know if this helps. Just thought I'd add my two cents to the topic. I mean you could also not send her to shitty public schools but that's an entirely different conversation.

>>19441

You can let them out once in a while, you know.

>>19437

>>19441

My parents did all of this i still got harassed by girls in high school, maybe it's unavoidable, guess i just have to figure it out how to make her a strong person.

>>19451

Like I said, it's not really something you can prevent entirely since bullies will bully no matter what *you* might want. Since you were bullied you probably know the warning signs and can act on it right away so at least you've got that going for you. Also keep her off of social media as long as possible in the name of all that is right and holy. Normal human discourse is turning into twitter banter and it's fucking depressing that people emulate it in rl.

>>19451

Anon, you will literally be bullied in your own workplace, and retirement home, should you end up in one. It's all about giving shits, and not taking it. Outside sources withholding this way of thinking can give such developments issues. That's why it's best you get away from as many of those influences as possible.

>>19436

>how do i make sure my daughter isn't gonna be a target of bullying by other girls?

You can't make your kid not a target simply by raising them right.

You may raise your kid to be confident, only to have other kids envy her social standing.

Raise your kid to be humble, only to have other kids laugh and ridicule them for being humble and frugal.

I think the best thing that you can do is to always keep communication between you and your children open.

It really helps if both parents are there to have more perspectives on things.

With that being said, dinner time is always family time.

>>19436

I got bullied because of an unusual appearance/fashion. We are talking about:

>bad haircuts like a bowl cut with really short bangs

>very generic, non-fitting shirts

>bad acne at age 10 that got worse (parents took the approach to wait it out, but it persisted to adulthood and I got a scarring)

which resulted in:

>daily insults, which I got used to after middle school, but happened in high school too

>my backpack being stolen a few times which would end up up on a tall tree branch

>my homework torn up and tossed in a trash can in the cafeteria

>lunch money stolen

>actual fights, when going to both the school, despite anti-bullying policy, and parents really did absolutely nothing to improve the situation

which resulted in my grades dropping a bit and getting scolded a lot during high school.

I don't think she has to be an aspiring model/fashionista and could be the opposite like a tomboy, and everyone will inevitably get some shit flown at them. But don't ignore her when she's telling you that she is thoroughly isolated and picked on daily at school. If she at least has your support after having things this bad (which is very unlikely), her existence is at least better than a mutually unpleasant experience.

Also keep painkillers away from her to make a suicide attempt be harder to accomplish.

>>20067

I think my ID changed, but my parents moved during my childhood, so I was in a completely new town on the otherside of the country with a really repulsive appearance. >>20004