/kind/ - Random Acts of Kindness★

So let's say you start teaching, and you hear about one kid being bullied by everyone, but that kid isn't reporting it. What do you do?

>>24655

bullying is a whole complex issue in and of itself

but again as the teacher you need to be careful how you approach the situation it's easy to go about it wrong and draw more attention to the kid and cause him to be bullied more

if I had to come up with a suggestion first thing is to nonchalantly rearrange the seats at random the further the victim is usually from the bullies and the further the bully is from his usual friends and audience the less they'll feel like bothering

step 2 requires some honest to goodness spy craft because you need to talk to the victim himself about whats going on but none of the other students should noticed you singling him out even if they're not the bullies rumors spread

if you can get him to open up to you it's important to confirm and clarify the story but the best thing to do would probably have him transfer to another class as any direct preferential treatment or protection from you would again just draw more undue attention to him

but their are limits and rules about what you can do so be careful not to promise anything you can't deliver

>>24655

I would try finding out who is actually bullying the kid. If it really is "everyone" who does little things to pick on him, I might take some time during my class to talk about how bullying affects people and bring up some stories from my own experiences.

From then one, I would do my best to try to catch any sign of bullying and inform the other teachers in the grade to do the same.

I could never be a teacher let alone try to be a decent one. Hats off to op and good luck with kids that have trust issues. Also be aware of if a kid has trouble with certain teachers, thats all i have to add.

My high school was run by men in dresses, one is in jail now.

Schools are glorified prisons. Anyone who takes advantage of children for a living is a monster.

>>24786

to be fair I never really learned much of use in school so I can see why one would think their primary function is child containment

>>24797

obviously I learned things in school early on like literacy and math but as a whole compared to the amount of time I spent in school in total I didn't learn much I could use or even remember your example misconstrues the facts by taken too small a sample of what is considered school

>>24805

>optional classes

Umm, they were optional in the sense that you had to take two or three each year (starting from what is commonly known as "middle school" onwards) but you could pick which ones you wanted to take.

>>24646 (OP)

I was heavily depressed in middle school.

I was friends(still friends with one of them) with two other social outcasts, one who had ADHD and acted out a lot, and the other just socially awkward and strange. I was the fat and dumb one.

We were the kids that ate lunch in the guidance office. It was kind of fun though, like we had our own room and club and we didn't have to be around other kids, so i really appreciated that.

The teacher I remember appreciating the most was my health teacher. She was always very kind to me,and there was this one time where we brought in health foods and stuff, but I thought i couldn't participate because I didn't do the project, or bring anything, but she didn't care.

The worst days were when I was denied eating in that office, or when kids picked on me. There was this one kid in particular whom I hated with everything I had.

A short little shit who was behind me once making fun of me, and then tried to play it off like "it's just a prank bro,"

Later in high school when he came to school drunk after a break up I was so happy. It felt like justice. To this day, fuck that kid.

>>24646 (OP)

Ah man, middle school is shit for most people, I was fairly social, but had anxiety problems, luckily the fact that I was bigger than everyone else made very few people willing to pick on me. By high school I settled into a persona and the anxiety pretty much stopped until senior year.

How the fuck do you guys even remember middle school that well. I barely remember middle school teachers or classrooms. I don't think there was much bullying, hell broke loose only in high school.

It feels like trying to remember a dream, it's like a whole different world, and I'm only 23.

I'm just sitting there with this post on my screen trying to remember things for hours and it feels surreal.

>>24671

>I might take some time during my class to talk about how bullying affects people and bring up some stories from my own experiences.

THIS is something you should never do, irl bullies give a zero fuck about those sob stories, try to learn the kid who is getting bullied to defend himself so that he actually knows how to prevent those kind of conflicts from happening in his future life again.