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Pray instead of masturbate.

One is cleaving to the flesh, the other is cleaving to Christ's bosom. I'm also not sure how you can "suffer from a fetish" unless you masturbate.

Has anyone here ever successfully 'lost' a fetish? I mean after a long time not masturbating to your fetish did you eventually lose all desire for it? It seems like it's easy to pervert a mind but nearly impossible to 'un-pervert' it.

>>532989

>Has anyone here ever successfully 'lost' a fetish?

Yes, some go with time alone and a lot go away or at least cease to be a problem when you are active (ie not being on the computer for many hours) and in a healthy relationship

>>533014

That said this is just my experiance Im sure there are some fetishes which need to be borne as one bears homosexuality or wrath

well, not sure how what I'll post will help, but anyways

I sort of…reduced…my problem after I began reading psalms. To be more exact, this verse:

>I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High.

How is it related? Well, the point is, that more I think about this, i feel as complete garbage when fapping or watching porn. For a being that is meant to be god, it is just…shameful to fall for such lowly carnal desires. And more I thought about this, about what humans must be, less pleasure I got from this process.

I'm of course not free from such desires yet, still. But this helped me to reduce degeneracy at some level at least and it is still declining slowly.

>>533021

>i feel

I felt

>>533023

This! I asked God for strength to help me resist all sexual urges. I stopped visitting all websites and image boards where there's often some sort of pornography to be found. I also started to read in my spare time some books on christianty I had bought years ago. Putting them near my bed and computer (in sight) where the urges are often strongest. I also started listening to songs of the psalms as some sort of a reward of getting through the day without caving in. It also helps to visualize that you are being watched and judged every single moment of the day. You wouldn't masturbate on Times Square, then how could you do it in front of the eyes of the Lord?

>>532984

This. E Michael Jones hit the nail on the head when he stated: “Either masturbation destroys your prayer life, or prayer destroys your ability to enjoy masturbation. The two forms of activity are psychically mutually exclusive.”

I've been plagued with impure thoughts, and when they come I pray. They seem to have lessened, and will go away.

>>532944

Hello I've overcome a similiar tormenting situation.

What did though, was a 70 days no fap.

After that, the fetish will seem like a circus level effort, and the minimally atractive female will do the job.

Seriously try a no fap, it washes your brain and rewires it.

>>533105

>>532984

I also back these up. When I take up masturbating I stop praying, and when I start praying I stop masturbating. The two are mutually exclusively. If you just make it a habit to pray more often then you'll find yourself masturbating less.

>>532944

Do you lift weights? Try that, you should increase your testosterone levels. This will naturally make you feel more masculine and dominant, with better self-esteem. You need to "reboot and rewire" your sexuality by abstaining from masturbation and looking for a qt3.14 to marry; you need to change what you desire from what perverse filth to making love with your future wife normally (where the man is dominant).

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>>532984

>Pray instead of masturbate.

This, and also try taking a walk.

>>533191

>This, and also try taking a walk.

Great advice that is simple, easy, and highly effective. I like to combine prayer and walking in nature.

>>533105

(((E Michael Jones)))

>>533211

Please elaborate.

>>533181

This. But >>>/nofap/ is not enough, though. You need to stop watching porn all together in order for the effects of masturbation and porn leave your body.

>>533211

Judge them by the fruit of their works.

Reviling is a sin.

merely stop fapping.

don't ask why, the science is quite complicated but a year of nofap shall fix any fetish

>>533262

Unfortunately not entirely true, at least not for me. I haven't masturbated since October 2014 and yet the urge to watch femdom still haunts me, although only slightly. If I start doing something else it easily goes away. So do as other people said ITT and just start doing something else/pray.

Op listen

Look up Sigmund Freud's model of sexual conditioning, your mother affects a large amount of your sexual ideals in women, but it isn't written in stone, pray for change with all your energy

>>533262

I can confirm that. After the first attempt, I stopped giving a shit about traps. Loli's next. Another advice is knowing your triggers and do something else whenever the desire emerges. The classic replacement activity is prayer.

OP here, thank you guys for the posts it is all very encouraging. Like Some of you suggested Nofap websites have a lot of great information about how to rewire your brain to a healthy state. Also, just like the other anonymous commented below about femdom , even after a year on nofap I still have these desires which is stressful. I have the feeling that it's because it has become part of my nature at this point and when I feel overpowered in real life situations I get the urge to turn back into these things. Have you guys come across any good youtubers that talk about masculinity and manhood?

>>533466

Listen to good speakers and avoid profanity. Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny. Your journey has only begun.

>>532989

I'm only 50 days clean (right about when I decided to convert to Christianity) and they seem to be fading

make a conscious decisions to stop entertaining such thoughts/fetishes.

make a conscious effort to be aware when sinful thoughts creep up on you, don't be sleepy and lazy, you have to be 'vigilant' at all times; respond to bad thoughts accordingly by ignoring them if they are minor, by seeing the harm in them and rejecting them if the are larger, if you can't ignore them or reject them mentally then repeat a prayer and ask the Lord for help. Repeat until your mind is blank of good and bad thoughts.

We can actually control our thoughts to a large extent , it's a matter of practice, awareness and forming good habits.

God bless you for your honesty, anon.

Many of us are recovering, we fell for one of the many Devilish snares placed all over and below this society.

As you can see many are here to help and give advice: pray, fast on Fridays and keep yourself busy to avoid temptation and better yourself in mind, body and spirit.

As for how long it will take to remove a fetish, I'll be honest: some will be completely erased, others will linger forever in you…but you can take power away from them. As for how long it will take…it could be months, it could be years; and it's gonna be a lifelong battle full of hardships. We are so often the makers of our own crosses, to quote John Bosco.

Read some good books on the topic (Libido Dominandi comes to mind), and some of those on spiritual warfare(I read Philothea by St. Francis of Sales and I'm reading a book written by St. Leonard from Porto Maurizio) and especially the Bible.

Onwards Christian soldier!