/fit/ - Fitness, Health, and Feels

>>120059

>When it comes to confidence fake it until you make it.

This works for everything in life. It's fantastic advice.

>>120065

It's not, it's like saying "just practice the air guitar until you become Slash".

>>120066

Having confidence is a state of mind, not a skill. Drowning in a pool of self pity won't get you anywhere. He won't go from beta /r9k/ lurker to chad either, but it will have a snowball effect, and women will take notice.

>>120058

>get a normie hobby

>meet normies

>get laughed at because you order chicken tendies at normie restaurant

>don't fit in because you're a shit lord

>first girl you bring home cringes at your build a bear rainbow dash

>guy at game stop you used to kind of talk to is scared of you now

>old ladies keep telling you to meet a nice girl but all you want is your waifu

you can never fit into their world. accept being an outcast and just focus on getting to freak beast mode.

>>120066

It's more like saying 'Practice playing guitar until you become good at playing the guitar'. If you tell /r9k/ this works, they will not believe you.

>>120093

This. Closest thing to being a normalfag you'll ever get is maybe joining the military or some other band of equally autistic welfare weebs.

>>120093

>guy at game stop you used to kind of talk to is scared of you now

He was the best friend I ever had

>>120113

Now, this being said, start with hobbies you like and move up the totem pole, OP.

I started by joining my local DnD group (check the local hobby store, they tend to do weekly sessions). I met an anarchist there and got involved with politics for a little while. One of my friends in politics was an amateur WWE-style wrestler getting his masters in philosophy, so he inspired me to get into strongman. From there I started to meet all sorts of gym rats and people from all over.

Currently I'm mastering the art of "clubbing" which is actually decent cardio.

>can't invite friends to your home because you are 26 and live with your parents in a 50m² cage

Thanks, jews.

Who am i kidding, i don't have friends.

>>120117

>Being such an ungrateful little shit that you bitch about a pretty reasonably sized cage for your average huehuemonkey

You could be living with some hench chimps in a comfy and spacious monkey enclosure, but no zoo is going to put up with this bad attitude of yours.

>>120118

Well, i had a good life with a 150^2m apartment a few years ago, i try to be grateful for not living on the streets. But this soviet-style "home" is just plain depressing.

Wish i had lots of space and guns like you burguers so i could have my own chimp farm.

>>120127

So let me get this straight, you want to be the monkey running the zoo?

Go find a place where people share your interests. If you don't have interests, then get one. If you don't know how to care enough to get interests, get a boring desk job and wait until you're bored out of your mind. You'll start looking up everything.

The problem is that everybody is really boring. Don't complain, just develop interests and go to places where people go to practice or share that interest. It's not hard.

Don't listen to the whole normie myth. That's the same thing as fat girls telling each other they're beautiful so none of them try to look better and make the other ones jealous.

Thread is broken. Fixing real quick.

>>120118

>hating someone who aspires for more

>>120170

It's only bad if you're brown and don't deserve what you already have.

>>120058

the typical places where you can meet people:

>your school / college

>your workplace

>your club/assotiation

work place might not work well if your collegues are decades older than you are. College might not work if your already fucked up or never made it into college. It is especially important to not fuck this up in college in the first few weeks. If you are a loner in the beginning, you have practically no chance to befriend anyone and nobody will come to befriend you. You get branded as the class weirdo and nobody wants to have anything to do with you. Keep in mind that normies interpret reclusive nature as "this guy must have us". Befriending people always starts with talk. Chat with your neighbor, ask him where he is from, what he did before. If you have something to insert in an ongoing discussion before the classroom, do it. Even if you have no idea you can join the discussion and give normies the chance to spam you with their knowledge about their passions. They appreciate it if someone hears them out. If you don't understand something ask them (only once) to elaborate on it. If necessary, fake interest in their passions. Be relaxed, have a smile on your face and always be a nice guy to them.

However, clubs are probably the best option for you. You are a fitness guy and so you automatically have something to talk about with likeminded people. Find a gym or people from work/school who are gym guys and try to befriend them. Ask them if they are into gym stuff too and if you can go exercise with each other. You have to do the first step because they will not come to you from alone. Or if you are already in gym and failed this, you can try to find one of the guys who are better developed than you and start convo with him. Tell him you saw how good he looks and that you kind of struggle with further development and if he could help you out with his wisdom. Then you have a perfect setting into befriending them. You can share your knowledge about the art of fitness and they might take you into their crew and introduce you to many other of their friends. They might even ask you to go to a party with them eventually (this is very important because going alone to a party is always pathetic). Notice that most hobbies are to normal people nothing other than an excuse to meet with each other.

You can also try out a new hobby. Join a club in your area. There might be a ball sports club or something similar. Normally you can join those clubs even as a layman and the yearly fees are only 100 dollars or so. We have a gun enthusiast club, football, basketball and volleyball clubs. Trainings are usually on 2 or 3 weekdays in the evenings. Maybe your college / school has a school team that you could join as well.

This is only if you were interested in trading card games or tabletop games / turbo neckbeard hobbies.

The other method would be to find your local weeabo/neckbeard gang. Usually they have a game store where they meet for trading card tournaments or tabletop games. You will be surprised how many normalfags you can find there. I can remember one guy from a trading card tournament who was there with his gf. He was slim and tall, looked pretty normal and she was slim, normal height, had a pretty face with jet-black hair. Even if you have not been for a while in the game you can join. They will be happy if you ask them for their wisdoms and how the metagame changed over time. You can ask them what style to play for the current format and if those and those strategies are still up to date. It is a good oppurtunity to break the ice and get a conversation going.

>>120201

typo: "this guy must have us"

it should be hate

>>121034

Why the fuck would you like to become a soulless bot just to get some friends? Especially since normies can't into good friends, they are only friends on the outside and will betray you the very moment they'll get just a little profit from it.

>>121086

It's just appearance, you don't actually change the way you think. Its well worth it in almost all areas of life to be socially compatible. I also retained my previous friends, there are no downsides to this.

>>121091

>change clothes, living quarters, mannerisms

>"it's just appearance, don't change the way you think"

This is the worst advice I've ever heard. He needs to do the opposite. The ONLY thing that matters is how you think. You can be a massive weeb driving a shitbox covered in stickers and wearing torn handmedown clothes, but if you change your way of thinking, you can become a trendsetter. How do you think fads happen? Some confident motherfucker made a thing work for him and everybody copied him, not because the thing itself was cool, but because the guy doing it was charismatic as fuck.

>>120059

First post best post. There is nothing wrong with being introverted or a hermit despite what people might have you believe. Those types are responsible for most of mankind's greatest achievements. Devote yourself to your passion and you will find other a who share it. When others share your passion you don't have to worry about being awkward or knowing what to talk about because you can focus on your common ground and both of you will feel fulfilled by doing so. Took me about 20 years to figure this out. Learn from my mistakes and don't doubt yourself. Just do what you love and don't compromise on who you are.

>>120058

Get yourself into offroad bikes… a kdx, a yz, kx, etc. It's a great hobby and the bug will bite you. Ask whomever you buy it from to teach you. You'll get armpump like crazy but you'll meet some solid dudes. Build up friends when you're out riding, etc… some of them will have sisters… even if the sisters aren't interested in you, remember that all girls have friends so don't go /r9k/ on them either. Just be natural, calm, yourself. Never ever show desperation, but always show enthusiasm. Make friends with the bros, i.e. your guy friends and the rest will follow. Trust me OP.

>>120058

Also, well done bro. You've come a long way man. Proud of you, regardless of you not knowing me. I'm struggling but getting there. Don't have the same problems such as yourself, but heed my advice. It's as if we're in reverse right now.

>>120058

Well done OP. Very well done. If you do not have an addictive personality, go out on your own and enjoy yourself. Just speak your mind to strangers, you'd be surprised at how inviting they are if you're confident. Or befriend your local barman. Go there for a drink and not a girl (you won't find a future wife there) and make connections. Also family friends/ friends of friends, etc. Fuckit, you play vidya, make a plan to meet up with them in real life and take them outside of the basement.

>>121409

So in short… Go Gamma Positive. Not Incredible Hulk mind you but very much pursuing your own noble goals. It also being a trendsetter or innovator but that is all up to you.

>>120058

>Where do people go to hang out? To meet people?

Church. srs.