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Show me hadith where it says this, that a woman should expect high standards when it comes to worldly matters from a husband, high mahr, and forego their standards for piety and religion? Show me where it says that a man should only get married once he's established himself amongst all these standards?
In reality we find the opposite, our Prophet (SAW) urging us to marry young and early, and examples of people marrying when they had nothing.
>Narrated `Abdullah:
We were with the Prophet (ﷺ) while we were young and had no wealth. So Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5066
>Sahl ibn Sa’d reported: I was among people with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, as a woman stood up and she said, “O Messenger of Allah, she has given herself in marriage to you, so what is your answer?” The Prophet did not reply. She stood up again and she said, “O Messenger of Allah, she has given herself to you, so what is your answer.” The Prophet again did not reply. She stood up a third time and she said, “She has given herself in marriage to you, so what is your answer?” A man stood up and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, marry her to me.” The Prophet said, “Do you have anything as a dowry?” He said no. The Prophet said, “Go find something, even an iron ring.” The man went and searched, then he came back and he said, “I could not find anything, not even an iron ring.” The Prophet said, “Have you learned anything from the Quran?” He said, “Yes, I know some chapters.” The Prophet said, “Go, for I have married you both with what you have learned from the Quran.”
Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 4854
