/christian/ - Christian Discussion and Fellowship

INTEL

https://www.christianmingle.com/

https://www.match.com (secular, claims to have the largest Christian dating pool on the net, proceed with caution)

>Does it cost money?

You can set up a profile and browse for free, as only communicating via the site/app costs money. This can be circumvented somewhat by leaving your full name on your profile and the smart ones will make their cm handle the same as their fb/ig handle.

>What about whores/whoremongers?

list/label yourself as "ultra-traditional", regardless of your denomination. This shows you are serious about it to avoid attracting the lukewarm and desperate. You will still get them, just kindly reject them as they come.

>What about pictures

Post pics from your social media to make you easy to identify if you're gonna be a cheap skate. Make sure the pictures show you at your best. No property showcasing or trashy club/party pics good Christians don't do those things anyways, right?

>What if no social media/pictures to choose from?

Get your family/friends to take or scan in pictures of you in your sunday best and business casual.nerd

>What do I write about myself?

Start with full name (for social media stalking purposes), self description (age, weight, height, gym/church frequency, hobbies, faults/body mods). State that you don't want a physical relationship before marriage. State that you like to dress well for church and in general for God's glory, have pics that back that up. State that you're ultra traditional, your denom, date of salvation, and state that you're looking for a mate to start a family. As such, state demographic ranges, hobbies, denoms (if any) desired, desired opposite sex roles listed in general expectations. List compromises based on your own shortcomings and affirm that if a potential suitor doesn't meet your expectations, wish them luck but to not message.

>What will people think?

Don't worry about it. Care about your goal of embarking on a proper Christian journey of marriage with a mate you will see as your peer.

>What tier should I get?

3 months tops. You will either find enough suitors to keep you busy, find the one, or you will completely burn out due to lack of success.

>What can I expect?

This varies on population density, as larger towns will have more mostly low quality local suitors and rural areas will have fewer, yet higher quality and distant ones. Your distance tolerance is to taste, but be prepared to find the perfect person outside of your comfort/taste zone. If you don't find someone in 3 months, take a break, continue to improve yourself in Christ, then try again when you're ready.

>First date?

Coffee shop. Low investment opportunity to see if the truth lives up to the small talk.

>I can't find my denom, what do?

As long as you both believe the Nicene creed and the Chalcedonian Definition, personal, doctrinal, and familial tastes/compromises apply.

>What's your personal experience?

There are tons of lovely christian girls 18-25 on the site. I was starting to burn out because I was in my late 20's and all the christmas cake on the site were either divorced, had kids out of wedlock, hit the wall, desperate, etc. If you are <28 years old should have much more success than I did if you're just as devout as I was. I got the six month plan, got burned out 2 months in, met a nice girl who was 3 hours away, then managed to find my waifu right before the 3 month mark, and wasted the other 3 months I paid for. I am certain that my personal adherance to all of the above mentioned was essential to my success but your mileage may vary.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO DISCUSS IN ORDER TO UPDATE OP FOR FUTURE THREADS

MAY THE PEACE OF THE LORD BE WITH YOU

>>589872

Limit is 300 here, the last one is at 297. A new thread is needed to keep the conversation going and not split between the two. m8

>>590007

You can suggest it, but I guess the idea is to be able to update the OP as needed. Just look at the evolution between the first and second threads.

>>590186

It will improve your chances significantly and also give you more confidence = you can actually ask girls out.

>>590204

>Germanistan

I know what you mean, where are you from? Franconia here, people are - for german standards - quite nice here, but especially young people are brainwashed beyond belief.

Finding someone is out of the option for me currently. Right now, I need to increase my T like mad. Anyone got good /fit/ infographics or links?

>>590233

I'm from Baden-Württemberg and the Schwabenmentalität kills me inside. As far as I have heard and experienced, Germans from other parts of the country are warmer than Schwaben, unfortunately they are still cucked. What is even more unfortunate is, as you mentioned before, how brainwashed our young people are. Young men will tell you they prefer a woman who is "experienced" because they don't have to teach her how and what to do properly; yes, these are the virtues to look out for in a woman.

>>590262

You can't blame the Jews for the inherent wickedness of humankind. Jewish propaganda or not, people have had these desires and behaved like this at any time in history in any society you care to name.

>>590269

Sometimes they did, oftentimes they didn't. I'm not denying that we live in the most openly, shamelessly, proudly degenerate time and society in recent history, but to pretend it's all down to "the Jews controlling the media" is incorrect and counterproductive.

>>590270

It is more of an exaggeration than anything. It is undeniable that the Synagoge of Satan ["Jews"] are behind these things, but who sold their soul to them in the first place? Gentiles corrupted through their power, greed, misguidance and wickedness.

>>590262

No child that was raised well would go to college or come to the conclusion they did. Proverbs 22:6

>>590177

A’s someone who lost his virginity and deeply regrets it, this makes me very sad inside…

>>590268

>You can't blame the Jews for the inherent wickedness of humankind.

I agree, everyone will answer for his own sins in full. Yet, it is hard to stay righteous in this wicked society which the Jews played a major role in creating. I had to seclude myself from people to find God, and others would rate me as highly intelligent. What does this say about the chances an average woman has?

There are only three english speaking white christian single monogamous girls looking for a short/long term relationship who are taller than 6"2 who are on a dating site that I find attractive in the entire world

>>590243

Stop fapping, start lifting, increase T. >>>/fit/

CONSIDER YOURSELF INFORMED

also, anyone got the screencap of some anon telling us how to be a good husband?

It was a really good post and I thought I saved it, but apparently I haven't

>>590293

>All those information

>Literally almost everything is poisonous

Crud. This is really scary. The reason I need the T so badly right now is because the hormonal imbalance will kill me. Screw the man boobs, low sperm count, and others for now. My body is killing itself and I need it to stop.

For the rest of you. Get your T count sky high when you still can. When you get to certain amount of low-T, you either mutate into nu-male; or your body simply refuses to comply with the bullshit and kill itself. This shit does not happen overnight. It is a slow fall so subtle you will not notice, when you do you are either a faggot or on borrowed time unless you do something.

>>589863

>To Taste.

What do you mean by this?

>>590286

>>590289

>Thot patrolling

Yeah, that's why I put the caveat emptor on match. But trust me that cm isn't that much better.

>That I find attractive

>taller than 6'2"

>looking for short/long term

>not marriage

You do know that you're ruling out shorter women who could just wear platform heels, right? It could also be that your standards may be too high, do you look like the kind of man that these woman would even consider dating? You shouldn't be looking for a relationship, you should be looking for holy matrimony, try 5'9"/175cm or taller, and add +2 to honestly devout women instead of aiming for 9/10 thots. Keep trying.

>Download Tinder

>Swipe through probably 100 girls, find a qt girl who says she is a Christian

>Swipe left and delete app, figure Tinder isn't the place to find a good girl

>Check out Christian Mingle

>Qt girl from Tinder is one of the first girls listed

Is it a sign? Her being on Tinder a negative?

>>590386

my personal opinion.

just being on Tinder is a huge red flag. it doesn't 100% guarantee that she'll be garbage for wife material but it's around 95%. every time a woman sleeps with a different man, her ability to create a real pair bond with another man diminishes. for a successful marriage, especially with todays laws, she has to have a strong ability to pair bond. tbh, about 90% of women total aren't worth marrying. it's a mine field out there.

>>590386

Tinder is used almost exclusively for one-night stands.

>>590386

Red flag or she is incredibly desperate to meet a perfect guy

>>590477

>Chad thundercock can't get a christian waifu

The jokes write themselves. I also think that you may be a little too specific since they are all blonde and whatnot, I'm scared to think that you live in a part of the world where there just aren't enough Christians around you. I think it's high time you migrate to cm and cast your lot there. It would be hilarious if you managed to find these skanks on there too, OP is more right than we give him credit for.

>>590386

>christian

>tinder

Your only choice is to pretend you didn't see her on tinder and give her an honest try. She may just be desperate, which is in and of itself a red flag. Godspeed!

>>590879

>My own sister does that regularly

Why did you let that happen?

>miscegenation

I'd be glad for you if you wouldn't commit miscegenation.

>>590882

>let that happen

You think I didn't try to stop it? Why am I responsible for her? You don't understand how little power men have in America, especially if they aren't the father. Blame our mother. My mother raised me right, but she let my sister do what she wants because she's a girl. My father is deceased.

>complaining about race

I'd be glad if you followed the Bible closer than you follow fascist/natsoc garbage. And before you accuse me, I'm not a Leftist faggot. I'm just tired of the quality of women that pass for white. Practically of them are virgin, and absolutely none of them want to stay at home and not work.

>>590889

>Practically of them

none*

BROTHERS PLEASE PRAY FOR ME

There's a qt at my work and all the bad signs are there (lip piercing, tips of her hair dyed blue, single mom probably, etc) and I can't get her off my mind. I don't want to fall into her snares but I'm lonely.

Please help.

>>590891

GIVE HER THE GOSPEL

>>590893

I wish I were that alpha. Better check my vitamin K levels.

>>590899

I acknowledge classical beauty as superior to the modern norm, but that kind of girl is a unicorn in today's world. My mind realizes the futility of finding a perfect woman and my heart wants to take me to the girl at work. I don't know if these feelings are from God or not. I only want to do the right and honorable thing: find the woman God wants me to be with and strive to be a good husband to her.

I need prayers.

>>590900

Yogurt and alfalfa sprout diet, brother.

I have a similar problem where I'm unbelievably attracted (lustful) towards girls with pixie cuts and short hair.

I guess the point is to find a help-meet for yourself, and with the guidance of the Holy Spirit grow together unto perfection. Certainly none of us are worthy of a perfect woman, even if one could be found.

>>590900

You obviously haven't started a cm. Not only do these women exist but they are begging for good husbands. I can personally provide two personally known Christian cuties looking for husbands. Stop lusting for new age thots: Repent, better yourself, then start your search for a good Christian woman.

>>590903

>attracted to pixie cuts/short hair

There's nothing wrong with a woman who can tastefully pull off a pixie cut, nor is there anything inherrently deviant from it. The only objection would be if they retardedly got one side of it shaved off, but even then if you met one like that you can inspire her to grow it back out.

>>590899

Chads also don't marry whores just because they are white. Mind your aim.

>>590910

A woman should have long hair as per 1 Corinthians 11

>>590386

Should we create a dummy twitter account just to check if the girl you are courting has a tinder account?

could save a lot of time, we could find early on if she's a harlot or not. with this we could ironically put tinder on our advantage, as a tool to see if they harlots or not (by seeing if they have tinder accounts)

>>590831

>>590962

I think I'm more scared about her being "desperate" than I am about the tinder deal. I dated one other chick in my life. She was a 23 year old babtist and went WAY too fast. She got mad at me after I indicated I didn't want to label us a couple after a month of dating. I eventually cut it off and unintentionally made her cry after 3 months.

I was able to find the girl on facebook. Going to sleep on it and probably contact her tomorrow through facebook as opposed to plopping down $40 on Christian Mingle.

>>590922

>Bible thumping

Women should also shut up in church and not be whores, if short hair is the only mark against a woman then she's still second only to Mary herself.

>>590915

A chad's woman is a reflection of himself, and a Christian chad doubly so.

>>591000

>being too pussy to go steady after a month

You missed the forest for the trees, my man. Its usually the man tying down the woman. Best of luck with this new one though.

>>590177

this is the cringiest shit. you're also on reddit so be mindful of that, really weak-minded people there that go with the popular mindset whose views blow to and fro with the wind. strawman non-arguments against religion, most of all its views on sex, abound. im sure we all have friends who buy into that same "sexual compatibility!" trash too. ill pray for you all.

>>590879

>Chad Christian wants an Asian waifu too

Hail, brother

>>591128

>accusing someone of, and complaining about Bible thumping

>on /Christian/

>>590879

To be honest I’m conflicted because I would prefer to marry a girl from Europe rather than from Asia…the weird thing is that I don’t get much answers from them; and it’s mostly South Asian and African women who have showed an interest in me. This is kind of sad, for I would prefer not to destroy the lineage of my European ancestors, yet I don’t want to die with only God at my side (selfish, I know).

>>591613

>South Asian and African women who have showed an interest in me

I feel ya, my friend. Whites are perceived as universally more attractive than any other race, so, that South Asian as well as Negro women desire you is because they'd trade up. But just think what kind of abominations of offspring you'd produce before giving into your flesh. Women from white countries think they are men, and/or are used of being chased by men who appeal to their primitive sexual drives, hence these men imitate or are Chad™ because, unfortunately, it works. I'm just assuming that you're as effeminate and weak as many on this Korean cuisine forum, including me, hence are shit out of luck. This is why we're in dire need to change our perspective, and accordingly, how we treat other women. We need to remind ourselves that women are below men, this is how God created us and wants us to be.

>>591621

Yeah, I’m an average Joe…and I’m not for “racemixing” unless is true love (which is very veeery rare). Having brown eyes and hair doesn’t help my look either…

>>591660

I agree with all you wrote; it’s just that loneliness and the fact that now I exercise a lot more (thus spikes of testosterone) make me want to breed like a rabbit with the first woman who would say yes to me (I once was a Chad-looking shy guy, which was like being a cute dog in many women’s eyes…)

My Bible study is doing a "creative date" with one of the women's bible studies at my university sometime next week. I'm hoping one of the women will be interested in me. If anyone could take the time to pray for me, that would be nice; I've always been very bad at interpreting women's intentions.

As a side note, I'm lowering my caloric intake and doing cardio and lifting all this semester.

>>591678

Don't forget that you're the predator, she's the prey.

Not talking pua crap, just saying that the biblical basis is to take a wife, not for a woman to take a husband. Know what I mean? Find a faithful cutie and let her do the interpreting of your intentions.

God bless, you'll be in my prayers!

>>591128

>Bible thumping

Greatest book ever written, my dude.

>>591660

>like a certain role playing game makwe

Who?

>>591602

That's the joke, it was the basis of rebuttal in which I showed that despite the Bible being the ideal, the reality is that short hair isn't in and of itself worthy of refusing a woman of God I'd rather date a Christian woman with short hair than some long haired thot.

>>591683

God bless you, brother.

>>591660

Christians marrying Christians isn't a sin. Stop saying "tower of babel" as if that validates your opinion.

>learn to love skim milk, and make a fitness plan that includes light cardio, goblet squats, and romanian deadlifts at the absolute minimum

Do SS instead

t. /fit/

>>591688

I don't blame you, my exercise routine's caused a similar problem for me. The Lord will reward you for your chastity in spades- it's just a test. Don't worry too much about it and make you you exercise frequent prayer as well.

>>591661

varg "firebomb with aplomb" vikernes or whatever his name is, guy really sells tabletop role playing games to make money

>>592045

I know. But the weekly large group is not segregated, fortunately.

>>591621

>effeminate or weak

Geez dude, have some self-respect. There is a long line of "average" in between Chad and Melvin. This place and 8chan in general is completely obsessed with being MASCULINE BRO and it comes off as pathetic and envious.

Now yes, you should strive to be more masculine in every way. I am going to commit to my boxing gym this year. However, it is not masculine to be a cartoon character. You should be "yourself" but strive to be a better version of yourself. Don't forsake the dignity you have in and by God. Also women can pick up instantly when you're "imitating" being manly so cut that shit out if you do it.

The secret is just don't worry about it and work on it privately bit by bit. Honestly assess your strengths (manly) and weaknesses (unmanly) and never forget that every man has both. Don't compare yourself to others but to Christ alone, who was the ultimate Man.

>>592054

>/fit/

Hello fitstian. I am a part of a boxing gym but don't do anything to gain muscle on the side apart from the cardio and actual boxing routines. I see the aesthetic qualities of fitness secondary to the practical advantage of learning how to fight and figure the muscle I get from just the routines is good enough. An extremely attractive (Protestant) female friend of mine even said I'm fine when it comes to muscle and that I actually have some. She is honest to the point of brutality so I know I can trust her in this (she would not hesitate to say I look like a cuck in so many words). I know every woman is different but could I get away with just the "natural" lean muscle you get from boxing routines? Kind of an odd question I know but I was wondering what your two cents would be.

tl;dr are the punching and cardio routines in my boxing regimen "enough" or should i do some lifting on the side?

>>590177

>ultraconservative religious parents

>sends their 19 years old daughter to (((college))) unaccompanied

Haha, yeah no. Parents like that are about as conservative as a tranny on crack.

>tfw South African

>can't use all these dating sites

I'd be happy to try LDR but I don't even think that's possible. You Americans and Europeans don't know how good you have it.

>>592166

Or they are naive or unaware. All the same, pray for them.

>>592168

>that image

Th-thank you anon. And don't mention it! A little self-critiquing is healthy but do it with self-esteem. When I think of all the true, real men I know, they are all true leaders who want to bring everybody up to their true potential because they believe in them, not grovel and try to bring them down out of vanity. This reflects God's love well. I am not saying don't have admiration for truly kind, manly men, but to discern what that means properly and with dignity! God bless you and thank for your kind affirmation. And never forget some things are just personality quirks ;)

>>592177

Yes this is a good point. Thanks for reminding us, we really are more blessed than we realize. Though make no mistake, those sites don't work 1/100th as well as you think they would…Still, don't look a gift horse in the mouth, I guess.

>>592054

>milk

>squats

>deadlifts

You fool! I'm telling these nerds to literally SS + GOMAD without invoking the meme. Don't forget bench press

>>592058

varg is on welfare lol

>>591622

Noice, how is that going for you?

>>593069

Where can I find me a girl like that? Who even is she?

>>589863

>3D

Do I need help? I think I do, I don't really see myself going anywhere.

>>593069

>learning together

This is EXACTLY it. She hit the nail on the head completely (obvious beauty aside). How come people don't think of it like that? It's almost like it's something that is so intimate it is meant for ONE person in your life (barring an early death/etc). You both "awkwardly learning together" out of pure love is as romantic as she gushes about it being. What a sweet heart!

plz b cadoligg D:

>>593069

Also those first 3 seconds can be posted in response to anyone asking or having doubts about sexual immorality/struggling with it. Should be stickied to the NoFap thread.

Last post but I just rediscovered this other Christian dating site. Apparently has more users than ChristianMingle…

It's called Zoosk.

>>593152

Recon it, then report back, assuming you're in the market. I'd love the widen the pool for our more remote brethen like our South African friend.

>>593152

False alarm. I only assumed it's Christian because I have an account and it compared itself to ChristianMingle- lol it's just another basic dating site. Not sure how I missed that. I did find a Mexican mega qt though so we'll see how that goes. I couldn't believe there were so many attractive women on it but that's because it's not religious…Though I've seen one profile so far mention Christ.

Nothing to see here, folks. Though there was another site I was using…I found an Orthoqt on that one. I'll report back with name.

>>593178

Alright. The site with the Orthoqt (who I am pretty sure is inactive now) is Christian Dating For Free (or CDFF). As you can imagine, the fact it is free means it has several drawbacks. Tons of women are from the Phillippines trying to snag a white man and trade up to the easy life, but there were a TON of women in my area, many of whom are attractive. However, most of them were non-denominational (so Baptist :D). There are women from all over the world- this might be South African Bro's best bet. And it's free! To upload pictures, to message, everything. The site looks like it's from 1999 but that comes with the territory.

Now excuse me while I make a ChristianMingle account to message this meckscan catlick.

I tried another site, which has a free 3-day trial called Christian Connection but it must be too new because it had almost no one on it near me, and none of those who were near were gadolig.

There is also a site called ChristianCafe that I have yet to try.

God speed and keep searching, brothers.

>>593069

>webm of a girl posted on /Christian/

>not posted by that one Baptist poster

is this real life

>>593222

as a christian in america theres a 20% chance shes already had or will have degenerate premartial sex. Cheer up anon

>>593250

>>593222

Haha WHOOPS I meant 80%

>>590186

>the chad messiah

BASED

>>593250

>>593252

the way she is talking 'omg its cute when you're learning together XD!' and all the other shit has me thinking she was getting plowed in her early years.

>>593252

>>593250

She already uses (not so subtle) whorish make-up and proclaims how purity is important. Maybe in the physical aspect it is for her, but not in a mental sense. Christian women and that kind of make-up - or even make-up in general - are very suspicious to me.

>>593259

Exactly this. My girlfriend was raised Catholic (since lapsed, but we are starting to talk about it) and wears no make-up whatsoever, neither does she have pierced ears.

When it comes to Christian make-up, there is probably a strong element of thoughtless following of convention. Virtually all women wear it and it's likely a fairly automatic thing to some extent. However, it does make you wonder about a person's opinion of herself and her self-worth. If she dislikes appearing in public without make-up on, then you have to ask the question: What does she value? Her superficial coating - her clothes, hair and skin, or her hidden heart? Does she really think she is someone worth talking to? The same goes for extreme hairstyles, tattoos, piercings, etc. In adopting these things, I am trying to wear what little value I consider myself to have on my skin, to try and attract attention from others (whether sexual or simply social) without having to talk to them, because I know I have nothing to say.

>>593279

this, all the best girls i ever had anything to do with never wore makeup. Not necessary for a good partner but it's a green flag to look out for

>>593338

>>593259

>>593252

>>593279

>>593250

>>593257

>Passing judgement on a short video

>making assumptions based purely on superficial identifiers

Stop treating women like men, all of you. Its obvious they are of lower intelligence to get social cues from their environment instead of purely internal motivators. Its why we as men have to give them the initiative to be the woman both we and God wants them to be. If you're some chubby, lose t-shirt and jeans wearing loser, you don't get to throw stones at women of faith who are actually trying to make a difference. Where's YOUR jewtube channel?

>>593392

Even though women are below men, stop white-knighting for them with stripping every grain of accountability from them. We all know women, especially these days, put more value on their appearance than anything else, hence we are pointing to the hypocrisy of this "Christian" woman. I'd say putting up makeup for woman is like masturbation for men - vices as good as everyone does today because we are only products of godless and heathen times, in which we are encouraged to give in to our flesh. Yet I'd judge both sides of this coin.

>If you're some chubby, lose t-shirt and jeans wearing loser

Jokes on you, I'm just a loser.

>Where's YOUR jewtube channel?

>implying anyone needs to produce useless content for the sake of it in order to criticize someone else, who produces useless content for the sake of it

Of course I am passing judgement from what I see. A godly woman is supposed to be modest in her apparell. Seems she (as well as you) haven't glanced over the NT.

1. Timothy 2:9-10 says:

>9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

>10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

And 1 Peter 3:3-4 says:

>3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

>4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

>>593069

Is it bad if this vid gave me a goober lift?

>>593401

lmao

>>593434

Hol' up, I never said that gal in video is a whore. I said her makeup is whorish. 99 % of contemporary women dress like whores, which does not mean that they are whores, fornicators or defiled. All I said is, that it is suspicious that they wear makeup (or dress lewdly) because when a woman does it, she does it to garner the wrong kind of attention from men. Some are oblivious of their sexuality, but I won't give the benefit of the doubt for the majority.

>>589863

>the responsibility is yours

Responsibility rejected because it's not worth it.

Your move.

>>593449

>never said video girl is a whore

But you (as in you and the other detractors in kind) said she wears make up, and makeup is used by whores. Ergo, you're all implying that she, by wearing makeup, is a whore and whatever message that she had was tainted by that fact. It is logically inconsistent that solely using makeup is grounds for ignoring everything she said. Or like some, make assumptions that she probably doesn't believe what's she saying because of that. I made the parallel to dress, fitness, success and aesthetics of a man being prerequisites to criticism of the other sex. Basically a more elaborate rebuttal to "Sharp elbows? 2/10 wouldn't not bang" tier whining I typically see here.

>>593460

You interpret too much into us. We're just here because we're deeply interested in the arts of Mesopotamian stockbreeding. Don't lay words in to my mouth. I didn't discredit her laying value in virginity. If you had any reading comprehension, my clear distinction between the physical and emotional aspect are self-evident. Now, this superfluous subject is getting ridiculously out of proportion. My point still stands: she is preaching physical purity, yet she wears makeup like a hooker or clown prostitute, which means she puts a high emphasis on her looks and wants to get the extra of lustful looks from men who have a thing for whorish looking women with low self-esteem. Now, you interpreting a statement, which I did not proclaim, is quite hypocritical since you demonize my doing, yet, on an anecdotal and empiric level, me judging is not wrong, even based on scripture.

Hey /christian/, I may need some help here.

I think there was a guy with a simmilar problem in previous thread, but this is a bit different.

There's a girl that I like (and she likes me - more then I like her), but there are two problems:

- she lives quite far away

- this year I'm going to turn 18 and she's going to turn 15 the age of consent in my country is 15I'm obviously not going to have sex before marriage, but people have dirty minds nowadays so it can be scandalous

3 years of difference is not a lot when you're 23 or older, but there's quite a difference between a 18 year old and a 15 year old. Should I go for it?

Pros

>she's a catholic and accept's Church's teaching on sexual morality

>she lives far away, so there's not much occasion for sinful behaviour

>and more time for self-improvement

>she's younger, so I have more time to prepare for marriage

Cons:

<she lives far away, so we are nit going to meet often

<she's younger and it may cause problems at this age

Her parents like me, but my mother is againts such a relationship. I'm also the one keeping her faith going, so without me she may fall into lukewarm catholicism or worse.

What should I do?

>>593495

>What should I do?

Be a man, get a job in her proximity, turn her into a godly woman, and when you have secured a profession and a good handful of Shekels, there will be no hesitation of marrying her and let her pop one baby out after another. She's in an age where she is exposed to moral degeneracy and sexual immorality, so, you being the man to guide and form her is crucial, especially if she isn't homeschooled.

The whole age "issue" is blown out of proportion. Because of the distance, there is no reason to make it into a relationship/physical kind of dating, instead, keep it to just dating - platonic and strengthen the emotional intimacy - and being a good role model for her, so she shall become a good wife. There is nothing wrong with guiding a girl into becoming an admirable woman you can marry when she is of age; she'll look up to you and you appreciate her as your right hand. You are in a prime position, except for the distance, which must close. Your mother is probably jealous of her because she is realizing that you might love and care for another woman than her and leave the house in due time.

>>593495

Better advice: Forget about her. Focus on yourself and the Lord. If you still have interest when she turns 18, maybe pursue her then. By that time you may be able to provide for her.

>>593495

Try to reconcile the situation with her parents. Work on yourself in that time and stay friendly with the girl in question, I'm sure that in a year or so the mom might not take so terribly to it. Realize that she isn't the only girl in the world, but if you can manage to grow the relationship with distance, then it will only flourish quicker once the parents get on board if you manage to move closer and find a job near them. Best of luck!

>>593504

It's my mother that isn't on board with this, not hers. I haven't met her (mother) yet, but I've heard she likes me.

>>593499

Assuming she's not going to lose interest in me or become a nun, because she doesn't want anyone else (yes, she actually considers it)

>>593497

That's a really good advice. Assuming I'm not going to come up with anything better, do you think I should tell my parents about it? Or behave as if she was just my friend?

>>593259

>>593279

lol that make-up is fine. give me a break.

>SHE MUST BE A-A-A HOOR

Not to white knight but could that be your resentment toward women talking?

>>593252

She is clearly in the extreme minority of people (along with us) who believe it is worthwhile to wait so she probably falls on the 20%. And of course if she did make a mistake there is always repentance. That is not worth speculating though and your defeatist attitude is a hindrance unto you.

>>593490

Maybe that other guy is reading too far into your posts, but you're reading way too far into video girl's intentions. Her make-up may be a bit excessive but it is nowhere near "lustful looks from men who have a thing for whorish looking women with low self-esteem". If her make-up gives you a boner you might need to talk to more women, I don't know dude

>>589871

Can someone explain to me how looking like a low key Muslim girl is "qt"?

>>593707

Muslim girls are cute.

>>593617

Did I say she was a whore? Did I say she was wearing 'too much' make-up? Please read my post again.

>>593707

Because humility and modesty is cute, more girls should cover themselves up more.

Chapel veil is cute because it isn't required, so it means the girl is actively searching more ways to be closer to God.

Also trying to look like Mary is always QT tier.

>>593509

>do you think I should tell my parents about it? Or behave as if she was just my friend?

It wouldn't be a lie to say that you're her friend. But if things are serious and your paths are set in stone, then you have to tell them how it stands. If your mother objects, then listen why she objects and then judge if her concerns are sound.

>>593789

Her reasons are basicly what I've listed in my first post: she living far away and the age gap. And not the age gap in itself, but the fact that she's so young - if I was 23 and she was 20, she would be completly fine with it

>>593766

I am only commenting on how it's like the other anon said, "elbows are too pointy, 2/10". I even admitted maybe it's a bit too much makeup but you are getting way too hung up on what amounts to a small thing, as if you're trying to discredit her. Women don't think that deeply about their actions and what they imply which is why they need men to lead them. That is all. The "ad hominem" was only a jab, like you did by insinuating how I must be a woman.

I guess it just isn't as much make-up to me as it is to you because it blends in better than what I typically see. I am not denying most women have a terrible perception problem when it comes to make-up, I just see it as fine in her case.

>>593764

Ah. Got it. Catholic legalism and bondage is cute to you. Makes sense now.

"Make sure to wear your Sunday best" -

things Jesus never said.

>>593911

>A little smoky eye

>foundation

> lip gloss

You obviously don't know/see too many whores, keep your mommy issues to yourself. If you aren't looking or discussing relationships, why are you still in this thread? I see things in these modern churches that would make you retake constantinople tomorrow.

>>593895

My apologies mate. My mother told me that I would die if I joined the military. I served honorably and still love my mother, but after that day I stopped taking her naysaying seriously. I'm not saying that our situations are completely analogous. But if the only rebuttal your mother offers is age, without knowing who this girl is or even attempting to talk to her parents who are ok with it, then you can just chalk that up to hysteria on her part.

>>No body modifications

>>Tattoos, hair color changes and piercings are signs of self doubt, as the person doesn't believe that they are interesting enough on their own as representatives of a living God.

Are clothes a sign that we doubt God gave us an interesting body?

My brothers! Rejoice with me because I have a date for Saturday! I 'met' her on tinder and she explicitly stated she is Christian in her bio, so my fingers are crossed and I'm very hopeful. Pray for me that I don't bungle it up!

>>594047

You need to make sure she's saved by the end of the first date. If not, get her saved, even if you're not interested in seeing her again.

>>593069

that's Sweetovivi btw

>>594047

>meeting a "christian" girl on a sex app

>being on a sex app yourself

Smh

>>594048

I do tend to avoid such talk on first dates, but I can sometimes kind of guess as to their inclinations religiously by the things she chooses to talk about

>>594058

I'm in a smallish town man, no one has even heard of other 'dating' apps let alone uses them. I've looked, so cut me some slack!

>>593985

Clothes don't modify your body, they enhance natural appearance.

>>593985

Clothes are the opposite, the more you wear and the better you cover yourself, the more you respect yourself. It's why long, a line dresses and Baptist Dress Uniform are the standard. God be with you.

>>594047

I'll help you in that prayer. Don't shy from your faith and objective. Lay all of your cards on the table and let her clearly know your intentions and expectations. Godspeed!

>>594059

Guarantee this 'chirstian' girl of yours has swiped hot nonreligious guys… most probably even slept with one

>>594805

join the Catholic Church so your sacramental marriage may receive graces

>>594666

Get thee behind me, satan.

>>594805

>I must not be walking uprightly

Exactly. Fear is not of the Lord, search within you for the source of your doubts and work to extinguish them with God's holy light. Don't be led astray by your dispair, petition the Lord while you seek self mastery. You're gonna make it.

>>593991

>Talmudic blah blah

You just seem resentful toward women and there's nothing the removal of make-up would do.

A woman who has bought and smoked weed a few times demonstrates weak-mindedness (going with the group), right? Granted that is why it is a man's job to lead her and her engaging in said weed is because lesser "men" probably misled her, no?

>>595874

women should be living at home until their married. her father screwed up

SITREP

So anons, any reports/success stories?

>>596270

No.

Christianmingle has like eight girls in my town (iirc basically all nondenom/prot to boot), one is listed as "never married" and has a kid smfh

Same story for my previous attempts on OKCupid, it's hard to find anyone who's both nearby and pure

I've randomly asked out girls I see at the gym and elsewhere before and they're either:

- Not single (99% this is the problem I run into)

- Not virgin

- Have no time to date

I'm in my 20s and never had a relationship even though I pray for one often. I'm getting frustrated with it all and it's really getting to me, but I don't know where to go. There are no women my age at my Church either though the community is fairly large. I really just don't know what to do any more

>>596276

>but I don't know where to go

> I really just don't know what to do any more

The LORD is calling you to join a monastery, Anon. I too am in a similar position as you. I have been without a meaningful, non- scandalous relationship my entire life. And I'm starting to think that Christ may be calling me to a life of celibacy and prayer for the exhortation of His endless glory.

I don't know if I have the spiritual fortitude to take on such a life quite yet -I'm still praying for guidance. And who knows, maybe God will deliver us the mates we desire and make good, outstanding family men out of us yet. But the monastic life is not without it's own allure, and I pray that perhaps you may come to realize and respect this fact and to accept that perhaps it may be God's plan for you.

>>596286

Sorry my dude, I've arranged my life such that I'll get a good degree in a highly specialized field, find a solid job and work to support a good wife and kids of my own. For one, I literally will be unable to give everything up and join a monastery due in no small part to crippling student denbts.

Furthermore, if I have to sign myself up to a life of celibacy I'm highly likely going to go insane - I can't handle being this alone, nevermind being like this for the rest of my life. It's unthinkable to me.

Lastly, I don't want to see monasticism as a cheap cop-out for being unable to find a wife. The life of a monk is arduous and challenging and I'm not the sort of person that's cut out for it.

If it's something you think it suitable for you then I hope you do well in it though

>>596276

Lol. There's like zero chance that a random girl you walk up to at a gym will be a virgin. There might be a chance if you see some sign that she's Christian like a cross necklace, although even then it's iffy.

>>596330

I know but I still have to try because it's the only place I go to that I can be around a lot of people I don't know

Like I said, I'm having trouble knowing where to even begin to look

>>596073

Well she is living at home still.

>>596270

Kind of! I am talking to two (2) women on CatholicMatch desu. One lives within a reasonable distance but the other lives 8 hours away, two states away ;_; Our messages are fugghueg walls of text though, I'm starting to kind of dig her. And she's (((qt))). She's almost exactly 500 miles away (like 502). Isn't there a song about that? And recently, maybe it isn't related, but I'm doing this Marian consecration retreat and one of the days talked about how St. de Montfort walked 1,000 miles to the pope and basically asked if we have ever walked (physically or metaphorically) 1,000 miles for something/someone/God. So maybe it's a coincidence, but….that is 1,000 miles both ways…She is the real deal, too. And she lives with her folks, is extremely close with her family (and extended I think too). A couple of her pics have her younger cousins in them too so she's good with kids. The single issue is the distance but I'm not gonna let satan cuck me outright, I'm going to give this some kind of shot.

I'll pray for you, you pray for me!

>>596377

Also she is extremely close with her father. Really, the only mark against her is the epic weed and her confused view of marriage (kind of buys into certain secular things like having her own money that she is not going to tell her husband about…yeah there's certainly work to be done but otherwise she is virtuous).

>>596380

Sorry to quadpost but I feel I should explain the money thing, given how sensitive everyone is with women 'round these parts. Her father's ex-wife (they're Prot lol) was, as she says, a huge gold digger. That is why she has trust issues with that, so it's understandable. She completely sides with her dad against the ex-wife and everything, you guys would be proud.

>>596288

Yeah don't listen to anyone telling you what YOUR vocation is (except God obviously). How old are you? 24 here and I am absolutely determined to have a wife and family as well. Keep on keeping on, Orthobro.

t. Catbro

I've been praying for seven and a half years, and each rejection hurts worse than the last. Every time I think I know what God is telling me, I'm dead wrong.

>>596384

Same age, man.

>>591678

^This still hasn't happened yet. Ree.

>>596276

Where the heck do you live? Don't ask randos, you've a better chance of visiting local churches to scope out their cuties. CM isn't an in depth catalog of available christian girls. I will pray for you.

>>596474

A university city, so you can kinda gauge the quality of the women by that alone.

I don't feel comfortable visiting other Churches just to find women, and there're only two Orthodox Churches here - the one I don't attend is full of Eritreans and old people, which is offputting; and the one I do, like I said, has no (single) women my age sadly. I've asked people I've gotten to know there if they know women my age that are single but it's always the same story.

Thanks for the advice anyway though.

>>596475

>I want a wife

>I don't want to search for her

>Why nogf gzuz?

You think its a coincidence that you already know who is and isn't married in the opposite sex at your church? Why is it hard to assume that women wouldn't do the same thing at their church/school/gym/social events? Come on bro, don't be self defeating.

>>596553

>Orthodox man denigrating himself and going to prot/roman/nondenom services just to find a wife

This seems wrong tbqh

I have no qualms with events or social gatherings or such but there's not a whole lot around

>>596555

Semantics. Check that ego, being Orthodox doesn't make you a better Christian, just one more in tune with church history and doctrine. Considering protty services are basically social gatherings, you're boxing yourself in. Grow up.

>>596622

My point is

>skip my own Church Liturgy

>in favour of being in a non-Orthodox place

>not even for the service, just for girls

That's why I said I think it's wrong - it's not the venue that's my concern, my dude. I'll happily attend a prot/roman/whatever social thing

>>596704

>'ll happily attend a prot/roman/whatever social thing

Try seeing if other churches publicize their volunteer events. That way you won't miss Liturgy, as such events are usually on weeknights, and the atmosphere is much more conducive to starting conversation and getting to know people.

Related note, many of the young married women (married less than 5 years) at my parish converted from a different denomination because their husbands are Orthodox. She'll more than likely follow your lead after you find her.

>>596741

Yeah I'll give that a try then, I'll take a look around me for events like that. Thanks, anon

>>596765

I tend to bring up how I'm intending to wait until marriage, or comment on the lack of purity in the modern world and gauge her reaction and replies. This works well if you observe how she behaves normally, dresses, etc. There's a bunch of subconscious cues you can try to pick up on.

>>589863

>It is generally understood that people may have events that would keep them from church.

I hate this meme

>>596622

>protty services are basically social gatherings

and the keks start comin and they dont stop comin

>>596773

>comment on modern world

This is a good one, I do it all the time. I openly rant about how awful the state of things is to one of my Bible groups. I'm pretty sure a couple girls want the R (respect? ring? both?) but maybe I'm just being an arrogant douche.

>>596765

You demand that her father present the token of her virginity.

>>596881

>even the baptists are making me kek tonight

Cheers.

>>596765

Ask them? Are you a virgin? Most will be upfront or give an indication that they aren't pure.

>>596841

Though its a meme, its also how some choose to live their lives and as most things in the OP, its to your taste how much you tolerate skipping church.

>>596881

>Yo pops, I'm gonna need to see the logbook on her chastity belt

I love you baptists.

I still need to decide on a denom and start lifting. Should I start hunting for waifus now or do it once I've sorted both of those issues out?

>>596378

Also one last point about the semi-coincidence: the halfway point between us both is St. Louis, which is the saint the consecration is inspired from. Either God likes fun coincidences that only take up a small flash of your life or it's a sign. Going to assume the first until a good reason to think otherwise.

>>596900

Hmm. I personally think it's fine to hunt if you have decent social skills/women skills. Just improve on that stuff as you do it. Because you might get even more experience interacting with them as you do this now, which can be another thing you're improving on. I personally say go for it, there's never a reason you should not do it because you can always get better. And what if you meet someone incredible? Don't count on it but there's really no reason not to put yourself out there now. And if they like you before you're all buff, then all the better. You won't have to question their loyalty the same.

>>596897

>Ask them?

Bad idea imo - ideally you'd want to figure out if they ARE virgin before too much time passes so you don't waste your efforts. Mix this with asking a woman upfront if she's a virgin makes you look creepy and makes it seem like you only care about her hymen status. You have to be tactful with women, even the purer ones.

>>596907

You're right, but if you think they will volunteer that info without investing months into the relationship, you're also wrong. I will pray for you!

>>596897

>Ask them? Are you a virgin?

That's solid advice. Women know that having their virginity is something to be proud of, especially Christian women should know that, and since such a question is usually unexpected it throws the interviewee off. You can immediately tell if she's lying or honest in most cases.

>>596907

>makes it seem like you only care about her hymen status

Women ought to know that their purity is one of the most important things they can give to their men. And since I've read about male microchimerism I won't even remotely consider to compromise in that aspect at all; just the lone thought of getting a bastard son because she received semen from another man at another time makes me completely disgusted and angry at the same time. For anyone who wants to know what it is all about, be aware that you won't see non-virgins in the same light ever again: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16084184

>>596950

>won't see non-virgins in the same light ever again

>implying i saw them in anything resembling light and not abject darkness

>met a 10/10 talented cutie

>check her ig and she apparently has a mpd

fuck it, fuck it all

>>596984

A moped?

>>596988

multiple personality disorder

as she said her pronouns are they/them

>>596981

>>596984

>>596993

Why aren't you bumping the thread? If you don't have anything worthy of a bump, just don't post. That's what you get for focusing on looks before faith.

>>597091

Why should i or shouldnt i? Fuck you and your projection of objective rules

>>596270

found some onlne, gonna start meeting up with them soon. got to churn through bc there's a lot. should be fun

ill check in a few weeks with updates

>>597109

I suggest you see your proctologist immediately.

>>597322

What site is this?

>>593764

I like this post

>>597343

>Baptist

>Picture with St. Steven Anderson (PBUH)

>qt

Looks like someone is in love. You can do it brah.

>>597326

Nice! I will help you pray for success, but do not neglect pursuing self mastery.

>A strong body requires a strong mind. Learn what your TDEE is, make a goal weight, learn to love skim milk, and make a fitness plan that includes light cardio, goblet squats, and romanian deadlifts at the absolute minimum.

Why even do this if you can just fast with snake juice?

>>597764

Because it won't increase your cardiovascular endurance and grow your muscles. Stop making excuses and make changes instead.

>>597792

Don't keep her all to yourself, what's the site called?

>>597816

cdff, christian dating for free

best site, you can message for free

tons of 18 yo cuties lookin for marriage. we're all gonna make it lads

>>598045

Cool intel, I'll add it to the next OP.

>>598049

okc - good/best tier. lot of thots. free messages

match - terrible. all thots. not free messages

cdff - greatest tier. bad ui but good girls

christian mingle - ok tier. put some id in your profile bc the jews running it want 50 dollars to message someone. not free messages

tinder - turbo thot tier. free messages

>>598055

I'm trying to only include Christian centric sites. Match is the only one of the secular sites that actually advertises the largest collection of christian singles on the web, which is why its added with the caveat. Thanks for the run down though.

>>598056

match is trash though. in terms of secular sites with largest amount of christian girls i would say zoosk, it's relatively cheap as well for a paid site

>>598055

Don't forget CatholicMatch for the 'licks. The best source for us honestly, in my experience. CDFF is as good as the anons have said as well. Look out for flips aching for a white man though (unless you don't mind them flying over here/you flying them here to marry you if you have a stable job because that's exactly what they're looking for).

I've been dating a woman for about six months now (the third relationship I've let go more than a date or two). She's devout, pretty, wants a lot of children, and we genuinely get along - and importantly, I get along with her family. I really feel like she could be the one. However, my parents pressure me to date around and "sow my wild oats". How do I convince them this isn't young love delusion? Aside from prayer, how can I be sure?

>>598478

There is no "the one". Just pick someone and be satisfied with her.

>>598480

I agree with this, I just meant that I think she would make a good wife, in so many words.

>>598478

Don't listen to baptists. There absolutely is a one. Prayer is the only way. Keep yourself in communion and you will know in time.

>>598531

There is no one perfect woman for you, buddy - only "good enough" depending on your standards.

>>598532

Perfect? No. An Eve to an Adam? Yep.

>>598478

> my parents pressure me to date around and "sow my wild oats

>the third relationship I've let go more than a date or two

Personally I'd consider that 'dating around'. Have you talked to male friends about her? Male members of your church or your priest? They may have some insight, or can offer some approval or criticisms of her.

>>598549

Don't set your standards obnoxiously, impossibly, and unrealistically high, anon. I've spoken to a guy that told me he wanted to wait to find a woman who had never even been in a previous relationship and that she had to be perfect before he could consider her marriageable.

It's hard enough in this society to require virginity let alone someone like what that guy wants. Just be careful in how you approach this problem is all I'm saying - don't get trapped in the idea that there's guaranteed to be someone out there for you. It's all a struggle.

>>598554

I understand your point, and I agree on the impossibly high standards. My point is that men and women aren't randomly thrown together to pair up chaotically. God's plans are more specific than that. One Adam to one Eve. Sure, they may have made plenty of mistakes, and surely you'll have to forgive hers as she will yours, but when one walks down God's path for you one does find "the one", damaged as she may be.

>>598550

I agree, but to put it delicately my father wasn't exactly a prude in his youth, so he has different views of the matter. Its also strange coming from my mother, as my father was the ONLY man she dated for any length of time. My male friends like her, especially my closest friend, a proper proddie. Im not really close with other parishioners unfortunately.

>>598564

I disagree emphatically. To each his own on this.

Thanks for letting me blog frens. Well see what happens given another year or two.

>>598478

>>598482

>>598575

There's no such thing as "the one", there is however "the one" type of personality that one prefers above others. Take it from a dirty ex-philanderer like me: All women breed the same. Find one you can hold a conversation with before and afterwards. You're doing better than most people in this thread, don't throw it away to chase the lies of world.

>>598575

It sounds like you're on the right path and you'll find the answers you seek. I'll pray for you and her tonight.

So I just opened a CDFF account. What do I do now?

>>598606

Try >>589863 and >>589864

>>598478

>sow your wild oats

Funny, my mom mentioned this the other day. It's literally implying "you should have exciting adventures and sexual relationships :D" so it's dead wrong (except you can still have exciting adventures, but it's more of an internal adventure unless you want to travel a little). There's a really good Beach Boys song called "When I Grow Up (To Be a Man)" and one of the lines is "Will I settle down fast or will I first want to travel the world?"…It's nice how it implies it's perfectly acceptable to settle down young, something which is unfathomable by most. That song in general is full of feels, like any Beach Boys song.

>will I look for the same things in a woman that I dig in a girl

>now im young and free (now im young and free) but how will it be (how will it be)

>cut to chorus

>when i grow up to be-eeee a man

Check it out, chums

Brothers of all Christian creeds, I'd like to hear your thoughts on something.

>messaging girl on CatholickMatch

>real, gen-u-ine Catholic (prays, rosaries, father mike, litanies, Adoration, frequently daily Mass)

>clearly interested in me through messaging, we send walls of text

>get phone number

>text her

>called her for first time yesterday

>exchanged only a couple texts afterward over the course of the evening

>last text, sent last night, a question to her (Did you listen to the song i sent on cm?)

>hasn't replied

I know it's only been a day but can anyone offer any insight? I've been overthinking it on and off all day, texted some friends. I'm not really looking for an "answer" because I'm just going to text her tomorrow morning "Good morning" and the usuals, in which I will get a much better picture but I thought the phone call went well, we were laughing a lot. The universal "Don't worry about it" law applies as ever, obviously.

>>598631

Nothing wrong in farming some money for a while before settling down to start a family either, just saying.

>>598637

1:2 or 2:3 ratio for her:your texts. No matter what.

If you're going to organize hanging out or a date, pick the time and location. She'll adapt her schedule to yours and if not, will provide a backup time.

>>598637

just be patient.

If she is a decent girl she will be busy and have more stuff to do in her life than text you 24/7.

Not to sound harsh, just chill

>>598637

Be patient. Give her another day or two, and then ask her if something's up or if she's okay.

>>598618

It looks like I'm disqualified to message most of these women because I'm not on enough people's "favorites" list. Do I just have to wait until some arbitrary number of girls add me without messaging them first, or do I need to go through some sort of progression system wherein I get onto the list of girls who I actually can message and then work my way up?

>>598649

Oh youre absolutely right. I prob wont marry until after law school when I procure a job (if I even go to law school).

>>598675

Wait Im supposed to have more texts than her? Never heard of that, interesting.

>>598676

Not harsh at all, I needed that haha. Letting basic stuff get to me, lost my head for a sec. Thanks.

>>598677

I was going to text her tomorrow morning (Saturday) but I guess Ill wait til Sunday, yeah?

>>598728

>Texting is effeminate

this

>>598728

I actually agree and hardly ever text. I didn't consciously do this because its effeminate, I naturally (because I hate it, maybe because I'm male) do not text often hardly at all. We exchanged maybe four of them over several hours. Its so stupid, who wants to be CONSTANTLY updated on the status of another person? We have our own space….

The reason I'm texting her more than I would plan to meet is because she lives 8 hours away. Ive already mentioned meeting up halfway in the messages and Ill bring up an actual date next time we talk on the phone.

>>598728

And youre absolutely right with psychological warfare. I dont know if its intentional in this case but got dang the potential is there. Fugg texting.

>>590186

the point is to find a fair and noble maiden… most are whores like >>590177

Point being - It's more about your character and the way you treat her. Physical traits are secondary.

At this point I just plan on marrying an unbeliever who has somewhat of a head on their shoulders and hoping my kids turn out right.

A believing wife is a blessing and I am a sinful man, I dont deserve one.

>>598855

It's not worth it.

My father is irreligious and my mother is Christian.

You don't know how hard it will be.

>>598948

Oh, i guess not https://www.instagram.com/p/BS7O7T8j47f/

>>598952

I don't get it. Isn't she married?

>>598962

It was a legit account, but it looks like she already found someone.

What would you mates suggest if a girl I found has only slept with one guy before she converted to Christianity? She's genuinely repentant about it.

>>598990

I dont think i could do it.

>>598990

Up to your discretion. I think that's a taste thing if she is genuinely repentant. I personally am not sure I could, but I am also not in your situation and if she is your dream girl or close to it…That's tough.

>>598437

badoo and pof are worth checking out as well, but be careful

>>598990

What point are you at ?

I slept with 3 girls before getting saved, and made out with at least 40.

Gospel does change people.

read the rational male. ignore the fedora parts. great book for understanding women

>>598948

>tattoos

>green hair

pls be trolle anon

>>599040

My guess is she outgrew her madness. I wouldn't want her, though.

>>599059

Is he ever not on point?

>>596270

I went on a date with a girl tonight, she attends a Reformed church. I know nothing about this denomination. But the date went fine, mostly.

>>599144

Sounds Calvinist? I think they're generally conservative but who knows how many types there are.

what really pisses me off is people saying that i'm young, or that i should still "experament", like that excuses degereacy or that they're projecting their unfulfilled desires unto me. this is my life, and i will live it by the words given to us by our lord and savior jesus christ. death to the world. amen

>>599172

Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

>>599179

may god bless you richly lad

>>599144

just get her to come to your church once. she'll see

>>599147

I started doing some basic research and they're definitely Calvinist. I don't like.

>>599214

That's definitely on the agenda! What should I do if she invites me to her church first though? This is something I'll ask my priest as well if things last long to that get to that point.

>>599144

>Reformed

Don't worry about that, if she's a true woman of God she will either convert or tolerate your viewpoints. Calvinists do have a terrible tendency to be up their own butts in regards to predestination.

>>599059

>what is adultery

>what is sodomy with a woman

More sexual immorality than just fornication.

>>593495

Anon, I read your post several days ago, and I thought I replied but apparently I never did. My apologies.

Your pro's obviously far outweigh your cons. So do the right thing and do what's needed to wed her and lead her into right communion with God.

Best of luck to you both. Be patient.

>>596378

Good luck and Godspeed to you

Where do you live? Either you or she must live in Oklahoma City because that's 500 miles from St Louis. The only reason I know is because I'm about to take a trip there with my family. We're going to visit the basilica of St Louis there.

>>599282

be respectful when you visit, but be ready to explain everything that is wrong with their teachings

also don't take their "communion"

>>599696

Thank you! No, neither of us are in Oklahoma City! I am near Chicago. I am 500 miles from her, not St. Louis. Good guess, though! You enjoy it. God bless and Godspeed.

>>599742

Something seems to be wrong though, because she is ignoring me. Either I sperged out on the phone or…well I can't really think there would be an issue otherwise.

Is it a sin to pursue a woman of a different denom if you're Apostolic?

>>593069

Call me cynical but I think she is bsing

>>600029

No but depending how deep she is into her denomination you may have a rough time

>>599696

The stl basillica really is beautiful

t. Stl anon

>>599745

Hey I was thinking of shooting her a text like this: "Hey is everything ok? Or has this fizzled out? :)" I'm only slightly concerned because she told me an extremely personal, deep thing and so you know how women can be (you might have said or done something "wrong" without even realizing) so I was thinking of sending this as a Hail Mary.

>>600482

>Hey is everything ok? Or has this fizzled out? :)

If literally nothing is wrong except a personal issue on her part (maybe someone in her family died who knows), saying that makes you look bad, like you're a bit overeager or desperate.

Just check back every few days unless you're building a wall of texts with no responses on her end, then stop for a while.

-t. Never had a gf disregard all advice from me

>>600486

Well no I meant "Is everything ok" between us, because she shared a very personal thing she went through and when we first talked about it I kind of overwhelmed her by trying to "fix" it, it's a long story lol. I don't think it's that, though, because we made good on it. I'm just wondering maybe it could be that, even though she seemed fine. Or maybe when I said "anyone can be married" because technically that's true (I was referring to a friend). She didn't ask about that, though, but I just cooked it up now, but I don't see why she'd drop me without talking about it. I do believe in "the one" but it's "the one" for you. If that makes any sense, you can't go into these things with the mindset of the one. Anyway. No, I don't have a wall of texts, I'm not that Denko guy. I've sent literally two, with 2-3 days in between, but neither were responded to. If she is just dropping me, I wish she'd just say so because we already called. I don't mind ignoring my first message if you're not interested, but we've both exchanged pretty big walls of text, texted a bit, and called once for an hour so it just feels sudden. I think never replying to someone's first message is fine, but you should say something if you're a few messages deep or more.

>>600482

>>600493

>is everything ok bb?

Don't do that crap, it makes you look desperate in the eyes of a woman. If a woman is ignoring you its because she's trying to replace you. Just move on, there are more fish in the sea.

Out of curiosity, how would you deal with a trans woman if you liked him/her.

Asking for a friend.

>>600892

Amen. The liturgical minister at campus Mass who gave me the Precious Blood was mega qt (as well as a couple other girls there), so she's kind of at the top of my radar now. I'm talking to a couple other girls on CM as well, but man I liked that one fish! Oh well, you never sacrifice one girl for all girls in the dating realm.

>>600902

>Asking for a friend.

Kek. I'm sorry to tell you this, they are not really a woman. I actually just read a funny play some sperg from halfchan made about this. She's a he, brew. I understand how that can be confusing but you have to find a way to move on. Talk to real (literally) women.

>>600902

>how would you deal with another dude if you liked him

ftfy

>>600907

>>600905

I struggle to reconcile with that A. God would have mercy on them or B. Be full /pol/ toward them and bully, I learn more towards A.

>>600902

If you didn't know they were trans and liked them, it's not your fault. They're really savage these days and won't reveal their "history" to you and will go to extreme lengths to keep up their story. They can be really convincing. If you did know, well, you're probably desperate. There's no shame in it- just work on your self control, persevere and pray more, even if it's 2 seconds long. But don't feel guilty about this.

>>600909

Oh, of course you should NEVER bully. I hope I did not come off like that whatsoever. A is the correct choice. Good job, you have a working conscience and are normal. You are not afraid of something you do not relate to or are going through. The issue with trans people is an accident, call it a tragedy if you will, of biology and they are to receive the utmost mercy.

>>600911

On the other hand, this is also true. Listen to this anon, anon. Although trans people need to receive mercy, they are in a dark place. Do not let the desperate ones willing to keep up the charade fool you. And there really is no shame in it. Just meet God at His grace like always.

Is OkCupid any good aside from probably being a botnet?

>>601042

Its a dead site

>>601048

depends where you live, i see enough action

>>600482

>Hey I was thinking of shooting her a text like this: "Hey is everything ok? Or has this fizzled out? :)"

please don't. srs

Most women reject me outright because of my height ( 5'4") what could I do?

where my cdff nibbas at

>>601356

thank God that he's blessed you with that attribute that filters out shallow women

>>601366

I'm here. There are like 5 active women my age in my area and most of the views I get come from the other side of the world.

>>601382

>filter out shallow women

>not wanting midget sons is shallow

Actually it only filters out women above 5'3".

He might have a chance with dwarf women

>>601431

Not quite, shorter women are even MORE desperate for above average height men so they can have tall children but it usually ends up in having kids slightly taller than herself, which is no problem for females but for males, most of those guys en up killing themselves or become traps/trans since their body is more akin to a female role.

>>601427

>other side of the world

let me guess, the Philippines?

>answer OkCupid questions

>"Do you own a gun?"

>a few questions pass

>"Would you date someone with a gun in their house?"

>"Do you have current passport?"

>"Do you have a problem with authority?"

Stallman was right. Maybe.

NEW THREAD

>>601567

Before you sin up the next thread, just know that I as OP will attempt to give up 8chan for lent. This is why the new thread is up now and if it fills before I return, please keep the OP the same and make a new one. God be with you all, thank you for helping me make these threads something more than just sinposting with your tales, mutual encouragement, and correcting the wayward. If I can make just one of you sad boys feel as good as my own fiancee makes me feel, I will consider this a success. God bless you.

>>601570

>(1)

>ignores the text explaining it

>only contribution to thread

Yet here you are lecturing about "catalog health and thread numbers" as though that means anything here. Have you even looked at the catalog? Its filled with 5 reply bait threads of idiots who are too dumb to find the dedicated question thread.

>>>/reddit/

>>600078

This. She looks like a thot.

>>601924

lol, you fell for the succuba's thot hypnosis

>>601928

>*blows vape out mouth*

>not mouth and nose like a dragon

>>601920

>>601927

>women can't be attractive AND virtuous

>she'd just think i'm a creepy weirdo because i am…oh yeah well she's a thot!!!