Somewhat related to /relationship/ and /nature of women/ and /SIG/
My take is that you first have to forge yourself. Some guys are deluded to think a woman will sort their problems out. Well it works the other way around. A woman does not know what she wants and she expects the man to lead her…even if she claims the opposite, this is the underlying role of sexes. You are the man, you are the stable element. That does not mean the woman will not do anything to support you and encourage you. But to put it plainly if a man has no direction in life, just plays vidya, watches trash t shows, jerks off to anime…what does he have to offer to a girl?
I short things to work on:
>Piousness
If you want a pious girl you have to be pious yourself, the faith is one of the most important you will share in your relationship. If she's too far ahead of you you will have to step your level up. If she's too low it might be a problem too for you.
>Income, vision
You need something to secure a family with her
>Interests
You need to be an interesting guy, in other words not just a vidya/8ch autist, but actually IRL hobbies. That does not mean do everything. Just few things that really get you…show that you can get into things with enthusiasm.
>Physical fitness
You want to have good aesthetics to attract the girl as well as strength to defend her when needed. Working out will do you good…increase your confidence, make you a better version of yourself.
I do not want this to become a ranting post that has been mentioned in /nature of women/ or /relationship/ but I will point out again the importance of STOPPING MASTURBATING WATCHING PORN. You need all testosterone and confidence you can have from your body to turn the things for the better. Stop sinning against God and stop ruining your body that is made in His image. SIG, Reading, getting grounded in faith and trial/error will get you tougher and therefore naturally better with women.
"A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones."
To put it plainly you have to deserve the crown. But the crown has to deserve you too once you get the qualities. Do not be the guy that puts women on the pedestal.
Work on yourself hard and then have the high standard for them…if you do not work on yourself the high standard might be useless.
Of course it isn't just about yourself, but about the girl too. The crown must be deserving of her king too. As important as your personal struggle is so is seeking the girl in the right places, knowing the red flags.
Then it comes to the girl. Of course you want her to be the best you can get as far as looks and character are concerned. We must realize however that majority of best looking women are thots nowadays. Just remember that character always beats the superior looks. Beauty will eventually fade, the kindness of heart will not.
>Places to look at
I recommend looking for girl around church. Most solid girls I met were around the church communities….after all even if we did not meet there….she went to church anyway. So that's it. Frequenting bars/parties with friends is fine but do not expect to find gold among filth there. Your chances of finding your virgin are low. Among your hobbies sort the places out so you get the idea where higher quality girls hang out.
>red flags
Tattoos, unusual colored hair, attention whoring online, yoga pants wore outside, revealing clothes, her attitude towards physical contact with you early on, her mentioning sexual topics.
Those are few that cross my mind
For the girl it seems that there are less things at first…..we tend to think "the girl just has to be there and not look like a troll woman." Well if you want a woman of good heart look for the kindness and character. Cooking, manual skills and her attachment to her family is also very important.
Her politics are secondary. Primary are her skills to become a housewife and mother one day.
That would be my effortpost take.