>>59752
Practice. Find what works for you.
Generally, being more receptive aids communication.
In a way, it is sort of like focusing on not focusing. You are trying to strengthen a muscle that you have little experience with. Test the potential action this muscle can do.
Resources are only putting energy towards piling things on to your perception when you would be better putting that energy towards understanding your perception.
You may not get answers now, but your experience can teach you if you learn.