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The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

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75a08c  No.803222

This is a very common tale but please hear me out.

My mother in the past 6 years has had immense misfortune when it comes to her health. First it began with chronic pain from a back injury, then she got a deadly bacterial infection in a wound on her foot which lead to her amputating her left leg, and from the bacterial infection she got kidney failure and had to sit through dialysis three times a week. Every month getting weaker and wheelchair bound. Her muscles gradually atrophies and energy getting drained from her. Not anything noteworthy in this modern medical industry we have.

A few days ago, when I came to visit her I found her slouching on the floor having bad motor skills and trouble speaking with a bump on her head. Turns out she fell somehow early in the morning and now had essentially he left side almost paralyzed. Called the ambulance had her rushed to the emergency room. They scanned her brain and sure enough she had a massive stroke. It was just so sudden and seemingly cruel. If I did not have faith in God already then this could have been the moment I would have turned my back on Him out of frustration and rage.

Turns out that years of hardships and hospital visits takes their toll and my mother decided to cease all life supporting treatments just today. Her will to live was broken with the additional handicaps she sustained. How long she has left is still unknown, could be a week or two weeks.

And here is the real regret: She is not Christian and had always lived as a secular agnostic, even my own faith is fresh and I am the only one in my family to even have any religious beliefs. I just don't know what to do. I fear for her soul and I don't want to be the cause of her rejecting Jesus by being pushy nor do I want to be slothful and lukewarm about it. I feel so very trapped and my time is limited so please excuse the rambling tone of my post. She also won't be able to attend any church or RCIA for obvious reasons. Not even sure what I should pray for at this point. Sorry for the blogpost but I just want to vent.

TL;DR: How do you save a very sick and injured person?

afd879  No.803232

I am sorry to hear that anon, this is a sad situation.

My advice is to write your mom's name on a green scapular, it is a sacramental associated with healing and conversion. God may not heal your mom if it is not in his will, but don't despair. If she is still alive she can still change her heart and you may see her well in heaven again one day.


afd879  No.803234

>>803232

Also I will say a rosary for your mom today


fad49d  No.803334

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>>803222

pray the rosary devoutly, with your intention being the conversion of your mother. pray like you mean it. God is listening.

Everything that happens, happens because God willed/allowed it. Everything. And it is all for your/your mothers benefit.

meditate on this truth. I would suggest the sorrowful mysteries, Our Lords passion. All that he suffered for your sake, because He loves you and your mother. And He longs for you both to unite your suffering with His.

Ask our Blessed Mother to guide you, to pray for you and your mother to get through this.

This is an exceptional moment for grace, do not lose this opportunity to help save your mothers soul. Think of everything she has done for you. Think about your own struggles, and yet realize what she must be feeling herself, as her life on this earth draws to a close.

Be honest with her. Tell her how you feel. Tell her how much you love her, and tell her that God is calling her. That all her suffering will not be in vain if she comes before Christ, that He may transfigure it into glory.

Be a good son, and honor your mother. Dont be afraid. Pray, truly and earnestly with all your soul and ask God to give you the grace to do what must be done, whatever it is.

God desires mercy, not sacrifice. Not one soul has He created for the purpose of destruction - He calls all to repentance, all to return to His Love. Fight for the mother who gave birth to you, unite your sufferings with hers, and both within Christ. YOU CAN DO THIS ANON.


fad49d  No.803336

>>803222

>>803334

what also comes to mind:

forgive her for everything she has ever done to you. and ask her to forgive you for everything you have done to her.

contact a priest you trust and tell him the situation. make all preparation that as soon as your mother obliges, she may immediately be baptized and receive communion, confirmation, and the unction for the sick.


0f38f9  No.803379

>>803336

This, anon

Pray fervently for her and I will also offer any prayers I can. If she agrees to it, she should be baptized


5dd4a1  No.803381

I'll bump this thread as a sign of sympathy. I hope it all gets better.


3ab99b  No.803406

Offer her a chance to talk to a priest. Sometimes that helps.


3ab99b  No.803407

And as for RCIA the church offers every chance and will even offer last rites to a willing stranger. See 2 Peter 3 9


e25b87  No.803448

>>803222

I’ll be praying for your family anon. As for advice, just tell her that you recently converted and that she should too because you care for her and wish the best for her soul


e25b87  No.803450

>>803448

It’s not the best advice so I’m sorry for that, but it’s all I have


75a08c  No.803570

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OP here. Thanks for all the advice and prayers. I cannot get my hands on a green scapular or even a rosary on short notice, I mainly pray using my fingers unfortunately.

A small update just to keep my own sanity and thoughts in order:

Visited her today and sure enough she was surrounded by friends visiting and showing concern and I couldn't really speak to her. I learned that she is given morphine and other medications that makes accepting death a bit more easy, in the coming weeks she will eventually get more foggy in the head until she just sleeps for a long time until her final hour. Her stroke was more severe than initially thought so she has to spend a good while to respond to questions and seems to have trouble thinking. But whenever she looked at me I could see redness welling up in her eyes as she recognized me and my pain. She could still be there.

I've requested to get at least 2 hours of private time with her while she still is awake. Just me and her. I feel this may be my final chance to at very least, say that I love her, that God exists and loves her and that He can save her as He saved me. But at the same time I am simply afraid that she will reject it or be indifferent or be too far gone. I will probably be very clumsy or not able to convey it in a proper way. Insecurity gnaws on my heart but I feel that God would be the most displeased if I never even dared to try in the first place rather than trying and failing.


bd7f81  No.803574

Do you know your parish's priest(s)? Call your parish, ask for a priest to give her last rites.


83c653  No.803585

>>803222

Hey Anon. I will pray for your mother.

As you say the best would be for her to accept Christ. I have no idea on how to go about it. Perhaps just giving her a small cross/icon with explaining that you care about her body as well as about her soul would be good. Perhaps it would not….You will have to judge for yourself. Oh and prayer, especially rosary, will help a lot.

Whatever God does, He does for a reason. If this is His will we have to accept it.


402c43  No.803596

>>803570

Try to pray with her. Ask politely, maybe sell it as "something weird I do, but it helps me ease my mind". She'll probably feel the honesty of a pure, sincere prayer. Christ is the Truth, after all.

I'd say try to avoid getting too obsessed about the rites. The important thing here is that your mother accepts Christ in her heart. Her being agnostic, and not atheist, may mean that she's spiritual but doesn't really like all the dogma and rituals. Last thing you want is your mother going through the sacraments only to easy your mind.

In the Catholic Church at least, many priests admit that it's possible to be saved even if you're not a member of the Church, but Jesus said "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). God is love, anon. Try to help your mother accept Jesus; even if it's not by name, she can accept what He is and represents.

I don't think I'm expressing myself in a 100% clear way, so I'll try to sum it up: the most important thing here is that when your mother finds herself before God, her heart is filled with love. Compared to that, conversion is secondary. The rites are helpful but only when you're heart is in the right place.

I hope that helped in some way.

Also

>Not even sure what I should pray for at this point.

It's OK to just be silent and contemplate sometimes. Silent prayer is a valid form of prayer.


3f7f4b  No.803609

>>803570

The Holy Spirit will give you the right words to say when the time is right. Even if you try your best and it looks hopeless, you don't know what's going on in her head and she may still have a sincere deathbed conversion. Trust in God's mercy. Say a divine mercy chaplet at her bedside while she sleeps. Praying for you and your mom. You are being a good son to her.


3f7f4b  No.803622

>>803570

If you don't mind saying what your mom's first name is I can write her name on a green scapular for you.


75a08c  No.803728

>>803622

Maria


ac1f86  No.803858

>>803789

Stop posting >: (



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