https://boards.4chan.org/pol/thread/211970266#p211974084
>Husband and wife have a mutual duty to one another in providing free access to the act of marriage, one cannot deny the other licitly. This is why "marital rape" was never a thing. However, this does not mean there is license for husband and wife to do succumb to the filthy impure fires of lust. The act of marriage must be ordered by divine law, and Tobit gave us the model of marriage. This can get very in depth, but to keep it concise: marital act must generally be approached with the primary purpose (which is the begetting of children) in mind, that can never be subverted licitly. After this, form and decorum in the act must be observed; there is room here to make what is not licit licit in the form of unchaste kissing/touching, but what is "licit" does not mean "good" and people have no understanding of the degrees of allowance truly given under divine law. Read the ancient patristic fathers and the defense against the Pelagians. But regardless the main axiom is "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church" (Eph 5:25) and most of the things that modern husband/wife do can hardly pretend to even approach this. It's not part of love to treat your wife like a whore.
Can somebody please elaborate on this?