/girltalk/ - Girl Talk

Be honest, stress it out how you want the same from her.

Talk about your feelings, and have her do the same.

Communication is key. If you both talk enough about your feelings, it will be apparent when the other is witholding information or trying to lie, making honesty look even more credible than normal.

>>18926

This is getting awkward, you probably don't want our help.

What would she think knowing you show your conversations?

>>18926

A major issue here is that you think you know this person after only two weeks. It's really REALLY easy to romanticize things online. She might turn out to be a fucking dude. Or a tween. Or worse. You literally do not know.

Speaking from a bit of experience with "falling in love online", people lie online. Maybe not explicitly, but they definitely lie by omission.

You think you're prepared for anything because you are so in love with their online persona and are willing to look past any faults, but… you aren't.

You'll scoff at my advice now but later on you'll remember it and be like "fug shoulda cut my losses and heeded that advice.."

Not trying to be a cunt. Just trying to be realistic. I hope I'm wrong.

>>18929

That's the thing, I'm not attracted to her because of what she looks like or anything like that. It's her intelligence that caught me. I'm in love with her intellect so much that it often becomes full-on lust. I'm not a sexual pervert who gets aroused by abuse but whenever she writes something mean attacking me it's so cute and funny that my libido goes insane. It's not my a normal sexual reaction, there's strong emotion behind it and I'm certain it's love.

She wrote me yesterday to not talk about her publicly, so I won't discussed the details of her last email to me, but suffice to say she rejected with a reason given that I just can't believe. I think she's scared that I'm not genuine, or she's afraid, so she's making up lies about herself. I'm 25 years old and and I've never felt about a girl like this. I feel like everything is at stake here. Making her my girlfriend is the only thing in my life that's ever or will ever matter. As soon as she entered my life it became clear how meaningless everything else around me is, like just living my life isn't why I'm here. And because she says she's married with children that's meant to change all that? How can that change anything when I still feel this way? So it can't be true. And even if it is I'm not going to give up without trying, I can support kids, and it doesn't change how I feel.

I'm struggling with how to tackle this.problem. I should have replied to her email yesterday. I'm sitting on the issue waiting for the solution to present itself when I know it has to come from me. I have to find the perfect words to let her know I'm serious and not a joke. I know there has to be some combination that will so perfectly describe the feelings within me but I'm just not smart enough. My chest is aching, it was almost too difficult to get up this morning. I kept having mock conversations with her in my head. If I knew her in person I could express how much she's overturned my life, but when I sit in front of a computer screen it's like my brain is zapped. When I type my feelings they come out an overly long string of dull words that don't register with her. She can't feel what's going on inside my body when I think about her or read her posts/emails, she only has an idiot me trying to describe it.

>>18930

>She wrote me yesterday to not talk about her publicly,

Little late for that, no? You're lucky this board is dead and filled with ladies who give zero shits. The name she goes by is quite unique… French, yes?

>That's the thing, I'm not attracted to her because of what she looks like or anything like that.

I mean how could you be, she doesn't even trust you enough to show you what she looks like. Again, you'd do well to remember that what you know about her is what she has allowed you to know over the course of a very short amount of time.

I'm gonna be brutally honest here. You sound lonely, horny and obsessed. All powerful motivators but it's not love, it's intoxicating lust and desire. I get it. It's overwhelming and all consuming but it absolutely fades away over time. But right now your head is pregnant with possibility and fantasy. You really need to get a grip.

>And because she says she's married with children that's meant to change all that?

Let's get some perspective since it's clear your balls are backed up and preventing you from thinking clearly. Think of it as me playing devil's advocate.

You're a convenient emotional support on the internet when her hubby is off working or whatever. You get each other all wet because it's strange and new, maybe talk about the mysteries of life or whatever and get all "deep". After that, she returns to the real world where her kids and husband are very real and physical presences in her life to whom she has real world responsibilities and shares a home, family and life with every day. You are someone she can just ignore messages from when she gets bored. He is someone with whom she likely shares assets, her home and property, and her flesh and blood who also share his DNA.

So, what do you think the outcome of all this is realistically going to be? Do you think it's fair if she drags the kids away from their father to be with you? You gonna raise them? Pay for their school clothes? College? Or maybe the better solution is that she just abandons them with her husband? Either scenario sorta leaves those kids in the lurch that's for sure, but who gives a shit about them right? So, what's the ideal outcome for you? What part of this family's lives are you willing to take a hatchet to for cummies and good feels? Because if she really IS married, it's not just about you two and your chat logs. Honest question, man.

>>18932

Me thinks Percolator should be a bit more careful about namefagging and leading lonely men on just because she's bored and unhappy at home.

>>18930

Do you really have to do this ? Why don't you just ask femanons here to write your mail ?

>>18931

>Do you think it's fair if she drags the kids away from their father to be with you?

I didn't even think of that. This is a mess. I can't do something like that but I'm definitely in love with this girl. How am I meant to accept passing on this, when I'll definitely never fall in love again? All girls I meet irl are nice and slightly stupid. I've never had a girl bully me like this and I'm addicted to reading her posts, I can only imagine how excited I'd be talking to her in person, holding her. I don't care what she looks like. I want to hear her French accent. I want her to interject French cusses into our conversations. Fuckkkkkkk

>>18932

Have you thought that this might hurt Percolatrice more than me? I know she doesn't want this on her board. You're being a jerk.

>>18933

u got pics of this bitch?

does her husband know?

>>18941

Look at your messages.

>I want

>I want

>I

>I

Where's the "she" ? Is it only about you ? I bet your emails are like this too. You seem to completely miss the point. Love isn't about the intensity of your first times, your new discoveries, nor it is to fill the emptiness of your life. It is about finding someone first, and most importantly loving each other simply the way they are. You WILL meet disappointment, and sometimes despair. So you may have fallen in love for the first time, but I'm 100% sure it won't be the last. Anyway, don't give up until you find the one.

>>18941

>I didn't even think of that.

Yeah that's my point, you're not thinking. Well you are, but only about yourself as also pointed out here >>18945

Also would like to point out that although most women like a bit of pursuit, when you get obsessed and message constantly with all these goofy fantasies and you cry and moan it's the worst possible thing you could do to win her favor. It gets old real fucking quick when the guy is a bigger pussy than the woman and dries up our shit like the Sahara. I mean maybe she's into that, who knows.

>>18950

>I mean maybe she's into that, who knows.

Though if she is, that's probably a big red flag on its own.