/nofap/ - Fappers Anonymous

Nofap in general is not very effective (been doing it since 2015 myself). Unless you actually understand and isolate the causes of your addiction, you'll most likely never quit, or be in a constant state of suffering/irritation because you've stopped PMO.

Read this (free book):

https://easypeasymethod.org/

Describes The causes of pornography addiction and breaks down why pmo'ers do what they do.

Don't stop PMO'ing while reading (if anything do in more often).

I needed to re-read it about 3-4 times (includes audiobook) and about 6 months before it finally clicked. Been over a month so far. Never been so happy before :')

Thank you very much anonybro.

Half way through the book. Yesterday decided to stop fapping for good.

Ok anonybros.

2 weeks since I stopped fapping.

So far so good. Only serious problem I have is that I get a rush every time I see a pic/video of a sexy female (e.g. young bitches in undies popping up in google ads as the ms has been shopping online). Even worse irl - had a dumb young cunt flirting with me and my brain went into complete overdrive.

Used to be a lot easier to handle things like this when I was a degenerate fapper. I guess it should pass as I live out my life as a non-user.

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I'm glad it helped you anon.

As for the rush you feel, get used to them. Unless you're going to be a monk in a faraway monastery, stimulating material will be shoved in your face, by your friends, adverts, society, even family at times.

However when you stumble upon them, think about what is causing the urge; is it the little monster (your primal brain), or is the big monster (societal upbringing/brainwashing).

To me the big realisation moment was when I read someone else's interpretation (from this book). He mentioned that most of the time the urges come from the big monster. That simple idea was enough to help me stop for good.

As most men, I've been just as badly influenced by society which is filled with sexual imagery and hedonism. Now that I understand where my urges are coming from, I become content and at ease when I do accidentally view something erotic.

Still have a way to go, but with a mere mind change, the task of simply not watching porn or masturbating has become easy (because it's the mindset that makes it difficult).

Cheers anonybro.

Yes - understanding the big monster concept helps a lot, and quitting PMO for the sake of PMO seems easy - a large proportion of porn starts to appear rather disgusting. I've had only a few strong pangs to open up some "select" porn and fap to it, but it's easy enough to extinguish them by reasoning with myself that there is no such thing as good porn. Whenever such pangs happened, I'd just do some physical exercise to burn some energy and distract my mind.

I've quit drinking about 8 years ago, without any book or method, but with a very similar instant cut-off of alcohol intake, and in these 8 years I only remember one time when I had an urge to drink and was close to having a whisky.

The act of others offering a drink or having a drink next to me, however, does not grease the slide.

With porn it seems to be very different so far, as any offer of a new sexual partner - the hook that porn uses to embed itself in your brain - seems to grease the slide.

So, I am coming home late after meeting some friends, a bunch of drunk girls fall out of a pub right in front of me, one of them nearly splooshes all over the pavement when she sees me walking by and starts throwing herself at me. I'm not interested at all (the bird is fucking ugly, not that it matters as I've got the mrs at home), but the slide is now greased and I'm overwhelmed with the urge to release. Mrs is already asleep after a long & shit day, and I'm not fapping to porn, so I then spend the next day completely unable to concentrate and do any work, losing my mind to the little monster's pangs until I finally get to pork the mrs in the evening (which has become a lot more enjoyable after quitting porn).

So the little monster seems to jump out every time SOMEBODY ELSE greases my slide. That's the annoying bit.

The other time was when I took my kids to a playground and a teenage bitch-in-heat decided to flirt with me every time her mother wasn't looking. Again, I'm not interested in the slightest, but the offer itself greases the fucking slide - almost instantly and seems to hit a lot harder than ever before when I was a fapper.

Anyway, remember not to fap ya cunts.