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It's been a while.
Talk to us about it.
▶ No.70819>>70825 >>70833 >>87189
Post more cute couples nigger
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▶ No.70826>>70829 >>70833 >>87916
Should I romance Asalam in my next playthrough? Or maybe go for Fournival again?
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▶ No.70833>>73617
>>70825
>>70819
Here were a few other pictures I considered for the OP picture.
>>70826
All three sound disgusting, but I would suggest Furnival to make the obvious fur-based pun on his name. He also looks like the kind of neckbeard basement dweller that could be one of the autistic depraved furries, so.. You do you, I guess.
▶ No.70834>>70848
penis enter asshole
asshole make drama post fuck
penis have no more asshole to enter
▶ No.70843>>70934
i havent been in a relationship in 6 years
▶ No.70846>>87852
I feel like I've been so emotionally damaged after my last relationship to the point where I never want to go near one again. Been 3+ years and the breakup still stings. He really fucked me up.
▶ No.70848>>70864 >>91133
>>70834
penis in asshole
asshole make drama post fuck
no more in asshole
I made it into a haiku
▶ No.70849
I've gone through a bunch of long-distance false starts over the last few months, but I've had a lot of unhealthy ideas about relationships for a long time well, particularly after a bad relationship that went on for a year and a half that each of those false starts has actually really helped me get over, so I've really come out much better for wear after each of those false starts.
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▶ No.70867>>70908 >>80324
Currently living in my partners parents spare room because I got kicked out of my parents place, the support they have given me has honestly been a life saver. It's been great seeing em daily, before it was only once or twice a week because of work. He's not a furry, but he puts up with it. This year will be our 6th and I honestly couldn't be more blessed
▶ No.70908>>70963
>>70854
I think that problem is one of the biggest issues with long-distance relationships, in that it's kind of natural for a relationship to sort of lull as it falls into a settled, normal state. With an LDR, it's a lot more difficult to do exciting things as a couple that are fresh and exciting, where physical couples could be doing vacations and honeymoons and et cetera.
For that reason, I think it's healthiest to only accept a long-distance relationship if there's an explicit plan to meet at least relatively soon.
At least you have a pretty good attitude about it. You can use your experiences to form yourself into a more desirable partner for when you find someone that can take it to the next level and meet your needs.
>>70867
So you're going to make him a furry, right? They managed to get the voiceactor for Haida into it, so your boyfriend should be easy enough.
▶ No.70912
What relationship?
Earlier this year I closed the book on a guy I was flirting with for years online - we ended up meeting up but weren't interested in each other. Imagine that.
I'm falling for the same bait again though, but I'm not getting my hopes up
▶ No.70927
Mom, why are there a bunch of FUCKING CHADS AND NORMALFAGS on my looney tunes porn forum?
▶ No.70934
>>70843
Are you me? Single life is nice, but I still love seeing romantic couples, passionate stuff and cute.
▶ No.70936>>70937 >>70941
Man my relationships have been a mess. My first gf was a chubby goth chick who was also insane and wanted to kill herself. I did my best for a while, but I was a stupid teenager, and eventually when she threatened to tell people I was lying about a suicide attempt I decided to leave. Days later my best friend gets with her and I lose a majority of my close friends on the spot.
The next few years are a series of false start LDRs, until I met my last serious relationship partner.
This relationship will by far be one of the worst I ever have, or so I can only hope, in terms of emotional impact. Right from the start, he turns out to be seeing two people at the same time, both LDR, and we don't find out for a few months. He presumed poly was fine with both of us.
I suck it up for almost a year before I cave and tell him I can't do it, so he chooses the other one. For a while that's how it sits but they eventually split and we get back together, against better judgement I simply didn't have at the time.
The following two years or so were a rocky relationship with a few in person visits that didn't really go anywhere. There was alot of trust issues on my side after several incidents with their ex (who was their roomate) and with things like him camming online for individuals.
We had near miss to a break up after one visit, followed by an actual break up a year later at the end of my last visit, and now I'm left wondering why I put up with alot of the shit I did.
So, don't do why I did. LDRs are probably just a bad idea but if you insist, make yourself clear at the start what your boundaries are. Like "don't can with other people" or shit like that, because apparently that's not something that is intuitively known in this community. And definately don't be there giving someone dozens of second chances, or seeking your own multitude of them. If it's not working, move on. I should have learned that a long time ago.
▶ No.70937>>70941 >>71065
>>70936
Why didn't you try telling him you weren't into poly at the start instead of sucking it up for a while? Seems like a lot of the pitfalls in relationships come from not communicating clearer.
▶ No.70941>>70952
>>70936
LDRs aren't necessarily a bad idea, it's just important to realise that any couple that doesn't make it out of High School with a child and wedding ring already in arm is highly likely to fail, and this goes down both sides of the aisle. There are a lot of stressors for a couple to deal with, especially when the given idea is that they share everything, including financials. It starts to fall apart when one party can't rely on the other for support on any singular thing, and it can be difficult to recover because trust issues start to develop, with little cracks.
Both parties have to be kind of relaxed and understand that storybook fairy tale endings don't really exist. Even the couples that come out of high school pre-wed have serious issues and typically only stay together because they have very big responsibilities demanding they maintain at least a facade of closeness, if not legitimate (generally, children).
I think they can succeed, and in fact have a huge benefit that in the absence of physical contact you can grow a greater friendship and bond, but it is in no way a replacement. It's very frustrating to not be able to hold/be held, and it's an ongoing struggle that is best left ignored outside of having a general plan to move to the point where it is possible. In that way, it's just like anything with life - if you think too hard about the future, eventually you come to a point that is very depressing. Even the happiest life ends at some point, and there's really no sense on dwelling on that outside of prolonging the happy parts and making the best of what there is.
>>70937
Love's a hell of a drug. Realistically, no two people perfectly mesh without even a moderate issue. It's up to the person's judgment and discretion to choose between trying to communicate this and inevitably creating a conflict (in this particular scenario, it would force his partner to choose one? Inevitable heartbreak.) or change their own stance to either find it less irritating/invasive or less of a personality flaw with their partner.
I think there should have been some communication in it, at least mentioning that it is something they were uncomfortable with. Retrospectively thinking, it can even be seen as a huge red flag given that it was unnecessarily kept secret from him when it's so important (leads to later trust issues.)
Like.. To reduce it, you discover your partner has a particular quirk of some degree that significantly impacts your faith in them. Your choices are:
a) suck it up
b) change your partner
c) change yourself
d) break it up
In the given scenario, the only thing that didn't probably immediately drive straight towards a break-up is sucking it up, which makes sense for someone to take that option if they were particularly non-confrontational which.. Let's be real, this is an anonymous imageboard. That's most likely anyone that posts here.
▶ No.70951
I genuinely believe relationships make you less of a person.
▶ No.70952>>70956
>>70941
I agree that it was likely for the anon to not risk an immediate break in the relationship by keeping a lid on his feelings. Hell, I might do the same thing. But I do not think a healthy relationship can be made by just hiding your feelings about poly and not wanting the other to do those things. I think in retrospect it would've been wisest to bridge that divide at the beginning and make peace with it.
Also, I don't buy the fact that some things are irreconcilable in a relationship. If she was to say "this is who I am, and I'm not willing to change for you," then I would seriously consider that relationship. A commitment, whether polyamarous or monogamous, is built on communication and understanding from both parties. Putting up walls to your feelings or not trying to face painful feelings can only lead to damage; at least this is how I see things.
▶ No.70956>>71013 >>71065
>>70952
I mean, I'm not saying that relationship was in any way healthy, but I think that when you reduce it, even if it's important to approach issues as a team, anything comes down to at least one of two people changing or at least one of two people sucking it up.
Like I said, I do agree that even if he were to just suck it up and accept it, there should have been communication that he didn't like it, but it's hard to have dialogue on such an issue without some sort of confrontation appearing. Truthfully, having something like that hidden from you is realistically a pretty big red flag, but under the mindset of trying to salvage and maintain a relationship, even if it's a broken one, avoiding a confrontation is precisely what someone would do in the short-term.
▶ No.70963>>70994
>>70908
My boyfriend is into monstergirls, so he's a borderline furry. I made him a fursona a few years back to get cute art of and he just accepted it and called me a dork. He quotes furry memes ironically (so he says)
▶ No.70964>>70993
>>70959
It's not 3DPD if you neither of you ever see each other without their fursuit on.
▶ No.70993>>70997
>>70964
>put dog in costume
>rape it
<no no officer its not 3dpd because i couldnt see my dog!
▶ No.70994
>>70963
What, not monsterboys?
▶ No.70997
>>70993
That defense worked for the furry pedophile ring. Prosecutor asked the kid if [this fursuit] was the one that they made him wear, and then the defendants proved that it wasn't [that fursuit] in particular, and they couldn't prove the timeline. Mistrial.
▶ No.71013>>71068
>>70956
I totally agree. Even as someone that is mid 20s now and has had zero actual relationships that weren't one-sided or seriously lacking in communication I can say that change is an important part of any relationship.
Healthy talking should be mandatory for any relationship, not just take and give; which often seems to be the case until one person gets bored and moves on. I'm not even looking for a partner at this point, too many crazy people that are conservative in this hell hole.
▶ No.71065>>71068
>>70937
Because it was early and I wanted things to work and I didn't want to be the one who was being unreasonable, even if that wasn't actually the case.
I agree, it was stupid, and should have stood my ground, but as I said, I lacked the better judgement to do what I should have.
How ever,
>>70956
When did I say there was no communication that I didn't like it? In fact, the opposite happened. I specifically called it out as a pain point, and by the end of it, I clearly stated that I would give it a try and see if I could live with it, but that I made no promises.
▶ No.71068>>71131
>>71013
Not that I'm going to tell you how to live your life, but I feel like it's a little hypocritical of you to be aware of the importance of change as an important part of a relationship, and then turn around and say you immediately remove consideration for people based on a rather ephemeral trait like political values. Most people are very moderate in their feelings and many couples are successful despite having split political views.
>>71065
You didn't really state either way, but the lack of noting it made it a lot easier to extrapolate that there was a lack of communication. It was also kind of irrelevant because I was mostly framing it as a hypothetical to position how someone could just pass over on something that would otherwise be such a flagrant abuse of their personal values.
I am curious about how you consider it was just a "pain point," as I feel if someone did that to me (specifically, the failure to communicate it to me as if it were being hidden from me) would seem irreconcilable to me.
▶ No.71105
>>70813 (OP)
Never had one, approaching mid-twenties now.
0% rate on crushes, which is whatever. Got bullied a lot in middle school about how I'm too ugly to even look at women. Never really considered relationships a possiblity since childhood for me. Actually got some affection from someone in high school but they were gay and I wasn't, so I couldn't properly give back. Later life drama brought about depression, which brought about reclusiveness, which brought about relatives shaming me for never having a girlfriend, etc.
I've just accepted I'll never be a person that can provide anything worthy of entering a relationship with someone, but people still bug me about it. I've heard I'm just average from people closest to me, but considering I'm exclusively berated by strangers, I feel like they're just trying to boost my confidence or some such.
▶ No.71131
>>71068
You're right it was hypocritical to judge a person based on mere political views, I shouldn't have said that. Can't see myself totally rejecting a person for it anyway outright, I think we'd do our best to live with differing viewpoints and work it out together.
▶ No.71175
homosexual cuckoldry is hilarious
▶ No.71760>>71772
I was exposed to Furry art for so long that I can no longer find humans attractive.
What can I do about it?
I am 25 yo already and I guess I don't want to be alone
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>>71760
couple of things, I guess. You could start exposing yourself to humans more in a sexual sense.
I don't think that would really help so much, though. The problem is furry art is the embodiment of sexualization - it's like every character design is the cover model for a magazine or an underwear model, with air-brushed definition.
Most likely though I would wager you've never really bridged a romantic relationship close enough that the physical appearance stopped mattering so much. You can fall in love with someone without them being physically beautiful - usually through finding their personality or other sorts of mannerisms to be beautiful instead.
▶ No.71783>>71837 >>71975
I'm 21 yo and I've never been in a relationship ;_;
I haven't made any friend since higschool.
And I'm now alone in a big city, far from family, far from childhood friends.
Fml ;_;
▶ No.71837>>71965 >>71975 >>75312 >>75730
>>71783
I'm 31, stop crying.
▶ No.71965>>75312
>>71837
Same. That's when it starts getting depressing.
▶ No.71975
>>71837
>I've been sad for much longer so you're not allowed to be sad because you haven't been sad as long
God I love gatekeeping
>>71783
You're young, get outside more and make friends
▶ No.71977>>71992 >>73895 >>76298 >>76692
Hey /fur/ I don't generally serious post but I'm feeling it for this thread. I have known 3 guys in my life, and I'm only 20 going on 21 this year. The first person I met was someone I couldn't hold anything together with for more than a month. The second person I met I stayed with for a year and a half, which at first I considered to be a great mistake, however I don't regret it at all now. It was very much a codependent and unhealthy relationship without any real sense of communication or understanding, lots of fights and bullshit being spread around. It felt awful being in that situation and I was looking for an out. The huge pro to that entire fiasco however, was that upon leaving the relationship it forced me to evaluate myself, who I was and who I wanted to be. It made me mature and development-minded. I learned many lessons about how to avoid being in that sort of scenario within a relationship, sort of like training wheels, stuff like clear communication and expressing love. After a while, lets say 8-9 months, I found my third and I hope final relationship. This guy and I came into each other naturally, it wasn't forced and it wasn't out of emotional dependency. He was my best friend before he was my lover. We are going strong to this day and have incredibly high compatibility, as well as genuine love and affection (which i don't think I really knew before). Yeah we're both furries, and we both love to josh each other, and we both have already faced some tests in the way of serious life stuff. The way in which we reacted to it and the way in which he's there for me and I'm there for him make me happy in that I know I found someone worth hanging on to, and really just have this unbreakable bond for. We're LDR and he lives in Europe, I'm actually planning to move over to live with him at some point in the next couple of years, I believe life can always take a turn for the better. My best advice to people reading this, if its dark, it can always get brighter, if you don't have the relationship you're looking for, go out there and find it, and if you're not ready for that, find yourself!
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>>71977
sounds good anon, but can you learn how to use line breaks
▶ No.72054>>72062
hey guys
so I've sort of been in a relationship for a while. it's someone I only know online right now, but we've clicked with each other in a way that I'd never experienced ever before. even without the aspect of love I would say definitively that he is my best friend, but we also share sexual interests and I feel comfortable talking to him about everything.
I've tried to take it slowly though, as I've been burned by a few previous LDRs. it's hard to go properly from an LDR to a standard relationship without some preparation, and I felt that we were in a situation that would make it hard. I really struggle with depression and working to survive on a very fundamental level - having temporarily been homeless on several counts due to my lack of motivation to work - in part because the current state of working in America is so terrible and demeaning that I'd almost rather starve at some points. he, on the other hand, desperately wants to work, but has physically limitations that prevent him from a lot of possible jobs, and he lives in a location that without something to get his foot in the door, he can't really get anywhere. as a result, he's trapped in poverty, where he doesn't have the money to make better opportunities for himself, and I'm trapped in depressing jobs that hinder my will to live. on a logical level, getting into a relationship seems really bad for us.
well... a month ago he called me his boyfriend, and being called that made me possibly the happiest I've ever felt. I couldn't disagree, because we practically had been acting like a couple for a long time, despite how much I want to wait for a more reasonable situation. I don't really know how we're going to manage to bring it together, though. he's been searching for a job for several months now, dozens of applications a week with many interviews but he's never managed to get even so much as a simple desk job, so it makes me worry a little. I try to take everything one day at a time, but right now I don't know what our future's going to look like. I like what we have now, and I do want more, but my problems with LDRs have always been my partner getting sick and upset of not being able to be physical with me, so that's always a lingering fear for me.
thanks for letting me blogpost, you're all faggots
▶ No.72057
>>70813 (OP)
The period in which I had a bf was a period in which I wasn't living my life in a constant state of fight or flight owo
▶ No.72058
haven't had a relationship for 10 years, am almost 27 now, but that's partially due to me being an oblivious teenager, partially being surrounded by men both at uni and my job, and partially lack of effort. But since last year I'm working on making friends and learning how relationships again and so far so good. I found a girl I like who has a lot of interests and mindsets in common with me, but unfortunately she's 5300 miles away. I'm gonna meet up with her in four months so I hope everything goes well then :3
▶ No.72062>>72177
>>72054
>waiting for a more favourable situation
I never understood why people make others wait for things like this, it's obvious you both like eachother, why not make it official? The point of relationships is tackling the hard situations TOGETHER and using eachother as motivation. Your possible bf is trying his hardest to get a job, he's probably trying even harder now because he'll get to see you at the end of all his hard work and saving money for travel. He's getting motivation to get a job from you, and you're getting your motivation and depression dealt with from having him by your side.
Don't wait man. If you don't try you'll come off as uninterested, you don't wanna make him feel like it's not worth the effort
▶ No.72078
I haven't been in a relationship in a long time, and they've never gone particularly well for me.
People in relationships seem to worry about if they're happy enough, if things will last another year/month/week. Every little thing that might upset them gets blown up into a big deal because everyone expects their relationship to be perfect. It ends up feeling like you get some slight benefits of having someone slightly closer than a friend, but for a lot more vulnerability and a lot more difficulty in managing it.
I haven't done that great with making friends over the years either, so relationships haven't really been an option for me for a long time.
If I had a good friend, and we got closer over time, and they were single, etc etc then that'd be really great. but I doubt that'll happen being so specific of a circumstance.
▶ No.72150>>72159
I think I'm too desperate for a relationship for a healthy one to ever form. I get way attached to people too quickly. A friend will ask for nudes or ERP and I take that as a sign of them being interested. In reality they're just horny fucks. Interacting with furries was a mistake. I was depressed before but I don't remember being as crippling lonely as I am now.
▶ No.72157
I attended a social gathering outside of furry-related things and was really surprised with how nice new people were. We just talked and got to know each other, it's a start. I look for people who are into other things besides fur, like anime and stuff. It helps that I'm a jack of all interests. I'm not the most talkative, but I'm getting to be more social as I go along.
▶ No.72159
>>72150
Depression sucks my man, but you have to go out there and fight it. Try to break the routine, try to exercise and find new things to do. Invest yourself in things. Work on yourself. When you climb out of that hole, you'll be ready for the next step.
Finding the person thats meant to you isn't always a fast or easy process, i know some people who found their soulmate before 21 and some who didn't find them until their 50s. Keep your chin up and just keep moving.
▶ No.72177
>>72062
You're mostly right, but there's one big problem I take with what you say:
>The point of relationships is tackling the hard situations TOGETHER
But some stuff just requires personal improvement, and no amount of having a partner will help. You could use your partner as inspiration, but in that same vein nothing stops you from using your family or friends or future aspirations to better yourself.
Aside from that, a big reason I wanted to wait is because I know from personal experience it can be difficult to transition from long-distance to proximal, and from my point of view it didn't seem like it would be that long of a time. I guess I was mostly stuck in the past a little bit, here, too - for quite a while we had been a couple in all but name, and nothing has really changed except for just being able to use that name, which is liberating in its own.
Some of it is just the manifestation of my depression, too. I have a new job and I'm maintaining a full-time schedule but I feel like I have to ignore my feelings most of the time to struggle through the day.
▶ No.72209>>72213
>moved out of the shitty westcoast furry scene where everyone was on my D
>now on east coast
>haven't bothered looking in to local furry community
>want to date a furry because fuck it she/he better be a degenerate like me if we're gonna get along
>at the same time have been massively burned by it and kinda afraid to go at it again
I'm currently buying a house and I kinda wanna start dating again but kinda want to start doing so. As much as the personal aspect is alluring, the financial aspect is too... I kinda feel bad/dirty admitting that a large reason I'd want to date someone is to upgrade my lifestyle with combined finances.
▶ No.72213
>>72209
Maybe you could look into just making friends and being housemates instead? It'll come with less potential drama that way
▶ No.72219>>72244
>>70813 (OP)
I love a closeted homo and will wait until the end of my life to be with him
No one else can satisfy me or make me happy the way he does
If I die single so be it, I've made my bed
▶ No.72241>>73587
how can you have a normal healthy relationship in a country where its heavily criminalized.
i live somewhere in the middle east, and as much as you guys would tell me to leave the country, there are stuff that are keeping me here, like free education and healthcare and generally having low taxes.
i had two LDRs in my life, and they all ended horribly. either because the guy wants a threesome or the person suddenly ghosting me in the middle of the relationship.
▶ No.72244
>>72219
im so closeted, i became a part of the wall.
▶ No.73552>>73579 >>74023 >>74026 >>74090
>be me
>23 male
>slowly start working out
>after about a month a qt i used to date begins to talk to me once more
>find out she is into bdsm
>cool.mp4
>we erp on the phone for right now
>i ask some questions
>shes a furry
>loves to be treated rough
>loves to be on hand and knees
>loves to be called kitten
>ask her some more questions
me and her have now be going steady for like 1 year now she loves to come to my house and be on her hands and knees waiting for master to come home and punish her you guys just gotta keep looking you will find your pet is you look hard enough
▶ No.73579>>73591
>>73552
That's honestly a pretty sweet story, I'm glad for you man. I'd imagine being straight makes that type ofrelationship pretty hard to find.
▶ No.73587>>80479
>>72241
Jesus fucking Christ. I live in the USA, and for a split-second I ACTUALLY CONSIDERED moving to the motherfucking Middle East, and spend the rest of my life in celibacy so I could get that free education and healthcare.
That's how fucking bad it is over here, dude. Stay where you are. You'll get lynched in the USA for being a faggot, too; the only difference is they do it SLOWLY. First they fire you from your job and make it so you can't get hired anywhere else. Then they deny you from being able to rent or get credit because fucking everyone knows your a fag and can legally discriminate for it, so long as they deny that this is the reason. Then you'll end up homeless and starving, and nobody will help you and you can't even go into a church to get fed. Also there's roving gangs of asshole kids (both minorities and white) that beat up homeless people for fun; they'll find out that you're gay, too, and target you specifically. If you're lucky someone will just bean you over the head while you sleep; if you're unlucky you might have to live this life of torture and suffering for a few decades before you die out on the street from the cold or disease or malnutrition.
Oh yeah, they kill you over here for being gay. But they don't use stones, they use the SYSTEM.
▶ No.73591>>73596
>>73579
shes hardcore into pup play too so this is the best for me
▶ No.73595
I'm going to be dead soon regardless, so why even bother.
▶ No.73596>>73599
>>73591
adding on tonight was the best busted the fattest nut i have in the last 4 years inside her ass best part it was fucking murrsuit
▶ No.73599>>73602
>>73596
what's a straightboi doing posting "owo what's this" memes uwu
▶ No.73602>>73603 >>73605
>>73599
The bulge is a puffy vulva in this case.
▶ No.73603
>>73602
I wanna be a cboy with a puffy vulva
▶ No.73613
>Tfw wizard
>Want to date, but trust issues and a fear of social interaction has doomed you
▶ No.73617>>73636
>>70833
>just had a smoke
>cream now tastes like old cigarette
Pic ruined. You're welcome.
▶ No.73636>>73857
>>73617
jokes on you, I'm unfortunately into that
▶ No.73825>>73829 >>73873
I've felt straight my whole life but I feel like the desperation has turned me Bi.
▶ No.73829>>73854 >>73872
>>73825
If you can like dick then you probably are close enough to bi
▶ No.73854
>>73829
Take it from someone who's been in a relationship with a "bi" guy: That sort of "bi" is nowhere, nowhere near close enough.
▶ No.73857>>73881
>>73636
Slow death is the best fetish says the guy who drinks to forget until begging people for smokes.
▶ No.73866>>73873
I'm 21 and i've never been in a relationship, never kissed a girl/boy and of course I'm a virgin ;_;
I hate being socially awkward.
▶ No.73867>>73873 >>73896
Since last month, my artist and business partner is now also my boyfriend. I love him.
▶ No.73872
>>73829
I only like 2d dick lol
▶ No.73873>>73874 >>73875
>>73866
I can empathize with you. I don't really mind the whole virgin thing, but my ability to form any kind of strong/intimate relationship with others isn't good at all.
I sometimes like to think I'm not located near anyone interesting or compatible with me, but I know it's mostly because I'm too lazy to find people to connect with.
Communicating online would seem to be a good option, but them I'm almost forced to use proprietary methods to do so, which is something I'd rather not do. For the free options that are out there, the userbase is generally magnitudes smaller as well.
I then think about how nice it'd be to live in a non-rural area. I can image how much easier it'd be to find a vidya related gathering or a low-key concert or something I'd be interested in and would work to the strengths of my social skills.
In the end, I wish I just had more opportunities to meet new people.
>>73867
Glad to hear it anon. I wish you two the best!
>>73825
I've felt the same sometimes, but I realize while a sexual relationship might seem nice at a time, it would inevitably lead to a deeper relationship, or dissolve over time. I feel like I want a deeper relationship with a woman than a man, so perusing the latter wouldn't be the kindest thing to do.
▶ No.73874
>>73873
I'm curious as to wether I am Bi, or if I'm just making myself think that. Not really sure how to tell tbh
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▶ No.73881
>>73857
We're all slowly dying, so I tend not to be too judgmental on vices that help (specifically lower class) people cope with the stress and struggles of reality. Mine's food. If I'm having a hard day, then I go out to eat some good comfort food to feel better.
That said, it's not a straightforward fetish... Seeing a smoker still disgusts me as a non-smoker. As far as addictions go, smoking is pretty terrible just in how it treats your body and how reliant you become on breathing ash and nicotine instead of air. It's more like, in a sexual scenario, I'm into paraphilia that, even if particularly disgusting, adds a level of intimacy between two partners. Basic bitch cigarettes is kind of low tier but what really jogs me is two guys sharing a cigar while they fuck or something - not that there's much for either.
Taking out the addiction aspect of smoking (cigars tend not to give the smoker nicotine flashes, which is one of the main things that reinforces addiction) the most disgusting part of smoking is the smell of ash, which cigars help with a little bit.
In reality, I wouldn't ever date a smoker, because all of the negative effects drastically outweigh the one particular narrow instance of eroticism I could gain out of it, but in fantasy I can ignore all of that.
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▶ No.73896
>>73867
That's adorable. I've been in that kind of relationship for a while now myself! LDR though...
▶ No.73899>>73900 >>73902 >>73966 >>74322
I'm gonna marry a nice boy and we're gonna have lots of kids together!
▶ No.73900
>>73899
>I'm gonna marry a nice boy
*some day
▶ No.73902
>>73899
Next time you people should elect better with your cute plans...
▶ No.73966>>73991
>>73899
this post implies you're either a girl, or retarded.
▶ No.73991
>>73966
It's a reference to a cute comic by marimo where the little cub blows his older brother but saves the cum to finger himself with and pretending he gets pregnant from it.
▶ No.74023>>74031
>>73552
have a better version of this.
▶ No.74026>>74032
>>73552
>be male
>be 15
>shitty liar on an imageboard
>mom tells me to come to dinner
>my disappointed father wants me to eat on all fours because I'm a dumbass Deviantart furry
>I keep drawing terrible BDSM
>still better than working out and getting a life but still hanging around on /fur/ amirite
Fixed.
▶ No.74031
>>74023
cant my system for some reason wont store webms
▶ No.74035
>relationships within the fandom
▶ No.74039
>>74032
Eat my uncut wiener.
▶ No.74042>>74062
>Furry
>Straight
>every furry I know is gay sexual
>my only option is to find a non furry grill and hopefully turn her to the degenerate side
▶ No.74047>>74062 >>74070
>>74032
Nazifags are degenerates.
(Shitposting and derailing)▶ No.74062>>74071 >>74075
>>74042
If you got standards, its friggin rare man.
I found someone like that (she was a lesbian though who just wanted dick once in a while, and I was her current toy... sigh) who didn't look bad either, buuuut she turned out psycho.
I have the feeling I don't even want a GF who's as crazy as me. Quite the opposite, I want someone who "fixes" me and my life.
>>74047
Mods are gods.
▶ No.74069
It figures that my week off inbetween college semesters is the same week my BF's finals are
▶ No.74070>>74075
>>74047
>(Shitposting and derailing)
HA
▶ No.74071>>74072
>>74062
I guess you are right, it might be better to find someone "normal", I could end up getting stuck with a diaper fag or something like that
▶ No.74072
>>74071
>getting stuck with a diaperfag
There's no excuse for "getting stuck" with someone when it comes to relationships, if you don't like them, don't date them
▶ No.74075>>74087 >>74089
>>74070
>>74062
Mods are cucks and so are you, I'm not leaving. Haha, faggots.
(Ban evasion, terminal soyboy)▶ No.74087
>>74075
The only cuck I see here is you.
▶ No.74089>>74100
>>74075
It's summer vacation, I see?!
▶ No.74090>>74103 >>74105
>>73552
nice facepunch avatar
▶ No.74100
>>74089
Bushy seeing a penis for the first time.png
▶ No.74103
>>74090
I was a Facepunch member a decade ago uwu
▶ No.74105>>74107
>>74090
whats face punch
>inb4 i get fucked
▶ No.74107
>>74105
It's the forum for the Garry's Mod developer. It was sorta at the forefront of creativity on the internet a decade ago.
▶ No.74125
>>70813 (OP)
I got a boyfriend for about 3-4 years now and he’s fucking sweet and amazing and I love him. He’s also a very very rare flag on /int/
▶ No.74198>>74203 >>74205
its impossible to find places that arent full of normalfags, or leftist retards.
▶ No.74203>>74205 >>74207 >>74212
>>74198
How ironic. I, a leftist normalfag, wonder where all the places without scum like you are. Can't you just go to Russia? They seem to have their own internet and shit, everything good filtered out. So go there, keep the western capitalist internet clean.
▶ No.74205>>74212
>>74203
>>74198
>tfw no qt3.14 politically ambiguous furry bf
So tiresome, everyone is either a turbonazi or helicopter bait.
▶ No.74207
>>74203
>normalfag
>on a furry board
Yeah no
▶ No.74212>>74240
>>74205
>>74203
im not even right wing, but its impossible to not see countless idiots spouting lgbt and sjw bullshit everywhere. or fucking normalfags doing their retarded shit
▶ No.74240>>74253
>>74212
>"I'm not even right wing, but..."
>"I'm not even racist, but..."
>"...but LGBT SJW agendas..."
Yep, you're just another one of those insecure fat fucks in front of your PC, most likely underage, who isn't admitting what his political identity is.
▶ No.74252
>>74241
this image is confirmed fake - Bushy is a nullo
▶ No.74253
>>74240
fuck off retard. everything isnt as you assume. im not going to shit up this thread anymore with political talk
▶ No.74322
>>73899
Would this boy also happen to be your older brother? Because that's what that picture is implying.
▶ No.74416>>74426 >>75147
I think about killing myself all the time because I can never seem to be able to form any meaningful relationships. I can have hook ups every now and then but I always full hollow inside afterwards. It hurts even more that my roommate would be the perfect guy for me that i would want to marry in a heartbeat but he's a huge straight normie.
Fuck everything. I don't even know why i bother to get up in the morning half the time.
▶ No.74426>>75147 >>76207
>>74416
This really sucks dude. But please, hang in there. You will find someone eventually. You just have to keep looking.
I'm in a pretty similar situation. I really want, I really need a real, close relationship with someone and love. As I'm writing this, I just woke up after a night of fucking with an internet friend. I'm just so disappointed in myself. I really don't wanna hurt his feelings but I don't find him appealing. I made him cum last night but I had to jerk off to porn today to get myself to orgasm. We sometimes hook up because we're a pair of horny teens I guess. But I think this will be the last time we hook up. It makes me feel like a throwaway fuck. I'm just so disappointed in myself and life in general at the moment. I'm going to keep looking for real love. Wish my luck pals.
▶ No.75103>>75112
> Seeing other fur I used to be fwb a few years before
> Visit where he is living, it is a mess and he drinks heavily(empties everywhere)
> Disregard that
> Move in with some other furries as a roommate
> He eventually moves in as well
> His constant drinking and disorganization push roommates to kick us out (my cynical side said it's also because they expected me to be fwb with them and I did no such thing)
> Now living in a 1br with him and he still constantly drinks and I'm the only one really keeping the household organized
It's aggravating. All he does in 99% of his free time is drink and play games. We never have sex anymore. He's affectionate and it's not so bad when he's with me. When I have time alone to think though, I don't like the trajectory of this relationship.
▶ No.75112
>>75103
So it seems like you knew this wasn't going to work out, yet you chose to pursue this course anyway.
You can either break it off, which sounds like the healthy thing to do, or, stick with it and take whatever comes. In the end though, should you choose to stay together, you'll only really have yourself to blame because you knew what you were getting into and went with it anyway.
▶ No.75115
I think my crush is starting to grow feelings for me, oh my god I'm so happy <3
I'm probably counting my chickens before they hatch but still, he doesn't seem like he's scared to talk to me anymore
▶ No.75147
>>74416
>>74426
we should all kill ourselves
▶ No.75312>>75415
>>71837
>>71965
Time to be bfs.
31 m Canadian seeking furry bf
▶ No.75414
I either am or am not a furry depending on your definition. Straight as an arrow, don't really have a fursona, no fursuit, I don't roleplay, I just like to write stories and draw, and I like movies like Zootopia and Robin Hood. That's about it. I don't care so much if a girl I get with is into video games or anime or furry stuff or any of my other hobbies, just that she isn't so much of a normalfag that she can accept that I like to draw and watch or play this kind of stuff. That's my main point of concern: I believe the normalfag percentage of women is much higher than it is for men, hence their likelihood of accepting people who are outside the box is minute. I really have very little interest in "socially acceptable" things like sportsball and crappy Hollywood movies, though I can fake it a few hours at a time if need be.
Last girl I was with was one of the few who was into a lot of this kind of stuff herself, we just couldn't make it work for various personality differences. It was a real bummer when we split and I still miss her sometimes. The dating world for men in general is brutal, and for furry-liking straight guys it's even harder. I wish you all good luck, everyone deserves someone to share their lives with.
▶ No.75415>>75417
>>75312
I'm not even close to Murrica or Canada, so I won't get laid.
▶ No.75417>>75426
>>75415
I'm contemplating on trying to get a bf over the internet again. I've always steered clear of ldr's, but I think it's my only hope now. I need to find someone online around my age and who is willing to meet up IRL and eventually move in together.
tfw no white 30-something year old cute furry bf.
▶ No.75426
>>75417
>that 30 y/o furry boomer bf
▶ No.75477>>75479
I'm unable to be romantic with people. All that holding hands, kissing, hugging, sex etc scares me
Am I fucking autistic or what?? ehhhhhhhhhhhhh
▶ No.75479>>75482
>>75477
If nothing weird happened to you that makes you hate those things... then yeah, probs. Jokes aside, ever talk about it with a professional of sorts?
▶ No.75482>>75488
>>75479
Nothing bad happened to me, I had a good childhood and no one ever hurt me(too much). It's just that I rarely leave my basement and never had a relationship and I'm quite awkward around people. It's not like I'm scared of hugging or holding hands, it'll be just awkward. Too awkward
▶ No.75483>>75494
>tfw still don't have aids
▶ No.75487>>75492
I can't believe there are people here who are not virgins
What the fuck am I doing
▶ No.75488>>75505
>>75482
Maybe it will feel natural if you try it
▶ No.75492>>75493
>>75487
We can lose it together, anon
▶ No.75493>>75495
>>75492
You're probably way to far
But one of those days, I will be closer to civilization
▶ No.75494
▶ No.75495>>75496
>>75493
Where are you then?
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▶ No.75497
>>75496
Yeah that's pretty far, you'll find someone eventually. (You are good at english btw)
▶ No.75505>>75506
>>75488
How can I? Everyone my age is already experienced and self-confident. I want to be with someone unexperienced just like me but it's hard to find 20+ year old people who never had a relationship ;_; I just feel like I lost the best years of my life and I can do nothing about it. 2 days ago my best and only friend told me that he hates gay people, I literally wanted to come out to him that day.
▶ No.75506>>75507
>>75505
How old are you, and where are you from?
▶ No.75507
>>75506
21, eastern europe
▶ No.75606
I want a bf who will take care of me
▶ No.75718>>75722
I'm gay and lonely
But then again, aren't we all?
▶ No.75722
>>75718
no, everyone around me has a gf/bf and they're happy ;_;
▶ No.75730>>75734
>>71837
I'm only 30.
>Winning!
▶ No.75734
>>75730
See, got the whole life ahead of you!
▶ No.75746>>75751 >>75757
Is it unusual that I fantasise about having a sexual relationship with a guy yet I don't actually find males attractive to look at. Can I condition myself to or something lol?
▶ No.75751>>75763
>>75746
I don't find humans attractive but I still want a bf
▶ No.75757
>>75746
No. Don't worry about it.
If there is no law against it, and it doesn't clash with your values, it's only unusual if you decide it is. Please, accept yourself and your situation.
I would never want to condition/force myself to change what I like. That sounds like torture!
I wonder: What is different in your fantasy versus what you see in real life? Put another way, what do your fantasy partners have, or don't have, do, or don't do, compared to any guy walking down the street?
Fantasy sex is fantasy sex because fantasies are perfect.
Real-life sex doesn't always go to plan. Person, situation, mood, kids, roommates, these all can mess a pleasant encounter up like mad. And that's just the beginning.
Find someone willing that doesn't turn you off, turn the lights off, and see what happens. Everyone is attractive in some way, even if they don't pass first glance.
Judging people by the way they look is a poor way to make new friends, IMHO.
Above all, don't worry. Life's good, even if it doesn't feel that way now. I promise. Cheers.
▶ No.75763
>>75751
Are you me? Being alone for a long time and looking at too much furry art has had this effect on me too.
▶ No.75804>>76931
every potential boyfriend wants to be open about his homosexuality while I want to stay in closet ;_;
▶ No.75856>>75858 >>76509 >>77032
I'm currently in a closed monogamous gay long distance relationship with my partner of 3 years. Met him when I was 25 and he was 29. Before then I never trusted anyone enough or was able to connect with others on a deeper level before. He was basically my first love and the first person I've ever trusted with my heart. Even though it's long distance our relationship is strong, probably because we are both outsiders with few friends.
We're hoping in the next two years I can move to his home country and get on government assistance. After that I can learn the language at free classes they offer to those who don't speak the native tongue, and I will probably do online work and help him with his work under the table for extra cash. We also hope to work with fursuit makers by installing electronics into their creations.
And maybe when I'm finally in a better environment I can try my hand at drawing furry art since my bf thinks I have a lot of potential to become really good. I never felt like seriously trying because the environment at home is so shitty with the family and all.
▶ No.75858>>75859
>>75856
That sounds great anon -minus the parasitical government assistance part- I hope things work out for you two.
▶ No.75859>>75860
>>75858
Who cares, if you can get free money, why the wouldn't you take advantage of it?
▶ No.75860
>>75859
I don't want to derail this thread with some stupid political bs, but suffice to say, it really depends on what you consider to be morally right and wrong. My gripe is that the money in question isn't actually "free" because that money was taken from hard working people through coercive means and would now presumably be handed over to you -who have contributed nothing. SO you have wealth being taken without consent (theft) and being delivered to a party that had no part in its generation -giving the earned to the unearned so to speak. As to why you wouldn't want to take advantage of that, it could create dependence, and it also violates this idea of reciprocity -I wouldn't want my money being distributed without my consent to those who didn't earn it. The big thing here is consent. But you do you man.
▶ No.75861>>75866
18 y/o fag here current relationship with a guy I met on /trash/ is pretty stable, recently had our first date after speaking online for weeks. We went to an arcade and had dinner was pretty nice. As we were leaving he rear ended my car. I shrugged it off and forgave him for it right after didn't have an ounce of anger from it though my insurance is gonna go up even though it wasn't my fault, thanks America . I'm thinking about going on another date at his place though he's still at his parents so that's a little problematic. He's very sweet introverted and kinky. It's a shame it'll become an LDR when I go out of state for uni but i'll find a way to manage.
Only advice i'd give is; stay away from dating in the fandom, furries can't hold a shred of loyalty to one person and will cheat and manipulate to get tail. It's a damn shame, but its what comes from being in a very sexually oriented fanbase. Trust me, i've had way nicer dating experiences outside the fandom than within.
Before then my relationship history was pretty boring; a few gross late 20s to early 30s dudes chasing after me because I was young meat to them, never again.
▶ No.75866
>>75861
my state fucking sucks on that goddamn map, im destined for an LDR.
▶ No.76207
>>74426
It's all I want in life is to have someone I can share my life with. But most furries are so brain dead and live such chaotic lives that I don't even want to brother.
▶ No.76208>>76211
Stopped talking to people in RL or online. Going back to my shut in ways again. Stopped bathing or even changing my clothes for days. I go outside for the sake of going outside to be the town hobo or whatever. Art lost its luster for me. I find myself dreaming about programming code and how to put scripts together to make them work and they do. Constantly in a dream state from listening to binaural beats in the theta range all day. No coffee makes it worse. Yeah my dog is my boyfriend. It's really funny how he's also extremely shy like me since dogs eventually mimic their owners. Petting him makes my hands tingle as we exchange dopaminergic effects through the sense of touch. I struggle to find a reason to connect with people in real life situations. I see people forcing themselves to participate in church, fireworks, and couch parties and I have a sense that they are miserable and would rather disappear into their phones. Every time I go into a crowd I hear someone coughing and snuffling their diseases amidst the food court. I can smell their cabbage farts and their stench of old cigarettes whenever they open their mouths to gibber. I had to go home and douse my head in Phenothrin since some child was screaming at me and gave me head lice at the same time. I have a dreadful feeling that people only want to go to your dwelling to scout out the place for anything to lift later. Barring that, find a way to get my dog euthanized out of some misplaced vengeful spite because I have no interest in insane roasties.
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▶ No.76240
I live In Brazil, there's only a handful of gay furries in the whole country. And I wanted a girl. You fuckers are lucky.
▶ No.76298
>>71977
update to this im with my bf in europe right now and its fucking amazing i love him so much
▶ No.76508
>tfw you've never been in a relationship
>all crushes already claimed by others
>just want to have someone to trust, talk, and listen to.
▶ No.76509>>76690
>>75856
>closed monogamous
>gay
You're either lying or the least degenerate fag out there.
▶ No.76690
>>76509
There are lots of gay monogamous couples out there, they just don't scream about it at the top of their lungs because they're content. I'm happy with him, he's all I need, that's it. Quality over Quantity and all that yiff yaff.
▶ No.76692>>76806 >>82742
>>71977
Same same with me. LDR, European guy, me an American guy. Except I got the relationship thing right the first time because he was my first with everything. I was 25 and he was 29 when we met and we never experienced that kind of love or bonding before, ever! I can safely say we will stay together for life and never cheat or open the relationship up. We are bonded way too closely.
▶ No.76806>>76811
>>76692
thats amazing anon, I just spent 2 weeks with my bf in europe. It was the best time of my life. If you dont mind me asking, how old are you guys now, are you closer to making it living together? Cheers!
▶ No.76811
>>76806
I'm going to be 29 next month, he will be 33 tomorrow. We are 4 years apart. We've known each other for 3 years and seen each other in person for 3 weeks. He is super intelligent and is actually a real life scientist. Helped me with some horrible health issues I've been dealing with for a long time and has a plan to help us live together soon. I would estimate it will take us about 1 or 2 years to finally get living in Europe together. Until then I am saving up as much money as I can doing my online work which is raking in a decent amount of cash on my side. Other than that we have the patience of saints and every day are bond grows stronger. It's amazing and I wish everyone can experience what we're experiencing together right now.
▶ No.76833>>76962 >>77209
Have been closeted gay for a super long time and went to anime con, at said anime con me and a good friend did some acid and we ended up fucking. Ontop of that this guy was a furry and I quit the fandom a super long time ago trying to "straighten" up. Now I am back where I started and I dont know if I want to be with this person in a relationship because everything involving it was just super fucked. We still are great friends and it hasn't changed anything but im afraid it might if I make a move.
▶ No.76931
>>75804
Same with me, I wouldn't won't to be open about it in public.
▶ No.76962
>>76833
>trying to straighten up
>faggot
kek
▶ No.77005>>77010
So uh, is this for gay furs only or can straight guys post too?
Either way, I've been with my gf for 5 years now, and she found out about my... tastes last year (pretty sure she suspected it for at least two years, but wasn't sure until 2017). She doesn't really mind it, since she's an artist doing commissions for a living, and she draws furry porn from time to time, sometimes even draws me a few private pieces. One thing that's been bugging me is that she sometimes asks me to show her my porn stash (which she knows I have, because duh), and I'm not really comfortable with doing that just yet, for some reason. We've fucked, done a few kinky things like dom-sub stuff and feral-play, but for some reason I don't want to show her my 3-5gbs of furry smut. She would never dare look through my files without my permission, but she always asks when I'm not doing anything in my computer. So yeah, any advice with that?
▶ No.77010>>77031
>>77005
If there is particularly kinky stuff that you're not sure she would take well to, sit down with her and talk to her about it. Be vague if you want to, just mention there is stuff there you don't think she'll be comfortable seeing and that's why you haven't want to.
Other than that, it's entirely a trust thing. There's not much reason not to show her outside of some arbitrary shame, which is ridiculous because it very well could spice up your sex life otherwise. If there is something there you think she will judge you for, just remind her that you haven't acted on that sort of thing e.g. you haven't been planning to eat her like the filthy vore enthusiast you 1000% are.
If even after all that, you still can't bring yourself to it, you should at least try to come to a compromise that you'll show her, say... a curated selection of your favourite pieces. Given the length you've held a relationship with her and how accepting she is, it's pretty much only to the benefit of your relationship to put that trust forward, and there's no reason to be shameful of saving tons of porn. It might not even be a question of wanting to be intimate - some women are curious about that sort of thing, but would only trust their partner. My faghag looked through my porn folder at one point because I didn't really care that much, and it changed basically nothing about our friendship.
▶ No.77031
>>77010
>is there any particular kinky stuff
Not really, it's 85% vanilla stuff with the most risque being stuff made by boo3, gideon or sparrow. Dickgirls/herms and growth art here and there, which I think might be what I'm not the most keen about her seeing.
>remind her you haven't acted on that sort of thing
Well, she knows that, and it's not really that she would think that because like I've said, the most we've done is just feral play, which she kind of digs.
>like the vore enthusiast you 1000% are
Vore isn't my cup of tea. I'm more into cum inflation, 1guyNgirls, impregnation and pregnancy, lactation, and breast expansion.
>show her a curated selection of your stash
I've considered this, but it also feels a bit dishonest to hide stuff behind a "this is all I'm into, honest haha". I still might end up doing it, although I probably will just delete the stuff I'm most conflicted about. There's also a lot of stuff that was just a "heat of the moment" download that really don't do anything for me anymore.
▶ No.77032>>77068
>>75856
In the same boat, anon. I'm in a long distance relationship with a Canadian girl. Both our lives are way too anchored right now to get closer together, but we talk about it everyday
she's the first person i've ever really trusted and could be open about everything with god i can't wait to hold her
▶ No.77068
>>77032
I wish you the best of luck man!
▶ No.77096>>77097 >>77142 >>84942
Thanks to dysfunctional parents and heavy bullying since I have memories from my childhood, I managed to completely shut myself off from people. I never talked about my emotions to anyone and never tried to confront them, instead I rationalized myself out or repressed.
I've always loathed people for desperately craving romantic attachment, hugs or even sex, and intensely hated myself for jacking off to gay furry porn on a daily basis. But now, I've came to a point where these repressed emotions and urges are slowly creeping back on me. No matter what I do I always feel empty, alone and miserable. I lost the urge to even fap, let alone to do anything productive.
Sometimes I just really want to cry, I can even feel the tears welling up, but I can't. Maybe I could use a hug... or even a bf to cuddle with and play video games, and I'm starting to get slightly turned on by the thought of being fucked, too. But I've never been aroused by humans, only furry smut. And even if I'd find someone (which I highly doubt, since I couldn't even get friends), I'm too emotionally underdeveloped for a working relationship. It would be hard enough for me to let someone close, let alone manage all that emotional shit that comes with being a couple.
I'm just so utterly confused. I never thought about things like this, and still not exactly sure what I feel now. Maybe I'm just making shit up to feel less empty? I'm only 19, but I feel like I've already fucked up my life, even relationships aside.
▶ No.77097>>77108
>>77096
Hey man, first of all, don't blame yourself for anything that has happened to you. If you have thoughts of harming yourself, and can't control yourself not to, you should almost certainly look into some form of help. Some places have grants for therapy, so that if nothing else you can at least talk to someone about your problems even if you don't have money, professionals who are there to help you. If you're thinking of a more final thing, please at the very least call one of the many suicidal hotlines and talk to someone. For most people, suicide is a permanent solution for a very temporary problem.
Second of all, it might feel like you've fucked up your life, but it's really not true at all. Ultimately, more than anything else, you can only live your life one day at a time - you can make plans, and contingencies, but you're only alive in the here and now. Instead of viewing it as having fucked up your life, you should see tomorrow as an opportunity to make something slightly better, even if it's a small step.
Practically speaking.. It might feel overwhelming, but it's a good thing that your repressed emotions are coming up. These emotions need to be validated - you feel those emotions because you are human. It might be a little scary, because a lot of the first emotions that will come up will be violent and angry emotions, and you shouldn't apologize for feeling that way! You've been treated like shit, and you SHOULD be angry about it. That doesn't mean you should act out violently in response to the anger, but rather you need to understand it and integrate it - and in time, the anger, given the triggers are no longer present in your life, will abate to allow you to focus on your other emotions.
▶ No.77108>>77238 >>84942
>>77097
Thanks for taking the time to reply! I'm not at the point of self harm or even suicide, and hopefully won't be, but it really scares me how fast this whole thing happened. At the start of the summer I had so many plans, and was quite productive at the first few weeks, then it suddenly came to a halt, and I started to feel painfully empty and alone. I had a low-point like this last year when I almost fell out of school, but then I got saved in the last minute and decided to forget about the whole thing.
I had really bad experiences with therapy, since my mother needlessly forced me into a lot of them when I was younger and they were all manipulative and useless, but I have to admit that I'm in dire need of one right now. Unfortunately, as far as I know, where I live they can only grant specific therapies to drug addicts and troubled families, and since I have no money, my only real option is the psychologist at my school. He actually seems like a really nice guy, but I'm not sure if I should go to him with problems like these and he seems to have some kind of limit on how many sessions he can have with a student, which sounds really bad. Alternatively, I can go always go to my mothers psychologist, but as I mentioned above, I don't think I can trust her.
Actually, anger is the least concerning to me, since I'm at least somewhat familiar with it, but I never felt things like the need for affection or sexuality, or at least I never even got close to admitting it to myself. I always thought it would make me weak, pitiful and vulnerable, and to an extent I still feel this way, despite knowing how wrong I am. Not to mention how this whole furry thing was always a great source of embarrassment for me, too. I never cared about the community, rp, sona creating or any other stuff, I always just jerked off to it and felt like shit. I never even told anyone about it until recently, but that actually somewhat helped. I should really just accept this stuff and stop worrying about it, there are far worse things than this, but it's really hard. There are so many things in my life that I repressed or completely ignored and all that stuff is haunting me now.
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>>77096
I'll cuddle and play vidya with you
▶ No.77156>>77159 >>77160 >>77167
Broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago, due to a myriad of issues. He was overly controlling, destructive, and just downright mean. He wasn't always like that though, he really was sweet, kind, and just a wonderful person when the relationship started. That's why I stuck with him for four full years as things went downhill. I just kept hoping he'd come back as he was eventually. But it just kept getting worse. It got to the point that he was selling some of my things, and when I finally stood up for myself, he broke the whole thing off in an absolute fit of rage...
After the relationship ended a year and a half ago, I kept tabs on him. For the most part, he's back to his old self. I can't help but keep hitting myself for not sticking in there just a bit longer. He's happy again, and with someone else. I just wish I was there with him, instead of looking in from outside. It just absolutely kills me.
At this point, I'm just sleeping, gaming, going to a job that I really no longer enjoy so I can feed into my habits. I've seen a guy or two, but none of them are the wonderful guy I wanted to spend my life with. None of them were him. I still have a card that he sent me when we first started, when he was still Long Distance.
I feel dead inside, crushed, bashed, and thrown away. I'm just waiting for most of it to end at this point. I have no drive anymore to keep pushing forward. What's the point? He's not here. And he never will be again.
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▶ No.77160>>77213
>>77156
I'd offer to talk about it if you wanted but I doubt I could make you feel any better since I'm a handhold-less virgin that has no experience with this stuff.
▶ No.77167>>77213
>>77156
He probably got that way just to get rid of you.
▶ No.77209
>>76833
There's a saying in my native language "Wood born crooked never straightens up". You should take that as a tip.
▶ No.77213>>77215 >>77236 >>77238
>>77160
>>77159
>>77159
Yeah. It's pretty shitty. Can't sleep without drinking. If I do, I end up having dreams about him, just wake up more miserable than before.
>>77160
Yee. There's nothing much more to say here. If you got any ways to easily kill oneself without the muss n' fuss, would appreciate it.
>>77167
I was honest, trustworthy, loyal without a hitch. I was happy to put up with his quirks, and even adjust myself to fit some of them. I never cheated, always did as he asked. Was he just tired of me? Was I just a toy that he figured he could throw aside when he was done with it?
Picture unrelated. I'm drunk, so fuck it.
▶ No.77215
>>77213
Please don't kill yourself
▶ No.77236>>77323
>>77213
If I ever decide to kill myself I'd probably just stand in front of the train that goes through my city.
▶ No.77238>>77323
>>77213
>Was he just tired of me? Was I just a toy that he figured he could throw aside when he was done with it?
Maybe, but the most likely answer is that on the outside he seems functional but when seen intimately he becomes greatly dysfunctional. It's unlikely you played a direct role in his dysfunction.
Take the advice of the post above - people don't just suddenly change like that. It takes years and years of tempering and even then some things just get covered up well. He'll still be the same shitty person as he was to you.
>>77108
Sorry to hear about your bad experiences with therapy, but remember that a lot of people just want to help you out. Don't confuse bad guidance for bad intentions - my family cares greatly about me, but my older sister has very consistently given me terrible advice. In my case, she kept trying to link my depression to being in the closet to my dad, when really it was just a secret she felt anxious about keeping (it was always an accident that she found out anyway). When I finally came out at her behest, while I wasn't disowned or anything, my dad was clearly disappointed and it didn't help me in any other way, so really it's something that just didn't need to happen.
If you don't want to look into therapy with a professional, consider looking into cognitive behavioral therapy. There's a lot to it and I'm personally not extremely well versed on "proper" CBT (I largely self-coped with most of my problems by pure chance) so your best bet would be to google some techniques. From a quick glance, one thing that might help you is interoceptive exposure, which is the intentional exposure under a safe circumstance so that your body can learn the sensation in question is entirely safe.
I felt like, as I started to come into my own ability to understand my emotions, I subconsciously pushed it all aside when I was in a frame of mind/circumstance that was intrinsically unsafe - blocking out my emotions was sort of necessary to survival when I was younger, because otherwise the negativity from abuse would have been too overwhelming for me. It took me a long time to really open up, and I did get hurt a few times along the way, but the most important thing I learned is that the only "failure" is giving up.
Like I mentioned in my first post, I think you really need to validate your emotions. You are feeling them because you are meant to, and you shouldn't let them control you but rather accept them and recognize that they are there to help guide you on a fundamental level. For me, music was a big help in normalizing my emotions.
Above all else, it's going to take time, and it may not feel like it, but you've got time. Just try to live your life as happily as you can, and treat yourself well.
▶ No.77256>>77331
If I buy commissions of my friend's character is that weird? I dunno what that measures from on the "platonic friend-to-lover" meter.
I have his permission and all but I feel he sometimes lets me get away with murder with how lenient he is about it.
▶ No.77323>>77326
>>77236
Most of the trains that come through my town go slowly due to the turns that they have to go through. It would probably be a slow, painful one if I decided to go that way, although if I followed the tracks outside of town a ways, sure I'd find a junction where they speed up enough that it would be mostly instant. Thx m8.
>>77238
He's completely friendly to his new partner. Not an issue abound. The relationship is just like when we started. He's happy, his partner is happy, all is well. I really don't know, man.
▶ No.77326
>>77323
Aw come on man, you seem like a cool guy, I'm sure you'll find someone better.
▶ No.77331>>77341
>>77256
depends on how protective they are over their character.
▶ No.77341>>77348
>>77331
Well he asks to keep it vanilla for the most part
Other than that though he doesn't seem to mind, but I don't think any of his other friends buy him gift art, so I guess I'm the only one allowed to
▶ No.77348
>>77341
tbh I would love if someone bought me gift art, as long as it is kept vanilla. It's extremely rare that I feel it worthwhile to spend money on something like that, even though I'd love to see a lot of things done. Could just be that none of his friends have the same financial case to be spent on art for someone else?
▶ No.77351>>77411 >>77432 >>78116 >>78119
>>70813 (OP)
I started out very rough with my current BF. We used to get in fights all the time and used to say we are gonna split every other day but we never did. As time went on we figured out our differences and communicated better on what we should do and now we are at 1 year and going steady. We love each other still and we hope to be together for a very long time.
Before this I had an ex who manipulated me and even lied / cheated on me. He was supposedly in a LDR before me and said he ended it but one day while we were at the mall he left his phone with me and let me on it. I saw a few messages pop up from Telegram and couldn't help but look and saw that he was still actively flirting and sexting his supposed "LDR Ex." I walked home from the mall and ended it that night after a huge fight of him trying to say that wasnt what I saw even though I saw it with my own eyes.
At times I think its okay to be alone and single but I think having someone there is also good. People who are lonely should just go out there and try and not complain. I hope someday everyone on here gets that someone they trust and love.
▶ No.77411>>77431
>>77351
Isn't the whole point of being gay that you don't need to deal with drama?
▶ No.77431
>>77411
Being human means drama
▶ No.77432
>>77351
we'll see if you even last 5 years together. also, people shouldn't just settle for anyone
▶ No.77658>>77832 >>78060
I kinda want a bf but I'm scared.
Also I'm quite a big and muscular guy so people would think I'm a top, but I'm the most shy and submissive dude I know.
Meh
▶ No.77795
>Want to read this entire thread
>Have ADHD and keep getting distracted.
Tomorrow I go to the docs so it's all good
▶ No.77832
>>77658
You sound cute be my bf thanks
▶ No.78060
>>77658
Can we get married?
▶ No.78062>>78077 >>78117 >>78138 >>80318
>Gay
>Furry
>Right leaning republican/libertarian
>Daddy Trump 2020
Trying to date in the furry world is one of only pain and misery when everyone basically hates you for your believes.
I just a bf that can take a dick and shit talk progressives as we cuddle at night ;-;
Anyone nearish to Cincinnati that fits that bill, give me a poke on telegram @Bucketmutt
▶ No.78077>>78078
>>78062
you sound retarded lol
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▶ No.78116
>>77351
IDK anon, I think that's a very destructive world view to have tbh. The whole go out there and try not to complain ideation means that people who arent ready will end up in a relationship that will spur conflict, instead of being emotionally ready for a relationship. You typically see this kind of stuff in couples who fight all the time and have severe issues they aren't willing to work on out of spite/anxiety/whatever.
▶ No.78119
>>77351
That sounds like a relationship that's bound to fall apart
>say we're gonna split every other day but never did
it's probably because both of you didn't have the balls to break up and be without the comfort of getting to call someone bf
▶ No.78138
>>78062
>implying anyone would want to be around someone who only talks about politics
nah honestly I can see why nobody wants to be around you
▶ No.80311>>80313 >>80336 >>80363 >>80471 >>80546 >>81063 >>81152 >>82740 >>82826
BF died on the 13th of August.
In total shock. It feels like he was the only gay furry who was truly monogamous 100% and was patient enough to wait for me. I was the same.
3.5 years we knew each other and now he is dead. We met for 3 weeks in Europe and it was the happiest time of my life. Now my future with him together is dead.
Where the hell is there another furry who I can trust to not cheat on me, open the relationship up, or go poly?
I just wanted a loving mono relationship with someone special.
I thought he was it and now he is dead.
If you want to make fun of me add me on Philip#9346 on discord.
I'm just so fucked up right now and am looking for anyone to talk to for attention because I'm a stupid weak little faggot.
▶ No.80313
>>80311
>who I can trust to not cheat on me, open the relationship up, or go poly?
Thats a good fucking question said the straightfur.
▶ No.80318>>80320
>>78062
I sincerely hope you’re being ironic about Trump, considering how supportive he said he’d be of queer people, then immediately throwing them under the bus and pretty much pretending we don’t exist.
▶ No.80320
>>80318
>political discussion yet again
>dumb oblivious, uneducated Americans defending their politics again
>I'm gonna see this shit for another 4 years even though I had some hope left in the self proclaimed first world
Sigh. Here we go.
▶ No.80324>>80431
>>70867
Update, no longer homeless. Got an apartment with the partner and waking up next to him every morning is an absolute blessing
▶ No.80336>>80368 >>80383
>>80311
Did he die from ligma?
▶ No.80363
>>80311
Genuinly sorry to hear that
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▶ No.80383>>80411
>>80336
9 year old joke congrats
▶ No.80411
>>80368
oh
my condolences
>>80383
LIGMA BALLS LMAO
▶ No.80431>>80661
>>80324
I actually know someone in a similar situation. In any case, that's really good to hear.
▶ No.80470>>80492
open question
why do gay people brag more about the sex they have than straight people
▶ No.80471
>>80311
>cucked by the grim reaper
Lmao fag
▶ No.80479
>>73587
Holy fuck nice leftist fanfiction there friend. That shit does not happen here and you know it, Or you've been lied to into believing it. There's maybe a chance that a few cases of something like that happened in the 70's or some shit but modern day USA? No chance.
▶ No.80492
>>80470
People always think that about people with different sexual orientations. Lots of gay people think the same way about straight people.
▶ No.80521>>81136
What do you do if you have a hard time expressing emotions and generally have a hard time with empathy but you don't like to be alone?
▶ No.80546
>>80311
good, now go commit texas hold'em so you can join him
▶ No.80661
>>80431
I wish them the best if they haven't got out of that situation already, tell them it's worth the wait and worth living for
▶ No.81063
>>80311
same shit my friend, except we were 5 years and were living together for most of it and were engaged to be married this year.
its nearly been a year now and yknow, things do get better. i'm closer with my friends and my life is pickin up. I couldn't imagine finding another furry guy anywhere near by who shared my values or ever getting over it, but yknow what, i'm alright, know i've still got a lot goin for me and while i'm still single again i've had experiences in the last year that indicate that hey, there's probably gonna be someone out there for me.
stay strong <3
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▶ No.81136
>>80521
You commit an atrocity and then you kill yourself
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▶ No.81152>>81157 >>82844
If you need something like a quick pickmeup, I could come over and drop a load in your ass if that'll make you feel better, depending on how far away you live >>80311
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▶ No.82740
>>80311
hey man dont be like that i want to talk to you but couldn't find you on discord D;
▶ No.82742
>>76692
wow... that took awhile to happen.
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▶ No.82842>>82995 >>82996
>emo faggot as a teenager, in and out of five LDR relationships in a year, by the age of 19 convinced I'm going to die alone
>met him; I was 19, he was 16
>both nerds, both furfags, both love vidya
>he's super smart, wants to do a math degree
>I'm mostly just spergy, want to make vidya
>both of us are miserable cunts
>I talk him down from a suicide attempt
>eventually we both settle, and for a while things are good
>he lives in England, I live in the US
>he plans to move over here because he hates England and wants to be with me
>agree to meet up after I get out of college and make further plans from there
>I have to drop out of college
>I lose my internship
>career is over
>cut to 4 years later; I'm 27, he's 24
>8 year long-distance relationship?
>yes, it fucking happened
>after a while we just got used to each other being there
>he was very concerned about my career, but I was too focused on his happiness to fix my own problems
>he starts to have major health problems, almost dies several times
>about two weeks ago he sends me a message, we need to talk
>good news, looks like his health is improving somewhat, but by now a lot of damage has been done
>he doesn't know how much longer he's going to live; maybe another 25 years
>he needs someone who can be there for him
>I spent the last four years doing minimum wage work, he's only just graduated
>I know immediately it's over between us
>no one to be mad at but myself
>I let the love of my life slip through my fingers after eight years
>refuse to feel sorry for myself; his happiness is all that matters
>still cry
>I never even got to hold him in my arms
>I never got to whisper softly in his ear
>I never really did find the words to tell him how much I love him
>know that no matter how long I live I'll always love him
>too late now
Never squander what you have, anons. Whatever you do, make sure you're always working towards what matters to you. Don't sit around for years at a time feeling sorry for yourself. Get back on your feet and fucking move before the things you love most in the world are taken away from you.
I know this sounds preachy, but it fucking matters. You'll never have these years again. What the fuck are you waiting for!?
▶ No.82844
>>81152
*Huff*
I have been feeling down and depressed.
▶ No.82855>>82914 >>83008
I'm 30 and I've never even fallen in love. Like I feel like some critical error occurred and I just never got to experience it. Seems nice but at this point I think I'm screwed.
▶ No.82914
>>82855
It's not too late, just mingle more and make yourself available. People like me are into 40-70 year old guys.
▶ No.82995>>83072
>>82842
Well fuck, are you still in contact at least?
▶ No.82996
>>82842
Man I hate living in England too.
▶ No.83008
>>82855
I'm 31 and in the same boat.
I feel like it's just never going to happen.
▶ No.83024>>83119 >>91130
I'm in my mid twenties and only ever developed deep feelings for teenagers living too far away from me to meet them. I never was in a relationship and don't know the difference between crush and love, lust and all.
I feel like a failure. I just want someone to take care of, to come home to, etc. But it feels like that will never happen.
▶ No.83072
>>82995
I'm not actually sure. It wasn't a messy breakup, there was no kicking or screaming, and we always said that if things didn't work out we would still be friends (I know, I know, cucked friendzoned etcetera) but things are still kind of... weird in the immediate aftermath. Maybe later when our work schedules line up better we will be. I still haven't given up on winning him back; I just need to clean my room first.
▶ No.83119>>83420 >>91131
>>83024
Why not adopt a kid? that seems to be all you are looking for. Heck you might even get lucky ;)
▶ No.83420>>83756
>>83119
I'm not looking forward to having that kind of relationship with just about any teen, tho
There are many I think are insufferable
▶ No.83636
probably because of childhood trauma or my dad, im unhealthy enough to not feel loved enough if you arent wanting to hurt or maim me and otherwise uninterested in me
but if i find a relationship like that i spend every second obsessing over and loving the person
im trying to avoid doing this but its hard because of how long ive been ingrained like this
▶ No.83638
>>70813 (OP)
Only have one request: please treat financial security as the top priority. Same goes to all gender identities. Sick and tired of people falling in “love” and sending the bill to me.
▶ No.83756>>83785
>>83420
Who knows, you may find the teen of your dreams.
▶ No.83785>>83830
>>83756
Statistically speaking I won't tho
▶ No.83830>>83895
>>83785
Not with that attitude you won't
▶ No.83895>>83906 >>83953
>>83830
Let's be real, I can't ask specifically to adopt a gay teen with a daddy kink
▶ No.83906>>84007
>>83895
Where are you from?
▶ No.83953>>84007 >>84839
>>83895
You could always adopt them young then raise them to be daddy's little slut.
▶ No.84007>>84044
>>83906
Canada
>>83953
Kids can't shut their mouth and, the younger they are, the more of a pain in the ass they are
▶ No.84044>>84056
>>84007
Well, it honestly depends on what age they are. Some adults act like kids, some kids have the maturity of adults. Some kids are born prodigies, others are brats. If you mutually like each other they'll warm up to you and give you the respect most adults wouldn't dream of giving you.
▶ No.84056>>84105
>>84044
And I agree, I know a teen who, when he was 13, was already more mature than I was at 19.
Problem is that adoption is a roulette and most humans are despicable and/or mature slowly, that's why the age of consent is around 16-18 in most places, and not 13-15. They prefer to take the safe route.
▶ No.84105>>91132
>>84056
I don't get how forcing an entire group of people to kill, rape, or fight the way they are genetically wired is being safe for anybody. At least if an adult was allowed to date a kid out in the open the relationships would end with parting ways, rather than a tiny body floating under a bridge. You can change the age of consent but raising it wont change people's maturity, only hinder it.
▶ No.84558>>84891 >>85109 >>85868
When I was about 16, I thought I'd never bother with relationships and yet now, two girls love me and I've been in a relationship with one for over 3 years. It's just that the love that I once felt has faded and I honestly think I'm attracted to furries more than actual humans. I won't abandon her, but I just feel dissociated from people in general. I'd be fine living in a virtual world with human level AI manifested in soft fluffy creatures to live and cuddle with. I don't know if any of you feel the same way as I do.
▶ No.84567>>84836 >>84930
>relastionships
I’ve give up on that
▶ No.84836
>>84567
We should be friends though !
If the image represents your personality,that is
▶ No.84839>>84908
>>83953
Absolutely-fucking disgusting. Off yourself pedo scum.
▶ No.84891
>>84558
>virtual world
That would be preferable to me too. Advances in tech such as that are just about the only thing that gives me any hope for the future.
▶ No.84908
>>84839
It's better than having them aborted.
▶ No.84930
>>84567
>Post-left
I thought I was the only one...
▶ No.84942>>84984
>>77096
>>77108
Your posts really got to me. I've been going through the same sort of crisis and had a similar childhood. Bullying, bad parents, bad porn habits, and lots of anger. I was emotionally closed off since I was a kid and wasted years trying to escape reality. But recently I came out to a straight internet friend of mine which made me finally have to deal with my emotions.
Now there's nothing I want more than someone to love and cuddle with. I'm 23 now and I feel all that wasted time weighing down on me. So I'm slowly working my way out of this pit of depression. I hope you are okay. You are clearly smart and very sweet so please don't give up.
▶ No.84984>>85118
>>84942
>I feel all that wasted time weighing down on me.
One of the hardest things a lot of people struggle with, especially we who suffer from serious depressive tendencies, is making the comparison of our lives and the paths our lives have taken to other people, and comparing their success to our (lack of) success. It's easy to take such a timeframe and see how we aren't where other people are, how we're far behind. It's easy to see what we have, and what others have, and to be envious or even a little bit hateful.
It sucks, but you have to push through these emotions. It's going to be the most recurring feeling for you going forward - but that's also a sign of your own improvement. Feeling that way is a good thing, because it means you are raising your standards for yourself! You believe you deserve better, because you do. But you'll also need to be mindful to not let yourself be overwhelmed. Ultimately, there's no sense in regretting the past, because you can't change anything in it now. You still have control over the future, though, and that's going to change based on you in the present, right?
If the envy and jealousy get too real, just remind yourself that first and foremost, social media is all performative, it's curated posts of people putting forth their best and pretending. Unless someone is having a meltdown, you don't really get to see all the drama, struggles, and tears that went into getting where someone is. For the rest of the people? Well, unfortunately, yes, life is a stacked deck and some of us get a shorter deal than others. What really matters is what you make of what you're given, and a lot of people born into an easy life don't get to enjoy life to its fullest when they never experience the worst life has to offer. As much as depression and anger sucks for a teenager and a young adult, improvement from that position will all the more enable you to appreciate more, and with that you can find happiness and meaning in life even with less.
Keep striving for the better life you deserve, anon. Depression is truly a terrible pit, and you'll probably always be fighting it at least a little bit, but it's never too late for anything until you're dead.
▶ No.85109>>85171
>>84558
When I was about four years into my eight-year relationship, my boyfriend related to me something he'd read that over time the excitement and butterflies go away and you just get comfortable being with each other. That's the point where long-term affection sets in, and instead of childish romance you instead start to feel like the two of you share the same life. Does that sound like what's going on or am I way off?
This is also why long-term relationships hurt so much more when they end; because that's the point where it feels like your whole life comes crashing down around you.
▶ No.85118>>85119
>>84984
Isn't that pic like saying "Hail Hydra"
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▶ No.85171
>>85109
Yea you're right, I just miss that feeling of childish romance.
▶ No.85867
Unpopular opinion: relationships are for shmucks. I could easily find a date, since there are lots of horny furfags online who are starved for love, but relationships are fucking stupid and only end up causing pain/drama. Rarely ever do relationships actually last. Plus, relationships are for normalfags.
▶ No.85868
>>84558
>I've been in a relationship with one for over 3 years
With who: your mom?
▶ No.87223>>87460
>>87190
>that Zaryusu and Crusch pic
Ah, a man of fine taste. I wish they had some plot relevance after their initial arc, but what we got was good.
Also, any tips for finding a qt scaly gf? A human would work too, I guess.
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▶ No.87477
Mine is still going strong, 13 years. Might open up to another couple if we can find a decent furry/furry-ish couple.
▶ No.87478
>>87474
Same here.
Good thing too, my genes are fucked with heart failure and cancer
▶ No.87852>>89513
>>70846
Have you considered seeing a shrink? Break ups like these don't have to ruin it forever, sometimes you just need someone to reorganize your thoughts and refine where you are in life
▶ No.87860>>87881
Met a dude on tinder around this time last year - we sort of mutually discovered that we were both huge furfags which turned out to be a nice bonus on top of how well we hit it off. Been together ever since, and it seems like we'll be together for a good long while.
He actually just left my place to get to work (after I gave him the SUCC)
▶ No.87881
>>87860
That's awesome, how does that topic even come up unless you're totally open about being a furfaggot, which for all intents and purposes is like shooting yourself in the foot, socially-speaking.
▶ No.87916
>>70826
Fournival for cheap periapts and finger spam vs Ur
▶ No.89385>>89387 >>89463
>had a fucked childhood
>was always well off per say but the emotional neglect of my mother after my father left took a huge toll on me
>always found myself on the receiving end of betrayal and constantly having "friends" who just abandon me when I pull them down socially
>a complete lack of a father figure and an absent mother completely crippled my social skills
>basically just shut myself off from emotions becoming a very cold person as a result but no one ever sees me this way because I use humor as a defense mechanism
>the internet and the anonymous factor of places like 4chan at least prevented me from becoming a complete autist
In my adult years I've become jaded enough to finally just stop caring about judgement and I've actually made a few good friends through the years, also being not ugly and attractive helps, but friendship is about as far as I can comfortably go. Any time I try to open up to someone on a more intimate level I find that same defense mechanism of humor kicking in and I completely shut down because I get incrediblely afraid of rejection and betrayal because I've lived with it my whole life.
I find myself wanting a bf, but on the conflicting end I have no clue how to break down such intense emotional barriers that I have. I seriously have no idea what to do with myself. I don't want to be alone anymore but I've become so accustomed to loneliness that I don't know how to break out of it. I might be fucked guys, mental scars don't heal very easily.
I guess at the very least I'm not so deep in the rabbit hole that I'm not suicidal, partly due to willpower and partly due to the fact I actually kinda enjoy being alive because my own company is still at least enough for me.
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▶ No.89458>>89496 >>91129
I'm perfectly able to get a mate if I wanted to, problem is, I just don't love anybody. Should I pursue a mate, or should I just keep living my life happily single and not bother with relationships? I've gotten in a good deal of relationships, yet all but 2 of them ended because I stopped loving my partner and dumped them.
▶ No.89463
>>89385
Snorting a row of cocaine or two always makes me happier
▶ No.89481>>89501 >>89857
Whenever someone takes an interest in me I begin to isolate myself from them. Whenever I like someone I become jealous if I see them talking to someone else or doing something without me. If on the rare occasion I do tell them I have feelings for them I end up getting rejected. Clearly I have qualities that people find attractive but so far none of the people that do like them are people I want to be with. Couldn't even tell you why a lot of the time. Just find most people boring I guess.
▶ No.89491
I have only really dated 2 trans girls on the internet, both furries. the first relationship I fucked it up by being a total dickhead, and the second one is still not technically broken off but she’s always so busy that we might as well not be doing anything. TBH I kinda wanna find a cis girl, just because part of the aforementioned dickheadedness was me being afraid what my conservative parents would think.
▶ No.89496>>90606
>>89458
Love isn't at first sight anon, its something to be developed in a relationship.
▶ No.89501>>89505
>>89481
If you think they're boring, honor your pic and start smoking weed, to dumb you down to the same level. If you get anxious with weed, add a couple beers. Maintain this state 24/7.
▶ No.89505>>89899
>>89501
Weed is a hassle and I'm more of a hard liquor type guy. Last time I combined the two the results were less than pleasant. I rather not use drugs as a crutch
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>>87852
I have, with mild success I guess? But I think part of it stems from me being totally okay with being single. I've never been the type to actively look for someone to date. Primarily because I really just don't care enough to be in a relationship, but I wouldn't shy away from it if I hit it off with someone.
It's like that one horrible experience amplifies my want to be single. But whatever, I'll sort it all out somehow. I'll be ok I think.
▶ No.89857
>>89481
god i've never related to a post as much as this
▶ No.89898>>89941
>furries getting into long range relationships with people they'll never meet
>furries being sad that these relationships always fail
lol.
▶ No.89899
>>89505
Smoke BEFORE you drink, or you whitey for sure. Especially not on hard shit.
▶ No.89941
>>89898
:c
I wish mine would grow into something like that
Some people need that companionship to trudge on because they're ready to give up
Happiness is my fuel
▶ No.90606
>>89496
How do I develop relationships? Everybody seems really busy, or doesn't take much interest in me even on a friendship level. I'm starting to get the /r9k/ feel of being a robot to the rest of society, where I have a few people who seem to genuinely care about or remember me, but 90% of people I meet couldn't care less, or are too shy to take things further, or are too busy to take things further, or are too young to date.
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so my relationship path is really retarded but really happy and is still going on. one night a few months ago i went onto second life to piss around and i went to a yiff night club for a quick fuck. there was this one chick who had a accent like me (australian) we start doing a aussie chant and i say the state i am it. she then says she is in the same state etc and makes some state specific jokes etc. she added me on discord and we talked for that whole night while i drank myself to sleep. we contintued talking for the whole weekend after. she asked me if we could go on a date etc and she thinks i could be a good partner. i was pretty grey at the time so i didnt care less if i was gonna be abducted and raped. so we met at a cafe and she took me back to hers and now we are a full time couple and i love her with all my heart. i can see myself having a family with her ngl.
▶ No.91125
I was a very weird kid, probably had a touch of the aspergers. Would hide in closets and under matresses to avoid talking to people. In the year I turned 15-16, I went through a massive growth spurt, started going to the school gym four hours a day, and went from 150 to 190 pounds. Football became my religion, and I went from "skin and bones twink who cannot speak" to "six foot tall supermutant". Gained some social skills from that, but I've never had a real relationship.
My first romance was a guy who thought he was a girl who thought she was a sheep, to the point of he/she/it was looking into trying to get dermal implants for horns. That lasted about a month. Then I started to hit up a few local femboy twink types, got my dick sucked behind a dumpster, was almost caught by a 17 year old crossdressers mother, and had to dive through a window. I have had such a total lack of normal social interaction, in addition to bizarre life experiences that others can't relate to, that a conventional relationship seems impossible. I mean, I live out of a tent near a sand dune for days on end for work. Where do I find a person to talk to?
▶ No.91128
relationships in the fandom are a joke. what happens when your partnered suddenly not a die hard furry and you still are?
"but i will respect my parenter cause i love them"
yeah ive heard that one before and everything shatters to pieces here.
▶ No.91129
>>89458
your partner will never be a deer goat femboy anthro, so you should reconnect with reality.
▶ No.91130
>>83024
op is a pedo, please kill yourself.
▶ No.91131
>>83119
please stop posting and being disgusting
▶ No.91132
>>84105
this entire thread wants to make me vomit.
▶ No.91133
>>70848
penis in asshole/
get HIV
blame furry fandom
dont go on meds because your a twink who cant afford them.
die.
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