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 No.133025>>133043 >>133045 >>133073 >>133088 >>133100 [Watch Thread][Show All Posts]

Nothing in life fills me with joy. I feel indifferent towards things at best and resentful at worst. I'm tired of being alive but I'm not suicidal. Wat do?

 No.133041

Try going outside.


 No.133043>>133044

>>133025 (OP)

get /fit/


 No.133044>>133073

>>133043

already am tho, what next?


 No.133045>>133046 >>133118

>>133025 (OP)

The Dalai Lama wrote (_Art of Happiness_, iirc) that we should strive for 'contentedness' in our day-to-day lives. "Happiness" is reserved for 'winning a big game' or 'achieving a goal'.

Happiness is thus a temporary thing and the expectation that we should be happy all the time is misguided.

What I'm trying to say is that I think you're doing just fine. The feeling of 'happiness' isn't common to me either. I can identify a few times in my past where I've been sincerely 'happy' and those are good memories.

Some of us are just built a little more neutral than others. It is what it is.


 No.133046

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>>133045

Seems legit. At least I won't be genuinely sad about not being happy.


 No.133073>>133075

>>133025 (OP)

>Wat do?

lift

>>133044

>already am tho, what next?

lift harder

and keep on lifting

and then you might just make it before the gains goblin knows you're there


 No.133075>>133077 >>133084

>>133073

>lift harder

>and keep on lifting

Suffering cultivates happiness, and happiness cultivates suffering.


 No.133077

>>133075

that's deep anon, real deep like dem squats


 No.133084>>133191

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>>133075

bigbrained as fuck


 No.133088

>>133025 (OP)

There is pain and there is the absence of pain.

Find a goal.

Reach for it.

Fail.

Try again.

Repeat until you succeed.

Set a a higher goal.


 No.133100

>>133025 (OP)

>Wat do?

Join the club.

Look down on normal people with pity and envy that they are so simple.

Set new goals because it distracts you and gives an idea of progress.

Repeat until death.

>tfw you don't enjoy lifting and you just do it because it gives you more power, independence and options to future challenges


 No.133101

https://youtu.be/L4P9iQqbMvk?t=1m8s

Find someone who goes to the movies alone and go with them. Then they can make a video on the pros on going to the movies with their best friend instead of the pros of going alone.


 No.133111

>Wat do?

Stop browsing cuckchan, for one.


 No.133118>>133119 >>133158 >>133192

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>>133045

Contentedness is not indifference though. Content implies satisfaction and comfort. Indifference, I personally feel, is a defense mechanism to keep you from becoming too depressed when you aren't content with anything, but feel that making significant changes would be too risky. It's the trap most of the population falls into with meaningless cubicle jobs, TV replacing their hobbies, and alcohol and drugs replacing real fun. (yes I know you can have fun WHILE drinking or doing drugs but usually it doesn't work that way)

Indifference is what happens when you don't like your job, but you make JUST enough money to not bother looking for a new one, and only tolerate your coworkers instead of having a rapport. Indifference is when the girl you picked up for a quick fuck accidentally becomes your full-time girlfriend and neither of you really care about each other but you stay together because it's easier than picking up someone new. Indifference is driving a piece of shit car that gets the job done but isn't enjoyable to drive, which is constantly a source of minor stress because it seems to develop problems at the drop of a hat when you need it the most, but it's cheaper to make quick half-assed fixes to keep it on the road than to buy a new one.

Now, these are just my personal goals, but for the sake of comparison, Contentedness is having a job that brings you some level of satisfaction at the end of the day, having a girlfriend you actually look forward to spending time with, and having a car that behaves on your commute but can be taken out for a bit of fun on weekends. You don't need millions of dollars, you just need to comfortably pay your bills. You don't need a genius model girl, you just need one who supports you emotionally. You don't need a Lambo, you just need something that handles well, doesn't fall apart, and has a good HP/weight ratio.

I think if OP considers himself indifferent leaning towards resentful, he needs to make changes until he is content. He's definitely not there yet. I just switched from a job where everything I make will be destroyed a month later, and many people never even notice, to a job where I make things that will last 20 years and give people fun. The actual work doesn't matter. Just the knowledge that the thing I spend all day making is a quality product that lasts long and makes peoples' lives better did wonders for my journey towards contentedness. I feel like I've contributed something to the world when I'm finished a shift.


 No.133119

>>133118

I agree, contentedness is not indifference. I was doing the thing where you try and answer OP's question from a different perspective.

I was answering from the first line where he says "Nothing fills me with joy." It's a thought that I had as well and what I found when I went looking for answers was my reply.

> Very few things truly bring true joy. Wishing to be happy or joyful all the time can bring unhappiness when we fall short. For many it would be better to strive for contentedness.

I grokked it and that it changed my approach to things, for the better. I thought OP sounded like myself so I offered to point him in a helpful direction.

Sincere cheers


 No.133158

>>133118

>women who emotionally support you

Good luck with that.

I personally prefer acceptance, it's not that X is inconvenient so you don't do it. It's the fact that everything is finite, and you can't have everything. Now I could invest lots of energy finding a good girl, or I can just use that energy and time on other things. I just don't see the investment/payoff/risk ratio as worthwhile.

Likewise with the car, if it's doing the job with no issues, I'm happy, I don't get any increased pleasure from it, and would better use my money elsewhere.

Job however is insanely important because the sheer amount of time you spend doing it, and the opportunities it opens and closes, socially, economically, physically, mentally and spiritually/emotionally.

Most things in life aren't needed, if you can be happy without a gf, or a fancy car, that's great. If you get them, that's great. But I see so many people stressing out over things because they are dependent on them. In the case of relationships it's even worse because if they get someone and it breaks down, they end up worse than before (generally temporarily).

As long as I'm never working in an office, or an unsecure job like a factory, I'm pretty happy. I'm also strongly introverted, so people don't really matter. They can be pleasant but let's not pretend most are likable on a personal level, me included.

If people are in a job they hate and they take no steps, they only have themselves to blame. I only sympathise with those who have no choices, or those mentally ill who can't enjoy the same level of control as normal people. Just like I don't sympathise with the obese excluding children, and those fed bad information like "eat less fat" or just eat "diet" food. Shit advice that misleads people with good intentions who make an effort, only to rob them of money and motivation.


 No.133191

>>133084

that's right, m8


 No.133192

>>133118

solid points, good quantification of emotions.




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